Former OB called me today...

a2003tiger

So I started with an OB.  She removed my Mirena, then I saw her for 3 pregnancy visits (until 8 weeks along).  She was okay with me attempting a VBAC, but really not excited about the fact that I'm on blood thinners and can't be induced, so we may not be able to predict when to stop the blood thinners.  I just didn't feel like she would support me enough in the long run and that when push came to shove, she might push for a c-section.  So I switched OBs.  I found one who's super VBAC friendly and also not scared of the blood thinner situation (it's really not the end of the world if I've given myself a blood thinner when I go into labor, just may mean no epidural or that I have to wait longer to get one).  She also won't "force" me to get an epidural right away like the first OB would.

Long story short, OB #1 called me today.  I didn't answer.  She left a very nice voicemail about how she knew I had left the practice and wanted to wish me the best.  All in all, I really liked her.  I think she's probably a fantastic OB and if I were going the RCS route, I wouldn't have switched.

Now I feel guilty.  I feel like I owe her an explanation.  But how do you say, it really wasn't you, but oh it kind of was?!  I've considered sending her a little note to let her know why I switched.  Or should I just leave it alone? Ugh, I hate feeling guilty, especially when I know this was the best decision for me and baby!

A37licia

That's sweet of her. I don't think you owe her an explanation...you hired her for a job and you found someone else who would fulfill the job better. It's just business. <

cecilyandgautam

You don't owe her anything of course but since you did like her and she sounds sweet & understanding, you could call her back or write her a letter to close the loop. Who knows, maybe you'll want to go back to her for other OBGYN care at some point

a2003tiger

Thanks for the thoughts and advice ladies.  It really was a sweet gesture on her part, so I'll likely return the sentiment.

sarahsteve

You made the right decision to switch.  Best chance at a VBAC requires a supportive provider.

As a doc myself, I would always appreciate a letter of explanation with the truth.  But not necessary, only if y