November 2015 Moms

Things my MIL says

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  • My MIL made an off the wall comment the other day about how she's going to sing to our DS every night so we'll have to call her just to get him to go to sleep when he's older. We don't live with her, I don't know where she gets the idea that she's going to be there every single day/night. It is her first grandchild that's not going to live with her/at her house for the first year of their life, so I don't know if she's just not grasping that we don't and won't be living there or what. I feel for her, it's going to be rough. 
  • Ladies and gentlemen (are there men here?) we have a winner!! Today MIL told DH that when he was a baby and she couldn't get him to stop crying, she would smother him with kisses till he stopped crying. "But you don't do that, because you're a man and if he likes it, you will make him gay."

    :-??
    My mom said something to that effect after my SO said something about changing in the bedroom when baby was in there.
  • at my mother in laws this weekend and she said:

    "Wow, you are getting pretty enormous. And you've lost your butt completely."

    Thanks. That just makes me feel so great. Ha!
  • My MIL is throwing me a shower in a couple weeks. She keeps asking what I'd like, but then does what she wants instead (which is very tacky, in my opinion). I am grateful that's she's throwing me a shower, but why ask if you don't care??

    I feel like a brat posting this...but I would never ask anyone what they'd like and then do the opposite.
  • Venting! Im so over my MIL. Can we just go back to the times you didn't talk to me and stayed the hell away from me? She's been bitching since last night because after the baby shower with her family I didn't want to open the card/cash envelopes. She demands to know how much people gave me even thought its none of her G-DAMN BUSINESS!!
  • Venting! Im so over my MIL. Can we just go back to the times you didn't talk to me and stayed the hell away from me? She's been bitching since last night because after the baby shower with her family I didn't want to open the card/cash envelopes. She demands to know how much people gave me even thought its none of her G-DAMN BUSINESS!!

    Ugh! My MIL does this too. Whenever my DH or his brother get a card from someone, she hovers over their shoulder to see how much they got from that person. She's even gone as far as to compare how much that person gave to how much she gave to their child for a similar event. It drives me absolutely insane!
  • My MIL is sweet it's my SIL that is crazy.  Their family did a shower for us this weekend and she thought it would be cute to hang up a shirt from the college that my husband and I both hate.  And then she got mad when my husband took it down.  Kind of childish behavior for a 43 year old.  Why would you put something up at your brother's shower that you know he hates?  It was a very awkward moment to say the least.  And then she has said several times that she hopes the doctor is wrong and that it's really a girl.  Really?!?  First of all what's wrong with a boy?!?  Second of all I really don't want to return all this boy stuff and totally redo a nursery.  I told her Friday night yeah well that would kind of be a nightmare.  Do you want us to have to return all these clothes?  Thankfully she lives 3.5 hours away and can't drive down here by herself for some reason so I only have to see her maybe twice a year.  
  • My MIL is sweet it's my SIL that is crazy.  Their family did a shower for us this weekend and she thought it would be cute to hang up a shirt from the college that my husband and I both hate.  And then she got mad when my husband took it down.  Kind of childish behavior for a 43 year old.  Why would you put something up at your brother's shower that you know he hates?  It was a very awkward moment to say the least.  And then she has said several times that she hopes the doctor is wrong and that it's really a girl.  Really?!?  First of all what's wrong with a boy?!?  Second of all I really don't want to return all this boy stuff and totally redo a nursery.  I told her Friday night yeah well that would kind of be a nightmare.  Do you want us to have to return all these clothes?  Thankfully she lives 3.5 hours away and can't drive down here by herself for some reason so I only have to see her maybe twice a year.  

    Lucky you! My MIL lives 3 houses down from us. DH and her don't really talk so she stayed away till now, but with baby on the way she seems to want to be buddy buddies all of a sudden. I hope she doesn't start inviting herself over all the time. I feel bad for not liking her but she's a very unlikable person.
  • My MIL came over to see our finished nursery a few days ago. She said, "Oh there's room to put a bed in here for me. I can rock her to sleep every night." I couldn't tell if she was kidding, or not... She looked so serious. Although I'm getting so nervous (FTM) that I'm starting to think it may not be such a bad idea.
  • These stories make me glad that my MIL and I get along pretty well.. She has her moments but nothing like this...
  • "I saw this video once on the YouTube"
    Lol... THE YouTube.



    =)) that's a good one lol
  • @rubirubi89 - WTF is happening with that cake?
    Me: 28, DH: 40
    Married 9/28/13
    DS born 11/12/15
    EDD 8/13/18
  • @rubirubi89 - WTF is happening with that cake?
    Oh my, that cake pic, need the story behind that!
  • My MIL is not bad at all considering she lives in a different state. My own mother however is a different story. She use to refer to my baby as her baby and even asked me if it was ok if he could call her mom when he was able to talk. Um hell no! I've put my foot down several times. She also makes it sound like my kids names are impossible to pronounce and that I should have given them Hispanic names and thinks that my boys names are too "black" (my H is black I'm Hispanic. my oldest son is Kaiden Nehemiah and my unborn baby is Kaleb Lamar. Pretty easy names in my eyes). Ugh it's annoying!!
  • ashes0601 said:

    Anyone else purposely not cleaning up/organizing their spare bedroom conveniently for delivery of their newborn?? I've got too much chatter about sleeping over - room is officially hoarded intentionally (yes it will be worth it)

    We turned our spare room into the nursery. SO excited about no more overnight guests!! My MIL is so needy, picky about everything. It's like she can't handle being anywhere but her own home, where everything is done her way.
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  • My MIL is sweet it's my SIL that is crazy.  Their family did a shower for us this weekend and she thought it would be cute to hang up a shirt from the college that my husband and I both hate.  And then she got mad when my husband took it down.  Kind of childish behavior for a 43 year old.  Why would you put something up at your brother's shower that you know he hates?  It was a very awkward moment to say the least.  And then she has said several times that she hopes the doctor is wrong and that it's really a girl.  Really?!?  First of all what's wrong with a boy?!?  Second of all I really don't want to return all this boy stuff and totally redo a nursery.  I told her Friday night yeah well that would kind of be a nightmare.  Do you want us to have to return all these clothes?  Thankfully she lives 3.5 hours away and can't drive down here by herself for some reason so I only have to see her maybe twice a year.  

    Lucky you! My MIL lives 3 houses down from us. DH and her don't really talk so she stayed away till now, but with baby on the way she seems to want to be buddy buddies all of a sudden. I hope she doesn't start inviting herself over all the time. I feel bad for not liking her but she's a very unlikable person.
    Mine is the closest house to ours (a mile away but on the same land) and every day I'm thankful it's her rather than my own mom!
  • Oi. My in laws were here this weekend for DH's birthday. First of all, his mom and sisters family stay with us and literally take up every room in the house. Then while MIL is okay most of the time - she makes snide comments when we do things some way that she doesn't (for example, DH turned the bears game on during lunch yesterday because it's his birthday and he wanted to watch the game but goodness knows TV and food don't mix for her). My SIL's kids are in the "destroy everything" phase so I kept having to take my LO's toys away because while I'm not overly worried about the toys breaking, I'd like my kid to at least have had a chance to play with them first (and be the one to break them)

    DH and I alternate which family we see for Thanksgiving and Christmas - this year my family is Thanksgiving and my mom has thrown out doing it at our house so we don't have to leave with LO, but she would do all the cooking and make herself useful around the house. So I was okay with that (looking forward to it even). But now, DH's family is talking about coming down ALSO so they can see the baby (and be those guests that don't help while SIL's kids scream and run amuck while I'm trying to care for a maybe 2-week-old).

    At this point a large part of me doesn't even want them to meet my LO till at least Christmas so that he's at least a month old before the terror happens.
  • My MIL is sweet and kind. How does she still manage to get in my nerves?! After our shower she called to chat and in the course of the conversation she mentioned that she had ordered my husband a gift because "he didn't get anything at the shower." Um...pretty sure EVERYTHING we got was for all three of us! Using her logic, I didn't get anything either! So silly.
    Gripe #2 today: My husband calls her nearly every day and on any day that he doesn't she calls him. She has even left him a voicemail asking him to call her because she's lonely. SO annoying because my mom (who is my very best friend btw) refuses to interfere in our lives in any way and waits for me to call her. Which is about every other day at most.
    Be honest...are these gripes me being prego overly sensitive or are they legit? I really don't know.
  • Falchas said:



    @rubirubi89 - WTF is happening with that cake?

    Oh my, that cake pic, need the story behind that!
    That'll be the cake from the baby shower MIL threw for me. She had "her own baby shower" because my first was apparently not to her liking. Too modern she said. It was just a whale themed shower. (See pic). She wanted a "baby" themed shower with a baby on the cake but when she found out how much it was for the one she saw on TV she nearly died and went and bought a ceramic baby and sat him on top of a $20 cake! Problem solved right? Except the fat ceramic baby was too heavy and fell face first on the cake. Not to mention it was a USED piece she bought at a garage somewhere and didn't bother dusting it before putting it on the cake. Oh and she also almost cried when they gave her the total for food because apparently she thought she could feed 30+ people a 3 course meal for $200. She was WAY off.

    **************
    She put a dusty old doll ON TOP of the cake she was serving to guests..?! In real life?!
    Yes, yes she did. And it was funny as hell. Thankfully someone else brought a home made cake as a gift and we ate that one instead. I will tell this story to my grandchildren when I'm old.


    I just can't.. My goodness..
    I'm shaking my head laughing.
    You're a good woman @rubirubi89.
    A good, patient woman. Lol.
  • That was totally worth the story!  Love the whale shower, btw.  The pic is adorable.
  • Falchas said:



    @rubirubi89 - WTF is happening with that cake?

    Oh my, that cake pic, need the story behind that!
    That'll be the cake from the baby shower MIL threw for me. She had "her own baby shower" because my first was apparently not to her liking. Too modern she said. It was just a whale themed shower. (See pic). She wanted a "baby" themed shower with a baby on the cake but when she found out how much it was for the one she saw on TV she nearly died and went and bought a ceramic baby and sat him on top of a $20 cake! Problem solved right? Except the fat ceramic baby was too heavy and fell face first on the cake. Not to mention it was a USED piece she bought at a garage somewhere and didn't bother dusting it before putting it on the cake. Oh and she also almost cried when they gave her the total for food because apparently she thought she could feed 30+ people a 3 course meal for $200. She was WAY off.

    **************
    She put a dusty old doll ON TOP of the cake she was serving to guests..?! In real life?!
    Yes, yes she did. And it was funny as hell. Thankfully someone else brought a home made cake as a gift and we ate that one instead. I will tell this story to my grandchildren when I'm old.


    Gross! :(
  • @rachswi with it being your house, can't you just say no?? I wouldn't want all those people in my house after just having a baby....
  • My MIL refuses ro call baby by the name we chose because its my mother's name but with MIL name as her middle name so she calls her mary jane which is so annoying I keep telling her thats not the baby's name and she just doesn't care....




    Now my mother told me the other day that i shouldn't have cut my hair because my baby will come out with the same cut
  • brooke785 said:
    @rachswi with it being your house, can't you just say no?? I wouldn't want all those people in my house after just having a baby....
    I can't really... DH may be able to, but my in-laws barely listen to DH, let alone me. My family is fine - the only child is my 8 month old nephew who doesn't cause problems anyway... but DH's nieces and nephews are 11, 4, 3, and 2... and the 2 and 3 year old are the worst behaved kids ever (and their mom, DH's sister, expects us to host them since they can't afford a hotel so then they always destroy our house)... They live 3+ hours away, so its not like we'll be able to have a short "here's the baby isn't he cute, ok go home now" event - it'll likely be at least a 2 day event when they meet our LO.
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