Phew, just got the results from the echo and holter monitor I did about a week ago, and both indicate my heart looks good. No visible issues or irregular heartbeats. That's a load off, especially cause I'm having a really hard time breathing again today. I feel like I can officially be less stressed now that I know it's most likely just the baby's position.
I bought this shirt and onesie for H as a gift for the baby shower. I'm debating between the NB and 6 month size...any thoughts? I was thinking NB so he could where it right away but then I was like he won't be able to wear it much so maybe the 6 months...I'm so conflicted lol
@nda_roxybabe , I would totally just bring her along and play dumb. If they do turn her away, you can schedule her for a later class, I'm sure.
@starphish18 , yay!! I'm glad your tests came back clear!
@kayemjay2 , your in-laws are acting ridiculous. I'd make your DH say something to them...a healthy baby should be enough to make them happy. And, YES...you should encourage them to buy him dresses and bows, lol...
Told both H and Mom. H said no, just sign her and Dad up for a later class. Mom was cool with this. She's driving quite a bit so I'd hate for any snafu's once she arrives. Its just frustrating that I feel like I messed it up.
@kayemjay2 Your in laws suck. I'm sorry you have to deal with their crap.
@starphish18 Glad to hear your results came back positively!
My feet have not grown (yet) and I'd be seriously sad if they did as I have a pretty impressive shoe collection that I would be sad to not wear again. I did see my belly button face on today for the first time (in the bathroom mirror at work) and OH MY GOD it was scary looking. Today hasn't been so bad for me so far, I'm surprised I'm in such a positive mood considering it is my first day back to work since my vacation.
@starphish18: What a relief! That's really great news that your heart has been checked and given a thumbs-up. Sorry about the continued breathing problems though, that still stinks!
@Squirtgun: I learned about the pigeon milk thing from a PBS kids show called Wild Kratts. It's pretty neat that they feed their young like mammals! Imagine if our milk came out of our throats, though, ewwww...
@BeachMommy2B - my feet have grown each time by 1/2-1 sizes but they always go back to normal after giving birth. This time they have grown by 1.5 sizes and I am feeling pretty sure that they won't go all the way back afterwards.
@BabyMC517 - I say go with the 6 month size otherwise he'll wear it very little if he can even fit into it.
@starphish18 - glad everything with your heart is looking good!
@Squirtgun - we love Wild Kratts at our house. I feel like I am always learning something new from it.
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
I'm glad to hear your heart is looking good @starphish18. I am sure that is a huge weight off your shoulders. For what it is worth DS sat really high and the whole last trimester with him I had shortness of breath. It isn't fun but it definitely is normal.
@Jens_Hoes my belly button is funny because of my gallbladder removal. It's a strange half in half out due to scars. My first child it just stretched out flat which was weird. Someone mentioned linea negra at one point and I haven't noticed one on me yet
@Yiggle09 I don't have a linea negra either! Does anyone know if it is it a thing for it to come in way later during second pregnancies? One of my friends is 18 weeks with her first and told me she has hers already, and I remember it way earlier with DS.
@Yiggle09 yes! Mine was there for like almost 9 months after DS was born. I wouldn't mind if it didn't show up this time just because it was so annoying that it hung around for so long.
@starphish18 glad your heart is just fine! Bet that is a relief.
@BeachMommy2B my feet got swollen last pregnancy luckily I could wear flip flops comfortably but couldn't wear regular sneakers. But didn't go up a size luckily because I already have big feet!
@RainyDays86 I can't remember if it was you or something else who mentioned a couple weeks ago about the baby sitting high and at least being off the bladder. I wish it were one or the other for me! I think because my torso is short, the baby is just everywhere. High, low, and watermeloned out cause there's just no more room in there.
@kayemjay2 boo on packing! I hope the move itself goes well! Sorry about your ILs, they sound pretty annoying with their comments. Is your DH around when she say those things? It would be nice for him to, you know, tell her to back off with the comments. I would probably be like yeah no, I don't think that penis is going to disappear and it will magically come out as a girl.
@BabyMC517 I would get 6mos! Some babies don't even fit in NB when they're born. I had bought a "my dad is superhero" onesie in 6mos when I found out about my first pregnancy and gave it to him as an announcement. By the time DD could fit in it, it was so exciting to put it on her. And I'm already excited to put it on this LO too.
@starphish18 I'm glad the results came back okay! I had to do the Holster test as well when I complained about palpitations. Turns out that they're very normal and I didn't have "enough" palpitations to raise concern. When I do feel like it's harder to breath, I try to get comfortable and raise at least one arm to open up my lung. It seems to help a bit, so something to try if you haven't already?
Oh man, feet talk.. mine grew half a size after my first. Most of my shoes were still fitting fine but I had to get rid of the more snug shoes (heels) because OW. It was not like I really wore them anyways. I plan to avoid buying shoes until at least the end of the summer once my feet "settle". Thank god for flipflops.
Anyways yay for today being the first day of spring and DQ giving away free cones! I messaged DH and said we better take DD when he's off work. But I really just want some. It's been a pretty uneventful day, with a routine check up this morning. Everything is still checking out okay. The MW I got today was nice enough to try and suggest ways I could sleep better to reduce hip pain, and she was more sympathetic than anybody else I've had to date.
You will feel like you're not measuring up to the "real moms." Like you're totally messing up your kids, and oh the crushing guilt. We all feel this way at times. All of us.
17. Although you'll have a lot to teach your kids, don't be surprised when they serve as teachers, too
If we pay attention, we can't help but be changed by their messages and perspectives. And we can't prepare for how their lessons will change us.
26. Everything is temporary
The marketing campaigns for baby gear and parenting magazines might make us think it will last forever, or at least longer than it actually does. But nope—blip, it's gone. (See #18) Sleep deprivation ends. Cluster feedings end. Even teething ends, believe it or not. And if you spring for the $1,000 stroller, don't be surprised when three years flies by and that pricey investment is being hauled to a thrift store.
27. When you're in the trenches, though, it feels like forever
The thought of getting through one more round of sleepless nights, one more round of the bedtime fiasco, will put a pit in your stomach. Stress and exhaustion make us miserable creatures. Find a way, some way, to ask for help.
I thought I'd escape Linea Nigrea, but I got it about a month ago. It's very light, but it's there. My feet always swell when its hot, so they're definitely swollen now and most of my sandals are uncomfortable. My right arch hurts too and I really hope my feet don't change size forever. My belly button...that sucker has refused to pop so far. It's been hovering for about a month and sometimes baby pushes it out. I think I have a deep belly button though. My stomach reminds me of a bagel because it remains so flat around the belly button.
@pshaortao Did it hurt like a b*tch when they attached the holter nodes to your chest? I don't know if it was just pulling at my skin or what, but it stung for hours! Pulling them off wasn't a walk in the park, either. It looked like an octopus attacked me.
Oooh a random I wanted to share with anyone who will PCS with kids... I called CYS to see if we had to pull kid 1 from daycare when my husband finished out processing and they said we are good to keep him in as long as we want, eligibility is not garrison dependent. So this means if husband out processes a little early and takes some leave en route (especially to stay home and help with a fresh baby) we can keep the toddler in daycare and not have to wrangle him during the madness of packing etc. I am SO relieved!
@vrj0522@mrsfox2008 and @pshaortao thanks! That's what I was thinking too. I want them to be able to wear it more than once, if he even would fit in it as a NB! I ordered the 6 months I hope it gets here in time now haha
Ordering this for my sister as a thank you for throwing the baby shower
@starphish18 They didn't hurt for me, I just remember that I was working at Target at the time and I was trying to find the right shirt that would not let them show. And I was training someone who noticed them anyways and they were soooo concerned something was wrong with me. I'm like hi new person, I'm fine just making sure my heart is too? Sorry it was a pain for you, literally!
@KMD1106, that list is spot on. I remember during the infant days, people telling me "the days are long but the years are short" and thinking "STFU...these days are ENDLESS and I'm losing my mind"...but now, looking back, they were just a blip on the radar. That retrospect is probably what allowed me to make the decision to have this current baby, haha...
This weekend was exhausting. We went dancing on Friday night and stayed out entirely too late, which I think screwed up my entire internal schedule.
On the bright side, MH got the offer letter for his new job!! After taking DD to see Beauty and the Beast in the morning, we are off to look at a new car for me.
Anyone dealing with itchy soles of feet, hands and belly?
Here to make my declaration as the victim of early onset cholestasis...it could be nothing, but mention to your doctor ASAP so that they can get you in for bloodwork to make sure this isn't cholestasis. This goes for anyone, with an itching. If it is cholestasis (which is super rare), it can cause still birth for reasons that they really can't explain, BUT they can take preventative measures to keep the baby safe and get it out early. But they have to run blood work to diagnose.
@starphish18 in response to the lotion question I remember the nurses telling me nothing scented not even body wash so to just let water run over the nipple area and lotion elsewhere is fine but nipple cream only (lanolin) where baby latches.
@starphish18- I stuck with nipple creams (specifically Earth Mama Angel Baby, though the name irks me every time I mention it) just because I feel like my regular Curel lotion probably doesn't taste too great. The nipple creams are made to be safely ingested, so I trusted that they were probably safer as well.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
I'm wondering if anyone knows if it's "normal" to be 1cm dialated at 32 weeks (32 weeks, 4 days)
i fell at work on Thursday and went to be monitored at the hospital. They kept me in for 4 hours because I was having contractions that were "too regular" (I couldn't feel them most of the time) right before they let me go they did an internal exam and said I was 1cm dilated. I was expecting more explanation from the dr. But she just told me to come back if my contractions got stronger or I didn't feel baby move as much (I really only feel her move at night so that is stressing me out a bit too) and that I would be examined at my regular OB appointment which was the following Wednesdays. The nurse who came in said "you may be done work"
@Amybee5 from what I understand you can walk around 1-3cm dilated for weeks and it doesn't really matter unless you are effaced and in active labor. Unfortunalty (or fortunately) it doesn't mean you're about to pop or anything. That's why most doctors don't check anymore unless there is a reason to (like in your case).
Oooh a random I wanted to share with anyone who will PCS with kids... I called CYS to see if we had to pull kid 1 from daycare when my husband finished out processing and they said we are good to keep him in as long as we want, eligibility is not garrison dependent. So this means if husband out processes a little early and takes some leave en route (especially to stay home and help with a fresh baby) we can keep the toddler in daycare and not have to wrangle him during the madness of packing etc. I am SO relieved!
Always nice to hear when something positive happens regarding a PCS! My neighbors took full advantage of hourly care while their movers where there!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@Amybee5 With both DD1 and DD2 I walked around 2-3cm dilated starting at 36wks. I must have been 1-3cm dilated before that at some point, but I have noidea when I actually started dialiting as my doctor had no reason to check before then. Point is, being dilated did nothing for me. I still went 40wks with DD1 and 40+1 with DD2. I wouldn't worry about it unless your doctor is worried!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
thanks for the responses!! I found the dr didn't really give me much information and I was getting anxious about it while I wait to see my dr on Wednesday!
Oh man until his thread I had forgotten permanent feet changes were a thing! I've had some minor swelling but haven't noticed anything major YET--though I am taking full advantage of the 90s revival and running around in hiking and combat boots or suede flats most days and conveniently ignoring my tighter, heelsier shoes. I hope they don't return my betrayal by refusing to fit after the baby is born.
And speaking of nipples, my grandmother last night on the phone to my utter horror mentioned that I may want to start "working with" my nipples to "toughen them up" before breastfeeding. Is this a real thing real people do? Should I be Netflixing and Nipple Rubbing for the next couple of months?
@cato99 the nipple toughening thing is nonsense. Weird old wives tale kind of thing. Nice of your grandma to worry about your nips but abusing them now won't make establishing breastfeeding feel any better.
This does remind me to add soothies to my amazon list for when my completion discount is finally available!
@cato99 hahaha oh goodness no. it's an old myth. I remember someone on my last BMB said they were going to use sandpaper or something crazy to toughen up theirs.
I was trying to find the right GIF but there was too much sensuality going on. I did come across this and cracked up.
@WombThereItIs THANK YOU for clarifying--I feel like I would have read about it in more recent literature if it were proven helpful? My grandmother is VERY invested in my, and everybody's, nipples; she's been a militant pro-breastfeeding warrior since long before that was popular, and it can get a little oppressive!
Re: Randoms and Questions 3.20 - 3.24
eta: helps to attach the picture...
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
https://www.sciencealert.com/news/20111909-22630.html
@starphish18 , yay!! I'm glad your tests came back clear!
@kayemjay2 , your in-laws are acting ridiculous. I'd make your DH say something to them...a healthy baby should be enough to make them happy. And, YES...you should encourage them to buy him dresses and bows, lol...
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
I have bad water retention problems even without pregnancy but I've pretty much jumped on the flip flop bandwagon too.
@starphish18 Glad to hear your results came back positively!
My feet have not grown (yet) and I'd be seriously sad if they did as I have a pretty impressive shoe collection that I would be sad to not wear again.
I did see my belly button face on today for the first time (in the bathroom mirror at work) and OH MY GOD it was scary looking.
Today hasn't been so bad for me so far, I'm surprised I'm in such a positive mood considering it is my first day back to work since my vacation.
@Squirtgun: I learned about the pigeon milk thing from a PBS kids show called Wild Kratts. It's pretty neat that they feed their young like mammals! Imagine if our milk came out of our throats, though, ewwww...
@BabyMC517 - I say go with the 6 month size otherwise he'll wear it very little if he can even fit into it.
@starphish18 - glad everything with your heart is looking good!
@Squirtgun - we love Wild Kratts at our house. I feel like I am always learning something new from it.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@BeachMommy2B my feet got swollen last pregnancy luckily I could wear flip flops comfortably but couldn't wear regular sneakers. But didn't go up a size luckily because I already have big feet!
@BabyMC517 I'd say go with 6mo size
#1 DD Aug 2014 @39weeks via CS
#2 Due May 2,2017 hopeful VBAC
@BabyMC517 I would get 6mos! Some babies don't even fit in NB when they're born. I had bought a "my dad is superhero" onesie in 6mos when I found out about my first pregnancy and gave it to him as an announcement. By the time DD could fit in it, it was so exciting to put it on her. And I'm already excited to put it on this LO too.
@starphish18 I'm glad the results came back okay! I had to do the Holster test as well when I complained about palpitations. Turns out that they're very normal and I didn't have "enough" palpitations to raise concern. When I do feel like it's harder to breath, I try to get comfortable and raise at least one arm to open up my lung. It seems to help a bit, so something to try if you haven't already?
Oh man, feet talk.. mine grew half a size after my first. Most of my shoes were still fitting fine but I had to get rid of the more snug shoes (heels) because OW. It was not like I really wore them anyways. I plan to avoid buying shoes until at least the end of the summer once my feet "settle". Thank god for flipflops.
Anyways yay for today being the first day of spring and DQ giving away free cones! I messaged DH and said we better take DD when he's off work. But I really just want some. It's been a pretty uneventful day, with a routine check up this morning. Everything is still checking out okay. The MW I got today was nice enough to try and suggest ways I could sleep better to reduce hip pain, and she was more sympathetic than anybody else I've had to date.
https://mom.me/lifestyle/20141-32-parenting-truths-they-dont-prepare-us/
I especially like these:
13. You're going to be judged for SOMETHING
It's inescapable. Carry on anyway.
14. The feeling of a sleeping baby on your chest is an indescribable thank you gift from the universe
16. You will doubt yourself
You will feel like you're not measuring up to the "real moms." Like you're totally messing up your kids, and oh the crushing guilt. We all feel this way at times. All of us.
17. Although you'll have a lot to teach your kids, don't be surprised when they serve as teachers, too
If we pay attention, we can't help but be changed by their messages and perspectives. And we can't prepare for how their lessons will change us.
26. Everything is temporary
The marketing campaigns for baby gear and parenting magazines might make us think it will last forever, or at least longer than it actually does. But nope—blip, it's gone. (See #18) Sleep deprivation ends. Cluster feedings end. Even teething ends, believe it or not. And if you spring for the $1,000 stroller, don't be surprised when three years flies by and that pricey investment is being hauled to a thrift store.
27. When you're in the trenches, though, it feels like forever
The thought of getting through one more round of sleepless nights, one more round of the bedtime fiasco, will put a pit in your stomach. Stress and exhaustion make us miserable creatures. Find a way, some way, to ask for help.
29. You don't have to cherish every minute
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
My feet always swell when its hot, so they're definitely swollen now and most of my sandals are uncomfortable. My right arch hurts too and I really hope my feet don't change size forever.
My belly button...that sucker has refused to pop so far. It's been hovering for about a month and sometimes baby pushes it out. I think I have a deep belly button though. My stomach reminds me of a bagel because it remains so flat around the belly button.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
May '17 labor memes
Ordering this for my sister as a thank you for throwing the baby shower
https://www.etsy.com/listing/249740405/aunt-bracelet-aunt-gift-antique-silver
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
That got me thinking, though. Is it ok to use normal lotion over your nipples when you're BFing, or do you need to stick with only nipple creams?
On the bright side, MH got the offer letter for his new job!! After taking DD to see Beauty and the Beast in the morning, we are off to look at a new car for me.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
i fell at work on Thursday and went to be monitored at the hospital. They kept me in for 4 hours because I was having contractions that were "too regular" (I couldn't feel them most of the time) right before they let me go they did an internal exam and said I was 1cm dilated. I was expecting more explanation from the dr. But she just told me to come back if my contractions got stronger or I didn't feel baby move as much (I really only feel her move at night so that is stressing me out a bit too) and that I would be examined at my regular OB appointment which was the following Wednesdays. The nurse who came in said "you may be done work"
anyone experience anything similar?
*edited because I hit post too soon
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
thanks for the responses!! I found the dr didn't really give me much information and I was getting anxious about it while I wait to see my dr on Wednesday!
And speaking of nipples, my grandmother last night on the phone to my utter horror mentioned that I may want to start "working with" my nipples to "toughen them up" before breastfeeding. Is this a real thing real people do? Should I be Netflixing and Nipple Rubbing for the next couple of months?
This does remind me to add soothies to my amazon list for when my completion discount is finally available!
May '17 labor memes
I was trying to find the right GIF but there was too much sensuality going on. I did come across this and cracked up.