Confession: I was a horrible mama this morning. We've been struggling to stay on-task in the mornings and not take FOORRREEEVVERRR to get ready. And let's face it, I"m not at my most patient right now.
So I gave my 6-year-old her vitamin while I went to dry my hair. When I was done, I told her it was time to do all her morning routine things (potty, wash hands, brush teeth, get dressed.) It took her ten damn minutes to use the bathroom ("I gotta pee. *takes forever to wipe. Flushes. Gets off the toilet. Walks to sink.* Oh, I have to poop now. *goes BACK to toilet. Sits down. Takes forever.*") When she finally got to the sink to brush her teeth, I looked at her and said, "What's in your mouth?" "Oh, that's my gummy vitamin."
Y'all, she squirreled that thing away in her cheek for TWENTY MINUTES. I don't yell, but I lost my cool and raised my voice which I try very hard not to do. "I GAVE THAT TO YOU TWENTY MINUTES AGO," I barked at her. Her eyes immediately filled with tears and she started apologizing. I felt like such an asshole. I hugged her tight and told her I was sorry, but that it was just so frustrating to me that she would do that. She kept crying and I told her she wasn't in trouble, but that I was very frustrated. Then I told her I shouldn't have acted like that and said I was sorry again. She was over it relatively quickly but I've felt bad all morning. I've been so tired and crabby lately and I know I'm being harder on her than is fair.
Ugh. Motherhood, y'all.
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@runningisrad We've all been there. I try my hardest to not raise my voice at my daughter, because, let's face it, it's rarely effective. But sometimes, our emotions get the best of us. My daughter is in a hitting/yelling phase which is beyond frustrating. I always make sure to apologize after I yell at her. You handled it well. Don't beat yourself us.
@runningisrad don't beat yourself up. I know it's hard not to feel guilty but having a moment doesn't make you a bad mother. From everything I've read from you and your little girl, you sound like an amazing mother. We're not stepford wives, it's human to get frustrated and it was sweet of you to recognize it right away and apologize (a LOT of parents don't do that). Besides, the pregnancy hormones aren't exactly helping our patience, right?
@runningisrad - I get it though. School mornings are frustrating and beyond annoying. You did good by hugging her and reassuring her. No one's perfect. And all the extra hormones don't help anyone.
If it makes you feel any better, I've been mommy monster today and it wasn't even a school day.
My mom bought us a diaper bag today! It's a Ju Ju Be "Be Prepared". Looks like it'll be big enough for two babies' worth of stuff.
I love that it doesn't look like a diaper bag in this print. I'm really hoping mine has Adios (the grim reaper guy) somewhere highly visible. I'm really hoping I like the pattern placement on the one I get. I'm not a big fan of buying things sight unseen, but I'm sure it'll be fine.
I think I'll probably end up using it as luggage when the babies are too old to need a diaper bag.
My mom bought us a diaper bag today! It's a Ju Ju Be "Be Prepared". Looks like it'll be big enough for two babies' worth of stuff.
I love that it doesn't look like a diaper bag in this print. I'm really hoping mine has Adios (the grim reaper guy) somewhere highly visible. I'm really hoping I like the pattern placement on the one I get. I'm not a big fan of buying things sight unseen, but I'm sure it'll be fine.
I think I'll probably end up using it as luggage when the babies are too old to need a diaper bag.
I loooove it! I've been using the same diaper bag since my second, and will probably continue. It has held up really well so there's no point in buying a new one.
Has as anyone not announced to the general public yet?
Wife to A; Mama to C (2009), N (2011), H (2014) & baby F due 09/16/16
Hey all! Just caught up on 80 posts on this thread.. the rest of the threads can wait for a slow work day next week. Back from March madness in Rhode Island (it was a blast!!!) But mother in law, of course, passed me off multiple times and I slept like shit on an air mattress near a snoring baby. Husband works the weekend, Emmett and I are off to my niece/nephews party 3 hours away. Please let this go easily, I'm already exhausted.
@Themaritimemama Good to hear! I was hoping that it would be a good one.
The reviews looked good, but since it's my first time buying a diaper bag, I'm nervous about picking one that will suit our needs and hold up (especially since both DH and I tend to be rough on things). I liked that this one sounded much more durable than the more budget-friendly options we were originally looking at. I figure it's worth paying more for it up front if it's going to last (especially since I can use it for myself once the kiddos have outgrown a need for it).
@Themaritimemama I haven't announced, but I'm only 12+3. This is my second pregnancy that's made it this far and I'm having twins... So everyone that has seen me in person knows. My NT is Wednesday and I'll probably do something then, but really I would rather not tell for a while longer.
I'm 14+4, and I still have announcements to make. We're trying to do as many in person as we can and have our last big set this weekend. After that, we'll probably do something small on Facebook, more as a green-light for friends and family who already know to talk to us about it there than anything else.
I'm 14 on the nose today and have only told family and on one two friends. I'm waiting till I get my salary increase before I tell my work (just in case) which should be in the next two weeks so will go more public after that.
On another note, I am sad because I lost one of my favorite earrings, small diamond ones I got from my fiancé on my birthday in our first year together. I know it's just an earring but it makes me want to cry and I am already headed to my work to search the office floors.
I LOVE FOOD!!!!!! I just want to shout it from the rooftops. After months of barely being able to eat anything at all, much less actually enjoy it, I am SO HAPPY to be back to my normal, foodie self!
On an unrelated (or is it?) note, I officially retired my last pair of pre-pregnancy pants yesterday. The hairband trick was no longer gonna cut it. Siyonara, zippers and buttons!
Right there with ya sister- my buttons and zippers have been retired a few weeks now lol. They stay up and everything, but they are just not comfortable. I'm dying to get the warm weather so I can rock dresses already!!!
We are 12 weeks and haven't announced on Facebook. But we tell people when we see them. A lot of people know, but a lot don't. I'm starting to forget who already knows and who doesn't. I'm the same as @Jabreen with wanting to put something on Facebook just so people don't feel like they have to keep it a secret anymore. But we plan on telling my big extended family (who we are very close with)on Easter.
Married 6-1-13 Sebastian 3-11-14 Simon 5-2-15 Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
@Themaritimemama I'm 15w4d. Outside of my immediate family and my 2 best friends, we haven't told anyone. One, I'm kind of a spaz after my previous losses. Two, we haven't seen my husband's family and we wanted to tell them in person. We will be telling them next Saturday when we all get together for Easter.
As far as my extended family I think I'll wait until between 16-20 weeks. Once I tell all of them, we'll announce on FB. We also haven't told my daughters. I'm sure if my 4 year old knew, she'd be telling everyone. I'm sure I'm the exception here.
We've told family and friends. And people we see or work with. But we'll probably post something on FB on our son's birthday in a couple of weeks, just to catch the stragglers. Haha.
All my family, work, and close friends that I see/talk to regularly know. I'm not making an official FB announcement. Everyone will find out whenever/however.
We just told the rest of our family and friends this week (@15w). There are still people that don't know (aka most of my coworkers, distant family) but will find out eventually bc this bump is poppin!
Also, I gave up Facebook a few years back, the only way I'll join again is if September mommies open up a page. I will still remain "under the radar" though. It's hard being a teacher and maintaining privacy.
On another note, I am sad because I lost one of my favorite earrings, small diamond ones I got from my fiancé on my birthday in our first year together. I know it's just an earring but it makes me want to cry and I am already headed to my work to search the office floors.
DH got me a set of diamond earrings for our first wedding anniversary (when we really couldn't afford it so they were even more special to me). I lost one about 4 years ago and didn't notice until I was going to bed. I sobbed. Simply because of the sentiment behind them. A year later when we moved out of our house, I still checked everywhere even though I'm pretty sure I lost it at a store. I had screwbacks put on the ones I have now.
We have told immediate family and a few (very few) friends. Aside from that, we won't make any announcements. The news will inevitably spread to the rest of the family and if I see anyone else, they'll see my bump and know. We won't prevent pics from going up on social media but I doubt we'll post any pics until we're much, much farther along, if any (I'm very introverted and don't want to get calls from people).
Thanks @UnwritteN12 but it's not looking good. It's a horrible feeling when you realize that one is missing, I am sorry that you never found yours. I've checked the house, the car, my office (even left a message with our security desk and cleaning crew), places I parked my car yesterday and cannot find it anywhere
These ones are a unique design so not easily replaced and I am already debating going to the jeweler to see if they can make a replacement to match the one I still have. Probably not the best way to spend my money with a baby on the way but if I do, I'll call it an early birthday present to myself!
Also, I'm crazy hormonal and I cry at the top of a hat. I was joking to DH that I hate everyone which is obviously not true, everything jusy seems to get me on edge. DH and I had two fights this week and we rarely fight. Any tips to combat irritability? I've tried to tell myself that it's just the hormones whenever I pick a fight but, honestly, I can't stand myself lol.
pizza!! I have been wanting it so bad lately, and finally had some last night for dinner. Just had the leftovers for lunch... It was glorious.
As far as the irritability goes, I haven't been particularly bad with DH but I've completely lost all patience at work. I even had a dream last night about snapping at someone at work about something totally dumb. Sometimes even when I think I'm totally in the right, I have to remind myself of the hormones and literally talk to myself in my head, telling myself to just be quiet until the person goes away. It doesn't always work, but at least I try! I guess that wouldn't work as well with DH, but maybe just try to make sure you get some of your own time to decompress when it comes on the worst!
I hear ya @AlwaysAuntNeverMom ! I go through spells like this too. My only tip is to just keep quiet and take space when you need it. I find things go better if I don't speak until I've given myself time to really consider whether I want to. But sometimes I just can't help myself.
I didn't see a thread for this on our BMB already, so would anyone be interested in starting a Crafty Mom check-in? I'm really good at starting projects, but not as good at finishing them! Having a group of accountabili-buddies might help
I signed up for Amazon's subscribe and save for diaper and wipes today. We have Prime and will have two in diapers for a while, so it seemed worth it. It's already set up for us to get a couple of boxes of diapers for the baby before it's born. The idea of the diapers just showing up on my door step every month is really appealing to me right now.
On another note, I am sad because I lost one of my favorite earrings, small diamond ones I got from my fiancé on my birthday in our first year together. I know it's just an earring but it makes me want to cry and I am already headed to my work to search the office floors.
DH got me a set of diamond earrings for our first wedding anniversary (when we really couldn't afford it so they were even more special to me). I lost one about 4 years ago and didn't notice until I was going to bed. I sobbed. Simply because of the sentiment behind them. A year later when we moved out of our house, I still checked everywhere even though I'm pretty sure I lost it at a store. I had screwbacks put on the ones I have now.
Hope you find it asap!!!
This makes me sad for both of you. When DH and I were engaged, my mom loaned me her diamond stud earrings. I was going to wear them in my wedding, but she let me borrow them for several months. I'd put them in here and there, and I lost one before my wedding day. I never found it, and I think it happened in the shower. I felt so guilty for losing my mom's earring and was upset I couldn't wear them in my wedding (because they were my mom's, not any materalistic reason). And to top, I know it made my mom sad, too, that I wasn't wearing her earrings when I got married. She eventually got a replacement for the one I lost (which I offered to pay for, but she wouldn't allow), but I still feel bad about it, five years later.
My belly popped early this time and I've been in maternity clothes for a few weeks already... love them. Something about no buttons or zippers just sets me free! I'll admit after my first I kept wearing them until the pants would not stay up anymore. Love the secret fit!
@geminigirl16 I lost a diamond stud too recently. My parents are divorced and my mom had her ring reset into the studs. All the more sad that my father died last summer. My husband is going with a friend soon to help him get an engagement ring at the same store the ring was from. Hoping they can replicate the stud. Hope you find yours.
DS was born in June, so for the Mother's Day before, DH got me a pair of diamond earrings. I always just wore cubic zirconias (went through about 8 pairs of these) and he wanted to get something special for me. About a month after my son was born, I woke up delirious and put one of the earrings in the night stand because it must've been uncomfortable for me to lay on and was hurting my head. I didn't find it until about a month later and had to replace it temporarily with one of my cheapos in the meantime. He never found out and bc I didn't want to give him a heart attack. I might tell him a few years from now when we both can laugh at the zombieness of new parenthood. Hopefully I'll still have the earrings by that point
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DS1 -- 9/30/2016
So I gave my 6-year-old her vitamin while I went to dry my hair. When I was done, I told her it was time to do all her morning routine things (potty, wash hands, brush teeth, get dressed.) It took her ten damn minutes to use the bathroom ("I gotta pee. *takes forever to wipe. Flushes. Gets off the toilet. Walks to sink.* Oh, I have to poop now. *goes BACK to toilet. Sits down. Takes forever.*") When she finally got to the sink to brush her teeth, I looked at her and said, "What's in your mouth?" "Oh, that's my gummy vitamin."
Y'all, she squirreled that thing away in her cheek for TWENTY MINUTES. I don't yell, but I lost my cool and raised my voice which I try very hard not to do.
"I GAVE THAT TO YOU TWENTY MINUTES AGO," I barked at her. Her eyes immediately filled with tears and she started apologizing. I felt like such an asshole. I hugged her tight and told her I was sorry, but that it was just so frustrating to me that she would do that. She kept crying and I told her she wasn't in trouble, but that I was very frustrated. Then I told her I shouldn't have acted like that and said I was sorry again. She was over it relatively quickly but I've felt bad all morning. I've been so tired and crabby lately and I know I'm being harder on her than is fair.
Ugh. Motherhood, y'all.
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DS1 -- 9/30/2016
FORMER USERNAME: @runningisrad
If it makes you feel any better, I've been mommy monster today and it wasn't even a school day.
I love that it doesn't look like a diaper bag in this print. I'm really hoping mine has Adios (the grim reaper guy) somewhere highly visible. I'm really hoping I like the pattern placement on the one I get. I'm not a big fan of buying things sight unseen, but I'm sure it'll be fine.
I think I'll probably end up using it as luggage when the babies are too old to need a diaper bag.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Has as anyone not announced to the general public yet?
Husband works the weekend, Emmett and I are off to my niece/nephews party 3 hours away. Please let this go easily, I'm already exhausted.
The reviews looked good, but since it's my first time buying a diaper bag, I'm nervous about picking one that will suit our needs and hold up (especially since both DH and I tend to be rough on things). I liked that this one sounded much more durable than the more budget-friendly options we were originally looking at. I figure it's worth paying more for it up front if it's going to last (especially since I can use it for myself once the kiddos have outgrown a need for it).
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
On another note, I am sad because I lost one of my favorite earrings, small diamond ones I got from my fiancé on my birthday in our first year together. I know it's just an earring but it makes me want to cry and I am already headed to my work to search the office floors.
So jealous!!!
Sebastian 3-11-14
Simon 5-2-15
Baby #3 Due 9-29-16
As far as my extended family I think I'll wait until between 16-20 weeks. Once I tell all of them, we'll announce on FB. We also haven't told my daughters. I'm sure if my 4 year old knew, she'd be telling everyone. I'm sure I'm the exception here.
Also, I gave up Facebook a few years back, the only way I'll join again is if September mommies open up a page. I will still remain "under the radar" though. It's hard being a teacher and maintaining privacy.
Hope you find it asap!!!
These ones are a unique design so not easily replaced and I am already debating going to the jeweler to see if they can make a replacement to match the one I still have. Probably not the best way to spend my money with a baby on the way but if I do, I'll call it an early birthday present to myself!
Also, I'm crazy hormonal and I cry at the top of a hat. I was joking to DH that I hate everyone which is obviously not true, everything jusy seems to get me on edge. DH and I had two fights this week and we rarely fight. Any tips to combat irritability? I've tried to tell myself that it's just the hormones whenever I pick a fight but, honestly, I can't stand myself lol.
pizza!! I have been wanting it so bad lately, and finally had some last night for dinner. Just had the leftovers for lunch... It was glorious.
As far as the irritability goes, I haven't been particularly bad with DH but I've completely lost all patience at work. I even had a dream last night about snapping at someone at work about something totally dumb. Sometimes even when I think I'm totally in the right, I have to remind myself of the hormones and literally talk to myself in my head, telling myself to just be quiet until the person goes away. It doesn't always work, but at least I try! I guess that wouldn't work as well with DH, but maybe just try to make sure you get some of your own time to decompress when it comes on the worst!
I lost a diamond stud too recently. My parents are divorced and my mom had her ring reset into the studs. All the more sad that my father died last summer. My husband is going with a friend soon to help him get an engagement ring at the same store the ring was from. Hoping they can replicate the stud. Hope you find yours.