@clebl24 I say go for the white pants! If it's warm and beautiful outside, anything goes.
I can't remember who else was interested in cord blood donation, but I just sign up to receive a kit. There are some hospitals that are tied to a public bank, and they should provide the kit for you. But if you are like the 99% of everyone else, you have to request a kit. The main website I found was bethematch.org and it was super quick. They do warn you that you may not get a kit due to a full bank, or that the donation may be used for research if there's not enough cells for donation. You fill out a little survey that has similar requires of normal blood donation, and if you pass, you fill out your information. I should hear back within 3-7 days. They also require you to be 28-34 weeks only when you sign up.
@ShadeofGreen816 my DD did that a lot last pregnancy. She happened to do it while we were doing one of our 3D/4D ultrasounds around 32 weeks and they were able to tell us she was practice breathing. Felt just like you described.
Question: For those whose babies have had hiccups on the inside... do they seem fast? I keep having these movements that feel like they could be hiccups since they are so regular and last 10-15 minutes at a time. But I would say they're 40-50/min. Which seems fast? Is she just punching me over and over? Am I just being crazy?
Yes, sometimes they're very fast. Other times they a little more normal.OH and now I just scrolled and saw that the'yre practice breaths? Well either way, they can be really annoying. Especially as I'm trying to fall asleep or if I dont feel well.
Hi all. Have had the week from hell with lots going on, but am able to bump again now that life has calmed down a bit. Not sure where to post so I'll do it here. In regards to my DNR question, I have had it since I was 18 and it came about after a bad family situation. I do have a medical clause that will allow for a short time of cpr and 2 defib shocks, but that is it..nothing more. There are so many things I'd like to chime in on in all the posts and threads I've missed in the last week but I'll just start afresh now that I'm back.
Its comforting to know that our group struggles with ups and downs and that we have a safe place to vent and share. This board is so much better than my other bumps in the past.
... Also, this little one started a super fun new move last night--she basically seems to be stretching out her arm and just holding it in place. Basically making a tent out of my stomach. It's so weird and uncomfortable.
Omg, yes, the tenting. This LO does it right near my belly button often and it's borderline painful. I try to massage her away, but I don't know if that actually does anything.
@absbubbs I brought up cord blood donation a week or two ago, so it was probably me. Thanks for your input! I did the same thing through cordforlife.com (in fact, I might have been led there by bethematch.org, I can't remember). I'm still waiting to hear back in regards to my kit request, though. I was incredibly surprised how long it took me just to find somewhere to donate to.
@kipperoo Ha tenting. That's a first for me. But I know exactly what you're talking about. I especially dislike it when it's a bigger move and it's their butt or something sticking out and makes the belly completely lopsided. I can barely move when that happens.
TL;DR (are those the right acronyms? I don't even know) DH isn't going to be here for the birth.
Ugh. I know the whole "if the military wanted you to have a family they would issue you one," is true, but I am so frustrated! Backstory, DH and I separated. We have since reconciled; however, he moved and I stayed to have prenatal care instead of getting a 6th set of doctors. I am in VA and he is in TX.
DH was supposed to be able to take leave and be here for DDs birthday/the birth. Now he is taking command June 22 and has to do command inventories for 5 weeks and now can't take leave. Basically I am going to call him when I am in labor and he will try to get here within a few days and be here for a weekend, but that's it. Then once I am cleared I will head to TX. I'm just annoyed. I love this kid, but I am dreading the next two years with my DH never being there with me 1800 miles from family with a 3yr old and newborn. Blah.
On the bright side I am missing his change of command. Wife of the year right here @WombThereItIs@hp_momma
@starphish18 I was surprised at how long it took me to find a place also. And by the lack of options! I started to get frusterated that most of the info out there seems to only be about private banking.
@bacorrea how frustrating and disappointing. Hopefully you have family that you would want as support during labor at least? So not the same, though. I have to say I'm glad about you and your H. I remember back when you were separated and noticed your posts seemed to imply that you guys were doing better but didn't want to be overly intrusive. Anyhow, creepy stranger hugs to you because that is no fun.
@bacorrea that sounds super frustrating, I'm sorry. I'm gonna hold out hope that maybe something will change and he can be there for you and your little one.
@bacarrea complain away anytime you want! Sorry you have to deal with that. I honestly had completely forgotten about the separation since it hasn't really been mentioned since you moved. I'm glad you have your family around, and though the timing is not ideal, your DH will at least still be there as soon as he can be when it's go time. Thinking of you all!
@bacorrea All the creepy Internet hugs to you! So frustrating when military gets in the way of "normal life" even though we know to expect it. Solidarity with the change of command inventory, DH is about to enter those gates of hell in May so even though he's going to be "home" I'm totally preparing myself for him to roll in at night and go directly to sleep. He's not taking command but you know how much work it is for everyone involved!
And in regards to missing Change of Command ceremony, I can't think of a better excuse than having a baby! Totally acceptable.
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@bacorrea All the creepy Internet hugs to you! So frustrating when military gets in the way of "normal life" even though we know to expect it. Solidarity with the change of command inventory, DH is about to enter those gates of hell in May so even though he's going to be "home" I'm totally preparing myself for him to roll in at night and go directly to sleep. He's not taking command but you know how much work it is for everyone involved!
And in regards to missing Change of Command ceremony, I can't think of a better excuse than having a baby! Totally acceptable.
Thanks. I'm sure y'all have been told, but make sure he sees everything he signs for!! Officers can be charged the FULL AMOUNT for missing items, unlike enlisted, who can only have so many paychecks taken away. I think it's like 1.5 or something.
@bacorrea All the creepy Internet hugs to you! So frustrating when military gets in the way of "normal life" even though we know to expect it. Solidarity with the change of command inventory, DH is about to enter those gates of hell in May so even though he's going to be "home" I'm totally preparing myself for him to roll in at night and go directly to sleep. He's not taking command but you know how much work it is for everyone involved!
And in regards to missing Change of Command ceremony, I can't think of a better excuse than having a baby! Totally acceptable.
Thanks. I'm sure y'all have been told, but make sure he sees everything he signs for!! Officers can be charged the FULL AMOUNT for missing items, unlike enlisted, who can only have so many paychecks taken away. I think it's like 1.5 or something.
Yes! It's been drilled into his head over and over again. Because he's medical operations, he already signs for so.much.stuff! And the vehicles that he signs for alone stress me out!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
I just found out about a week ago that I'm being thrown a second baby shower with my H's side of the family. This insert was included with the invite, and I absolutely love the idea of getting books instead of cards! Such a great way to start a collection. Just wanted to share as a future baby shower idea.
@starphish18 My shower with DD1 did that and it was amazing! I still love opening up a book with her and seeing the little note from someone. We got so many books!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Ooohhhhh my husbandddddd. Oh my gosh he is ticking me off. Im not supposed to pick up dd and yall know he doesnt get up during the night so dd and i got into the habit of cuddling on the couch since i couldnt pick her up and get her back in bed over and over. Well now she is refusing to sleep in her room and dh is all upset bc i messed everything up when really isnt that his fault bc he doesnt help?? Anyway, we decided to sleep train again to break the habit and he had to get up tonight and put her back in bed a few times (over the course of about an hour) and was so grumpy and complained the whole time then ended up cussing at me for no reason before i finally told him to forget it and go to bed and that id just handle it. As he walked away he had the nerve to say "youre welcome for helping tonight"..... What the heck?!?!?!?!?!
@Jkp7749 So sorry your H is frustratingly oblivious. Perhaps the stress of the change in course of your pregnancy is getting to him too? Not an excuse, but maybe relevant? Hope it gets smoother, mama
@starphish18 I apologize if this has been discussed but I wanted to add something about the whole cord blood situation. If you want delayed cord clamping it's very unlikely there will be enough blood left in the cord to get any out with the collection kit. I'm personally all for your own baby getting that blood.
... @starphish18 I apologize if this has been discussed but I wanted to add something about the whole cord blood situation. If you want delayed cord clamping it's very unlikely there will be enough blood left in the cord to get any out with the collection kit. I'm personally all for your own baby getting that blood.
I had absolutely no clue, thank you! Yes, I'd much rather have delayed clamping.
@rosemarylaff I think if you are just having minor cramps with no other symptioms (contractions, bleeding, spotting, etc) then it probably wouldn't be much concern. If it happens again sit down drink a couple glasses of water and see if that helps. Or if you're concerned you can always call your Drs office for peace of mind.
@Jkp7749 So sorry your H is frustratingly oblivious. Perhaps the stress of the change in course of your pregnancy is getting to him too? Not an excuse, but maybe relevant? Hope it gets smoother, mama
@starphish18 I apologize if this has been discussed but I wanted to add something about the whole cord blood situation. If you want delayed cord clamping it's very unlikely there will be enough blood left in the cord to get any out with the collection kit. I'm personally all for your own baby getting that blood.
That is correct, but I also think it's important to repeat why donation is also important. It is saving someone's life. So many people die waiting for a bone marrow transplant because it isn't anywhere as simple as a normal blood transfusion. There are so many more markers that have to match than your blood type. The majority of recipients do not have a 100% match. Cord blood not only increases the pool of donors, but it increases the compatibility andlowers the chance of rejection. If anyone has considered either one, I highly suggest really looking into the pros and cons of both for you personally. Personally for me, as long as my pregnancy is healthy and baby is healthy, the benefits of DCCdo not outweigh the benefits of donating that blood.
@bacorrea , I'm so glad to hear you've patched things up with your husband. It really sucks that he won't be there for the birth. I'm sure it's comforting to have the family nearby, but it's just not the same.
@Jkp7749 , that's seriously obnoxious. You have every right to be annoyed with him. Men sometimes, sheesh.
@bacorrea I'm so glad to hear things are going well with your DH, but how frustrating that he won't be able to be there for the birth. I give all you military moms so much credit; you guys are all so strong taking on so much on your own.
@Jkp7749 I would have had a hard time not hitting him after that comment. Hopefully when he wakes up this morning he apologizes and it was just something said in the heat of sleep deprivation.
@Jkp7749 - I'm pretty sure my BP skyrocketed for you just reading that. He was definitely being a jerk face last night. I really hope he realizes that this morning and apologizes profusely.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
This morning he was being overly nice and i asked if he remembered last night... Then he looked a little uncomfortable and said he was sorry so i guess its whatever. maybe it's just me but i dont think being tired is an excuse to act like a butt... If that was the case i could act awful all the time since dd has never slept very well and im pregnant with twins!
@Jkp7749 i'm so sorry about your night! I know Fiance and I are a little nervous about the upcoming months, we had some of our worst fights in the middle of the night because we were tired and up with DD. Hang in there!
Echoing others to say I'm sorry @Jkp7749. DH and I definitely had some bad fights where we both said things we regretted later. I'm glad he seems embarrassed this morning but given that you're gearing up to have twins and your DD is still struggling with sleep, I would probably have a conversation about nighttime help going forward. I may be more of a bish than you but I would really try to hammer home the point that getting up all night long is really hard and the fact that he hasn't had to do it until now isn't an excuse to be a jerk about it. If anything he should be thanking you that he hadn't really experienced how much it sucks until now.
Has anyone requested a handicapped parking pass during pregnancy? I believe I have SPD and I am in constant pain. I was given one during my last pregnancy but I was also on bedrest and used a wheelchair to get to my doctors appointments.
I've been following the stories of 3 law enforcement officers that were ambushed last July. They lost their lives in the line of service. One of the officer's wives was pregnant, she didn't find out she was pregnant until after the funeral. Well, she had the baby last night and I think it is an amazing story.
Completely off topic, but can I ask a bra question? I'm dealing with having boobs for the first time basically ever. I want to buy a couple of new bras, and I'd like them to have a little bit of lift. But I don't want six inches of padding with that push-up. Any good recommendations?
Re: Randoms and Questions 3.20 - 3.24
I can't remember who else was interested in cord blood donation, but I just sign up to receive a kit. There are some hospitals that are tied to a public bank, and they should provide the kit for you. But if you are like the 99% of everyone else, you have to request a kit. The main website I found was bethematch.org and it was super quick. They do warn you that you may not get a kit due to a full bank, or that the donation may be used for research if there's not enough cells for donation. You fill out a little survey that has similar requires of normal blood donation, and if you pass, you fill out your information. I should hear back within 3-7 days. They also require you to be 28-34 weeks only when you sign up.
So backstory.... fiance worked at Disney World in college as Aladdin. Well I just ordered this for baby! I'm seriously so excited!
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
Its comforting to know that our group struggles with ups and downs and that we have a safe place to vent and share. This board is so much better than my other bumps in the past.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Ugh. I know the whole "if the military wanted you to have a family they would issue you one," is true, but I am so frustrated! Backstory, DH and I separated. We have since reconciled; however, he moved and I stayed to have prenatal care instead of getting a 6th set of doctors. I am in VA and he is in TX.
DH was supposed to be able to take leave and be here for DDs birthday/the birth. Now he is taking command June 22 and has to do command inventories for 5 weeks and now can't take leave. Basically I am going to call him when I am in labor and he will try to get here within a few days and be here for a weekend, but that's it. Then once I am cleared I will head to TX. I'm just annoyed. I love this kid, but I am dreading the next two years with my DH never being there with me 1800 miles from family with a 3yr old and newborn. Blah.
On the bright side I am missing his change of command. Wife of the year right here @WombThereItIs @hp_momma
thanks for letting me complain!
I have to say I'm glad about you and your H. I remember back when you were separated and noticed your posts seemed to imply that you guys were doing better but didn't want to be overly intrusive.
Anyhow, creepy stranger hugs to you because that is no fun.
And in regards to missing Change of Command ceremony, I can't think of a better excuse than having a baby! Totally acceptable.
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@starphish18 I apologize if this has been discussed but I wanted to add something about the whole cord blood situation. If you want delayed cord clamping it's very unlikely there will be enough blood left in the cord to get any out with the collection kit. I'm personally all for your own baby getting that blood.
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Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
@Jkp7749 , that's seriously obnoxious. You have every right to be annoyed with him. Men sometimes, sheesh.
@Jkp7749 I would have had a hard time not hitting him after that comment. Hopefully when he wakes up this morning he apologizes and it was just something said in the heat of sleep deprivation.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
@bacorrea - Really sucks that he won't be there. But happy to hear that you've reconciled.
H's interview went well yesterday. He says he couldn't imagine it going any better. Nervously waiting to see if an offer comes through.
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
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I've been following the stories of 3 law enforcement officers that were ambushed last July. They lost their lives in the line of service. One of the officer's wives was pregnant, she didn't find out she was pregnant until after the funeral. Well, she had the baby last night and I think it is an amazing story.
https://www.wafb.com/story/34968279/dechia-gerald-widow-of-fallen-officer-matthew-gerald-gives-birth-to-baby-boy
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17