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  • beenabeebeenabee member
    Just deep cleaned my car which was the last thing on my to do list before baby so now I have about 6 weeks of just waiting for him to make his arrival ughhhh... I'm gonna be bored out of my mind 
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  • Stephanie7693Stephanie7693 member
    Couldn't fall asleep last night until after 330. Slept on the couch and woke up sore. Thankfully my son let me sleep until 10, so I should be able to function until my husband gets home from working a half day. I'm so over being pregnant this week I could cry. I just want to sleep. I think I'm going to have a whiney 4th this year
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  • Edsilva14Edsilva14 member
    Spending the 4th of July at home, adding more things to buy on the baby registry, reading, and lying on my left side. I feel constantly exhausted at 33 wks. Happy 4th all! 
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  • Stephanie7693Stephanie7693 member
    Oohh everyone in my house is cranky. I'm tired and cranky, so is my 6 year old, my 10 year old came home from her grandparents with an attitude, and my husband came home from work cranky! What a fun day. NOT. Don't know how I'm going to survive the next 3 hours waiting for fireworks! I'm ready to send us all to bed now
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  • jacmkelleyjacmkelley member
    @Lynnlove28 I have been panicking about having two little ones as well. DD will be 3 in October but I am still starting to panic and feel like omg what am I thinking. But it'll be fine once he is here, I'm just freaking out a little.
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  • pelorunningmamapelorunningmama member
    Should we start a bitchfest thread? I've got lots stored up from this weekend! 

    @lynnlove28 I feel that way too. I especially feel that way when everything is going exactly right with DD and our routine is set. Things almost feel easy sometimes and then I realize that will be tossed out the window here in a few weeks. 
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  • emmeline714emmeline714 member
    @Car0liiine @Lynnlove28 @kristynmaci almost started getting snarky because its super annoying!!!! My hormones do not help at this time either but then i feel like i am going to look like a douche because people might come at me for being mean, so i just stop myself from going there. 

    I am so exhausted baby girl was moving so much on sunday night because her cousins decided sleep with me in bed since DH is not home and they snuggle and its cute but baby girl was not having it she kept kicking me all night, so sleep was not great until 7am-10:30am think she was tired by then and when i woke up felt like i had the best sleep of my life :) even though it was just a few hours and was running around all day yesterday that when i got home it did not take long for me to fall asleep which i did have good sleep but still feel tired and my body just hurts everywhere today, was not looking forward to coming to work at all.
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  • charmedlifex3charmedlifex3 member
    edited July 2016

    So I have a NBR question. My husband is starting a new job with good money but crappy hours... we'll basically see each other in the morning before I leave, if he gets up in the middle of his opportunity to sleep or in the middle of the night if I do the same, weekends, and that is it. I figured household deep cleaning chores are just one thing we don't need to worry about on weekends so we can spend some time as a family, especially it's pretty reasonable to hire someone to come in in our area. (less than $100 /mo for bi weekly / 3 hours each)

    My husband thinks someone should be home the entire time the cleaner is in our house "to keep an eye on them"

    I think that's weird. I grew up with weekly housekeepers, and they always came when everyone was away -

    We're pretty split on this. I found someone who seems like she'll work out, she is the daughter in law of our neighbors, and came recommended by some of my clients. And we paid for Care.com, and she has been verified through them - she can come at 2:30 on any weekday, and my husband will leave for work at 3:30 - she'll likely finish up before I get home at 6. I think that is totally fine, my husband is having kittens over leaving a stranger in our home.

    WWYD?

    First world problems for sure...





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  • pelorunningmamapelorunningmama member
    @allisun85 We have a maid that comes weekly and completely trust her in our home alone. Heck, I would leave DD with her if she ever offered! I think you just build up trust with a person and you will get to know her. Since you know her in-laws, I would be fine with it. Maybe try and be home the first couple times she comes if you can. For us it is definitely worth paying the money to outsource the cleaning because we both work full-time and wanted to not have to worry about it when we actually had time as a family. I actually feel weird being their when our maid comes because I feel like I'm in her way and then I start feeling guilty!
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  • Mfuller76Mfuller76 member
    @Allisun85 Our house cleaner comes while we're at work. She also cleaned DH's parents and brother/SIL's house before we hired her, so she came recommended and we trust her. I think it's actually easier for her when we aren't there... On the few occasions that she's come while I'm home, I just feel like I'm in her way and throwing off her routine. 

    If she comes recommended and verified, I think it's totally fine to have her be there by herself! What is your husband worried about? Stealing? Privacy? Doing a good job?
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  • nanner26nanner26 member
    edited July 2016
    @allisun85 I personally feel fine leaving our cleaning lady in the house by herself. But, my MIL has made comments before about her being alone. But like you, I also grew up with someone coming once or twice a month to clean my parents house, so it is normal for me too.

    Is he worried about her stealing something? Honestly, I feel this is her job and she does it daily for a living. I don't leave money laying around or have any expensive jewelry, etc. The worst she could do is take a MacBook or something which would be very obvious. My cleaning lady comes at different times so I couldn't imagine trying to be home every time and then sit around while she cleans around me. 

    I don't know if it would be possible, but if you are able to "drop in" on her the first few times she cleans maybe that would help him feel better? Maybe after he meets her it will put his mind at ease.  
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  • kcolly32kcolly32 member
    edited July 2016
    I had my follow up ultrasound to check my cervix length. Two weeks ago it was down to 2cm, that weekend I was admitted for contractions and had dilated to 2cm as well. I got two steroid shots to help DD incase she comes early and placed on modified bedrest with progesterone suppositories. I felt confident that it hadn't change and that things were going well, but today they said my cervix is now down to 1.3-1.6cm. I see the dr tm so I'll find out what the plan is but I'm really hoping I won't be on strict bedrest. Ugh
    Expecting baby #1 August 2016 
    Already have three furbabies- Blake, Sydney, and Chester 


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  • charmedlifex3charmedlifex3 member
    edited July 2016

    Thanks everyone, he was making me feel like *I* was the one being weird letting a stranger in our house alone. I even figured we would compromise and not give her a key right away (since he would be home to let her in, just have her lock the door behind her) and have her come when he is there for the first hour, at least at first. He was still kinda twitched out about it... I totally agree, it is much better IMO to just get out of the way and let the clean house magic happen.

    And she won't use anything we don't provide, which since my husband is allergic to anything antibiotic is huge. Honestly, I washed my hands, then held his and he broke out in a rash - I felt terrible!

    @mfuller76 I don't know what his twitch about it is, but I was like "Maybe this is not a thing?" (Apparently - totally a thing. Hmph)

    @LWC1112 on her care.com profile she does offer occasional babysitting and pet sitting as needed... so once we establish more of a relationship,  we'll have someone we know and trust in the area for those times my parents aren't around.




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  • charmedlifex3charmedlifex3 member
    @kcolly32 Hang in there! Bed rest is tough, so I hope you are able to avoid it, but it sounds like you are doing everything right.



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  • Curls919Curls919 member
    @Allisun85 - our cleaning ladies come every other week while we're out. They came today while I was home and I went to run errands because I didn't want to be in their way. 

    @kcolly32 - how far along are you?  My doctors said that since I'm past 32 weeks they aren't even monitoring my cervical length anymore (I also had the steroid shots and am on progesterone suppositories). 
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  • SkiChic626SkiChic626 member
    @Lynnlove28 I'm totally with you on the toddler thing.  DD just turned 2 a couple weeks ago, and we decided that 4th of July weekend would be a good time to potty train her.  She actually is doing awesome aside from night time, which we're not even going to talk about for a while, but chasing her all weekend was soooo exhausting.  DH and I joke all the time about if we're ready for another one and "what were we thinking" lol....we're joking, but at the same time kinda serious.  I know it'll be fine once he's here, but having so much time to contemplate what a day-in-the-life might look like has got me all kinds of twisted in my undies!

    Allisun85 Our cleaning lady is the best money I spend every month.  There's nothing like Thursday evenings when I walk into a clean house - it's the best!  I actually don't like being home when she's there, I feel like I'm in her way.  As long as you trust the person, there's no reason anyone needs to be there.  If something is missing, you're going to know who took it!  I was home the first time my lady cleaned for us, but after that it was always during work hours.  We pay $75/week, it really should be more now since she cleans a lot more rooms than she did when we first hired her, and it's beyond worth the money because of the time it saves us.  Who wants to be cleaning when you can be spending time with family (or sleeping).
    DD  <3 6/15/2014
    Baby #2 due 8/11/2016

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  • Stephanie7693Stephanie7693 member
    Oops, I might have been a snowflake yesterday with my post. But I agree with @SkiChic626... it can be hard to sift through the huge threads, like randoms, especially on my phone. The only discussions that bother me are super specific ones, if that makes sense. I'm still learning all this stuff though
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  • kcolly32kcolly32 member
    @Curls919 I'm 33w2d today, and this all started at 30w. There's not much they can do about the length bedsides the progesterone and rest, I think this was just to follow up to see if it's still changing. They're wanting me to make it to 36w and Since I did go into PTL last weekend that caused me to dilate too theyre just trying to get me there. Like I said at this point im just dreading hearing the words strict bedrest. Atleast on modified bedrest I can still go and do light duty at work. I'm a very active person and I'd hate to start using my saved time off before she's even here.
    Expecting baby #1 August 2016 
    Already have three furbabies- Blake, Sydney, and Chester 


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  • emmeline714emmeline714 member
    @Allisun85 i think the first couple of times would be fine to be there in case she does not know where things are at based on personal experience but later on i don't think your husband would want to be there because if she vacuums that will take from his chilax mode before work and get cranky because i sure don't like noise while i relax before work but that is just me and my opinion.

    @Knottie44929339 i am not a SAHM but i have been exhausted to the point that i have not cleaned for like a month but my mom helps me out because she went through same thing while pregnant with me and she says all she wanted to do was sleep and she did. I also been having a lot of BH and pelvic cramping not fun at all, i almost cried sunday night and my nephew tells me auntie its ok maybe my cousin wants to come out already because i do too and i told him NO we have one more month until she makes her arrival, and he just smiles and rubs my belly. but this month will feel like the forever of pregnancy :neutral:

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  • cal031686cal031686 member
    I wish I could afford to hire a house cleaner. I love the feeling of a nice clean house but I have had no energy or motivation to clean the way I want it to be. I've been picking up and doing the bare minimum, which keeps my home just BARELY presentable. My non pregnant self would be ashamed of my house. Lol 
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  • BookhousegirlBookhousegirl member
    @Allisun85 add me to the list that leaves when the cleaning lady comes. I would hate to be there, actually, because then I would have to watch someone tackle my messes  :#

    @Mfuller76 how did your move go?! Ours is Thursday and we are just trying to get everything in boxes at this point. Of course, DH decided that he had to paint the crib while its disassembled for the move, and now that's taking up quite a bit of our precious little time! 



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  • charmedlifex3charmedlifex3 member

    @cal031686 We couldn't afford it either until he got this job, but between me bouncing off and on bedrest in one form or another, and his wonky new hours (and awesome new pay check!) totally worth making it happen.

    My house is an embarrassment at the moment. I've been letting my DH do the "cleaning" - husband clean and wife clean are honestly very different definitions in my house, lol. The cobwebs in the corners are driving me nutty, but I started contracting when I tried to use the vacuum wand on the ceiling, and DH freaked out when he came in the room and I was up on the couch, vacuum in hand, bent double... so I have been banned.  DH just doesn't see them, so unless I specifically ask "Can you get that cobweb right there" it gets overlooked.




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  • cal031686cal031686 member
    @Allisun85, I totally agree with husband clean vs my clean. I think they are blind!! He always says he'll help and do things but then there are messes and thing that need cleaned that are right in front of his face that he misses!! It's so annoying when you have to babysit or redo their cleaning. 
    My latest ultimatum this morning, I told hubby he can either clean the condensation marks off the bathroom ceiling or his pregnant wife will be climbing a ladder to do it herself!! He claims he will do it when he gets up today. We shall see! Lol 
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  • Curls919Curls919 member
    kcolly32 said:
    @Curls919 I'm 33w2d today, and this all started at 30w. There's not much they can do about the length bedsides the progesterone and rest, I think this was just to follow up to see if it's still changing. They're wanting me to make it to 36w and Since I did go into PTL last weekend that caused me to dilate too theyre just trying to get me there. Like I said at this point im just dreading hearing the words strict bedrest. Atleast on modified bedrest I can still go and do light duty at work. I'm a very active person and I'd hate to start using my saved time off before she's even here.
    Ah, you're 2 days behind me. Yeah the preterm labor definitely would make me think I'd be put on strict bedrest. I hope they don't take you out of work though unless your boss will somehow let you do something from home (I have no idea what you do so this may not even be possible) or give you some extra time off. 
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  • lotsofsunshinelotsofsunshine member
    Although we ended up having a really great 4th of July, I am so glad it's over. I can't handle the family drama holidays always seem create.(We have a few special snow flakes in our family.) I'm over trying to include everyone and keep everyone happy. That crap is exhausting. 

    On another note... I finally got the little one's room somewhat put together. I wasn't sure if that would ever happen. 
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  • jacmkelleyjacmkelley member
    I'd love a house keeper to come in every now and then. I clean, DH and DD make messes. Constantly. I'd love to spend a Sunday taking pictures of everything I come accross. This is the first time we've owned a home. There is a lawn to be mowed, a pool to tend to, a patio to keep clean. I know DH is busy with those things but a little less messiness in the house on his part would help. He refuses to put anything away. I'm constantly behind him and DD picking up the mess they leave behind. 
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  • SkiChic626SkiChic626 member
    @caitlinj187 said:
    Well since we seem to be on the subject of house cleaning, my random is that yesterday I cleaned out my fridge (like removed all food, shelves, drawers and washed every inch) and it makes me so relieved  to have it done. I also like getting rid of all the "iffy" condiment type food so if anyone comes over to help cook once LO comes I don't end up with anything expired in my food. 

    My second random is that my entire company is on forced PTO this week (shut down week as a manufacturer), but I work from home so I decided to keep working to save my PTO for after delivery... But with no one to answer to I expect to have a pretty easy week. Woohoo! 
    I just put "clean refrigerator" on my nesting list this weekend!  haha

    And how do they "force" PTO??  If the office is closed I would think that's a holiday, not PTO.  Seems unfair!
    DD  <3 6/15/2014
    Baby #2 due 8/11/2016

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  • Car0liiineCar0liiine member
    @SkiChic626 My workplace did the same thing. If the office was closed, they took your pto, even for holidays. And they didn't give you any pto at the beginning of the year or anything. Their logic was that even if your doctor's office is closed, the hospitals are never closed so if you don't want to use your pto, you are supposed to call one of the hospitals and they will put you to work filing or something random for the day. Used to make me so mad. Our office would frequently stay open even though we didn't have any doctors in the office. So you just sit there all day to answer the phone and tell people to go to the ER or make an appointment another day.
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