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Hello, let me introduce myself first..

For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Azoospermia questions Closed	GetwickMom April 2013	4	252	LittleLady77 April 2013
XP: WTF appt. etc... opinions appreciated (long, sorry) Closed	Sophistikitty April 2013	5	352	Sophistikitty April 2013
Blogs/Books about donor sperm Closed	Misserin1234 April 2013	5	250	firesiren April 2013
In my hot little hand.... Closed	palmtreemandy April 2013	4	398	happywifemomofone April 2013
Friday ready set Go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Closed	shewolf576 April 2013	5	255	indianasunshine April 2013
Easter Closed	shewolf576 March 2013	3	264	liz4paws April 2013
It's finally happening!! Closed	Km672 March 2013	11	595	ladyrader0227 April 2013
~~DE/DEmbryo/GC Check-in~~ Closed	JM1977 March 2013	7	361	kflynn81 March 2013
XP: It's over (m/c) Closed	liz4paws March 2013	21	803	udc22 March 2013
Fertilization Report Closed	indianasunshine February 2013	11	266	ForevAAROSE March 2013
Embryo Donation/adoption Closed	KezziRiv March 2013	7	946	shewolf576 March 2013
Liz4Paws YGPM ** NFT Closed	TwinMommyDoubleBlessings March 2013	1	186	liz4paws March 2013
TwinMommyDoubleBlessings Closed	DoublePortion March 2013	3	242	TwinMommyDoubleBlessings March 2013
Next steps post miscarriage Closed	liz4paws March 2013	16	870	ebdubbed March 2013
update - ectopic Closed	BabyVDM March 2013	15	774	MrsT4 March 2013
More obstacles! Closed	Strunella March 2013	7	398	MrsT4 March 2013
Paging Neener73 Closed	MrsT4 March 2013	2	162	MrsT4 March 2013
PUPO!!! Closed	firesiren March 2013	13	421	Km672 March 2013
M/C Update (long) Closed	2MamazInSeattle March 2013	11	738	ebdubbed March 2013
Type 1 diabetes, surrogate? Closed	GardenBryd March 2013	0	268	GardenBryd March 2013
~~XP: DOR/POF Check-in~~ Closed	ceemonkey March 2013	0	112	ceemonkey March 2013
~~DE/DEmbryo/GC Check-in~~ Closed	JM1977 March 2013	16	123	dreamalotmp March 2013
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Ceemonkey Closed	happywifemomofone March 2013	11	376	Lacyj67 March 2013
Surrogacy Questions Closed	hopeisnotdead March 2013	2	450	Unknown March 2013
1st u/s aaaaannnnndddd...... Closed	erink1981 March 2013	21	876	ela81 March 2013
Tough Times Closed	Km672 March 2013	4	386	IUIBaby March 2013
one or two?? Closed	shewolf576 March 2013	7	457	lynn0926 March 2013
Bittersweet Good News Closed	2MamazInSeattle March 2013	9	783	AmCheri March 2013
Intro: Same-sex couple, DOR, donor sperm, etc... Closed	Manada March 2013	9	520	AmCheri March 2013
Sorry no DE Check-in this week Closed	JM1977 March 2013	5	282	liz4paws March 2013
Any info on Surrogacy in NY? Closed	MammaBear81 March 2013	2	368	MammaBear81 March 2013
**firesiren** Closed	liz4paws March 2013	2	213	liz4paws March 2013
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Missing Cycle Question Closed	ufrower March 2013	3	179	indianasunshine March 2013
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