So remember that thread/topic we had a while ago about hearing and answering to "what do you do" instead of the actual question "when are you due"?? Yeah, I've made that blunder at least twice in the past week, maybe 3 times.
@chopchop25 it always surprises me how ignorant people can be about their own bodies. Its frightening
This.
Here’s a story that will make you shake your head. My now-17 year old sister got pregnant when she was 16. She hadn’t had a lot of sex ed at all (she tuned my mom out whenever she tried to explain it to her) so when she got pregnant she was trying to figure out when she would have gotten pregnant so she could figure out whose baby it was (since there were two possibilities). I explained to her how her cycle works, as did her OB when she saw him for her first appointment. Once she was able to figure out when she most likely got pregnant, she was able to figure out the father, so she told him. Well, he told his mother (who is an OB nurse) who proceeded to tell my sister that her son couldn’t possibly be the father, because she was only 6 weeks pregnant, not 8 weeks pregnant (even though the ultrasound confirmed she was 8 weeks pregnant so that particular guy was indeed the father) and then informed my sister that she and her OB had no clue what they were talking about. Y’all, she was completely serious. She even drew a diagram to try to prove that my sister was wrong. And this woman is an OB nurse.
I will say this, while I knew before I started trying to get pregnant that there was a window where the chances of doing so were significantly higher, I honestly never knew how short that window is or where it occurred in my cycle.
That said, even I knew that getting your period normally means that you aren’t pregnant.
I'm not gonna lie I know basics about my cycle and ovulation and such but I've never tracked it hard core, I had recently gotten the flo app for the purpose of tracking to know when to expect my period but didnt pay attention to when I ovulated. It just happened to be shit luck that when DH came home from being gone for so long I was ovulating and we got pregnant.. I really didnt expect it to happen that fast but here we are and were happy about it. I know I'm definitely lucky it was so easy.
I’m a hot mess. Now I’m crying because I just remembered Curtis asked me if I would make some kind of fish tonight and I don’t WANT fish! Who cries over something like that?! Not like I have to eat any of it. I’m so over this day.
I got bears when they did their $5 bear day. I was able to just buy the bears and come back another day to get them stuffed. I got them to ask my siblings and SS to stand in our wedding. Even that day was crazy, I was not surprised about today. You're definitely brave @purplegoldfish2!
I found it funny that I recognized a name in that post because they lurk here on occasion and share their wisdom.
DH and I and his friend are going to see Kevin Hart in Mass tomorrow night! I'm really hoping it's a good show and worth it because we have our birthing class Saturday morning..
Double posting in the randoms thread lol Decided tonight's gonna be a self spa night so I'm coconut oil making my hair, charcoal face peel on, gonna shave everything and exfoliate everything, and lotion everything and put fresh sheets on my bed and lay in it naked!!! Pretty excited honestly
I forgot how God awfully long it takes to wash coconut oil out of ones hair so I skipped the shave because I got tired in the shower but I am moisturized!! Lol
@jynjer91@DunkinDecaf I really really hope it's good! We love his netflix specials so I have hope!! Including picking up DHs friend on the way it's going to be about a four hour trip one way. In gonna guess/hope we'll be home by 1am then our birthing class at 9am.. I'm gonna be dead tired and probably nonexistent here until later sunday!
I attempted to tell my mom tonight that I knew about some of the surprises coming up to get her out of the middle of some of the planning and drama...including surprise houseguests because what six month pregnant woman doesn’t want surprise people she has to host?! Wtf. She blew up and told me how I ruin everything (not surprises just everything in general) and that she’s more upset the surprise is ruined than concerned over the stress extra houseguests would cause me. And that she’s not sorry that people didn’t walk through this from my perspective, but how would they do that anyway (never mind you’ve known me for 32 years and I seriously love planning and hate surprises.) And then kitchensinked more into my negative qualities and how this isn’t about me, with some eye rolls thrown in for good measure. So I have told everyone not to come, which would presumably cancel the shower. Cue massive hyperventilating cry fest and feeling like I pretty much screw everything up. Thanks fammmm.
@chopchop25 I'm sorry she freaked out at you!! It's not fair to expect you to host people without telling you they're coming. And it's not your fault that you found out about the surprise. You didn't ruin anything and if she can't even handle a simple conversation I can't imagine how shes handling throwing a surprise party?? Also if it isnt about you then why is it a big deal that you know?? But who else would this be for?! Keep your head up momma
@chopchop25 Who would ever think someone would want/be ok with surprise houseguests?? I hate house guests even when I know they are coming...so sorry you had to deal with that. I hope she comes to her senses and apologizes to you!
@chopchop25 ugh that sounds like no fun. Surprises are the worst. I'm with you on needing to plan. What if your plan was to sit in your house naked that weekend?! Sorry your mom wasn't understanding. Hopefully you can sort it out.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@chopchop25 inviting guests to your house is out of line, irrespective of your pregnancy. I hope she apologizes, but if she’s like my mom, she won’t! Sorry you are dealing with it.
@chopchop25 I’m sorry your mom is acting like that. She is in the wrong - who invites people to be somebody else’s houseguest? If she wanted to do it, she should be putting them in a hotel instead of offering for you to host without even telling you. Also, generally a surprise party is about the person being surprised, so yes, it is all about you (even though it doesn’t sound like you were trying to make it about you, you were actually trying to make it easier for her). Hopefully she gets over her tantrum soon.
I wish I knew about charting a decade ago. It was so nice knowing exactly when my period was going to start. I always had a paper calendar and put a question mark 28 days out from my last period so I'd know it was around then, but with charting I knew the exact day I could plan. I want to give my daughter TCOYF for like her 18th birthday but it's also kind of telling her there is a small window you can get pregnant and the rest is a free for all.
@chopchop25 I hate invited house guests I can't imagine it being a fun "surprise" That's BS
BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
I was lurkering the August birth announcements (as it showed up as the latest discussion on the birth month home page and was curious how many had given birth already). It appears that the August group moved to Facebook back in April! They were only half way through their pregnancies!
I know we have had some discussions around moving and it seems we are pretty undecided on the move. Should we revive the discussion and maybe do a poll on who wants to move and when? I wouldn't want to loose all the topics of discussion if more than half the people didn't move to FB. It seems like some of the poor women from the August group had to endure it so early and miss out on valuable conversations leading up to the birth. Maybe we don't move until the babies are born?
I'm still unclear on how the Facebook group forum is any better and what it looks like compared to this. I'm not really in any active FB groups other than local community pages for selling and events. I am so used to this format and don't really see a problem with it, other than the annoying app not working half the time.
Thoughts?
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@estellegetty yep both accepted it, but he has no interest in being involved. He’s never even met her. His mom came to visit my sister in the hospital after delivery but she’s BSC so my mom put a stop to that real quick.
@chyvie I'd be bummed of you guys decided to move now. Obviously I'm new and am just getting started trying to keep up with things and getting to know people. I definitely haven't been here long enough to make a jump to a facebook group I get it you all don't know me from anyone. I will say my last BMB made the jump, but if I remember correctly it was the month before our birth month or maybe even in our birth month. We had a mix of people posting their birth stories on the bump and also on FB. Then TB fell out and our old board is now completely dead.
BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
@chopchop25 I am so sorry your mom is acting like that. Its so incredibly childish. I hope she gets over herself soon
@bntfroggie it wouldnt really be a free for all though since your fertile window is 5 days before O, and with temping you don't know you have O'd until post-O, meaning you never know when you are in your fertile window. Even with OPKs they only give you a 48-72 hour window, so you still have to be careful. Plus, and this is JMO, at 18, if she wants to have sex, shes gonna anyway, so might as well help her make good/better decisions
@chyvie I was actually just thinking about the move to FB the other day thinking about how close October is
@chyvie - I think a poll would be great. We should maybe think about the options before we put it out there though; I know several regular posters don’t use Facebook. (I’m one- I have an account, but haven’t been an active in over 3yrs).
@chyvie I'm not on FB so I wouldn't be moving to a FB group. I check this board mostly every day (unless I'm on vacation or something) and so a move this soon would really bum me out, but I understand majority rules.
- I’m following the group to Facebook whenever! - I’m following the group to Facebook but would like to wait until October Babies are born! (Nov 14 for official move date.) - I am not planning to follow the group and will be seriously bummed to see you all go!
@chyvie I was part of the Aug '17 BMB and we moved to facebook in August. I'm in a few FB secret groups. Only the group members can find the group and see posts. The FB app is 10000x better than TBs. It makes posting for MOTN checks and daily updates easier.
I think the only issue with a poll is anyone can vote on it. We might have some randoms come in and skew the results.
Re: Randoms 7/5
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12731381/removed#latest
Here’s a story that will make you shake your head. My now-17 year old sister got pregnant when she was 16. She hadn’t had a lot of sex ed at all (she tuned my mom out whenever she tried to explain it to her) so when she got pregnant she was trying to figure out when she would have gotten pregnant so she could figure out whose baby it was (since there were two possibilities). I explained to her how her cycle works, as did her OB when she saw him for her first appointment. Once she was able to figure out when she most likely got pregnant, she was able to figure out the father, so she told him. Well, he told his mother (who is an OB nurse) who proceeded to tell my sister that her son couldn’t possibly be the father, because she was only 6 weeks pregnant, not 8 weeks pregnant (even though the ultrasound confirmed she was 8 weeks pregnant so that particular guy was indeed the father) and then informed my sister that she and her OB had no clue what they were talking about. Y’all, she was completely serious. She even drew a diagram to try to prove that my sister was wrong. And this woman is an OB nurse.
That said, even I knew that getting your period normally means that you aren’t pregnant.
@jemmerjams I did that at a 4th of July party and the person had to ask me again, so there was no guessing on my part if I maybe heard wrong.
I found it funny that I recognized a name in that post because they lurk here on occasion and share their wisdom.
Decided tonight's gonna be a self spa night so I'm coconut oil making my hair, charcoal face peel on, gonna shave everything and exfoliate everything, and lotion everything and put fresh sheets on my bed and lay in it naked!!! Pretty excited honestly
She blew up and told me how I ruin everything (not surprises just everything in general) and that she’s more upset the surprise is ruined than concerned over the stress extra houseguests would cause me. And that she’s not sorry that people didn’t walk through this from my perspective, but how would they do that anyway (never mind you’ve known me for 32 years and I seriously love planning and hate surprises.) And then kitchensinked more into my negative qualities and how this isn’t about me, with some eye rolls thrown in for good measure. So I have told everyone not to come, which would presumably cancel the shower.
Cue massive hyperventilating cry fest and feeling like I pretty much screw everything up. Thanks fammmm.
Also if it isnt about you then why is it a big deal that you know?? But who else would this be for?!
Keep your head up momma
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
I know we have had some discussions around moving and it seems we are pretty undecided on the move. Should we revive the discussion and maybe do a poll on who wants to move and when? I wouldn't want to loose all the topics of discussion if more than half the people didn't move to FB. It seems like some of the poor women from the August group had to endure it so early and miss out on valuable conversations leading up to the birth. Maybe we don't move until the babies are born?
I'm still unclear on how the Facebook group forum is any better and what it looks like compared to this. I'm not really in any active FB groups other than local community pages for selling and events. I am so used to this format and don't really see a problem with it, other than the annoying app not working half the time.
Thoughts?
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
@bntfroggie it wouldnt really be a free for all though since your fertile window is 5 days before O, and with temping you don't know you have O'd until post-O, meaning you never know when you are in your fertile window. Even with OPKs they only give you a 48-72 hour window, so you still have to be careful. Plus, and this is JMO, at 18, if she wants to have sex, shes gonna anyway, so might as well help her make good/better decisions
@chyvie I was actually just thinking about the move to FB the other day thinking about how close October is
- I’m following the group to Facebook whenever!
- I’m following the group to Facebook but would like to wait until October Babies are born! (Nov 14 for official move date.)
- I am not planning to follow the group and will be seriously bummed to see you all go!
I think the only issue with a poll is anyone can vote on it. We might have some randoms come in and skew the results.