My MIL thinks she is a psychic / medium and tells me that the spirit our previous miscarriage is coming back now. She also tells me how he comes to her in spirit and tells her what kind of name he wants. She also said it was a boy when I was 3 weeks. She was right there. She also compares me and her son to her daughters failed relationship and always goes. Well if you and Phil can stay together and not end up like them & blah blah
Today my MIL called DH to blab about who all knows what... and complained I don't text her and said "probably because I'm just the mother in law..." mmmm no, probably because you do nothing but cause problems and stress. She also got upset because he wasn't aware she was having trouble getting an item she bought to come off the registry. My MIL had told my mom all about it when she called to talk to MIL about baby shower stuff. My mom had told me MIL was having that issue and heads up I might get a call or Text about it. "Well why didn't you know about that? Doesn't she tell you anything? It's your baby too!" Seriously? I didn't think it was that important that I had to tell DH about... apapparently I was wrong...
My MIL let's me handle my own business. She's super sweet. But my mother and father's mother, no. Just no. My mother is constantly saying I'm in too delicate of a stage to do anything, like grabbing a mixing bowl from a high shelf. I'm pregnant, not ill. And the grandmother likes tries to guilt me into doing things that make me uncomfortable or offering advice that isn't wanted or practicality sitting in my lap to touch my belly. She doesn't ask permission. And then asks how "our" baby is doing.
My MIL had surgery yesterday (shattered her wrist) and my husband and I are on vacation so we couldn't be with her. We ended up face timing her last night and she's talking and all of a sudden goes, "oh my goodness, Rachael, you just look sooo beautiful!!" ...my husband felt the need to later point out that you could tell she was on some strong drugs because she said that (I know he meant that in terms of its not something she'd ever say but RUDE)
My mil has been depending on dh to pay her car insurance since its on our plan and technically my car. This month we're in a bind and I told her that if she wanted insurance she would need to pay for it by the 31st or it was being cancelled. I'm done catering to her. She has no job except for cleaning other people's houses which would be fine if she made enough to cover all her bills. She refuses to try and get any other job bc of her "anxiety" which I would believe she has if not for her many comments about me being a SAHM and having her son take care of her. She worked in a bakery for 15 years and refused their offer of giving her her job back. Her niece lives with her and pays their cell phone bill bc mil put them on her contract. Today my mil tells me that she doesn't have enough to pay on it today and that if they're shut off that she's getting everyone's phones back bc the niece doesn't have proof that she's been paying the bill. Wtf? (Their bill has been behind and they pay 100 every week.) she's so manipulative and dh has finally seen through her BS.
Not just my mil but my s.o aunts have always commented on my eating because i eat politley around other people and cram my face at home.. I dont starve myself i eat a normal portion they all just like to eat alot well this has carried on into my pregnancy where i get full realy fast so i eat frequest small meals and i kept telling my s.o other that it was iritating me and he tpld me to ignore it. Well one day i got the "your eating for two speal" after stuffing my face with eggs hashbrowns and a bowl of fruit i snapped but instead of yelling i in a joking tone said " well thats not actually good advice" now im the bitch because i was "disrespectful"
Not just my mil but my s.o aunts have always commented on my eating because i eat politley around other people and cram my face at home.. I dont starve myself i eat a normal portion they all just like to eat alot well this has carried on into my pregnancy where i get full realy fast so i eat frequest small meals and i kept telling my s.o other that it was iritating me and he tpld me to ignore it. Well one day i got the "your eating for two speal" after stuffing my face with eggs hashbrowns and a bowl of fruit i snapped but instead of yelling i in a joking tone said " well thats not actually good advice" now im the bitch because i was "disrespectful"
If one more person tells me "well your eating for two so you need more food" I may just lose it... I have a hard time eating full meals a lot of the time as well so I eat smaller meals and my MIL knows this and she the only one not jumping on my back about eating more.. It's everybody else from my grandma to my DHs family.. I think I may just snap if I hear the whole "well your eating for two"
My MIL wants us to use her old bassinet. She wants to take the old dingy, dusty thing out of storage and wants my baby to sleep in it. No. I'm not one for basinets because IMO I think it's just another thing that takes up space. She also says not to let the baby sleep in the swing, or in her crib, or in the pack and play. Well where TF is she supposed to sleep?! I'm NOT co-sleeping and I'm not putting her on the floor as I'll be up every 2 hours. She also wont refer to baby as a girl, because it could "pop out a boy, doctors are sometimes wrong" yeah, okay lady. I get it. But it was confirmed by 2 different doctors with all the coolest and highest technology.
This is probably just hormones (every little thing has been bothering me today... I'm soooo irritable) but my MIL is Mexican and when DH and I were over there today she kept randomly speaking in Spanish to FIL and it pissed me off. It's something she's always done and I don't speak Spanish (I took French in HS & college) but i can piece together what she says and it's not like she is saying anything bad or about me. She doesn't do it around our SIL who doesn't speak Spanish, so it's just irritating she only does it around me. Why can't you ask FIL if he wants a drink in English? I swear she is trying to make me feel uncomfortable.
This is probably just hormones (every little thing has been bothering me today... I'm soooo irritable) but my MIL is Mexican and when DH and I were over there today she kept randomly speaking in Spanish to FIL and it pissed me off. It's something she's always done and I don't speak Spanish (I took French in HS & college) but i can piece together what she says and it's not like she is saying anything bad or about me. She doesn't do it around our SIL who doesn't speak Spanish, so it's just irritating she only does it around me. Why can't you ask FIL if he wants a drink in English? I swear she is trying to make me feel uncomfortable.
I think that may be hormones... Except that would piss me off too..
This is probably just hormones (every little thing has been bothering me today... I'm soooo irritable) but my MIL is Mexican and when DH and I were over there today she kept randomly speaking in Spanish to FIL and it pissed me off. It's something she's always done and I don't speak Spanish (I took French in HS & college) but i can piece together what she says and it's not like she is saying anything bad or about me. She doesn't do it around our SIL who doesn't speak Spanish, so it's just irritating she only does it around me. Why can't you ask FIL if he wants a drink in English? I swear she is trying to make me feel uncomfortable.
Im sure every household is different but my mom speaks mostly spanish and hubby just understands better in english so when she's around i try and speak only in spanish but sometimes I forget and ask my husband for ice in english or something like that. It just happens.
We just moved to a different state to be closer to my family (hallelujah!) and as we were leaving, MIL said, "so, I need you to let me know soon when you think you'll go into labor because I don't want to have to buy a last minute ticket". It actually made telling her that they can't come visit until the baby is a few weeks old very easy.
@oorl11052015 After reading my comment again, it really is mostly hormones lol...cuz it never bothered me before really but it also didn't start bothering me until I realized she doesn't do it around my non Spanish speaking SIL or even my other SIL who does speak some Spanish. Idk why she does it. And FIL speaks very little Spanish and always answers her in English... So I'm just like ok.
She's also super gullible.. Like I feel a little bad saying this but she's just not that smart. She told me I need to ask my OB about "fetal ink syndrome". She saw a post about it on Facebook. The ink from the tattoos I've had for 5 years is somehow "going to get to my baby and there are baby's that are dying from this fetal ink syndrome when they're 4 and 5 years old. It's a new study. It's on Facebook "
Just....stop. Don't talk to me. DH tells her all the time quit believing stuff she sees on Facebook, but this is the worst and truly pissed me off today.
@oorl11052015 After reading my comment again, it really is mostly hormones lol...cuz it never bothered me before really but it also didn't start bothering me until I realized she doesn't do it around my non Spanish speaking SIL or even my other SIL who does speak some Spanish. Idk why she does it. And FIL speaks very little Spanish and always answers her in English... So I'm just like ok.
She's also super gullible.. Like I feel a little bad saying this but she's just not that smart. She told me I need to ask my OB about "fetal ink syndrome". She saw a post about it on Facebook. The ink from the tattoos I've had for 5 years is somehow "going to get to my baby and there are baby's that are dying from this fetal ink syndrome when they're 4 and 5 years old. It's a new study. It's on Facebook "
Just....stop. Don't talk to me. DH tells her all the time quit believing stuff she sees on Facebook, but this is the worst and truly pissed me off today.
@oorl11052015 After reading my comment again, it really is mostly hormones lol...cuz it never bothered me before really but it also didn't start bothering me until I realized she doesn't do it around my non Spanish speaking SIL or even my other SIL who does speak some Spanish. Idk why she does it. And FIL speaks very little Spanish and always answers her in English... So I'm just like ok.
She's also super gullible.. Like I feel a little bad saying this but she's just not that smart. She told me I need to ask my OB about "fetal ink syndrome". She saw a post about it on Facebook. The ink from the tattoos I've had for 5 years is somehow "going to get to my baby and there are baby's that are dying from this fetal ink syndrome when they're 4 and 5 years old. It's a new study. It's on Facebook "
Just....stop. Don't talk to me. DH tells her all the time quit believing stuff she sees on Facebook, but this is the worst and truly pissed me off today.
Well, looks like I'm going to be a horrible mother... and that I will be poisoning my son when I breastfeed him because of the one on my chest. Someone should probably call CPS on me.... probably on my husband as well because his tattoos will make him a horrible father too. We're just terrible terrible people!
Edit to add- I've seen some stuff quite similar to that on Facebook as well. I always get a pretty good laugh out of it. Lol while I'm sure your MIL doesn't believe it will make you a bad mom I feel kind of bad for her that she believes the ink will cause issues for your baby.
DD has been sick this weekend. DH and I have been taking care of her and doing a fine job at that. DH's mom calls and DH says that DD has been sick. DH's mom is a PhD and is always giving out free medical advice and announcing her doctorhood. It's so annoying when she runs through check lists to make sure that I am taking care of my baby correctly. She asks about the vaccinations I am giving her. How I am spacing them. I never asked and I am doing just fine. I know how to take care of my baby and I know my baby best. Vent over. Maybe it's hormones....
DD has been sick this weekend. DH and I have been taking care of her and doing a fine job at that. DH's mom calls and DH says that DD has been sick. DH's mom is a PhD and is always giving out free medical advice and announcing her doctorhood. It's so annoying when she runs through check lists to make sure that I am taking care of my baby correctly. She asks about the vaccinations I am giving her. How I am spacing them. I never asked and I am doing just fine. I know how to take care of my baby and I know my baby best. Vent over. Maybe it's hormones....
People with PhDs bug me when they treat them as MDs. You did not go to medical school so hush up.
@oorl11052015 After reading my comment again, it really is mostly hormones lol...cuz it never bothered me before really but it also didn't start bothering me until I realized she doesn't do it around my non Spanish speaking SIL or even my other SIL who does speak some Spanish. Idk why she does it. And FIL speaks very little Spanish and always answers her in English... So I'm just like ok.
She's also super gullible.. Like I feel a little bad saying this but she's just not that smart. She told me I need to ask my OB about "fetal ink syndrome". She saw a post about it on Facebook. The ink from the tattoos I've had for 5 years is somehow "going to get to my baby and there are baby's that are dying from this fetal ink syndrome when they're 4 and 5 years old. It's a new study. It's on Facebook "
Just....stop. Don't talk to me. DH tells her all the time quit believing stuff she sees on Facebook, but this is the worst and truly pissed me off today.
O...M...G!!!!! My MIL does that too!!!! She's convinced everything about babies on Facebook is true!!! My FIL, my DH, and his uncle have all told her a lot of that stuff isnt true!! She drives me crazy!!!! She's the one who convinced my husband that eating too much spicy food is going to hurt the baby.. If my baby wants something spicy I'm going to eat it!! Just maybe not in front of them lol
My MIL is an angel!!! My DH's sisters on the other hand, oh dear!! I know the mean well but they have no boundaries at all. They insist on throwing me a baby shower and I know it will be all about them. These ladies are the same ladies who decided to open our wedding gifts that were at my MIL's house, excuse? They wanted to send thank you cards
My MIL is an angel!!! My DH's sisters on the other hand, oh dear!! I know the mean well but they have no boundaries at all. They insist on throwing me a baby shower and I know it will be all about them. These ladies are the same ladies who decided to open our wedding gifts that were at my MIL's house, excuse? They wanted to send thank you cards
Gracious! I would think a thank you card should come from the bride and groom not his sisters. Strange!
My MIL doesn't speak English, but since I'm learning Spanish, I think I take a lot of the things she says wrong because I only understand 6 out of 10 words she says. For example, the other day she called me gordita which I know means little fat. Maybe she meant it in another context but I just wanted to scream "I'm not fat I'm pregnant!". She's also extremely against pain medications for child birth and I'm like hell no. I know I want that epidural and no one is changing my mind. She also told me I probably wouldn't be able to breast feed because I have small nipples (she's never seen them). Finally, she laughed the other day at the idea of having a baby shower (I'm a FTM) because "Americans buy way too many things for their babies that they don't need". Well I'm pretty sure diapers and bottles are a necessity so...
But she is an extremely sweet lady usually. She once told me that it's impossible for her to be an annoying mother in law because of the language barrier.. But I think that's what causes a lot of miscommunications.
MiL is currently annoyed with me because I left the time limit on DS's Kindle... She's flown with him out to California to stay with my sister in law for a week, and they're then heading to see more family in Michigan. I am incredibly thankful her taking him because there's no way we can afford to take that much time off work, and this is basically the only way he gets to spend time with the extended family. But maybe there's a reason I left the timer on? It's not like I didn't send a whole bunch of distractions and time-fillers in his backpack for the plane. That thing was crammed with books and mini-projects. She just didn't want to have to actually do anything to occupy him. *eye roll*
But she is an extremely sweet lady usually. She once told me that it's impossible for her to be an annoying mother in law because of the language barrier.. But I think that's what causes a lot of miscommunications.
OMG. This sound just like my MIL, except she is deaf. She can say whatever she wants to me, but she cannot hear anything I say. One way communication.
How do I get my MIL to stop buying things in NB size?!?!?!?! She has now bought 2 pairs of shoes and 2 packs of sock (six packs of docs I might add) and our baby boy now has 6 NB outfits.. I only wanted to get 3 just in case because I don't know how big he will be.. I didn't want him to have a million things in NB size... She has gotten him clothes in other sizes but NB seems to be her thing..
How do I get my MIL to stop buying things in NB size?!?!?!?! She has now bought 2 pairs of shoes and 2 packs of sock (six packs of docs I might add) and our baby boy now has 6 NB outfits.. I only wanted to get 3 just in case because I don't know how big he will be.. I didn't want him to have a million things in NB size... She has gotten him clothes in other sizes but NB seems to be her thing..
Leave the tags on, then you can bring back to whatever store sells that brand if he is in NB then your good, they can go through 3 outfits in a day!
How do I get my MIL to stop buying things in NB size?!?!?!?! She has now bought 2 pairs of shoes and 2 packs of sock (six packs of docs I might add) and our baby boy now has 6 NB outfits.. I only wanted to get 3 just in case because I don't know how big he will be.. I didn't want him to have a million things in NB size... She has gotten him clothes in other sizes but NB seems to be her thing..
Leave the tags on, then you can bring back to whatever store sells that brand if he is in NB then your good, they can go through 3 outfits in a day!
I guess it's more the shoes and all the soxs and that's what I'm hoping for is he will be able to wear a few of them!! Let's hope he doesn't take after me and is a huge baby!!! My brothers and I were all 10 pound babies!! I just don't think I want to try to fit little shoes on his feet straight from the womb!!! Even though they are cute!!
My Father In Law cracks jokes that I'm getting fat so the last time he said it I said to him "Time for a new joke". He better take the hint to lay off calling a pregnant woman fat or else!
How do I get my MIL to stop buying things in NB size?!?!?!?! She has now bought 2 pairs of shoes and 2 packs of sock (six packs of docs I might add) and our baby boy now has 6 NB outfits.. I only wanted to get 3 just in case because I don't know how big he will be.. I didn't want him to have a million things in NB size... She has gotten him clothes in other sizes but NB seems to be her thing..
Maybe when youre around her next time just casually mention like "oh i just noticed how many nb clothes i have i think i should start focusing on some bigger sizes" or if you want to be direct just say if shes going to buy anymore clothes a variety of sizes will be nice so you theyll last longer. Tell her youre worried that baby wont be able to wear all the cute clothes shes buying before he grows
How do I get my MIL to stop buying things in NB size?!?!?!?! She has now bought 2 pairs of shoes and 2 packs of sock (six packs of docs I might add) and our baby boy now has 6 NB outfits.. I only wanted to get 3 just in case because I don't know how big he will be.. I didn't want him to have a million things in NB size... She has gotten him clothes in other sizes but NB seems to be her thing..
You are graciously being given a gift, it is extremely rude to then dictate what you are given. Leave the tags on, and if they don't fit then you can return them at that time. My mom has purchased stuff, including things that I would not have chosen, but I thanked her and put them in his closet.
How do I get my MIL to stop buying things in NB size?!?!?!?! She has now bought 2 pairs of shoes and 2 packs of sock (six packs of docs I might add) and our baby boy now has 6 NB outfits.. I only wanted to get 3 just in case because I don't know how big he will be.. I didn't want him to have a million things in NB size... She has gotten him clothes in other sizes but NB seems to be her thing..
You are graciously being given a gift, it is extremely rude to then dictate what you are given. Leave the tags on, and if they don't fit then you can return them at that time. My mom has purchased stuff, including things that I would not have chosen, but I thanked her and put them in his closet.
That's what I'm doing except I won't be able to return them because she takes the tags off so we don't see the prices.. I do appreciate the gifts I just don't want her to waste her money on things that he may not be able to wear but one time.. And even then there is no guarantee that he will be able to wear them.. I don't want her upset with me in the end because she got him all this stuff that he can't wear.. It's all adorable and I'm grateful for her buying him things but she primarily is buying NB size..
How do I get my MIL to stop buying things in NB size?!?!?!?! She has now bought 2 pairs of shoes and 2 packs of sock (six packs of docs I might add) and our baby boy now has 6 NB outfits.. I only wanted to get 3 just in case because I don't know how big he will be.. I didn't want him to have a million things in NB size... She has gotten him clothes in other sizes but NB seems to be her thing..
You are graciously being given a gift, it is extremely rude to then dictate what you are given. Leave the tags on, and if they don't fit then you can return them at that time. My mom has purchased stuff, including things that I would not have chosen, but I thanked her and put them in his closet.
That's what I'm doing except I won't be able to return them because she takes the tags off so we don't see the prices.. I do appreciate the gifts I just don't want her to waste her money on things that he may not be able to wear but one time.. And even then there is no guarantee that he will be able to wear them.. I don't want her upset with me in the end because she got him all this stuff that he can't wear.. It's all adorable and I'm grateful for her buying him things but she primarily is buying NB size..
If you have a kohl's in your area and it's something they carried you can return it there even without tags on it. Only catch is it gets put on a card for in-store credit and you get the lowest selling price back. Who knows, you may end up needing that size for yyour LO. Only time will tell :-)
How do I get my MIL to stop buying things in NB size?!?!?!?! She has now bought 2 pairs of shoes and 2 packs of sock (six packs of docs I might add) and our baby boy now has 6 NB outfits.. I only wanted to get 3 just in case because I don't know how big he will be.. I didn't want him to have a million things in NB size... She has gotten him clothes in other sizes but NB seems to be her thing..
You are graciously being given a gift, it is extremely rude to then dictate what you are given. Leave the tags on, and if they don't fit then you can return them at that time. My mom has purchased stuff, including things that I would not have chosen, but I thanked her and put them in his closet.
That's what I'm doing except I won't be able to return them because she takes the tags off so we don't see the prices.. I do appreciate the gifts I just don't want her to waste her money on things that he may not be able to wear but one time.. And even then there is no guarantee that he will be able to wear them.. I don't want her upset with me in the end because she got him all this stuff that he can't wear.. It's all adorable and I'm grateful for her buying him things but she primarily is buying NB size..
If you have a kohl's in your area and it's something they carried you can return it there even without tags on it. Only catch is it gets put on a card for in-store credit and you get the lowest selling price back. Who knows, you may end up needing that size for yyour LO. Only time will tell :-)
I didn't know kohls did that.. Will definitely do that if he doesn't need them!!! Thank you!!!
My MIL and everyone else I see tells me I'm huge it never bothered me until I walked into work the other day after having a week off to be greeted with "omg look how big you are" and belly pats oh and let's not forget one girl ran up and pushed in my belly button -_- I've only gained 20 pounds
The comments of looking bigger than I am are really starting to get to me as well. My MIL stated "you look at least 7 or 8 months pregnant!" (I'm 23weeks and have only gained 15lbs). Also my mother commented on my weight after my last doctors appointment. She was shocked at how much I weighed! And then suggested I increase my workout. Ugh! It's going to be a long third trimester.
My MIL doesn't speak English, but since I'm learning Spanish, I think I take a lot of the things she says wrong because I only understand 6 out of 10 words she says. For example, the other day she called me gordita which I know means little fat. Maybe she meant it in another context but I just wanted to scream "I'm not fat I'm pregnant!". She's also extremely against pain medications for child birth and I'm like hell no. I know I want that epidural and no one is changing my mind. She also told me I probably wouldn't be able to breast feed because I have small nipples (she's never seen them). Finally, she laughed the other day at the idea of having a baby shower (I'm a FTM) because "Americans buy way too many things for their babies that they don't need". Well I'm pretty sure diapers and bottles are a necessity so...
But she is an extremely sweet lady usually. She once told me that it's impossible for her to be an annoying mother in law because of the language barrier.. But I think that's what causes a lot of miscommunications.
Edit: Oops! replied to wrong comment. How do i delete a comment?
My MIL keeps giving us baby gear from the 1920s and saying "wow, it's going to be a big baby." Or "are you sure it's not twins?!" I'm so self-conscious of my size and weight it makes me uncomfortable when she makes comments like that!!
Because I have a gay uncle my MIL thinks my baby will be gay..... Yes this is real life. She takes the name monster in law to another level
I'm trying to find the logic in that, but I'm at a complete loss. I can't believe there are people that think homosexuality is contagious. Even so, if your baby would turn out to be later in life, would she suddenly not love her grandchild anymore? I certainly would hope not!
Re: Things my MIL says
If one more person tells me "well your eating for two so you need more food" I may just lose it... I have a hard time eating full meals a lot of the time as well so I eat smaller meals and my MIL knows this and she the only one not jumping on my back about eating more.. It's everybody else from my grandma to my DHs family.. I think I may just snap if I hear the whole "well your eating for two"
I think that may be hormones... Except that would piss me off too..
She's also super gullible.. Like I feel a little bad saying this but she's just not that smart. She told me I need to ask my OB about "fetal ink syndrome". She saw a post about it on Facebook. The ink from the tattoos I've had for 5 years is somehow "going to get to my baby and there are baby's that are dying from this fetal ink syndrome when they're 4 and 5 years old. It's a new study. It's on Facebook "
Just....stop. Don't talk to me. DH tells her all the time quit believing stuff she sees on Facebook, but this is the worst and truly pissed me off today.
Edit to add- I've seen some stuff quite similar to that on Facebook as well. I always get a pretty good laugh out of it. Lol while I'm sure your MIL doesn't believe it will make you a bad mom I feel kind of bad for her that she believes the ink will cause issues for your baby.
O...M...G!!!!! My MIL does that too!!!! She's convinced everything about babies on Facebook is true!!! My FIL, my DH, and his uncle have all told her a lot of that stuff isnt true!! She drives me crazy!!!! She's the one who convinced my husband that eating too much spicy food is going to hurt the baby.. If my baby wants something spicy I'm going to eat it!! Just maybe not in front of them lol
But she is an extremely sweet lady usually. She once told me that it's impossible for her to be an annoying mother in law because of the language barrier.. But I think that's what causes a lot of miscommunications.
I guess it's more the shoes and all the soxs and that's what I'm hoping for is he will be able to wear a few of them!! Let's hope he doesn't take after me and is a huge baby!!! My brothers and I were all 10 pound babies!! I just don't think I want to try to fit little shoes on his feet straight from the womb!!! Even though they are cute!!
some bigger sizes" or if you want to be direct just say if shes going to buy anymore clothes a variety
of sizes will be nice so you theyll last longer. Tell her youre worried that baby wont be able to wear all the cute clothes shes buying before he grows
"are you sure you're not further along than they think? your belly looks HUGE"
keep in mind I am 26 weeks and have only gained 15 lbs....
also, "I only gained 15 lbs with my first baby"..... no you didn't.
That's what I'm doing except I won't be able to return them because she takes the tags off so we don't see the prices.. I do appreciate the gifts I just don't want her to waste her money on things that he may not be able to wear but one time.. And even then there is no guarantee that he will be able to wear them.. I don't want her upset with me in the end because she got him all this stuff that he can't wear.. It's all adorable and I'm grateful for her buying him things but she primarily is buying NB size..
I didn't know kohls did that.. Will definitely do that if he doesn't need them!!! Thank you!!!
Ugh! It's going to be a long third trimester.