Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: UO
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Right. And according to this moron my three siblings and I should have been stillborn along with my DS. I guess God was ok with that intervention on those particular days and allowed us to live? I don't know, I don't speak stupid.
It is an unpopular opinion board and many people are going to comment if they disagree. That's perfectly fine to me, but I think that some comments got out of hand and disrespectful. Like telling the woman who quit smoking if she had a miscarriage before we now know why, or some of the stuff said to other people that I can't seem to remember at this point. There's a difference in counteracting opinions and being judgey (is that even a real word?) and rude.
Also, in the future I think some of those comments could be avoided if some people don't post things that are BSC or MUD! (I also had to look those up and am trying to get this slang down!)
yeah i'm kinda with you there. people coming here from other boards just to call this person a cunt or wish horrible medical complications on her seems excessive. she said something really ridiculous and awful. she's obviously been completely brainwashed by somebody. i just hope her child survives long enough to read a book or two and realize it's parents are nuts. this thread probably doesn't need to carry on another 20 pages.
there's also a whole lot of bullying here towards people who aren't @redrose, all seems kinda juvenile to me.
This...agreed!We all have our beliefs and for our family it does not include medical intervention or surgical procedures. I feel it's rude that members here have lashed out without knowing me, my background or any of my reasoning.
And I think it's rude and extemely offensive that you are judging those that have had a csection without knowing them, their backgrounds, or reasoning.
I said in my post what she said about smoking/miscarriage was wrong. The comment about "oh you must be new" was said to me when I posted my UO on a completely unrelated topic. And I do realize some stuff is MUD which is also why I don't understand why people get so worked up about it. That's the reason I didn't comment on any of the posts that took up about 95% of this thread.
And I'm clearly saying this as someone who's actually read the entire thread. Why yes, I have an active and interesting social life on a Friday night, why do you ask?
Ok lurking from oct 2013. First off agreed with PP about the whole cs thing. You are ignorant if think cs mommies did not deliver their child. You come across as ignorant yourself.
The whole "higher power" yes I get it but you take out of proportion like so many others and it's annoying!! My pastor told us this story to get his point across in a sermon when I was in the 4th grade and I've never forgotten it..
A man was standing in his roof top because of a flood. A row boat comes his way and tells the guy to jump in. "No no The Lord will save me". A motor boat comes along and tells the guy to jump in. "No no The Lord will save me". A helicopter comes and tries to saves him. "No no The Lord will save me". Then a big wave crashes over the guy and he dies. In heaven the guys says Lord I don't understand I trusted you to save me. The Lord replies I tried to three times!!
You remind me of the guy in this story. You are going to trust "higher power" to save you but turn it down and not realize your "higher power" is trying to save you by providing you with doc that can and will save your life.
Kieran born 21.1.10
Angel baby 1 lost 18.6.13
Angel baby 2 lost 30.10.13
Exactly! You know, like, I'm gonna make the choice for you not to live, so I don't have to have an unnatural surgery. If you were old enough I'm sure you would make the same decision.
Go away already, MUD
Sincerely,
Not-born "mother" of a not-born.
May '13 was here....again.
Umm, OUCH! That makes me want to cross my legs and never uncross them again! Andplusalso, I don't think anyone here said c sections were always awful and vaginal deliveries were always a breeze, they simply said that PP is a fucking asshat for having the gall to tell those of us who had c sections that we didn't birth our children. Did a kid vacate my uterus in some manner? Yes? Ok, then I birthed a fucking child, end of story.
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Move along, guys. Show's over.
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LMAO
This convo is over a week old, we disagree, fine, let's be adults and move on! This horse has been beat enough.
Ooh, @redrosepinkdaisy, can I just add that using a computer is actually bad for your body's natural state? In fact, the second you sit down, your metabolism and circulatory systems slow. Typing is bad for your wrists, staring at a screen is bad for your neck, shoulders, back, and can alter your body's natural structure; and sitting increases your risk of an early death and heart attack regardless of outside factors.
So maybe your "small group of like-minded individuals" should re-consider your allowed use of computers. Just sayin'.
Whew, got scared for a minute. Good thing I'm mobile.
Please people, please! it's already dead!