@sammierose464 I know people joke that NTNP is the same at TTC....but they aren't. If you are having sex once a week, you could easily be missing your fertile window, and if you are having sex even less, then you are even less likely to become pregnant. When I was on the TTC board someone came on who had sex on average once a month or so, and was claiming infertility because they hadn't gotten KU in 1 year. NOPE. Not the same as tracking your cervical mucus, taking your BBT every day and timing sex while using all the other things to promote conception like preseed and Vit D and CoQ10.
Totally random (I guess that's the point) - but with my boss's new office setup and I can see his screen reflecting off of his whiteboard. Glad to know he's shopping on our internal company store website while I'm Bumping. No guilt here!
Tonight I'm making a totally random hodgepodge of crap for dinner. I'm trying to use up milk and eggs and also a bunch of boxed food our neighbor randomly gave us. So we're having pancakes, mac n cheese, egg salad, and maybe a box of au gratin potatoes. Oh and a watermelon that is way past due to be eaten.
I have no guilt about it.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
@kiwi2628 completely agree! We actively tried for 8 freaking years (tracking everything imaginable, fertility testing, lifestyle and diet changes, literally anything anyone said could possibly help) went through so many losses at different gestations and we're even told they didn't believe it was medically possible. (Even with IVF, they believed we had 1% chance of conceiving or carrying to viability. Especially with only 1 tube and ovary.) Jokes on them, we're on kid number 2. We may need some help staying pregnant until after 12 weeks, but no intervention other wise. Hearing someone whine about not getting KU/infertility when they aren't actually putting any work into ttc is infuriating to those that do. It's not the same.
One of the things that makes me particularly ragey about the drive-bys on the TTGP board-
/ Possible Trigger for people who have been there, done that.
When I started TTC, I read all the things I could read, including a number of posts on the TTGP board. However, I never got active on that board because I didn’t belong there. I hadn’t dealt with those challenges, and it would have rude of me try to get involved when I had no experience of the stress and loss the women on that board have suffered.
It didn’t take much reading to figure it out. Anyone with half a brain should be able to figure that out. It is like walking into a support group for war veterans and saying “hey! I just enlisted!”
It is like walking into a support group for war veterans and saying “hey! I just enlisted!”
I really like that analogy, and while I tried to be sensitive while over there, didn't think of it on that level. I was not there for long (and am very grateful for it), but the amount I learned from the TTGP women and the amount of respect I have for them and their strength is not lost on me.
@knottieamusements see, lurking is key. And we had plenty of people that came on to TTGP who were on their first or second month of TTC, but they lurked and read the room first and they were welcomed to participate and chat and all that (see: @chopchop25). Anyone TTC can belong there. A lot of people though...phew. We had a few peaches come on there and they got BLASTED. One person said it was just as painful to see a BFN on the second month as it was any other time- they got creamed. I'm trying to remember some other gems, although quite a few were deleted entirely by BGs. As heartbreaking as it was to be on TTGP month after month after month, it does teach you so much empathy for strangers....it was actually beautiful. I have a hardcore group of friends from TTGP that still chat daily- all in various stages of take-home babies to pregnant after IF to still going through IF treatments.
I’m more private about poop than DH is. We’re all pretty open about pee and farts. DH has stomach issues and will often describe what’s going on in more detail than I really want to hear!
I'm glad to know that my thoughts reflect those who have experienced it. I always get nervous when posting about infertility because I did not experience it and do not want to upset anyone. (Also I know how little DH and his ex had sex...no wonder it took you 3 years lady....).
I was terrified to start TTGP. With DHs reversal and my PCOS, we didn't know what we were getting in to. We had his surgery done 10 months before we knew we were even going to try, hoping it would increase our chances of success when we did, instead of going through frustrations each month. At 4 months post surgery we were told it was successful, but his count was low. It was 10 months of wondering what would happen but not being able to try. I feel that suspense is nothing like what those with infertility have experienced. And I will never compare my 4 months of actually trying to what someone struggling as gone through. I was also actively on metformin and inositol to better my chances.
I overdid it with the hodgepodge dinner. Too much standing, too much cooking on and in the stove, no A/C on, and wasn't drinking water. Made myself sick *facepalm*
It is, however, delicious and this is the most I've eaten at one time since I've been pregnant so I'm happy.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
@sammierose464 I just spent a few days cleaning out our garden. I had to take very frequent breaks and drink a lot of water, but I managed it.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
Does fresh strawberry shortcake count as dinner? I’m making grilled chicken and baked potatoes too for DH but all I want is this strawberry shortcake with lots of whipped cream!
So, I decided to be super comfortable and wear leggings and a long tunic today. My room was dark though so I couldn’t see the tag, and pulled them on backwards.
I briefly wondered when I had bought leggings that come up over my bump and then I realized, yes, my ass really is that big.
So my mom dropped the bombshell on me last night that twins DO run in her family. I had no idea, because I don't know any twins in that side of the family. But apparently my grandma's dad was a twin(? can't remember what she said) and *TW* my cousin got pregnant with twins, but ended up losing one or both, my mom couldn't remember *end TW*. I think those genetics run through the maternal line, correct? Now I'm wondering what's going to happen when we try for kiddo #2!!
As much as I dislike road construction, if the county doesn't do something with our main little highway out here, there's going to be more potholes than road soon.
@jemmerjams it depends on if they’re fraternal or identical twins. Fraternal twins do run through the maternal family (genetic quirk that causes mom to release two eggs). Identicals are a spontaneous thing and every pregnancy has the same potential for resulting in identical twins (really low odds). Two sets of twins in 4 generations isn’t that sugggstive of fraternal twins - I had a patient once whose mom had two sets of twins, the patient was one, and she and her twin were both pregnant with their own twins...
I'm blaming you ladies for the fact that I'm going to look at Explorers today.
It will be so weird to drive an SUV after driving my Focus ST for 3.5 years, which is a manual turbo. Before that I had a Focus and a 96 Taurus (aka small).
@sammierose464 DH and I just had a discussion this week that we have to get a Honda Pilot before October. We already planned on getting the pilot sometime at the end of this year or beginning of 2019 but now plans have moved up a few months.
@jynjer91 just got back from the store and we’re having strawberry shortcake today. NOM.
@sammierose464 you should check out the Chevy traverse too. A lot like the explorer, but more trunk space. We’re vascillating between the two right now.
After being stressed all day yesterday about finances and childcare issues, DH and I had a great talk last night that really calmed me down a lot. He’s always been much more laid back than me, but he convinced me that we’ll be fine taking a hit to our savings while I take the full time off, because as he put it, “me taking 18 weeks off to spend with our new baby is much more important than being able to take a vacation or spend money on other things.”
With the childcare issues, we talked through a lot of the questions and scenarios we need to work through once the nanny will have to take care of 4 kids, and he’s been thinking about it all too. We’re going to have a conversation with my SIL and BIL sooner rather than later about how things will need to change with a new baby, so hopefully we can figure it all out and make it work.
@britvahok I just bought the new Honda pilot a few weeks ago and I love it! I drove an accord before that, and a Civic before that, so I'm a Honda loyalist. The pilot drives very similar to my accord!
I was a Honda person (by osmosis through H) for the longest time and every car I've bought myself up until the last one was a Honda... the last one was a CR-V. I hated that car. I'm so happy it was leased and not owned. We traded it in for a Mazda Cx5 a little over a year ago and I am MUCH happier!
Honda fan here too. I had an Accord before my Civic SI which I love!! I think it would work with a baby because it’s a 4 door but DH wants to trade for an AWD. It would be nice and probably safer for winter but I will have a heck of a time adjusting if whatever we end up with doesn’t have a manual transmission. That’s all I’ve driven for the last 5 years and I had several panic attacks when I drove my sister’s car because I couldn’t find the clutch! I’m sure I’d get used to it again but I love driving a manual. ETA: any of you ladies have an AWD with a manual transmission that works great with kids?
I'm on the taller side (5'8") so there was no way in hell I was going to bend over to reach in the back of my car for the kiddo. Plus, I had a coupe. So I was reallllly not going to do that. Best decision ever to get the pilot now, because it's easier to get into. Plus for the model I got, the seat retracts back when you open the door so that's going to be amazing when I'm bigger!
I randomly started spotting today...frustrating. nurse said relax and try to stay down/not lift as much as possible, but with no other big symptoms, they think it's just random.
And actually fraternal twins can run on both sides. But from the father's side, the females before him could have expressed that gene and passed it to him as a carrier. He would be a carrier only (no increase of twins his self) of the twin gene and it would only be expressed if he had a female child. That's how our family is. Both sides fraternal, dad's a carrier. We were carrying twins awhile back. All the generations before and after my dad have at least carried fraternal twins. (***TW*** Some of us didn't carry to term, or only carried 1 set to term )
@jomama1618 that’s what I meant by through the maternal line You can get the gene from either of your parents, but your hubby/partner’s genes won’t impact you having twins (but maybe your daughter having them).
@jynjer91 it's going to be really weird not driving a manual anymore. I already went to go push in the clutch when I had to break hard on the expressway.
These twin stats are freaking me out!! Everyone in my family likes to joke that I'm having twins because I'm so big apparently, on my mom's side her uncle's are identicle twins and on my dad's side his aunt's are identicle, his aunt and uncle are fraternal, and his great grandmother on his mom's side was a twin (idk if it was fraternal or identical) so I guess there's a chance!! I haven't had an u/s yet but I feel like if my Dr felt I was that much bigger she'd have sent for one by now so I think I'm over Thinking it..
Re: Randoms 5/11
Tonight I'm making a totally random hodgepodge of crap for dinner. I'm trying to use up milk and eggs and also a bunch of boxed food our neighbor randomly gave us. So we're having pancakes, mac n cheese, egg salad, and maybe a box of au gratin potatoes. Oh and a watermelon that is way past due to be eaten.
I have no guilt about it.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
/ Possible Trigger for people who have been there, done that.
When I started TTC, I read all the things I could read, including a number of posts on the TTGP board. However, I never got active on that board because I didn’t belong there. I hadn’t dealt with those challenges, and it would have rude of me try to get involved when I had no experience of the stress and loss the women on that board have suffered.
It didn’t take much reading to figure it out. Anyone with half a brain should be able to figure that out. It is like walking into a support group for war veterans and saying “hey! I just enlisted!”
I was terrified to start TTGP. With DHs reversal and my PCOS, we didn't know what we were getting in to. We had his surgery done 10 months before we knew we were even going to try, hoping it would increase our chances of success when we did, instead of going through frustrations each month. At 4 months post surgery we were told it was successful, but his count was low. It was 10 months of wondering what would happen but not being able to try. I feel that suspense is nothing like what those with infertility have experienced. And I will never compare my 4 months of actually trying to what someone struggling as gone through. I was also actively on metformin and inositol to better my chances.
It is, however, delicious and this is the most I've eaten at one time since I've been pregnant so I'm happy.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
I'm worried I'm about to do that with the weeding I need to do...
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
I need to wash dishes, but that's not happening.
I briefly wondered when I had bought leggings that come up over my bump and then I realized, yes, my ass really is that big.
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
It will be so weird to drive an SUV after driving my Focus ST for 3.5 years, which is a manual turbo. Before that I had a Focus and a 96 Taurus (aka small).
@sammierose464 you should check out the Chevy traverse too. A lot like the explorer, but more trunk space. We’re vascillating between the two right now.
time off, because as he put it, “me taking 18 weeks off to spend with our new baby is much more important than being able to take a vacation or spend money on other things.”
With the childcare issues, we talked through a lot of the questions and scenarios we need to work through once the nanny will have to take care of 4 kids, and he’s been thinking about it all too. We’re going to have a conversation with my SIL and BIL sooner rather than later about how things will need to change with a new baby, so hopefully we can figure it all out and make it work.
@britvahok I just bought the new Honda pilot a few weeks ago and I love it! I drove an accord before that, and a Civic before that, so I'm a Honda loyalist. The pilot drives very similar to my accord!
ETA: any of you ladies have an AWD with a manual transmission that works great with kids?
And actually fraternal twins can run on both sides. But from the father's side, the females before him could have expressed that gene and passed it to him as a carrier. He would be a carrier only (no increase of twins his self) of the twin gene and it would only be expressed if he had a female child. That's how our family is. Both sides fraternal, dad's a carrier. We were carrying twins awhile back. All the generations before and after my dad have at least carried fraternal twins. (***TW*** Some of us didn't carry to term, or only carried 1 set to term