May 2020 Moms

SAY WHAT!?!?!?

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  • @shamrocandroll I agree, only for me hoping this last baby is a boy. But with the new scares with this pregnancy, I am now hoping for a healthy baby to arrive, regardless. I also wonder if my 2 losses had been boys.
  • @m6agua I like the way you phrased it about changing your family vision. I always imagined a girl first and had to adjust my expectations when we found out we were having a boy. For MH it was easy to do because he was never even sure he would have kids but I had this immediate panic that I wouldn't know what to do with a son. Walking through the boys section at Target definitely helped  :D
    Me: 31 ~ DH: 34 
    FTM
    BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
  • @rachelg777 it goes back to that people don't know what they don't know.  My husband and I are SMA carriers, and while it is not sex linked, statistically twice as many boys are born with SMA than girls.  Knowing a child is at risk definitely made me care more about a healthy child than anything else, but also knowing that stat, did sway me and I was secretly hoping for a girl then in hopes that it meant a healthy baby.
  • @pourmeanothermocktail
    Exactly, I was so happy that we didn't get a ton of those terrible things or pink everything. My cousin who clearly stated before her daughter was born did not want anything pink and would not put her daughter in anything pink still got every little thing in pink, carseat, stroller, diaper bag, etc When I saw that I said I would not find out because I could not handle that much pink. Though I must say once she was born I got bored of all the gray clothes and went and bought a couple pink newborn dresses. 
  • @jhysmath it's one thing to get some pink clothing, but another to get a pink stroller or something bigger that you would like to use for any/all future children as well.
  • I love this topic of conversation and I agree whole heartedly. Question: How do you NOT let what family and friends say about their sex preferences they wish on us, get to your head? We are team green. I'm 100% happy with whatever genitals my baby has when its born. I just want a healthy delivery with a healthy baby in the end. I do not want the pressure of our family making me feel any less thrilled on the day of our babies birth because they have been so strongly pushing for one sex over the other. As if I'll feel I failed them on not giving them what they wanted? I know that sounds crazy. I just want everyone to be as excited about our new child regardless of the sex.
  • @pirateduck Awww!! That’s so sweet about your husband! It melts my heart to hear how excited he is about your baby girl!!
  • Also can I say I am already sick of all the “ohhhh you’re such a good #boymom and now you will always be” me being a good parent doesn’t have to do with my kids sex at all it’s about how I parent which would have been basically the same until puberty 
  • @pourmeanothermocktail Thanks for this! I'm usually pretty vocal with how I feel, and we didn't have this experience with our first, but it sure is annoying right now.
  • Also I had to add the hashtag because that is seriously what they have said to me...
  • @shamrocandroll same girl same, I tried to order DS1 the "Boys will be goo humans" shirt but it kept selling out in his size. But I don't think the fact that he has penis changes how I teach him right from wrong and empathy and how to be a decent person. I had to do the #boymom because so many people actually have said it to me, out loud and it is so annoying to me for some reason haha. Also I too know people who have raised multiple boys and are not assholes sooooooo your MIL can suck it haha. 
  • @mamaj1220 I hate the thought of weight loss after pregnancy on many levels, like can we focus on healing our bodies and feeding our babies first please. 
  • Thank you ladies for getting it! Don't get me wrong he is super supportive and as involved as he can be at this point but there is no we for the one in my ute right now it is all me, you did your part to get us here but now it is on me until he is outside of me. 

    @shamrocandroll I was really upset I couldn't find the GIF for that one  :D
  • heyybrittheyybritt member
    edited February 2020
    I had my first person ask me today if I was sure I'm not having twins because of how much I've popped. Pretty sure I would know at 27 weeks if I was having twins or not, but thanks for asking!
    Me: 31 ~ DH: 34 
    FTM
    BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
  • @pirateduck this topic always makes me think of the Friends episode where Monica and Chandler are adopting and the birth mom has surprise twins, lol.
  • So you are saying it’s because of the show Friends  :D  next time anyone gets asked if it’s twins the response should be to ask if the person is a Friends fan!
  • The bathroom on our floor of the courthouse has been being remodeled for.... months.. like since October? As I've gotten more pregnant, it's been increasingly annoying to have to go up two flights of stairs to go to the only other available bathroom in the building.
    The other day, the person in charge of the bathroom reno looked at me while I'm waiting for the elevator and had the audacity to tell me "the stairs would do you some good"
    I don't know how I didn't lose it.
  • @pirateduck what's worse is that I have been waiting until I get to a good stopping point in my work to go.... which my husband then had to remind me how that can aggravate a uterus... Her next comment after my "that's what I've been told" response was to say "it will help your labor go smoother". Lady. I have fast labors. The hospital is an hour and 15 from my house. I don't necessarily want it to "go smoother". This is my fourth delivery... I don't think it will be an issue.. and how much does walking and stairs actually help anyway??
  • @TattoosandLace my jaw just stopped at that comment. People are unbelievable!
    Me: 31 ~ DH: 34 
    FTM
    BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
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