@mhilpisch10you're my favorite person today. That's exactly our technique for name picking - a name that people recognize as a name but not something that's heard every day. Boo yea. Now to do that again! haha
I love when internet strangers compliment me. I think I might now have enough motivation to pick up a little.
Married 6-1-13 Sebastian 3-11-14 Simon 5-2-15 Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
Sporty1216 Had the meeting, and luckily my admin was very understanding. She was concerned that my grades seemed to be coming in late, but once I told her I was pregnant she just stopped me since she remembered all about 1st tri fatigue. She told me if I have any symptoms that seem to be making my work harder to come see her and she'd fight in my corner to make sure I stayed healthy and rested!
@AnnaS930 I'm definitely going to make sure we don't do another S name. Way too confusing! Haha but I think whatever name you choose will compliment Emmett because it will be your babies names together. I'm trying to find something that I think will be a good name for all stages of life more so than the flow of all the kids names together. But I do think if you like a certain type of name then they do tend to go well together.
oh and edit : Linus is currently one of our favorite names. I think the blanket love of Sebastian inspired it.
Married 6-1-13 Sebastian 3-11-14 Simon 5-2-15 Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
@runningisrad i love the river walk! I love Chattanooga! It's so weird having a bumpie from my town, my fingers are getting tired from having to love-it all your posts and tag you in everything. We should be labor buddies.
Re: Baby Names. I just saw this article about a new Tinder style app for baby names. You and your partner download it for free "BabyName". Then you swipe left or right depending on if you like it or not. It will then give you a list of names that you both agree on.
I just downloaded it because my husband and I are having trouble agreeing on names. I'm hoping this helps. I think it says it has 30k names in the app.
I over did it today! An hour and a half at the grocery store, loading and unloading the car. Putting groceries away with a toddler clawing at me and begging for snacks. Made chicken salad, bean and bacon soup, and rice pudding. Now my kitchen looks like it threw up and DH will be home in an hour. All I want to do is lay down. Ps toddler won't leave me alone still
@faeriem Thank you! I feel perfectly fine this morning.. I'm sure it will be followed by 3 or 4 days without need for the bathroom now. Ugh.. vicious cycle. I have had brown sugar cinnamon poptarts, some powerade, and I am thinking about a wrap or an Italian for lunch. We only had salad at home and that was not appealing when packing a lunch at 6:30am. And of course some chips. Might as well find those 3 pounds I lost!!
This afternoon has been that way. I'm feeling soooo much better and have been starving. I blame baby plus bfing. I've had a huge salad with craisins, toasted pecans, and a bunch of feta and balsamic dressing almost half a pie left over from yesterday, 2 pbjs, most of a bag of goldfish, and 4 cutie oranges. I better get a hike or run in tomorrow, or I'm in trouble. I also love your naming method. We've tried to go that route, but have also been using family names. Samson goes as Sam or Sammy, but if there are other Sams can go by his name. Same with our girl name. Anika can go by Ann or Annie.
@jabreen yay that's so great that she had your back and was so supportive!! I was hoping you wouldn't get in trouble for that-- I never understood why some kids/parents can't accept the fact that they're not perfect?
@blondie080300 YES. Went through that on Saturday. Pure torture!! Hope your flight wasn't too long!
@AnnaS930 I'm OCD with you on the name game. It HAS to sound good with DS' name (Xavier, but we call him Avi, ah-vee, for short). I picture myself calling them in for dinner (Little House on the Prairie style) and it just needs to have rhythm.
@blondie080300 I feel your pain sister. Those little blankets they give you aren't thick enough to hot box anything. It might as well be a few (recycled) paper towels on your lap.
I've known since I had my official ultrasound at 14w4d that the sex guesses that the tech made could be wrong (since it's just that: a guess), but for some reason I'm really starting to doubt whether she was right now that I've had time to sit and marinate for a while.
I don't think it really sunk how early 14 weeks was, developmentally-speaking, even though I knew it was early, if that makes sense. Now I'm sitting here stressing out about finding out when my anatomy scan is going to be because I have to know if she was right (my husband ended up asking what the original guess was despite being team green, but doesn't want to know what the official anatomy scan verdict is, so he's team semi-green at this point).
I'm not sure how to put this in a way that will come off right, but the bright side is that I can't really experience "gender disappointment" (I hate to use the term gender when referring to biological sex, but I don't think anyone uses the term "sex disappointment," so I'm running with it) if one or both of the babies' sexes ends up being incorrect, since it would mean that I'm having a girl (or girls) and both DH and I wanted at least one daughter. It'll be a bit of a shock since I've been thinking of them as boys since my ultrasound (and had a gut feeling even before that), but it won't be a bad one. Don't get me wrong, I love my babies, boy(s) or girl(s), and all that really matters is that they're healthy, but I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't like to have a little girl (or two), especially since there's a decent chance we may not have any more children after this and, like I said, DH wants a daughter just like I do.
I guess that means I can relax. Either things will stay the same (which wouldn't be a bad thing) or we'll get an extra added bonus in the form of the daughter(s) we'd imagined ourselves having. It's just the wait that's going to drive me crazy until I know "for sure" (because I'm impatient).
I took a 27 hr flight from Asia to Canada 4 days before I found out I was pregnant. Never have I managed to sleep so much nor had to use the horrible airplane bathroom so much - never again! Was not a pleasant early pregnancy moment
On a more positive note, at 13 weeks 4 days I finally feel like I am getting some energy back!!! I am not dying to go to bed at 8:30 PM - Hallelujah!!!
@MojieJo - I 100% understand you. I have a son and am believing this baby is a boy so at the anatomy scan I will either be Yay! I knew it, or happily surprised by a girl. If I think girl and it's a boy I'm worried I'll have a moment (just a moment) of disappointment because, as you're saying, we would like a daughter at some point as well. The idea of a house with brothers is fun enough that I'm not stuck on the daughter idea.
Just wanted to say I know where you're coming from and as you already know, it's going to be the most wonderful adventure of your life either way!
@MojieJo I had a moment of disappointment when we found out that our second was a girl. I really wanted a girl so that our older daughter would have a sister. But I was still disappointed that we weren't have a boy. It's normal, and I was over it by the time we were out of the doctors office.
I already have a son, so now I am getting a lot of people saying "Do you hope it's a girl? I hope you have a girl!" It is getting pretty annoying. I would love the experience of having a daughter and this will be our last child. And before I got pregnant, I did want my next child to be a girl. But now that I am pregnant, I really don't care. The child has been created and there is no changing that. My husband also doesn't care whether this is a boy or girl, so we aren't too anxious to find out. We are still undecided as to whether we will be team green this time...
@marajay6 We get the same, but with "don't we just want a boy" because we have a girl already. And it doesn't matter to either of us. This will also be our last, but I think having two daughters will be just as awesome as having one of each.
I am getting more excited to find out the sex as the a/s gets closer, but still not impatient like I was with DD. I'm enjoying this time where I can imagine I'm having another girl, and I can also imagine I'm having a boy. It's fun imagining how each will change our family dynamic, and like I said, they both sound awesome to me.
I thought before I was pregnant that I really wanted to have a boy first because I had a big brother and I loved it. Now that I am pregnant, and I think we're having a girl (team green) I'm super excited about possibly having a girl first. Prior to pregnancy I was all...ooo maybe I should find out early so I'm not disappointed if a girl comes. It's so strange how ideas and priorities change once you ARE pregnant. I'm now (well always was) team healthy baby and am very happy for myself (and my baby) that I honestly can say I'll be ecstatic whether it's a boy or girl.
I finally convinced hubby to be team green, so we're not finding out until LO arrives. I'm pretty pumped about this overall. But I'll admit, I kind of want a girl more than a boy - not because I super want another female in the house - but because I LOVE our girl name and really want to use it! It's a family name, so I've been dreaming of naming a daughter since I was a teen and now that that time is here, I'm crossing my fingers for a girl!
@PoodleDoodleOooHaha, I'm with you! I told DH last night that I'm leaning more towards girl because I love our girl name so much! (And we don't have a boy name at all at this point. I know we have time...but I went into labor with DD with still no boy name (we were team green then, too) so I'm not holding out much hope on that front this time around.) Plus, we already have a girl and all girl stuff so having another would certainly make things simpler! For those reasons, I bet we'll have a boy, lol. The pressure is ON to find that perfect boy name for our family.
Over the weekend, I felt intense pressure in my belly a couple times Saturday night and then throughout the day on Sunday. Each time, my abdomen felt rock hard. This happened a lot when I was pregnant with DD - but much later in pregnancy. Sometimes, it was because she was in a weird position or "stretching". Other times, it was due to contractions. (I started having progressive contractions (meaning they were effective at dilating me) around 32 weeks so this went on for a while.) When I experienced what I did over the weekend, I initially thought it was baby. But then realized baby is way too small to be applying that kind of pressure just by moving around. I had my 16 week appointment with my OB today and she confirmed that was unlikely and that it was more likely mild contractions. Nothing to worry about, she said, unless they start happening cyclically (like 5 in an hour). Honestly, I'm not really worried about it after talking to her (which is uncharacteristic of me.) But what? Contractions already? Has anyone else experienced this?
I get so anxious about even talking about it for fear that people will think I'm saying that I won't love my sons (assuming they're boys) just because I'm admitting that I want a daughter at some point.
So thank you for the kind words. I needed that right now.
@leahknits That's pretty much how I felt when the tech gave me her guess. There was a very fleeting moment of disappointment--probably because I was confronting the possible reality that I wouldn't be having a girl for "real" for the first time--and then it was gone.
My husband kept apologizing that I wasn't getting what I'd dreamed of until I asked him to stop. He meant well (he knew that I'd been team purple), but I don't want this to be viewed in a negative light. I don't consider it a bad thing having two boys (if that's what happens), it's just not the picture I've had in my head for so long, and that's okay.
I have a childcare dilemma...right after I got my BFP we told DS's daycare to reserve a spot for this baby. They do not have an available infant spot until February 2017 - 2+ months later than we need. So we have been looking at other centers to send this LO to and then eventually switch to DS's daycare. Many centers in our area do not have availability. So far we have only found 1. It is the center that DS went to for 3 months when I returned to work. We switched him to his current daycare when a spot opened up - it was always our first choice. We had no problem with the center and the care they provided for infants (we questioned the quality for older kids). DH and I are both hesitant to go back with this kid. It's hard to explain why...maybe we just feel some guilt about how we quickly left. It's silly and we don't have too many other options...
The only other alternative that I can think of is this new center that is being built right next to where I work. It is scheduled to open for business about a month before we will need daycare. We cannot get much information on the staff (since there is none) or how to enroll. The location is super convenient - I would even be able to breastfeed on my lunch break and not have to pump as much.
@LakeR2014 Before we started TTC, I was convinced I wanted a boy first. Actually, I was pretty convinced I wanted all boys. I don't know what it was, but as soon as we started trying I completely flipped sides and wanted our first to be a girl. But before then, I used to think I would need to go look at a bunch of cute baby girl stuff before the a/s so I wouldn't be disappointed if they said girl.
If I'd known prior to getting pregnant that I'd decide we were done after this one, I would have wanted it to be a boy. But like you said, priorities change when you are actually pregnant, and it just doesn't seem to matter to me as much. It's not that I wouldn't feel a little sadness over never having a son, but there also seems something special about having two of the same sex.
@marajay6 is a nanny in the budget? For a couple months, it might not be so bad cost wise and then you wouldn't have to worry about doing two drop offs/pick ups.
@LakeR2014 Before we started TTC, I was convinced I wanted a boy first. Actually, I was pretty convinced I wanted all boys. I don't know what it was, but as soon as we started trying I completely flipped sides and wanted our first to be a girl. But before then, I used to think I would need to go look at a bunch of cute baby girl stuff before the a/s so I wouldn't be disappointed if they said girl.
If I'd known prior to getting pregnant that I'd decide we were done after this one, I would have wanted it to be a boy. But like you said, priorities change when you are actually pregnant, and it just doesn't seem to matter to me as much. It's not that I wouldn't feel a little sadness over never having a son, but there also seems something special about having two of the same sex.
@camichael84THIS! Perfectly. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to have one of each, but if that's not in the cards, I look forward to having two of the same sex and watching them grow together
@marajay6 - The idea of having daycare right next to work sounds amazing! While I'm not huge on the fact that you can't really find anything out about the staff at this point, personally I think it would be great, if even for a couple of months. I would much rather be able to stop by at lunch, breast feed and bond with baby than sit in a room and pump.
While some of you have convinced your DHs to be team green, I went the opposite way. I finally convinced DH to find out the sex(s) of the babies. (Yes, I'm feeling a bit guilty here, but I can always change my mind prior to the U/S.) The catch? He's only ok with it if we have a 3D U/S to determine the sex(s). We didn't have one with DS and DD so I feel a bit guilty. However, we also couldn't have afforded it at that time. And I can't help but think of how cool it would be to have DS and DD see the U/S in 3D!
@runningisrad i love the river walk! I love Chattanooga! It's so weird having a bumpie from my town, my fingers are getting tired from having to love-it all your posts and tag you in everything. We should be labor buddies.
Riverwalk is awesome. Except my doctor said that doing most of my last half-marathon long training runs on it contributed to my knee issues. Whoops. Stupid concrete.
And word! Where are you planning on having this baby?
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@UnwritteN12- I am in love with the idea of visiting and feeding on my lunch break. I hated pumping last time, so anything that can reduce how much I have to is a win. It is still such a gamble going with a brand new place...
@marajay6 I can understand your concerns about going with a brand new place with no reviews/references/etc. That being said, because they're so new, I'd think (hope) they would be prepared to go above and beyond to meet their parents' needs when they first open. I think it would be perfectly acceptable to pose the question to them and see how they respond. There's nothing wrong with asking, "How are you preparing to address parents' needs in the first months that you are open as you will still be building your reputation?" Or just plain out admitting that you're hesitant with the newness of their establishment and ask them how they plan on addressing that for you (and other parents who I'm sure are wondering the same things as you). See what they say. If they've thought about it and have a plan of action, great. If they've never considered the fact that a parent may have qualms with their brand-new establishment, that may be a red flag.
MojieJo my sister has identical twin boys, and she went through some similar feelings. Little different situation in that they have a 2yo daughter already, and my sis really wanted her to have a sister. That being said - the twin boys are so precious together already and I cannot wait to see them as they grow older. I'm excited for you to find out, what a fun adventure no matter the sexes!!
Re: Randoms Thread: March Edition!
Sebastian 3-11-14
Simon 5-2-15
Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
oh and edit : Linus is currently one of our favorite names. I think the blanket love of Sebastian inspired it.
Sebastian 3-11-14
Simon 5-2-15
Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
I just downloaded it because my husband and I are having trouble agreeing on names. I'm hoping this helps. I think it says it has 30k names in the app.
That is all.
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
I also love your naming method. We've tried to go that route, but have also been using family names. Samson goes as Sam or Sammy, but if there are other Sams can go by his name. Same with our girl name. Anika can go by Ann or Annie.
@blondie080300 YES. Went through that on Saturday. Pure torture!! Hope your flight wasn't too long!
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
Sebastian 3-11-14
Simon 5-2-15
Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
I've known since I had my official ultrasound at 14w4d that the sex guesses that the tech made could be wrong (since it's just that: a guess), but for some reason I'm really starting to doubt whether she was right now that I've had time to sit and marinate for a while.
I don't think it really sunk how early 14 weeks was, developmentally-speaking, even though I knew it was early, if that makes sense. Now I'm sitting here stressing out about finding out when my anatomy scan is going to be because I have to know if she was right (my husband ended up asking what the original guess was despite being team green, but doesn't want to know what the official anatomy scan verdict is, so he's team semi-green at this point).
I'm not sure how to put this in a way that will come off right, but the bright side is that I can't really experience "gender disappointment" (I hate to use the term gender when referring to biological sex, but I don't think anyone uses the term "sex disappointment," so I'm running with it) if one or both of the babies' sexes ends up being incorrect, since it would mean that I'm having a girl (or girls) and both DH and I wanted at least one daughter. It'll be a bit of a shock since I've been thinking of them as boys since my ultrasound (and had a gut feeling even before that), but it won't be a bad one.
Don't get me wrong, I love my babies, boy(s) or girl(s), and all that really matters is that they're healthy, but I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't like to have a little girl (or two), especially since there's a decent chance we may not have any more children after this and, like I said, DH wants a daughter just like I do.
I guess that means I can relax. Either things will stay the same (which wouldn't be a bad thing) or we'll get an extra added bonus in the form of the daughter(s) we'd imagined ourselves having. It's just the wait that's going to drive me crazy until I know "for sure" (because I'm impatient).
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
On a more positive note, at 13 weeks 4 days I finally feel like I am getting some energy back!!! I am not dying to go to bed at 8:30 PM - Hallelujah!!!
Just wanted to say I know where you're coming from and as you already know, it's going to be the most wonderful adventure of your life either way!
I am getting more excited to find out the sex as the a/s gets closer, but still not impatient like I was with DD. I'm enjoying this time where I can imagine I'm having another girl, and I can also imagine I'm having a boy. It's fun imagining how each will change our family dynamic, and like I said, they both sound awesome to me.
Well, hello second tri. I've been waiting for you. (Anyone else relieved to be in second tri despite having no reason to worry?)
Also, hoping for a boy this time. Have a girl who I obviously love dearly but I'd love to have a boy too. No shame in admitting that.
I get so anxious about even talking about it for fear that people will think I'm saying that I won't love my sons (assuming they're boys) just because I'm admitting that I want a daughter at some point.
So thank you for the kind words. I needed that right now.
@leahknits That's pretty much how I felt when the tech gave me her guess. There was a very fleeting moment of disappointment--probably because I was confronting the possible reality that I wouldn't be having a girl for "real" for the first time--and then it was gone.
My husband kept apologizing that I wasn't getting what I'd dreamed of until I asked him to stop. He meant well (he knew that I'd been team purple), but I don't want this to be viewed in a negative light. I don't consider it a bad thing having two boys (if that's what happens), it's just not the picture I've had in my head for so long, and that's okay.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
The only other alternative that I can think of is this new center that is being built right next to where I work. It is scheduled to open for business about a month before we will need daycare. We cannot get much information on the staff (since there is none) or how to enroll. The location is super convenient - I would even be able to breastfeed on my lunch break and not have to pump as much.
If I'd known prior to getting pregnant that I'd decide we were done after this one, I would have wanted it to be a boy. But like you said, priorities change when you are actually pregnant, and it just doesn't seem to matter to me as much. It's not that I wouldn't feel a little sadness over never having a son, but there also seems something special about having two of the same sex.
While some of you have convinced your DHs to be team green, I went the opposite way. I finally convinced DH to find out the sex(s) of the babies. (Yes, I'm feeling a bit guilty here, but I can always change my mind prior to the U/S.) The catch? He's only ok with it if we have a 3D U/S to determine the sex(s). We didn't have one with DS and DD so I feel a bit guilty. However, we also couldn't have afforded it at that time. And I can't help but think of how cool it would be to have DS and DD see the U/S in 3D!
And word! Where are you planning on having this baby?
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I am so behind!!
MojieJo my sister has identical twin boys, and she went through some similar feelings. Little different situation in that they have a 2yo daughter already, and my sis really wanted her to have a sister. That being said - the twin boys are so precious together already and I cannot wait to see them as they grow older. I'm excited for you to find out, what a fun adventure no matter the sexes!!