May 2017 Moms

Randoms and Questions 3.20 - 3.24

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Re: Randoms and Questions 3.20 - 3.24

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  • This is most likely my last baby and I'm starting to have feelings about it!  

    And reusing a pee cup??? Oh hell no!!!
  • @starphish18 I wonder if it means more tucking your pelvis in?
  • Thanks for the SPD advice ladies! I'll work on keeping those legs together! Ha!
  • @starphish18 haha how does a pregnant woman expect to suck in.

    I hope the cold is short lived and you both feel better asap!


  • I had to look up what SPD is - I'm sorry for those of you suffering from it! That doesn't sound like fun. 
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  • heath313 said:
    I spoke to my OB today about the itchy hands and feet. She said to let her know if it gets worse and if my urine is dark, even with drinking lots of water.

    Third time mamas, can I pick your brain?
    I was induced with my first, foley balloon the night before and pitocin at the hospital the next day, pushed for three and a half hours, baby ended up with a vacuum assist, bruising, jaundice and a broken clavicle. Needless to say, it wasn't a great birth.

    Second was born on his own, a week and a day late. Labor was only 4.5 hours from start to finish and I only pushed for 20 minutes.

    My OB is nervous about how fat this labor may be and offered to discuss induction at 39 weeks and 3 days (she's on call at the hospital that day). I am nervous about the speed of labor...but I also hated my induction. Idk what to do! She did say we wouldn't even talk about it if my body wasn't ready.
    @heath313 I didn't see any response to your post as I was trying to catch up on the thread, but I feel like relaying my experience might be helpful.  For DS2, I chose to have my water broken at 40w3d because I was 6 cm and 100% effaced and my labor and delivery was a dream.  I had an eight hour labor with DS1 and a 90 minute one with DS2 and we live in a traffic nightmare, so our tentative plan is to monitor dilation/effacement and potentially go for the water breaking plan again if it looks like my body is getting ready to go (I'm also required by my MFM to deliver before 40 weeks, so hopefully it's ready then!).
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  • I think this book about the division of household labor and childrearing sounds really interesting: How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids. The moneymaking in our house is non-traditional (i.e. I make way more), but I also do 90% of the cleaning and DH does all of the cooking and grocery shopping. I definitely do more housework, but it's mostly by choice. I've never minded cleaning, and he'll help if I ask. So far, there isn't resentment, but I'm really watching out to keep resentment from building once LO comes along. 

    He's acknowledged that he didn't realize just how much I do and that he plans to help out more, and I can see him making an effort now that it's getting harder for me to keep up with the housework. Anyways, just thought someone else might find the book interesting. 

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    BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 <3
    BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19. 


  • @starphish18 I wonder if it means more tucking your pelvis in?
    I think that's exactly what it means, I just love their choice of wording.
  • I haven't been diagnosed with SPD, but have had issues, and still do, with SI joint pain and achy hips that come along with it. Pelvic tilts and circles on a yoga ball are my go to when its bad and I try to do them every day (you don't have to use a yoga ball, but it helps. I do them at work sometimes without it.). Also, the cat cow stretch is really helpful too! There's a ton of other positions and stretches, but those are the ones I use the most. Not sure if they will help, but maybe! :) 




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  • @bacorrea yep gastroparesis for the 2nd time.  It can be common in pregnancy as the pregnancy hormone can slow down digestion and the baby can push up on the stomach. It is actually a very common side effect of type 2 diabetes.  I was diagnosed with GD last time but only failed the fasting test from my 3 hr and we think it was due to my gastroparesis.  This time before my 3hr I ate a light dinner at 5 the night before and that was it (my test was at 8am). Gastroparesis is def no fun.  I can throw up my dinner from the night before around lunch time the next day! Is she taking reglan? That seems to help a bit.  Also small meals with soft food that easy to digest.

    Sat on a cold compress last night and what a difference that made.  Def got better sleep.  But trying to figure out what to do during the day at work.  Can't sit at my desk with no pants and a cold compress. Anyone have any suggestions?

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  • @schnitz9 I have one of those rice bags that you can either heat up or keep in the freezer. Not sure if you have one or could get one, but you might be able to use that at work since it wouldn't be wet and you wouldn't have to take your pants off at work to use it  ;)  If you sew, they are super easy to make! I make them for friends and family as gifts :) 




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  • BabyMC517 said:
    @schnitz9 I have one of those rice bags that you can either heat up or keep in the freezer. Not sure if you have one or could get one, but you might be able to use that at work since it wouldn't be wet and you wouldn't have to take your pants off at work to use it  ;)  If you sew, they are super easy to make! I make them for friends and family as gifts :) 


    OOOOO this might be a good Idea.  Right now im sitting at my desk with soggy pants and the worst is I sit on a leather chair so I have a the shiny wet spot when I get up. Ugh so gross and embarrassing.
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  • Weird, random question:

    I made DH get another fire extinguisher (one downstairs, one upstairs) and test/fix/replace all of the smoke detectors in the house. So naturally he's been coming up with his fire escape plan. But this had me thinking. We save baby, eachother, pets, but then what about our valuables? Do y'all have a fireproof lock box you use? Growing up we had one with birth certificates and other important things like that, but when I looked them up on Amazon I couldn't tell if they were really fireproof and legit. Thoughts?
  • @jayandaplus - We got this one from Amazon when my son was born and I realized I was now in charge of another human's important documents:

    https://www.amazon.com/SentrySafe-HD4100CG-Fire-Safe-Waterproof-File/dp/B00GE57DFK

    We haven't had a fire, so I can't tell you if it's legitimately fire/waterproof, but it is heavy and seems pretty sturdy- and also wasn't super expensive. 


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  • schnitz9 said:
    BabyMC517 said:
    @schnitz9 I have one of those rice bags that you can either heat up or keep in the freezer. Not sure if you have one or could get one, but you might be able to use that at work since it wouldn't be wet and you wouldn't have to take your pants off at work to use it  ;)  If you sew, they are super easy to make! I make them for friends and family as gifts :) 


    OOOOO this might be a good Idea.  Right now im sitting at my desk with soggy pants and the worst is I sit on a leather chair so I have a the shiny wet spot when I get up. Ugh so gross and embarrassing.
    Oh man! That does not sound like fun! I know you can find people who make them on etsy, so you may want to check there to order one, if you don't sew. :) I can sometimes find them at the mall, but not always. It is the best thing every though! I got one when my back first went out a long time ago and use it all of the time! It works for so much stuff! 




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  • @jayandaplus
    We have a safe in our bedroom that we keep cash (my husband's family is very country and "doesn't trust the bank" so he has a tendency to have a wad of cash at home and we wanted something secure). We also have our passports, birth certificates, titles, marriage license & social security cards in it.  I believe it was like $100 from Walmart and is fireproof and water proof for up to a certain amount of hours.  We have yet to have a fire or flood to test it out.
  • We have a safe similar to @kayemjay2's that we got at walmart. Inexpensive and it is supposed to be water and fireproof. 
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  • I feel like H and I have a decent split. He will help if I ask him to (even if that means multiple requests). He does big stuff like taking out the trash, cleaning the pond (ugh), repairs, changing air filters, water softener, blah blah blah. He works from home so it can be really tempting to get mad at him for not doing stuff while he is there, but I have to remind myself he is working.
    I will expect more help with some little things (dude, load the empty dishwasher!) once baby comes.
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    We have a fire safe that contains all of our important docs. It's pretty small, just about big enough for some hanging folders. I also have our docs scanned into digital files and on a thumb drive (though I haven't checked or updated that in like 5 years, hmmm...).

    I really need to get our docs in order. Thanks for raising the issue, @jayandaplus. We spent around $200 a few years ago to replace all the smoke and CO detectors and the extinguishers. Money well spent.

    *TW*
    My hubbs' niece had a house fire two weeks ago. They lost literally everything, and by that I mean they were extremely lucky to make it out, as it was a day of sustained winds of 30-40 mph and gusts up to 70! The firefighters had a hell of a time. It was her, her 2 kids, and fiance. They made it out with only the clothes on their backs. They lost their 5 dogs. Oh god I'm crying all over again... But they lost everything. With no homeowners ins either, it's so awful. They have to start from scratch for literally everything. *END TW*
  • @jayandaplus we also have a similar safe that we got from Target. Only downfall is that it's freakin heavy! We don't move it much so not a big deal but still. Haven't had any fire/water hazards so not sure if it worked or not.

    As far as household chores go, I do/did majority of them plus I like things very clean so I don't mind doing it and get a sense of accomplishment out of a clean house. I am not working/ doing photography part time so since he is working all day I feel that he shouldn't have to come home and clean when I've been home all day. But we function just like @kayemjay2. If I am up cleaning, without asking he will just get up and start doing things or if I am cooking dinner he will jump right in and help. H doesn't see tasks as feminine or masculine if it needs to be done just do it. Since becoming pregnant he has taken over the tasks that require harder household cleaners like the showers and toilets. 
  • DH picks up most of the household chores (cleaning, cooking, yardwork).  It's due to a combination of schedule and his anal-retentive need to clean.  I would eventually get around to it, but he cleans the kitchen first thing Saturday morning.  I'd rather snuggle my kid in front of cartoons and work on waking up.  We could be more balanced and I try to jump in when I'm available.  But it works for us.  I do make more but I don't think that affects it at all.  I'm just lazy and can tolerate a bit of clutter.

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  • @SKZW How awful! I am so sorry for them. 

    Those with safes, where do you keep them? We no longer have an office because it is changing to DS' room, so I am not sure where I would put it if I got one. Maybe the basement, but is that a bad idea to have it below grade?
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  • @SKZW - That is absolutely awful! I am so, so sorry. 

    @Louise_Belcher - We have ours in our walk in closet currently. I'm guessing that's where it'll go in our new house as well. 
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  • @Louise_Belcher We might be bad because we have ours in the basement. There wasn't really a good place to keep it and because we rarely use it, it got put downstairs. We/I have an office but I don't like any unnecessary things in it plus I move stuff around for photos and it was such a pain to move. 
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    @Louise_Belcher: Thank you. 

    Yeah, basement isn't my first choice either. Our fire safe is on the floor of an upstairs clothes closet. It's not bolted to the floor, which security experts recommend to do, but again it's mostly docs, not billions' worth of loose diamonds or anything.
  • @Louise_Belcher I have NO idea why, but growing up ours was on the floor of the linen closet in the bathroom? Which now that I think about it, is super odd since we had an office and a large laundry/ storage room where the gun safe was kept.
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  • @SKZW , that is such a sad story. I can't imagine how hard it would be to start over. I'm glad they made it out safely.

    Loving this safe conversation...I've been wanting to get one for a while but couldn't figure out what size to get. It's kind of crazy to me that with all of the technology available to us, papers are still REALLY important at proving certain things. Like a SS card, for example...it's it crazy that something so non-specific and flimsy is SO important to keep tabs on? 

    On the subject of household division, salary has never weighed into our allocation of responsibilities. It's always been close to a 50/50 household split mainly by time needed to complete the task. One of us picks up the living room while the other loads the dishwasher, one entertains DS while the other goes grocery shopping, etc. We both work full time, but if one of us was part time, obviously they would spend that time with the kiddos while the other worked. The working partner making more money or spending more time at an office would never be "excused" from their fair share of work for the balance of the night. The concept of that is really hard for me to wrap my head around actually...I'd be furious if I stayed home with the kids all day and he came home expecting to relax on the couch while I cook, clean, and put the kids to bed. 
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  • Thanks to this thread.. more things to add to my shopping list:
    > fire proof and water proof safe
    > fire extinguisher
    > fire ladder to keep on the second floor?




  • DH works a lot so I do all the cleaning and taking care of DD. He will help on his days off but since I'm a SAHM now I take on 99% of it all just because he's always so busy with work but once this LO gets here I will definitely expect more help with household chores! 

    Now I need a waterproof/fireproof safe for all our important documents!!! 

    @SKZW I'm so sorry to hear that. That is truly awful. :(

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