@TattoosandLace Wow, I would have had a hard time NOT blowing up at both of them. Drink your Dr Pepper and use those stairs!! People suck.
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@TattoosandLace my husband sometimes gives me crap for drinking soda on occasion, but my one or less soda a week only has a quarter of the caffeine of a cup of coffee, and since I haven't been drinking coffee, he's been drinking an entire pot a day. I know perhaps coffee isn't that unhealthy in general, but somehow I feel like a whole pot a day can't be good for you either. Also the baby needs mama to be alert enough not to do something stupid like drive the car off the road because she can't keep her eyes open any more. That's where I'm at anyways.
@pirateduck exactly. You want me to be able to function and not mess up your property taxes. Makes me really feel for people who need medication throughout pregnancy (I was on medication early on and weaned off of it when I found out I was pregnant and will get back on after delivery). People just need to mind their own business about women's bodies. If you wouldn't say it to someone who wasn't pregnant ("stairs would do you some good" "you shouldn't drink/eat that perfectly normal item"), don't say it to a pregnant lady!
Maybe a "thanks, I'll talk about it with my doctor" is the appropriate response when people dish out advice... I dunno
That's nicer than me, but I suppose I've been listening longer and I'm not real nice.
I'm usually more the type saying "First two kids doing well, we're good." Or "I'll take care of myself" or "my baby, my body, my business" which is still a lot nicer than I want to be, at within not-starting-a-fight boundaries.
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@pourmeanothermocktail I think it depends your relationship with the other person, is it a random stranger, a family member, someone you have to work with every day whether you like it or not... hmm...
I’m really tired of the comments about how my whole life is going to change. Well no shit Sherlock, that’s what we were hoping for on the almost 7 year journey of infertility.
Also, because we are having twins everyone thinks it’s necessary to tell my husband that his hunting and fishing days are over. During hunting season we spend the weekends with my parents and MH goes hunting and I spend time with my parents, we are very close to our families, and there is no reason he won’t be able to hunt anymore. We also fish at a family cabin, so not only can he still go out, but we have family to help us if we both want to go out until they are old enough to join us.
@bender29 oh yeah, having kids doesn’t mean we can’t do the things we love, it means we may have to do them a bit differently sometimes, but it also means we get to share the things we love with our kids! I am beyond excited to teach my LO to ski even though it means hanging out on the bunny hill. Also FWIW having kids SHOULD change your life, that’s the goal isn’t it?!?
@bender29 I had DD opening hunting weekend. Everyone commented how it was bad planning, well after having a missed miscarriage you don’t really try to “plan” things. Anyways all that to say I’ve gone hunting every season since. We hunt in my moms‘ families land and have a party of about 13, my parents always come, but don’t hunt. DD loves it and has a lot of fun. My parents also fish (I do too, just not as much) and they are excited to take her out more as she gets older.
As far as the drinking soda goes, drinking a can of coke in the morning is literally the only thing keeping me pooping even somewhat on the regular. So if someone wants to give me a hard time about that, they can bite me
@bender29 I totally hear that, between the headaches and the pooping you will pry my daily coffee from my cold dead hands.
I had my first unsolicited touching of my belly by a stranger today (person doing my pedicure). Her first language wasn't English so I felt like coming down on her for that might have been obnoxious but boy is that a weird thing to do.
Other than financial issues, kids haven't stopped us from too much, and if we could afford more date night sitters or had parents closer, we'd have missed less. We took our oldest to a Renn Fair at 9 weeks old for the first time, and 14 months the second time.
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I'm trying to decide whether we can commit to a camping trip in July. If we were having just one, I would totally go. But two might be tough. And I'm not sure people would appreciate hearing two babies cry in the middle of the night. But I'm definitely not the type to stay home just because we have an infant. They're generally pretty easy to take along when they're not mobile.
@ruby696 we are currently committed to a week long reunion with some friends of mine from college in June and a wedding out of state in July so these babies are going to be travelers! (Of course those plans have asterisks depending on how the pregnancy progresses and whether the babies are close to full term and healthy.) But even so camping would intimidate me just from all the equipment to haul around and sleeping on the ground. Amazing!
@bender29 I drank a soda ever couple days to make sure I would 💩 with my last pregnancy. This time around I’m drinking it again, partially for 💩 and also because I like it.🤷🏼♀️
My kid has went everywhere with me since birth. My sister- completely different. My niece didn’t leave her house til after 1 year old. I couldn’t live that way and DH and I both like to do things. DS2 is going to have to come right along with us. We have been on vacations, to weddings, when DS was about 15 weeks he slept on my chest while I was having a root canal! They do normal every day things with me like grocery shopping but we also go do kid friendly things like museums and the zoo. Both my kids (SS and DS) go out to restaurants like champs, even fancy ones. He’s been to appointments at the bank and with us when we bought a new car (had to move the car seat for a test drive!) there’s no reason having a kids impairs your life. It might take a little more planning, you might have to bring more “things” but overall they get to experience life with you.
When we went to my big family Christmas party last year, I was the only one with a kid who only brought my kid. He was almost 4, he drinks out of any cup and eats with regular utensils. Kids there ranged in age from 6-6mos and sometimes I feel bad that I didn’t bring along his favorite little thermos full of chocolate milk but then again, I didn’t have to worry about forgetting it there either. Sorry not sorry for bringing my kid along.
Our girls have always gone with us everywhere. DD2’s first trip was at 9 days old to visit friends in Kansas at the hunt club. Honestly, because they are always with us, they are amazing travelers. It also makes it a little intense on having “me time”, but the memories we make traveling together is really something I wouldn’t trade.
As for hunting, DH definitely hunts less now that we have three kids and a fourth on the way than he did when we were dating/first married, but I know that when the kids are old enough, they’ll get to tag along with him. He’s already planning DD1’s first turkey season.
DS1’s first ever flight was a 16 hour flight from South Korea to the US at 12 weeks for a month long visit with family. We flew back and forth so many times during his first two years. Both of my kids have been on planes and traveled. They’ve been to Disney, Universal, on boat trips, we drove across the US once (3 day drive from GA to CO), etc.
They’re not even the best behaved kids. They’re both boys and 2 years apart. It’s a bit like traveling with pro wrestlers that have no self control. I’m more of a go with the flow and wing it type. I never traveled out of state until I was 18. I refuse to let my kids have the same experience.
So glad to read about everyone taking their littles places. I have fond memories of my parents taking me everywhere when I was little and plan to do the same with mine. We normally go on a big camping trip over 4th of July weekend with friends and family and I thought we should skip this year but you all are making me think we can still do it!
@heyybritt and @ruby696 I think it totally depends the kind of camping your do and if you can make this work. If it's close to home, it really doesn't hurt to try. Worst case, you pack up and leave and go home and sleep in your own beds. If there's any way to do a trial run before you are camping with a group of others it might help you figure things out a bit. I've been thinking about if/when I can camp myself, and I'm definitely thinking sometime this summer, but I'm not sure my husband will be on board with that. My husband already mentioned things like he'll take the baby so I can go hike/climb a mountain whereas my brain is thinking we'll find a way to bring the baby with us. It will be a learning curve for sure, but I can't wait!
@pirateduck We go every year with friends. It wouldn't be an issue if we were RV camping, but I don't know how much everyone else wants to hear babies waking up a couple times a night crying. Plus, it tends to cool off quite a bit at night, so that might be a problem in a tent. We'll see how well these babies sleep and then decide.
@ruby696 It might also be worth it to look into nearby places you could sleep with the babies overnight. That way you could participate it the trip, but also not cause too many issues in the sleeping part.
We have a 6 night/7 day trip to the Bahamas in October. It’s going to be insane, but at the same time, it’s a trip and we’ll have fun. I’m all for taking the trip of reasonable accommodations can be made. And it teaches your kids to go with the flow and adapt. The longer you take to introduce them to the outside world, the harder it is to adjust to it.
Last night we went to my sister's house for one of my nephew's birthday. The second I walk in the door my mother says "good lord, are you sure you're not having twins!?" And my granny responds with "I was just wondering if she had her dates wrong. Are you sure you don't have your dates wrong?" I really wanted to turn around and walk back out. Why people, why???
On the topic of taking baby places, we took DS on a car trip from Cali to Washington to go to a wedding when he was 7 weeks old (about 14 hours of driving time). It was fine. It definitely took us longer because we took more/longer breaks. And we've had a Disneyland trip with my siblings and their families planned for this June for over a year. As of right now, we're keeping our plans and if I'm feeling recovered enough and baby girl is doing fine, we're still going, if not, we'll postpone.
@ruby696 we are normally big campers (in a tent), but we’re not planning on it this summer. DD1 still has trouble sleeping in the tent when it gets cold at night, so trying to go with a 2-month-old seems like a recipe for disaster.
Overall though, I am definitely pro-getting out of the house with kids.
I’m beginning to think most pregnant women must not leave the house in the third trimester because it seems everyone is surprised by the size of an actual pregnant person. I went to get a haircut today and the girl checking me in goes “whoaaaa how many you got in there? Getting close? It’s a boy isn’t it? It’s not? Oh wow how much longer do you have?” It was so hard to not roll my eyes through the entire thing.
@ruby696 my reply function isn’t working but thanks 😂 the dentist said it was the first time he’d ever done that. I thought he would sleep the whole time and he wasn’t having it so I picked him up and he fell asleep. Made the whole process much more tolerable honestly lol
@bananapanda quote “I’m beginning to think most pregnant women must not leave the house in the third trimester because it seems everyone is surprised by the size of an actual pregnant person“ This is the best thing I’ve read/ experienced all day! I can’t stop laughing at it because it’s just so true!!!!
Today my mom said “I feel like this is taking forever!” Yeah and you’re not the one who’s pregnant. It simultaneously feels like forever and no time at all.
My previous pregnancy, when I hit 36 weeks my grandmother actually started making triplets comments, due to my size, and then started telling me I better in get induced right away because this baby was obviously going to be over 12 lbs. Sigh. Really???
I do try to hide during third trimester. Because public sucks, and germs suck, and people suck!!!
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@pourmeanothermocktail germs suck! I’m so paranoid of getting sick. I totally disregarded the notice that I was not allowed to park at work yesterday because there is no way I’m getting on a bus with 50 sick people to ride across town.
@pourmeanothermocktail and @pirateduck yes to avoiding germs. I’ve mentioned before I’m a nanny, and I’m starting to feel bad about how much we’ve stayed home lately. I know it’s good for them to learn to entertain themselves at home, but I usually try to get out with them at least 2 times a week. But right now with all the crud going around, and most recently hand foot and mouth, I’m keeping myself in a bubble.
Germs are no joke. My co-worker was just home with her toddler with RSV last week. Her LO had a 105 fever and oxygen down around 75. No one needs that kind of crud!
Also because I live in a tourist town and it was a holiday weekend there are tons of people here from all over the world who came through the airport bringing with them their germs from EVERYWHERE. And I’m irrationally paranoid of coronavirus, but really everything they bring in with them.
@pirateduck I hear you on the sharing of germs because of a holiday. Next week when we go to NY I know I'll catch something and bring it back to our little town, the kids who go on vacation will also bring it back a bunch of different illnesses too so I'm hating being at a school with little kids now. I just want to hibernate in our house and not catch any of this stuff.
I am so glad to see I'm not the only one paranoid about getting sick. I have never been this way before even with my other pregnancies. My poor children are like why aren't we going to the library, indoor park, etc... They are used to getting out and about daily.
I am one of those that is also slightly paranoid about germs and getting sick. I’ve had the stomach flu twice this pregnancy (mid-December when I was gone for a work training and then two weeks ago). The nurse’s daughter in me apparently is really good at cleaning and keeping sickness from spreading because I’m the only one that got it both times. Granted, the first time I quarantined myself in a hotel room and only came out for mandatory training.
DD1 is feeling slightly better today....no fever, just slightly elevated temp. If it holds this way past noon with no meds but tamiflu I’ll call her doctor and see if Thursday we can go back to school. She was so sweet and asked this morning if she could wear her mask from the doctor’s office “because I don’t want to get my sisters sick and the doctor said it helps me not share my germs.” bless her.
I have a feeling I’ll be sanitizing the playroom after bedtime tonight. 😅
I'm not generally a germ-o-phobe but pregnancy with kids young enough that when they just have snotty noses they don't sleep kills me. And every single time I've been in an airport while pregnant, I've gotten sick. Even if I wasn't flying. I picked up a child (unaccompanied minor) during my first pregnancy, and it was the last flight in of the day, airport was borderline empty, I didn't get on a plane, or stand in a line, the kid wasn't sick, and then I was for 3-4 weeks. With just a cold. Ick.
The number of people who tell me "it's just allergies" can shove a sock in it.
So my third trimester self hides a lot, especially in winter weather.
Which is nice, because the "you know you'll never sleep again" comments are so helpful.
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I'm with you on trying to avoid germs as much as possible with how bad everything is lately. DD has been saying "my ear is crusty" a few mornings last week. She has tubes and had an infection early last week which went away quickly with drops. I'm wondering if she just sees the drops and wants them since that seems to be when she is most often saying it, but also she has been picking at her ear just a little. I'm also thinking her tubes could be coming out and maybe she feels something? But she isn't complaining enough or showing any other signs that it's actually hurting her so I'm putting off a visit to the pediatrician just because I don't think either of us need to be around all the germs at a dr office unless absolutely necessary with how bad the flu is in our area lately. And even then maybe I can send DH to take her if needed
Re: SAY WHAT!?!?!?
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I'm usually more the type saying "First two kids doing well, we're good." Or "I'll take care of myself" or "my baby, my body, my business" which is still a lot nicer than I want to be, at within not-starting-a-fight boundaries.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
Also, because we are having twins everyone thinks it’s necessary to tell my husband that his hunting and fishing days are over. During hunting season we spend the weekends with my parents and MH goes hunting and I spend time with my parents, we are very close to our families, and there is no reason he won’t be able to hunt anymore. We also fish at a family cabin, so not only can he still go out, but we have family to help us if we both want to go out until they are old enough to join us.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I had my first unsolicited touching of my belly by a stranger today (person doing my pedicure). Her first language wasn't English so I felt like coming down on her for that might have been obnoxious but boy is that a weird thing to do.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019They’re not even the best behaved kids. They’re both boys and 2 years apart. It’s a bit like traveling with pro wrestlers that have no self control. I’m more of a go with the flow and wing it type. I never traveled out of state until I was 18. I refuse to let my kids have the same experience.
FTM
BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
On the topic of taking baby places, we took DS on a car trip from Cali to Washington to go to a wedding when he was 7 weeks old (about 14 hours of driving time). It was fine. It definitely took us longer because we took more/longer breaks. And we've had a Disneyland trip with my siblings and their families planned for this June for over a year. As of right now, we're keeping our plans and if I'm feeling recovered enough and baby girl is doing fine, we're still going, if not, we'll postpone.
Overall though, I am definitely pro-getting out of the house with kids.
I do try to hide during third trimester. Because public sucks, and germs suck, and people suck!!!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I hear you on the sharing of germs because of a holiday. Next week when we go to NY I know I'll catch something and bring it back to our little town, the kids who go on vacation will also bring it back a bunch of different illnesses too so I'm hating being at a school with little kids now. I just want to hibernate in our house and not catch any of this stuff.
bless her.
The number of people who tell me "it's just allergies" can shove a sock in it.
So my third trimester self hides a lot, especially in winter weather.
Which is nice, because the "you know you'll never sleep again" comments are so helpful.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green