My MIL is not bad at all considering she lives in a different state. My own mother however is a different story. She use to refer to my baby as her baby and even asked me if it was ok if he could call her mom when he was able to talk. Um hell no! I've put my foot down several times. She also makes it sound like my kids names are impossible to pronounce and that I should have given them Hispanic names and thinks that my boys names are too "black" (my H is black I'm Hispanic. my oldest son is Kaiden Nehemiah and my unborn baby is Kaleb Lamar. Pretty easy names in my eyes). Ugh it's annoying!!
Dealing with the same thing. We wanted to name our daughter Florence (we've decided to use it as a middle name instead because we found a name we like more) but MIL bitched because she wanted it to be Florencia. SO and MIL are Hispanic so she said Florence was too white and that she would call her Florencia because it sounds better in Spanish. I'm like "no, if I wanted her name to be Florencia I would've given her that name. It's not for you to decide!"
According to my mil in Ireland (her family lives there) the fathers don't have to in the delivery room, so she doesn't understand why her son, my husband has to be in the delivery room while his second child is born. My response "this is America, not Ireland. He was there for his daughters birth and he will there for their his sons birth too!" Some days I don't know why she even opens her mouth to speak.
So, my actual mom is remarrying soon and will be moving out of state in a year or so. I was talking to my MIL about this (she's usually awesome and we have a pretty solid relationship) and I said it will be tough not having my mom around to spend more time with our son. And she said "It's a good thing I'm close, cuz I'm more important anyway." She said it as a joke, but I couldn't keep my jaw from dropping! Really?!
So my mother just came from Haiti two months ago and will be spending a month with me when baby comes and my mother in law asked me if she spoke any English i told her no and my mil response was oh so i can talk about her and she won't understand...like really why do you want to talk about my mother...by the way i will probably cut you if you do
DH and I have planned since September for my family to come to our house for Thanksgiving - my mom and SIL planned to use our kitchen to cook and I wouldn't have to do a thing. My family is super laid back (and the only other child is my brother's awesome 8-month old). We told DH's family that was the plan.
DH talked to his sister yesterday and she made a comment about his whole side of the family coming for Thanksgiving. DH reminded her that, no, MY family was coming for thanksgiving. Not them. Today, DH called his brother (whose birthday is this Friday) to ask what he wanted for his birthday and got the whole story. My MIL and DH's sister weren't really sure if we'd be okay with them coming for thanksgiving, so rather than asking DH, they were just going to show up on our doorstep on Thanksgiving day to celebrate thanksgiving, BIL's birthday, and meet the baby. While my family was here. And my family would be expected to cook. WHAT?!?!?!!??!?! What in the world would make that okay?? Especially since that would add 5 adults and 4 children (2 of whom are total terrors) to the mix... along with my 2-ish week old baby. I told DH that if anyone in his family shows up on Thanksgiving day, I would not let them in the house.
DH's mom and sister are crazy, but this is a new level of crazy even for them.
DH and I have planned since September for my family to come to our house for Thanksgiving - my mom and SIL planned to use our kitchen to cook and I wouldn't have to do a thing. My family is super laid back (and the only other child is my brother's awesome 8-month old). We told DH's family that was the plan.
DH talked to his sister yesterday and she made a comment about his whole side of the family coming for Thanksgiving. DH reminded her that, no, MY family was coming for thanksgiving. Not them. Today, DH called his brother (whose birthday is this Friday) to ask what he wanted for his birthday and got the whole story. My MIL and DH's sister weren't really sure if we'd be okay with them coming for thanksgiving, so rather than asking DH, they were just going to show up on our doorstep on Thanksgiving day to celebrate thanksgiving, BIL's birthday, and meet the baby. While my family was here. And my family would be expected to cook. WHAT?!?!?!!??!?! What in the world would make that okay?? Especially since that would add 5 adults and 4 children (2 of whom are total terrors) to the mix... along with my 2-ish week old baby. I told DH that if anyone in his family shows up on Thanksgiving day, I would not let them in the house.
DH's mom and sister are crazy, but this is a new level of crazy even for them.
WHAT? In what world is this okay? I can't think of any, let alone a world in which you're heavily pregnant/have a newborn.
Dear sweet Jesus I hope you take away their baby seeing privileges for Christmas on the principle of it all too.
DH and I have planned since September for my family to come to our house for Thanksgiving - my mom and SIL planned to use our kitchen to cook and I wouldn't have to do a thing. My family is super laid back (and the only other child is my brother's awesome 8-month old). We told DH's family that was the plan.
DH talked to his sister yesterday and she made a comment about his whole side of the family coming for Thanksgiving. DH reminded her that, no, MY family was coming for thanksgiving. Not them. Today, DH called his brother (whose birthday is this Friday) to ask what he wanted for his birthday and got the whole story. My MIL and DH's sister weren't really sure if we'd be okay with them coming for thanksgiving, so rather than asking DH, they were just going to show up on our doorstep on Thanksgiving day to celebrate thanksgiving, BIL's birthday, and meet the baby. While my family was here. And my family would be expected to cook. WHAT?!?!?!!??!?! What in the world would make that okay?? Especially since that would add 5 adults and 4 children (2 of whom are total terrors) to the mix... along with my 2-ish week old baby. I told DH that if anyone in his family shows up on Thanksgiving day, I would not let them in the house.
DH's mom and sister are crazy, but this is a new level of crazy even for them.
WHAT? In what world is this okay? I can't think of any, let alone a world in which you're heavily pregnant/have a newborn.
Dear sweet Jesus I hope you take away their baby seeing privileges for Christmas on the principle of it all too.
That's a bummer because it puts you in a situation where you are going to be the bad guy. There are so many options here! They could plan to come on a different date with food or cook or whatever. I love the holidays, but I hate when people with large families, or families that don't mix (like much of mine) get all wrapped up in needing to celebrate ON THAT DATE. It doesn't mean your family is getting special privileges or they mean more, this is just how planning works sometimes. They need to respect that and be rational.
DH and I have planned since September for my family to come to our house for Thanksgiving - my mom and SIL planned to use our kitchen to cook and I wouldn't have to do a thing. My family is super laid back (and the only other child is my brother's awesome 8-month old). We told DH's family that was the plan.
DH talked to his sister yesterday and she made a comment about his whole side of the family coming for Thanksgiving. DH reminded her that, no, MY family was coming for thanksgiving. Not them. Today, DH called his brother (whose birthday is this Friday) to ask what he wanted for his birthday and got the whole story. My MIL and DH's sister weren't really sure if we'd be okay with them coming for thanksgiving, so rather than asking DH, they were just going to show up on our doorstep on Thanksgiving day to celebrate thanksgiving, BIL's birthday, and meet the baby. While my family was here. And my family would be expected to cook. WHAT?!?!?!!??!?! What in the world would make that okay?? Especially since that would add 5 adults and 4 children (2 of whom are total terrors) to the mix... along with my 2-ish week old baby. I told DH that if anyone in his family shows up on Thanksgiving day, I would not let them in the house.
DH's mom and sister are crazy, but this is a new level of crazy even for them.
WHAT? In what world is this okay? I can't think of any, let alone a world in which you're heavily pregnant/have a newborn.
Dear sweet Jesus I hope you take away their baby seeing privileges for Christmas on the principle of it all too.
That's a bummer because it puts you in a situation where you are going to be the bad guy. There are so many options here! They could plan to come on a different date with food or cook or whatever. I love the holidays, but I hate when people with large families, or families that don't mix (like much of mine) get all wrapped up in needing to celebrate ON THAT DATE. It doesn't mean your family is getting special privileges or they mean more, this is just how planning works sometimes. They need to respect that and be rational.
Well that's kind of the thing. DH and I made it clear before we were married that we would alternate holidays (one year we would be with my family on thanksgiving day and with his family Christmas Day, the next year vice versa). So far, we've managed to see both families around both holidays each year. I'm totally not opposed to seeing his family around thanksgiving, just not the day of. Especially since if we had both families at our house, that would be 13 adults and 6 kids (one being my newborn) and I would still be recovering from delivery. Our house is sizable but no where close to big enough for that many. (And especially since DH's sister has the kids from hell who are in the destroy everything phase and she feels the need to pack her entire house and bring it with whenever they visit)
DH and I have planned since September for my family to come to our house for Thanksgiving - my mom and SIL planned to use our kitchen to cook and I wouldn't have to do a thing. My family is super laid back (and the only other child is my brother's awesome 8-month old). We told DH's family that was the plan.
DH talked to his sister yesterday and she made a comment about his whole side of the family coming for Thanksgiving. DH reminded her that, no, MY family was coming for thanksgiving. Not them. Today, DH called his brother (whose birthday is this Friday) to ask what he wanted for his birthday and got the whole story. My MIL and DH's sister weren't really sure if we'd be okay with them coming for thanksgiving, so rather than asking DH, they were just going to show up on our doorstep on Thanksgiving day to celebrate thanksgiving, BIL's birthday, and meet the baby. While my family was here. And my family would be expected to cook. WHAT?!?!?!!??!?! What in the world would make that okay?? Especially since that would add 5 adults and 4 children (2 of whom are total terrors) to the mix... along with my 2-ish week old baby. I told DH that if anyone in his family shows up on Thanksgiving day, I would not let them in the house.
DH's mom and sister are crazy, but this is a new level of crazy even for them.
WHAT? In what world is this okay? I can't think of any, let alone a world in which you're heavily pregnant/have a newborn.
Dear sweet Jesus I hope you take away their baby seeing privileges for Christmas on the principle of it all too.
That's a bummer because it puts you in a situation where you are going to be the bad guy. There are so many options here! They could plan to come on a different date with food or cook or whatever. I love the holidays, but I hate when people with large families, or families that don't mix (like much of mine) get all wrapped up in needing to celebrate ON THAT DATE. It doesn't mean your family is getting special privileges or they mean more, this is just how planning works sometimes. They need to respect that and be rational.
Well that's kind of the thing. DH and I made it clear before we were married that we would alternate holidays (one year we would be with my family on thanksgiving day and with his family Christmas Day, the next year vice versa). So far, we've managed to see both families around both holidays each year. I'm totally not opposed to seeing his family around thanksgiving, just not the day of. Especially since if we had both families at our house, that would be 13 adults and 6 kids (one being my newborn) and I would still be recovering from delivery. Our house is sizable but no where close to big enough for that many. (And especially since DH's sister has the kids from hell who are in the destroy everything phase and she feels the need to pack her entire house and bring it with whenever they visit)
My brothers have the every other holiday with in laws and us as well. But, for our side, because our parents are divorced they end up having to do both parents house. It works out okay, just a lot of back and forth with small kids. It's a lot of work .. Off track, but anyways, yeah... That is too many people, especially for you all to be "hosting". That is inconsiderate.. It amazes me how people think..
If my MIL asks me about Thanksgiving one more time, I'm going to lose my mind! I'm due on November 22nd and Thanksgiving plans are just about the last thing on my mind! There are several possible scenarios that could happen as far as a time line goes, and guess what, they all involve me not being terribly interested in going to a turkey dinner. I told her to count us out for Thanksgiving, so hopefully, she will stop asking me.
If my MIL asks me about Thanksgiving one more time, I'm going to lose my mind! I'm due on November 22nd and Thanksgiving plans are just about the last thing on my mind! There are several possible scenarios that could happen as far as a time line goes, and guess what, they all involve me not being terribly interested in going to a turkey dinner. I told her to count us out for Thanksgiving, so hopefully, she will stop asking me.
I'm with you on this. Also due Sunday and the last thing I want is to bring a newborn around a ton of people. Especially within the first week of her life. I just told her thanksgiving is out this year, as I will most likely be recovering from having a child and we would have her and FIL come down to visit, just them, to cut down on germs since newborns don't come equipped with immune systems!!
Keep in mind this is the lady afraid to kiss my baby because it could kill her! Yes you read that right. She saw a FB article and is now terrified of anyone who kisses babies. WTF?
I have to admit this is one of my favorite threads I am also a tad jelous, my MIL has dementia and the onset of Alzheimer's and when my SIL mentioned our new baby she said she didn't know I was having a baby even though she has seem me pregnant and my husband just told her the day before that our newest son was born.
My MIL had shoulder surgery a few weeks ago and only has mobility in one shoulder right now. Regardless of this, she insists on being the only one to take care of my almost 2yo despite my mom being available and having two working shoulders. She gets so jealous of my mom even though she sees DD so much more than my mom. I'm stressed out about going into labor because of me having to manage my mil and trying to keep her from manipulating my mom into leaving my daughter with her.
Im sitting in the nursery feeding my son and I can hear MIL and FIL talk to DH about my vagina and how it won't be the same for a while. Why is this a topic of conversation????
Im sitting in the nursery feeding my son and I can hear MIL and FIL talk to DH about my vagina and how it won't be the same for a while. Why is this a topic of conversation????
DH and I have planned since September for my family to come to our house for Thanksgiving - my mom and SIL planned to use our kitchen to cook and I wouldn't have to do a thing. My family is super laid back (and the only other child is my brother's awesome 8-month old). We told DH's family that was the plan.
DH talked to his sister yesterday and she made a comment about his whole side of the family coming for Thanksgiving. DH reminded her that, no, MY family was coming for thanksgiving. Not them. Today, DH called his brother (whose birthday is this Friday) to ask what he wanted for his birthday and got the whole story. My MIL and DH's sister weren't really sure if we'd be okay with them coming for thanksgiving, so rather than asking DH, they were just going to show up on our doorstep on Thanksgiving day to celebrate thanksgiving, BIL's birthday, and meet the baby. While my family was here. And my family would be expected to cook. WHAT?!?!?!!??!?! What in the world would make that okay?? Especially since that would add 5 adults and 4 children (2 of whom are total terrors) to the mix... along with my 2-ish week old baby. I told DH that if anyone in his family shows up on Thanksgiving day, I would not let them in the house.
DH's mom and sister are crazy, but this is a new level of crazy even for them.
WHAT? In what world is this okay? I can't think of any, let alone a world in which you're heavily pregnant/have a newborn.
Dear sweet Jesus I hope you take away their baby seeing privileges for Christmas on the principle of it all too.
That's a bummer because it puts you in a situation where you are going to be the bad guy. There are so many options here! They could plan to come on a different date with food or cook or whatever. I love the holidays, but I hate when people with large families, or families that don't mix (like much of mine) get all wrapped up in needing to celebrate ON THAT DATE. It doesn't mean your family is getting special privileges or they mean more, this is just how planning works sometimes. They need to respect that and be rational.
Well that's kind of the thing. DH and I made it clear before we were married that we would alternate holidays (one year we would be with my family on thanksgiving day and with his family Christmas Day, the next year vice versa). So far, we've managed to see both families around both holidays each year. I'm totally not opposed to seeing his family around thanksgiving, just not the day of. Especially since if we had both families at our house, that would be 13 adults and 6 kids (one being my newborn) and I would still be recovering from delivery. Our house is sizable but no where close to big enough for that many. (And especially since DH's sister has the kids from hell who are in the destroy everything phase and she feels the need to pack her entire house and bring it with whenever they visit)
Have your in-laws shown up yet? Give us the scoop!
My MIL came over unannounced yesterday and plucked my son out of my arms without asking or even indicating she wanted to hold him. Legit walked right over to the couch and took him from me. today she came over and said she was going to start pinching my son to wake him up when she's over. (Because he's always sleeping) he was in his crib and she walked in and all of a sudden he starts crying. So I go in there and she starts ripping into me that he had puked all over the crib. She keeps going, then says the breastmilk isn't agreeing with him and that I should just give up. That it's hurting him and that I'm not giving him what he needs.
I have been choking back tears for over an hour now.
DH and I have planned since September for my family to come to our house for Thanksgiving - my mom and SIL planned to use our kitchen to cook and I wouldn't have to do a thing. My family is super laid back (and the only other child is my brother's awesome 8-month old). We told DH's family that was the plan.
DH talked to his sister yesterday and she made a comment about his whole side of the family coming for Thanksgiving. DH reminded her that, no, MY family was coming for thanksgiving. Not them. Today, DH called his brother (whose birthday is this Friday) to ask what he wanted for his birthday and got the whole story. My MIL and DH's sister weren't really sure if we'd be okay with them coming for thanksgiving, so rather than asking DH, they were just going to show up on our doorstep on Thanksgiving day to celebrate thanksgiving, BIL's birthday, and meet the baby. While my family was here. And my family would be expected to cook. WHAT?!?!?!!??!?! What in the world would make that okay?? Especially since that would add 5 adults and 4 children (2 of whom are total terrors) to the mix... along with my 2-ish week old baby. I told DH that if anyone in his family shows up on Thanksgiving day, I would not let them in the house.
DH's mom and sister are crazy, but this is a new level of crazy even for them.
WHAT? In what world is this okay? I can't think of any, let alone a world in which you're heavily pregnant/have a newborn.
Dear sweet Jesus I hope you take away their baby seeing privileges for Christmas on the principle of it all too.
That's a bummer because it puts you in a situation where you are going to be the bad guy. There are so many options here! They could plan to come on a different date with food or cook or whatever. I love the holidays, but I hate when people with large families, or families that don't mix (like much of mine) get all wrapped up in needing to celebrate ON THAT DATE. It doesn't mean your family is getting special privileges or they mean more, this is just how planning works sometimes. They need to respect that and be rational.
Well that's kind of the thing. DH and I made it clear before we were married that we would alternate holidays (one year we would be with my family on thanksgiving day and with his family Christmas Day, the next year vice versa). So far, we've managed to see both families around both holidays each year. I'm totally not opposed to seeing his family around thanksgiving, just not the day of. Especially since if we had both families at our house, that would be 13 adults and 6 kids (one being my newborn) and I would still be recovering from delivery. Our house is sizable but no where close to big enough for that many. (And especially since DH's sister has the kids from hell who are in the destroy everything phase and she feels the need to pack her entire house and bring it with whenever they visit)
Have your in-laws shown up yet? Give us the scoop!
Hah no we told them they couldn't come today. So now we won't be seeing them at all over the long weekend because we're rude.
My MIL came over unannounced yesterday and plucked my son out of my arms without asking or even indicating she wanted to hold him. Legit walked right over to the couch and took him from me. today she came over and said she was going to start pinching my son to wake him up when she's over. (Because he's always sleeping) he was in his crib and she walked in and all of a sudden he starts crying. So I go in there and she starts ripping into me that he had puked all over the crib. She keeps going, then says the breastmilk isn't agreeing with him and that I should just give up. That it's hurting him and that I'm not giving him what he needs.
I have been choking back tears for over an hour now.
What a witch!! Aparently she doesn't know how yummy Breast milk is and how our LOs want so much of it that they over eat and tend to "throw up" what they don't need. Don't let here get to you! Sounds like your babe loves to eat! My sons spits up a couple times a day because he will over eat, typically in a milk drunk state. Sorry you have to deal with that, just be a bitch back and put your foot down
My babe over eats and spits up a couple times a day too! Don't fret. She's being a wench. You're the mom. You know what's best for your LO. @BowWowBowie
My MIL came over unannounced yesterday and plucked my son out of my arms without asking or even indicating she wanted to hold him. Legit walked right over to the couch and took him from me. today she came over and said she was going to start pinching my son to wake him up when she's over. (Because he's always sleeping) he was in his crib and she walked in and all of a sudden he starts crying. So I go in there and she starts ripping into me that he had puked all over the crib. She keeps going, then says the breastmilk isn't agreeing with him and that I should just give up. That it's hurting him and that I'm not giving him what he needs.
I have been choking back tears for over an hour now.
Talk with your SO!! Your MIL's behavior is NOT OK!! At very least start banning her from visiting until she can respect your boundaries. That's what I would do if my MIL at least behaves that way.
DH and I have planned since September for my family to come to our house for Thanksgiving - my mom and SIL planned to use our kitchen to cook and I wouldn't have to do a thing. My family is super laid back (and the only other child is my brother's awesome 8-month old). We told DH's family that was the plan.
DH talked to his sister yesterday and she made a comment about his whole side of the family coming for Thanksgiving. DH reminded her that, no, MY family was coming for thanksgiving. Not them. Today, DH called his brother (whose birthday is this Friday) to ask what he wanted for his birthday and got the whole story. My MIL and DH's sister weren't really sure if we'd be okay with them coming for thanksgiving, so rather than asking DH, they were just going to show up on our doorstep on Thanksgiving day to celebrate thanksgiving, BIL's birthday, and meet the baby. While my family was here. And my family would be expected to cook. WHAT?!?!?!!??!?! What in the world would make that okay?? Especially since that would add 5 adults and 4 children (2 of whom are total terrors) to the mix... along with my 2-ish week old baby. I told DH that if anyone in his family shows up on Thanksgiving day, I would not let them in the house.
DH's mom and sister are crazy, but this is a new level of crazy even for them.
WHAT? In what world is this okay? I can't think of any, let alone a world in which you're heavily pregnant/have a newborn.
Dear sweet Jesus I hope you take away their baby seeing privileges for Christmas on the principle of it all too.
That's a bummer because it puts you in a situation where you are going to be the bad guy. There are so many options here! They could plan to come on a different date with food or cook or whatever. I love the holidays, but I hate when people with large families, or families that don't mix (like much of mine) get all wrapped up in needing to celebrate ON THAT DATE. It doesn't mean your family is getting special privileges or they mean more, this is just how planning works sometimes. They need to respect that and be rational.
Well that's kind of the thing. DH and I made it clear before we were married that we would alternate holidays (one year we would be with my family on thanksgiving day and with his family Christmas Day, the next year vice versa). So far, we've managed to see both families around both holidays each year. I'm totally not opposed to seeing his family around thanksgiving, just not the day of. Especially since if we had both families at our house, that would be 13 adults and 6 kids (one being my newborn) and I would still be recovering from delivery. Our house is sizable but no where close to big enough for that many. (And especially since DH's sister has the kids from hell who are in the destroy everything phase and she feels the need to pack her entire house and bring it with whenever they visit)
Have your in-laws shown up yet? Give us the scoop!
Hah no we told them they couldn't come today. So now we won't be seeing them at all over the long weekend because we're rude.
Oh good grief. What is wrong with people?
@BowWowBowie I'm so sorry your MIL is being so awful. Don't let her discourage you from nursing! She's probably just trying to manipulate you into giving up so she can feed LO.
She's being a witch because we have custody of her grandson who has always lived with her. She's angry we're not allowing her daughter in our children's lives and she's ticked that we don't buy into her lies that constantly come out of her mouth. Normally I'm able to just shake it off, but she's just become overbearing lately. My SO has just bit his tongue as well. We've been hoping she'll calm down soon, but I doubt it with the holidays coming up. I won't allow my children at her house at this time** and she's angry about it. She seriously cancelled her family Thanksgiving because we wouldn't go over there. I have no doubts she'll try to pull that guilt trip for Christmas, but she can just kiss my ass at this point. Sorry for the vent session.
**We won't allow the children over there due to my sister in law having had a meth lab out there.
Ugh. Why are MIL's the fucking worst?? Mine showed up for Thanksgiving dinner at my house tonight an hour and 45 minutes late. They then proceeded to say ignorant things about Jewish people at my dinner table (and I'm Jewish)! I've been dealing with their ignorance for ten years, regarding everything from race to religion to sexuality, and now that I have a child, I simply cannot accept it. I called them out on their ignorance, and my MIL wouldn't say another word to me for the rest of the night, and went as far as leaving my house without saying goodbye. Brightside-I don't see them showing up for their daily visits anymore now that DH is going back to work!
My MIL came over unannounced yesterday and plucked my son out of my arms without asking or even indicating she wanted to hold him. Legit walked right over to the couch and took him from me. today she came over and said she was going to start pinching my son to wake him up when she's over. (Because he's always sleeping) he was in his crib and she walked in and all of a sudden he starts crying. So I go in there and she starts ripping into me that he had puked all over the crib. She keeps going, then says the breastmilk isn't agreeing with him and that I should just give up. That it's hurting him and that I'm not giving him what he needs.
I have been choking back tears for over an hour now.
This is not acceptable. I'd lock the door. My MIL is a sweet lady but whenever she's over she sits and holds the baby, can not stop staring at him and baby talks to him the entire time. I know she's excited for her first grandchild but I can't stand listening to someone baby talk constantly. Drives me bananas!
Ugh. Why are MIL's the fucking worst?? Mine showed up for Thanksgiving dinner at my house tonight an hour and 45 minutes late. They then proceeded to say ignorant things about Jewish people at my dinner table (and I'm Jewish)! I've been dealing with their ignorance for ten years, regarding everything from race to religion to sexuality, and now that I have a child, I simply cannot accept it. I called them out on their ignorance, and my MIL wouldn't say another word to me for the rest of the night, and went as far as leaving my house without saying goodbye. Brightside-I don't see them showing up for their daily visits anymore now that DH is going back to work!
Some people just can't hear how rude they sound. My MIL used to introduce me to her old friends as "Rubi, my son's second wife" since they all know he used to be married to someone else. After the third or fourth time I actually introduced myself to one of her friends like that and I guess that did the trick because she stopped.
Ugh, thanksgiving dinner was a mess for many reasons mainly her being a drunken mess and waking up my colicky babe after he finally calmed down after 6 hours of fussing, but after dinner was the icing on the cake. Feeding DS in the living room with her side all around and a cover on, she decided it would be acceptable to remove the cover and give my son a kiss, as he was latched. Safe to say I made DH put extra boundaries in place from here on out.
Ugh, thanksgiving dinner was a mess for many reasons mainly her being a drunken mess and waking up my colicky babe after he finally calmed down after 6 hours of fussing, but after dinner was the icing on the cake. Feeding DS in the living room with her side all around and a cover on, she decided it would be acceptable to remove the cover and give my son a kiss, as he was latched. Safe to say I made DH put extra boundaries in place from here on out.
Ugh, thanksgiving dinner was a mess for many reasons mainly her being a drunken mess and waking up my colicky babe after he finally calmed down after 6 hours of fussing, but after dinner was the icing on the cake. Feeding DS in the living room with her side all around and a cover on, she decided it would be acceptable to remove the cover and give my son a kiss, as he was latched. Safe to say I made DH put extra boundaries in place from here on out.
WTH?!
Yes... I don't think I will be allowing her around for a few weeks. Still scared
I keep trying to remind myself that now that I have a son, I will be someone's MIL one day and to be more patient and understanding but if she questions any more medical decisions (circumcision, choice of pediatrician, asking for a second opinion when they wanted to do a blood lab for bili levels, etc) I am going to lose my sh*t.
My mil told me my daughter would be spoiled bc we hold her too much. She was 10 days old...
So many people have told us this too. Our son only sleeps while being held (16 days old) so everyone says we're spoiling him by holding him while he sleeps. False. You cannot spoil a 2 week old. We're trying to get him to sleep on his own but with no real success. So in order for us to all stay sane, we hold him.
My MIL, thankfully, isn't really too bad, but she came over right after I got home from the hospital after my c-sec and told me how awful I looked and how swollen my eyes were. She was laughing about it as she said it. I told her she wasn't being very nice and that I just had major surgery and I've been up a lot since having the baby. She came over today and was so excited to hold the baby that she was almost rough with her. The baby was on her lap and she was making her "dance" by moving her legs, hips and arms all around. Lady, she's 12 days old. I know infants are not that fragile, but my first time mommy instincts are and all I wanted to do was tell her to give me my baby and get the F out!
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
My MIL came to the hospital completely wasted when LO was born. She couldn't be bothered to stay sober for even a day. She barely could hold him & asked me at least 8 times within 10 minutes if I'm breastfeeding. When she knows I wasn't able to breastfeed my first so it was very annoying answering that question so many times. Also she tried to hold the baby on thanksgiving after smoking a cigarette and reeked. She also tried to refuse to wash her hands after I made her change. When I know she only showers once a week (yes I'm serious) & never washes her hands after using the restroom. My fiancé checked her really quick & told her how gross that is.
My MIL came over unannounced yesterday and plucked my son out of my arms without asking or even indicating she wanted to hold him. Legit walked right over to the couch and took him from me. today she came over and said she was going to start pinching my son to wake him up when she's over. (Because he's always sleeping) he was in his crib and she walked in and all of a sudden he starts crying. So I go in there and she starts ripping into me that he had puked all over the crib. She keeps going, then says the breastmilk isn't agreeing with him and that I should just give up. That it's hurting him and that I'm not giving him what he needs.
I have been choking back tears for over an hour now.
Give her a high five. In the face. With a shovel. Blame it on hormones!
My MIL came to the hospital completely wasted when LO was born. She couldn't be bothered to stay sober for even a day. She barely could hold him & asked me at least 8 times within 10 minutes if I'm breastfeeding. When she knows I wasn't able to breastfeed my first so it was very annoying answering that question so many times. Also she tried to hold the baby on thanksgiving after smoking a cigarette and reeked. She also tried to refuse to wash her hands after I made her change. When I know she only showers once a week (yes I'm serious) & never washes her hands after using the restroom. My fiancé checked her really quick & told her how gross that is.
Edited because spell check sucks
Do we share MIL's??? I no longer allow this woman to hold my son, I'm not risking her being drunk or high and dropping him! My SIL and I have a routine of swapping off our newborns between each other so that she can never have him!
I don't have a MIL but my baby's father's mother has some real gems. "He needs a passport". He's a BABY. Where am I going to take him that requires a passport?
Re: Things my MIL says
My response "this is America, not Ireland. He was there for his daughters birth and he will there for their his sons birth too!"
Some days I don't know why she even opens her mouth to speak.
Dear sweet Jesus I hope you take away their baby seeing privileges for Christmas on the principle of it all too.
I love the holidays, but I hate when people with large families, or families that don't mix (like much of mine) get all wrapped up in needing to celebrate ON THAT DATE. It doesn't mean your family is getting special privileges or they mean more, this is just how planning works sometimes. They need to respect that and be rational.
Keep in mind this is the lady afraid to kiss my baby because it could kill her! Yes you read that right. She saw a FB article and is now terrified of anyone who kisses babies. WTF?
I guess cherish these crazy moments
today she came over and said she was going to start pinching my son to wake him up when she's over. (Because he's always sleeping) he was in his crib and she walked in and all of a sudden he starts crying. So I go in there and she starts ripping into me that he had puked all over the crib. She keeps going, then says the breastmilk isn't agreeing with him and that I should just give up. That it's hurting him and that I'm not giving him what he needs.
I have been choking back tears for over an hour now.
@BowWowBowie I'm so sorry your MIL is being so awful. Don't let her discourage you from nursing! She's probably just trying to manipulate you into giving up so she can feed LO.
**We won't allow the children over there due to my sister in law having had a meth lab out there.
Yes... I don't think I will be allowing her around for a few weeks. Still scared
My MIL, thankfully, isn't really too bad, but she came over right after I got home from the hospital after my c-sec and told me how awful I looked and how swollen my eyes were. She was laughing about it as she said it. I told her she wasn't being very nice and that I just had major surgery and I've been up a lot since having the baby. She came over today and was so excited to hold the baby that she was almost rough with her. The baby was on her lap and she was making her "dance" by moving her legs, hips and arms all around. Lady, she's 12 days old. I know infants are not that fragile, but my first time mommy instincts are and all I wanted to do was tell her to give me my baby and get the F out!
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
Edited because spell check sucks
Best of luck that they only get better one day