I started this thread in another BMB and it was entertaining and fun. This is the place to share, rant, talk about all the random annoying and/or inappropriate comments you get throughout pregnancy and how best to respond (politely) and what you wish you really had the guts to say to the person's face. It could be something coming from a well-intentioned family member, a doctor with poor bedside manner, or a total stranger who thinks it's appropriate to advise you on your condition... anything someone has said to you that makes your head spin, share it here!
Re: SAY WHAT!?!?!?
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
Last pregnancy for me it was mostly comments about how large I was. I already had a belly to begin with so of course by the time I was wearing maternity clothes around 20 weeks it really accented my belly and people started with "oh, due any day now? are you having twins?" etc and it only got worse over the next 20 weeks. Also it really annoyed me how everyone in the office just stared at my belly all the time even though I know I do the same to other pregnant people lol or when someone says "oh how are you?" with that little voice like they assume you aren't doing ok and aren't as capable because you're pregnant. Which again once I went through it I think I still did the same to other friends when they were pregnant so I know it's good intentions, but sometimes it still annoyed me.
I am short (5'1") and have a shorter torso/longer legs. With DD there was literally no where for her to grow but out, so I got a lot of comments about twins and being ready to go any day for the last 3+ weeks. Everyone thought I was going to have a huge baby too, even my doctor. While I was large (because of reasons above) and I did have GD, it was diet controlled and I gained a normal amount of weight (25-30 ish lbs). My baby was a completely normal size at 7lbs 2oz.
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Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
Speaking of unrealistic visions of pregnancy, I've been through it twice now so I know what to expect, but my first time around my mom gave me SO MANY unrealistic visions of pregnancy, newborn life, and toddlers. She "never got sick" during first trimester, apparently my brother and i slept through the night at 6 weeks old, and we never had full out tantrums between ages of 2.5 - 3.5.... well thanks a lot mom. I'm pretty sure she just blocked all of this out. There is no way we were these perfect babies that never caused her grief. i don't believe it for a second anymore.
But there was this one time, when I was working in a restaurant and my manager was pregnant. I was going through fertility treatments at the time so working with a pregnant person who constantly talked about her pregnancy was just awesome to begin with. Anyway, there was this customer who came in and joined one of my tables but put his chair so it was blocking the way to the washrooms. My manager went over and asked him to move. Shortly after I went over to take his drink order but before I could say anything he blurts out, “WHAT ARE YOU PREGNANT TOO?” 🙄 He thought he was pretty hilarious.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
I'm looking forward to having a total stranger attempt to touch me or give me advice once I'm noticeably pregnant. I don't plan on being very polite. 🤷
Edited for spelling
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
It's funny to me because with DD1 the first time a stranger commented on me being pregnant it was around 20 weeks and a girl randomly said "oh how far along are you?" pretty harmless I guess.
Friday's (17+2) was the first time a stranger commented on this pregnancy because she started with "Oh I didn't know you were expecting" because this is a local restaurant where I worked when I was 16 and she's been there ever since. She asked when I was due, and AFTER I TOLD HER MAY she responded with "oh I would've thought this month" like uh that would've been a nice place to just say "well congratulations!" and left it at that, but nope, she needed to get that off her chest.