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Hello, let me introduce myself first..

For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Did you have/are planning a vaginal birth after a c-section? Connect with Bumpies in the same boat!

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Reasons for your 1st C/S Closed	KFED103 April 2013	39	1.3K	Kailynsmommy731 May 2013
No, I don't want a csection Closed	ssemovsk April 2013	9	668	CarKar0615 April 2013
I hate asking questions, but... Closed	Courtimilk April 2013	8	702	danssugahbugah April 2013
I need some help. Closed	RP2709 April 2013	5	315	Cookies2013 April 2013
Intro and a Question Closed	Suzi-G- April 2013	5	286	Cookies2013 April 2013
VBAC birth story Closed	Omgzombies April 2013	9	499	eco+ri April 2013
I did it! VBAC Birth Story Closed	breezelikewind April 2013	16	966	eco+ri April 2013
I got my VBAC!!!!!! Closed	juicycute909 April 2013	11	722	eco+ri April 2013
Chiropractor and/or Acupuncturist? Closed	LeggyNic April 2013	4	320	eco+ri April 2013
Expecting Mama Check-in Week of April 23 Closed	a2003tiger April 2013	16	370	Musicmama135 April 2013
Vbac after a preemie, new intro Closed	Bruton8288 April 2013	7	515	A37licia April 2013
I hate the word... Closed	a2003tiger March 2013	7	471	RumbleLina April 2013
Wait time for VBAC? Closed	rm2013 April 2013	10	597	rm2013 April 2013
Anyone's vbac unsuccessful, and do you regret trying? (XP on cs board too) Closed	laurenmae1228 April 2013	10	968	ILoveRunning April 2013
Hospital Policy Closed	JaysonandKristin April 2013	9	475	jroth33470 April 2013
Since no one else understands... Closed	jegoffin April 2013	4	490	JaysonandKristin April 2013
Successful VBAC 9lbs.10oz baby Closed	Junebugmugalug January 2013	12	732	katieflott April 2013
VBAC BTDTs tell me baby's weight plz Closed	JaysonandKristin April 2013	18	952	sarahsteve April 2013
Expecting Mama Check-In Week of April 15 Closed	a2003tiger April 2013	24	609	jaymiegerard April 2013
Former OB called me today... Closed	a2003tiger April 2013	4	639	sarahsteve April 2013
VBAC ladies....planning for epidural? Closed	Cookies2013 April 2013	17	889	cwhitloc April 2013
Discouraged...long Closed	HeartsOnABand March 2013	16	636	HeartsOnABand April 2013
Really can't decide between augmentation and scheduled section Closed	nycnola April 2013	8	626	nycnola April 2013
VBAC Induction? Closed	valeivegas April 2013	6	487	LLB430 April 2013
yay for progress Closed	candlequeen April 2013	5	344	cchill01 April 2013
Never posted my full birth story- Long Closed	acsago April 2013	3	451	cchill01 April 2013
Where should I go for care?! Closed	Ardmhs83 April 2013	3	309	nosoup4u April 2013
Expecting Mama Check-in Week of April 8 Closed	Ceefome April 2013	12	357	sdtchica13 April 2013
Late intro! Closed	Musicmama135 April 2013	2	176	breezelikewind April 2013
My VBAC birth story :) Closed	mrs.jenRN March 2013	15	835	gooliahank April 2013
Book suggestions? Closed	thedash March 2013	3	228	Kidcrazy4 April 2013
When to start... Closed	LovinLife33 April 2013	6	432	palm513 April 2013
What do you guys think of this? Closed	iris427 April 2013	6	468	preg_amy April 2013
2nd vbac Closed	holly321 April 2013	4	311	Ceefome April 2013
Feeling discouraged Closed	LeapOfFaith10 April 2013	4	308	palm513 April 2013
VBAC with big baby? Closed	valeivegas April 2013	8	453	sarahsteve April 2013
Expecting Mama Check-in - Week of April 1 Closed	Ceefome April 2013	12	409	laluneestbelle April 2013
Recovery from VBAC Closed	AshleaB12 April 2013	14	879	AshleaB12 April 2013
Cramps near scar Closed	Ljd425 April 2013	3	314	CalMum_Momma April 2013
Did/does your so oppose a vbac? Closed	LilyBean06 March 2013	15	553	shibby00 April 2013

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