Things my MIL says

SamanthaAshley820

So I saw this on a few other boards, and thought it was a good/fun idea.

Mine will give me backhanded compliments like "you and your creative nonsense" (when speaking of doing a gender reveal and having a back up plan in case if my out of state mom can't make it)
Some days I could slap her.

Gapeach83

Mine just loves to give name suggestions. I stopped responding because they get bad sometimes. With DD2 she was obsessed with Bella Bleu. 2 nights ago it was Blakely. Yeah No. We haven't even tried to find a girls name yet until we know the sex. Even though we are set on a boys name she will still suggest.

oliarnmom1517

How's my baby doing?


Well I know how MY baby is doing.. But your grandchild is doing good so far that I know of

hacharles

oorl11052015 said:

How's my baby doing? Well I know how MY baby is doing.. But your grandchild is doing good so far that I know of

Yep...this. I have a great MIL but this bothers me to no end.

ash413

My MIL is on Crack on a good day... app shit crazy some days.

When we got married she asked my H how my parents were paying for half the wedding because she "knows" my dad doesn't make that much (mind you my dad makes more than my MIL and FIL combined and have no debt, my IL are drowning in debt).

She has continued to tell us we are having a girl despot the fact we told her over a month ago baby is a boy. My H finally nicely asked her to stop call our future son a girl, she got mad and told him he was rude and out of line.

My H has been super busy at work, working a ton of OT, and now his mother does not feel he is spending enough time with her. She called and said her computer was not working right. When he tried to help troubleshoot it over the phone she finally got frustrated, said nothing was wrong with the computer, she just thought he would come over if she said it wasn't working. Ignore the fact he was wrapping up a 70 hr work week, and I literally had not seen him in over a week.

Gah!

oliarnmom1517

hacharles said:

oorl11052015 said:

How's my baby doing?


Well I know how MY baby is doing.. But your grandchild is doing good so far that I know of

Yep...this. I have a great MIL but this bothers me to no end.



I love my MIL I really do.. This is the only thing she does that bugs me to no end.. But when we are shopping she has been calling the baby gummy bear like we do but then every now and then she will say "how's my baby doing" and I usually just say good so far that I know of and then my husband talks to her later.. I don't think she really thinks about when she says it..

hacharles

oorl11052015 said:

oorl11052015 said:

How's my baby doing? Well I know how MY baby is doing.. But your grandchild is doing good so far that I know of

Yep...this. I have a great MIL but this bothers me to no end.

I love my MIL I really do.. This is the only thing she does that bugs me to no end.. But when we are shopping she has been calling the baby gummy bear like we do but then every now and then she will say "how's my baby doing" and I usually just say good so far that I know of and then my husband talks to her later.. I don't think she really thinks about when she says it..

Ditto. They are just excited but sheesh.

Favoritemandms

My MIL is one of the sweetest women alive. But somehow she still manages to drive me completely insane. Some of my favorites:

1. It's too bad I won't have an opportunity to try for a 2nd child after this one because I'm too old and SHE'S not comfortable with it. (PS: I'm 34)

2. She calls her daughter's unborn baby Izzy because that's what everyone called her late mother. We don't even know if it's going to be a boy or girl.

mnunga

My mother in law asked me if I was sure that I was having a boy because I looked so wide. Thaaanks!

mamavbs

My MIL said "how's my baby doing" and I told her he's fine but he kept me up snoring all night and keeps leaving the seat up...

Yes your baby is my DH... Not the new baby growing inside me that I put there. Remember that please.

Also, gotta love the back handed comments/nasty remarks but said sweetly. "Oh you so suit a rounded face."

magnolia0212

Oh man, most of the comments make me want to give my MIL a big ole hug when I drop DD off with her in the am. My own mother on the other hand is a different story. Lol

kristenm88

I may be one of the only people who is not bothered by my mom saying "how's my baby doing?" She did it with my other children but never acted like it was her baby. My biggest issue is my MIl giving me "advice" on raising my kids. 1. She has been an alcoholic her whole life 2. She didn't even raise her own kids. My husband spent his time between friends and other family members houses which was was better for him. He knows she is an unfit mother and does not take any advice from her on anything.

She also has been giving name suggestions that we have already told her no too but yet she insists we name our son. Ughhhh she just frustrates me to no end.

oliarnmom1517

kristenm88 said:

I may be one of the only people who is not bothered by my mom saying "how's my baby doing?" She did it with my other children but never acted like it was her baby. My biggest issue is my MIl giving me "advice" on raising my kids. 1. She has been an alcoholic her whole life 2. She didn't even raise her own kids. My husband spent his time between friends and other family members houses which was was better for him. He knows she is an unfit mother and does not take any advice from her on anything.

She also has been giving name suggestions that we have already told her no too but yet she insists we name our son. Ughhhh she just frustrates me to no end.

My MIL hates both names we picked out and then won't give us any suggestions .. Gotta love em right?

ahowell88

My MIL keeps saying how she "hopes she finally gets her girl." She has two sons and DH and I have two boys also. She has also stated that she "doesn't know what she will do if she 'ends up' with another boy". Seriously?! Maybe I'm just overly sensitive but I genuinely don't care about the sex either way and I'm the MOTHER! Also, if having two grandsons is so terrible (our kids are the only grandchildren. DH's brother and wife are not having children), why are you constantly saying you don't see them enough, etc? SO annoying.

kristenm88

@oorl11052015 dH and I already have 1st an middle name picked out but will not tell anyone until baby is born 1. I don't have the time or patience to hear why anyone doesn't like the name or what else we should name OUR child. 2. I won't tell out of fear that someone I know will name their baby that before we have our son. We have a lot of friends who are pregnant as well and due before me.

elbou

mamavbs said:

My MIL said "how's my baby doing" and I told her he's fine but he kept me up snoring all night and keeps leaving the seat up... Yes your baby is my DH... Not the new baby growing inside me that I put there. Remember that please. Also, gotta love the back handed comments/nasty remarks but said sweetly. "Oh you so suit a rounded face."

I was thinking this same thing! My MIL doesn't call my babies hers, but if she did, this is exactly how I would answer!

JLW0504

My MIL doesn't speak to me. I kind of love it. My Mom on the other hand, has asked me when I plan to start working out when LO is born b/c "I don't want to be fat forever".




Edit: I hate auto correct.

mmk29

My MIL has taken to signing my sons cards "momma" because she will "never be grandma." Well you're never going to be momma to my son either. I believe I should have a monopoly on mom, mommy, momma, and any other variation that should suggest that I am in fact the one that gave birth to him.

thegingeravenger

My GMIL has been insisting we tell her the sex of the baby. Granted it's for a cute reason since she wants to make a baby blanket, but still... It's not even like we haven't seen her frequently. We told her we're probably going to not find out - "nonsense! I need to know!". We aren't far along by several weeks to know - "well let me know as soon as you do!". The next week "soooo any news yet??"

Confession - They aren't even that cute. Not that I'll ever tell her that.

amwright33

We told my MIL at 10 weeks because we had bleeding issues, SCH. She goes on to tell us that we were probably pregnant with twins and lost one. Not a thought I wanted to to have. Also there was no evidence of having twins. We had a tear that formed a blood clot.

baby112615

Lol my MIL barely speaks to me. She treats my hubby (her son) like she's still the boss of him. She doesn't talk to me about anything except....have you heard from mike (my hubby). But I'm sure she's put in her two sense about the baby to mike.

Wait till I tell them I won't be bringing the baby to their cigarette smoke incubator of an apartment. HA!

ktrimble8807

My MIL doesn't speak to me either! Which I love, but my poor DH gets messages from him parents about how cold of a person I am and how that he should have an allegiance to his family and not me... Uhhh Hello?! Pretty sure that we have created our own family!!!

FilmFreak933

I'm 18.5 weeks and we haven't told my MIL yet. Absent the pregnancy, she always sends group emails with "helpful" tips to avoid cancer, lose weight, sign a petition, etc. (She doesn't follow the lifestyle she preaches, which drives me nuts.) I'm concerned that once we tell her, she will target me with various things I'm doing that are harming my baby, and I will proceed to lose my mind. People have been guilt-tripping us over not telling her, so I was finally coming around. Then I went to her facebook page and saw an article she posted about how ultrasounds cause brain damage in fetuses and hold no positive benefits other than "exciting mommy and daddy to be." All guilt washed away instantly. 

amwright33

@FilmFreak933 I wonder if that was her way of letting you know that she knows about the baby.

nycmommy13

Talking about staying with us when the baby comes. We never invited her! We already talked about my mom staying for a few days, but two moms would be too much.

FilmFreak933

amwright33 said:

@FilmFreak933 I wonder if that was her way of letting you know that she knows about the baby.

I doubt it. We haven't seen her since we found out. It was one of ~15 posts she made that day. I think a few of the others were about preventing GERD, banning Roundup, and cell phones causing cancer. 

Noey80

My MIL doesn't even speak to me.

adoyen89

We were talking about moving closer to my work, bc my office recently relocated and the drive sucks. MIL, all pissed off.."so you're going to take my grandbaby away from me!?". I'm pretty sure it's more important for me to see my child at night, than it is for us to live right by her. I wanted to backhand her.

kwaldy

We told my MIL that we were having a girl and she says, "well maybe... but I won't believe it until the baby is born. I just KNOW it's a boy."
"I want to be in the delivery room when the baby is born."
"I'll be staying with you guys after the baby is born. It'll help"

1. There were no 'nads between the baby's legs
2. No.
3. No. Stop.

Wow... this turned into a rant. Whoops

athena1108

Glad my MIL doesn't speak to me or wishes to be in my child's life. She didn't need to be there. And has said very hurtful things to me and my husband. I'm sad that my husband misses her though. P.s she isn't mad about the pregnancy jusy about her son reconnecting with his father

savm11

When my MIL found out I'm planning a natural vaginal birth with a midwife she very seriously said "Are you seriously considering going natural, you are going to die." Haha she is a strong believer in c-sections for petite women apparently

jamiem522

She told the family today that we made her wait "several days" to find out the sex and we knew before her...we literally told them 36 hours after we found out while on family vacation! So I should call you the second I find out anything with MY baby? Gets f*ing grip.

Side note: having this board to rant is so helpful. I can't keep "talking" about shit she says but posting is soooo helpful!

emmybean123

My MIL said (at 15 weeks) that she isn't getting excited until the baby's born because I could "still miscarry" - now I have had three miscarriages but me and my husband are private people so she doesn't know this. So A) she has NO reason to tell me I could have a miscarriage and what a hurtful thing to say to anyone! She's full of rude and thoughtless comments when it comes to me x

Ivyblue92

mamavbs said:

My MIL said "how's my baby doing" and I told her he's fine but he kept me up snoring all night and keeps leaving the seat up...

Yes your baby is my DH... Not the new baby growing inside me that I put there. Remember that please.

Also, gotta love the back handed comments/nasty remarks but said sweetly. "Oh you so suit a rounded face."

I love the comment you gave back to your MIL. It sounds just like something I'd say to mine if she said that.

japostolova

Things my MIL says

1. Who's buying my plane ticket ?( for our wedding a couple years ago)
2. This wedding is expensive ( on buying a dress for our wedding & not contributing in any other way including not even bringing a congrats card)
3. What did you cook for dinner ? ( this is said regularly when I work later than my husband)
4. When are you going to start working out ? ( the day I came home from the hospital with DS. After delivery I was 15 lbs thinner than my pre- pregnancy weight)
5. I'm going out tonight ( on the rare occasion we ask her to watch her grandson)

hanray2010

Pretty glad my mil died drunk bitch

taylorherrgesell

Here comes a pretty long one sorry ladies! My MIL owns two rental houses my BIL lives in one and when her and her husband separated she moved in the other since we found out I was pregnant her and her husband have reconsiled enough so that they were planning on living together so me and my boyfriend could live in the house she's living in(we would be paying the same amount her other son pays but for a smaller house) but now that we've begun buying stuff for the little guy and are all getting excited the plan has fallen to pieces and she's now planning on selling the rental house and buying a new ranch style house so we can "live in the basement with the baby and she'll be upstairs" since we "aren't experienced enough to be left alone" with our own child? God I could have spit in her face for that comment. So now we're trying to talk to her and set our original plan back up inbetween rude comments about my weight, eating and exercising habits and her asking me everyday if I'm nervous yet yes of course I'm nervous(I had a miscarriage right literally two weeks before I conceived this baby) ughh never thought she would be the one making my life so hard guess it's time to start house hunting

mrsaragon

Mine wanted us to incorporate mine and my husband's name to make the baby's name. Sarah and Steven.....she came up with Saraven....um no lol

When we told her we're having a boy I got "Aw, I've already had 3 boys of my own, I really wanted my own girl." 1.) not your baby and 2.) My husband's currently the last male in his part of family that can carry on the name, so you think she'd be happy. Nope.

brianna91chavez

I showed her the 3D pictures from the ultrasound we had today and she told me "He looks too skinny Brianna! You need to eat more"
Well ..... Yes.... He is 8oz. He's actually in the 62% percentile, weighing 2oz more than the average fetus right now and he's measuring 4 days ahead of LMP dating. He's fine, thanks.
So it begins 8-|

shellperry

When we told my MIL at 14 weeks we were having another baby she said "do u really think that's a good idea" like it was something we could change and then 48 hours later she call insisting we name the baby after her. She hasn't taken the time to meet her first two grandkids why would number 3 be any different.

baymerrick

These make me feel so much better!! Thankfully my MIL lives a few hours away.... My mother and grandmother are the bad ones. "You really need to watch what you eat, you are fat enough. That baby weight won't just fall off"... I was under 160 when I got pregnant, lost nearly 20 pounds due to morning sickness. "All that new safety stuff is just crap. My kids lived and never even had a car seat" sorry I don't want loose blankets in my infants crib?... My gma was a total jerk when she found out it was a boy this weekend.... She had made a blanket, sheets and bought a whole outfit in the most god awful pink and frilly crap that I have said from the start I would never ever put my child in.... MIL let her cat loose in my mothers house while half the guests were still there which ended up in a horrific battle between a cat on a harness and leash and 5 dogs. I. Hate. Cats. HATE them and she knows it. Husby tells me yesterday she left early because after the cat incident I "gave her the stink eye" and it made her uncomfortable. Who brings a cat to a party? SERIOUSLY?!!!! Plus she KNOWS I hate that cat. She let it loose in my baby shower I threw a few month ago.... We were renting the space. Who does this crap?!! She always always ruins a party with her immaturity. She has to bring everyone's attention to her in a gathering. As do my mother and grandmother.

Wow sorry bout that.... I guess I'm super fed up with family!!