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1:12PM
Re: Innappropriate Comments/Questions Thread
Bit of backstory, I met my partner about a year ago and our relationship moved rather quickly. I have polycystic ovaries and in June last year I was hospitalised with a haemorrhaging ovarian cyst. I’d also recently had a new Mirena put in and it was causing me all sorts of grief so my partner and I made the decision to remove it and stop all forms of hormonal birth control to give my body a break - I’ve been on some kind of birth control since I was 13 due to extremely heavy and irregular periods. I had been told previously that I had PCOS and we all know that this means it could be years before becoming pregnant, so we also made the decision to not prevent pregnancy and just to see what happened, thinking we’d have at least a year before falling pregnant but little did we know that it would only take one cycle!
Although our baby was somewhat planned I was super nervous about how people would respond to the fact we hadn’t been together very long. I was pleasantly surprised when telling people that not a single person brought up how quickly we’d moved. Not even my parents, who had previously told me how disappointed they’d be if I was pregnant before I got married. Every single person was absolutely exstatic and over the moon for the both of us. I hadn’t even thought about any of this until yesterday when I bumped into someone I used to work closely with who, due to changing roles at work, I hadn’t seen since May last year. It happened to be my last day on site so I told him I was going on maternity leave and his response was literally “geez you moved fast didn’t you!” followed by “was it planned?” and when I told him it was his face was gobsmacked and he said something along the lines of “well you definitely don’t mess around, do you! Made your mind up super quick!!” It literally took everything I had not to burst into tears at that moment and I just kind of mumbled and then said I had to go and walked away. I’m all for being honest but there was no need to even mention it.
I know this probably does not bother most people, but everyone is asking me if I am going to go back to work after the baby is born. Honestly I feel like it is a judgmental question (damned if I do, damned if I don’t) and no one’s business. No one has asked my husband if he is going to go back to work, so why are they asking me?
My plan has always been to be a working mom and utilize daycare, but if I change my mind and decide to stay home then I can do that too. I have worked incredibly hard in my career and was promoted this past year. I am on an upwards trajectory that will allow me to retire earlier than normal PLUS I telecommute and have an amazing amount of autonomy and people make me feel like I need to justify this to them. Realistically who can afford to stay home anyway? Gah…lol
TBH part of it is me being grumpy but basically anything in the office or any professional environment just feels inappropriate to me... the pregnancy hasn't impacted my work in any way and I'm here to work not to tell you about if I can still reach to shave my legs.
And for everyone's sake I wish co-workers would stop trying to touch my belly. I'm pregnant, not an animal in a petting zoo.
I had had a coworker ask me if I’d started getting on waiting lists for daycare...in the middle of the lunch room...while my manager was there. She basically put me on the spot to say that I would be coming back to work, and I honestly don’t know if I am. I fibbed and said oh yeah, I’ve been looking into what’s available and I know the waits can be long and just sort of left it at that, but it was SO awkward because everyone was waiting for me to confirm what my plans are...which is none of their business right now!!
My maternity leave is for a year and I'm taking full advantage of that by moving back to be closer to my family & we might even move overseas for a few months to spend some time with my fiance's family. Nearly every single person I say this to, even the people I work with who know our maternity leave policy are like "oh so you've quit work?" No - my work just has an amazing maternity leave policy so why should I confine myself to a town I have no support system in if I have no reason to? The common response after that is "you won't be back though" which I've just had to start ignoring.
Unfortunately my lab coat isn't buttoning all the way down anymore, which used to discourage most comments and people trying to touch it. So that's happening now too. I can't wait for leave.
The 'was it planned?' question comes all too often. I don't mind this one too much I guess- but still none of anyone's business.
The one I hate at the moment is anyone commenting on the size of my stomach. It can even be a 'compliment' and I feel judged. "Oh you've gotten so big!' 'You've really popped now!' or from the older generation 'You're looking well!' (with the glance down the nose at your stomach) 'Baby must be huge!' 'When are you due again, a few weeks?'
Pretty sure they mean well, but at the same time it always makes me cringe and I have to change the subject.
“You’re carrying it well”, “you’re so small”, “you’re so large”, “from behind I can’t even tell you’re pregnant” << I mean seriously what the hell does that one mean, like no shit the baby bump is in the front... 😤
I think the most frustrating was the insinuation by my manager that I would not do as good of a job as I get further along... he said something like “just do me a favor and keep this performance up till you leave” like dude, seriously, I’ve worked my tail off all year to get the best performance review possible so I’d get a great new job coming back (we rotate roles every couple years). Just because I’m pregnant doesn’t mean I would let that stop. 😑
I had a very sweet old lady tell me today that I shouldn't be wearing heels because the weight of my stomach will pull me over and I'll crush the baby. Lovely!
Another was my boss on my second job (bar maid) asking if I was still pregnant because if I miss carry he won't need to replace me and train a new staffy. I went home after that shift and cried for a few hours.
This is my first and after trying for 6 years I honestly thought people would be happy for me but all Iv had is insensitive rude and hurtful comments when Iv told people out of excitement. Now I just keep it to myself and family. Trying to stay positive