May Randoms

kbrown2385

@b_1029 I am actually surprised it took so long. I’ll be testing next week and would be due towards the end of the month. 

@MrsVP614 I just saw that! Can’t wait to hear the name. 

b_1029

oh jk hah. I didn't know how it worked since we've always been lucky enough to have a TTGP person in there  

dpchickens

bows22 I'd be betting we did grow up near-ish each other.  (also, Season 4 of Cinemax's Banshee got moved to a small town super close to where I grew up after it started costing too much to film in North Carolina).  So, see if you're near there. 

bows22

@dpchickens ugh nope, other direction

edit for future stranger danger 

dpchickens

bows22  So we'll meet in the 'middle' at Franklin Regional?  LMAO!     But yay for some many Yinzers on this board!

kagesstarshroom

@shamrocandroll Yaassss! That exact thing happened to MH, but he was opposite of cautious and thought he'd just hurt himself normally & it turned out to be a really super bad sprain that maybe was a ligament tear? We'll never know.  Anyway anyway anyway, YAY! He'll be on puppy patrol sooner than later now!

@b_1029 Yeah, I agree w/ @marebear15 ... I thought it was weird it didn't appear May 1, since as far as I've been stalking, they usually would go up the first of the month/around that time? Also--thanks to both of you for the outfit compliments!

inthewoods23

I am satisfied to see that the TB gods got their message right when closing the thread in the 1st Tri from someone who decided to post their own pee stick thread instead of, you know, the pinned pregnancy test thread at the top.

NYTino24

1. I need a cake shake because 2. It’s CD 1.5 and I just made my RE appointment for June 12 and 3. We may be going to Disney in November. I’ve never gone before and I’m so intimidated. 

emeraldduchess

@NYTino24 check out WDW Prep School! She has TONS of tips and a podcast.

celticknotfire

@NYTino24 another website to check out is allears it's a .net not .com  They have tons of info, tips and reviews!

kels0091

I have a “what would you do?” Question for you all cause I’m at a loss. 

Ill use a spoiler cause I’m positive this will be long lol 

My bf works at our local mill and loves it. Well each summer they usually strike and all the employees are out of work for usually 2 months. During which time they can apply for employment insurance but not until 6 weeks after being laid off. They also are allowed and encouraged to picket twice a week and get 200$/every two weeks. Clearly that’s all pretty shitty considering we have a house and home renovations. 
His friend has a company about 18 hours a way that would give him the ability to work the entire strike time and make just over 16K after taxes and everything. So that’s greAt for just one month of work. 
The issue is he wants me and our two big catahoula dogs to go with him. We would stay in a tiny motel and it would be brutal with the dogs not having much space. 
The other option is I stay home and am a ‘single dog mom’ again (he was just away for 7 weeks going to school) and it was terrible. But do I want to quit my job and go with him or stay home and work and struggle with these dogs on my own. 
The only nice thing is either way we can continue our fertility treatments, I can fly to him whenever I need his assistance 😂. 

So what hat would you do ? Stay home and work and struggle with the crazy dogs lol. Or go with him and struggle with the dogs in a motel but be with your SO. ? 

Honestly i I think it kinda helps to have it written out in front of me. All of my friends and family say I should stay home cause they’re selfish lol. 

kagesstarshroom

@kels0091 I would probably stay at home, personally. I do get annoyed when MH is away and I have to take care of our dogs, but I also really like being AT HOME--being away from all our stuff gets old REALLY quickly. We've both--separately and together--travelled back to where we're from for weeks at a time, and just.... having our own space and our own stuff is so valuable to me. Plus, I really like my alone time-- which, being married, I don't get that much of-- and if I could go see MH every once in a while it could work for me. I would just go whenever we HAD to and also whenever we could afford to on top of that. This is all ME though, and REALLY you have to do what's best for you! It does seem like a LONG time to be away from each other though, that would definitely factor into my decision-- the longest MH has been away for work is a month.

whitealbum29

@kels0091 - Wait would he be away for one month or two? I think personally I would also stay behind and just plan a couple of trips to go see him (when needed for ttc and also just to have a couple little getaways with him if possible? Especially if it's closer to two months than one). Basically for a lot of the reasons @kagesstarshroom said....absence makes the heart grow fonder, not wanting to be away from my stuff and life if I could help it. It would be really hard for both of us, especially if it was two whole months, but in the grand scheme of things it's not a long time really! So I think I would rough it. If your family/friends are pushing you to stay, you should say "Okay but you're coming over and helping me with these dogs!"

kbrown2385

@kels0091 I’d stay. I agree with both @kagesstarshroom and @whitealbum29. The idea of living in a tiny motel for a couple of months gives me anxiety. Plus I’m sure the dogs would be more crazy than they normally are. 

celticknotfire

@kels0091 I would stay home but honestly I would do it mostly for my dogs.  I could not imagine being stuck with 2 dogs in a small hotel room.  It's definitely a long time to be apart but reuniting might help spice up TTC.  Personally I would make sure I do something nice for myself while he is gone to help with my sanity, like a massage or getting my hair done. 

kbrown2385

@kels0091 I will add, Ive done deployments with dh (he’s navy) and reuniting is the best part. Keeping busy with day to day things will make time go faster.

bows22

@kels0091 if it weren’t for the dogs I’d say go, and I would feel bad if my H wanted me to go, but 2 big dogs in a small motel for 2 months sounds like a nightmare, so I don’t think you would be selfish to stay home. 

brookert615

@kels0091 I personally would stay home with the pups. Maybe would try to do a little visit or two during the FW but it sounds stressful for not only you but your pups to be cooped up that long.

kels0091

You all make so much sense. That’s why I love this group so so much. 
It’s looking like he would leave June 30th and not be back until atleast middle of August. But it’s all dependent on the strike and how long it lasts. Both options stress me out but I agree, staying home is the most logical. 
@whitealbum29 I told them if I stay home I need one day every two weeks that they’d need to watch the pups. My in laws GRACIOUSLY accepted and offered once a week an overnight. That sounds like a dream lol. I don’t know if anyone knows anything about the catahoula Leopard breeds but they’re VERY hyper dogs. And I’ve got two lol 

thank you all so so much. ❤️

kagesstarshroom

@kels0091 Happy to help! When MH was away the longest, I taught myself two (of the 4, if you count ABCs as one, then briefly, I knew 3/4) Japanese alphabets lol. I don't really remember them, but my dream vacation is to go to Japan, so I felt like I was doing something, like, FOR our relationship when I did that. 

kels0091

@kagesstarshroom such a good idea! 
At my job I’m allowed to listen to music or whatever I want so I was thinking of learning Spanish !

whitealbum29

@kels0091 - Glad it was helpful and that your in-laws are cooperating! 

marebear15

@kels0091 - You've gotten a lot of great advice, but the only thing I have to add to the conversation is that YH's job is crazy! Who just plans a strike every summer? I'm half laughing, half shaking my head. Do they gain anything by striking? Or do they lose every summer?

dpchickens

NYTino24  Disney Food Blog.  Also, they usually have a free meal plan vacation that comes out in May/June that goes from end of August til beginning of November (a fall special).  Now, with Star Wars Land opening this fall, I know they were trying to get people in BEFORE that so I'm not sure if they'll do the fall special yet. But totally worth it if you can get that.  Especially if you go during the Food and Wine Festival at Epcot, which is hella awesome!
kels0091 I also would stay home, and keep myself busy.  Do you craft/sew/etc. because when DH is away for a bit I tend to pull out the stops on those (NO one can complain about me taking up the entire table or leaving a project that's partially finished out!  )!!!  If not, time to take up knitting or a crafty project?  LOL.  

shamrocandroll

@dpchickens Oooh, that's a great tip!  Maybe if MH went away fro 2 months, I'd actually finish the chicken quilt I started like 4 years ago and only finished like 1.5 squares on. 

m6agua

@kels0091 As others have said, I would stay. I was going to ask if the dogs could go to doggy daycare once or twice a week? Maybe take them to some dog parks to get their energy out. It is great that the in-laws are going to help out.

kels0091

@marebear15 they strike every year ! The union tries to take away certain things so they strike to try to keep them and more often then not their demands are met. It’s crazy to me as well but atleast they’re all pretty prepared for it. A lot of the guys plan their vacations or home renos for the summer simply because they know they’ll be out of work and don’t want to picket. 

dpchickens

kels0091 Sorry. My dad worked for a labor group who's union would strike every so often, and they'd try to plan medical needs (like surgeries) and the like for when they knew they'd be out as strike pay was similar to sick and accident pay... it's a mess.
But you could try to stay home this year and see how it goes.  At least he has an option to make money. And I agree with maybe taking a few weekend trips to see him or whatnot.  And if it really goes terribly and you hated it, then next year, make arrangements ahead of time if this is an option to maybe go with him and plan something out! (like, maybe you could get an air bnb or something with the dogs, or some sort of apartment rental for a few months or the like?)

shamrocandroll

@kels0091 Would YH possibly have an opportunity to work at his friend's company permanently?  Without knowing the details, it sounds like it might be a great opportunity to get away from the (reliably) unreliable income at his current job.  If so, then that would change how I would approach a long-term move versus a short-term one.

kels0091

@shamrocandroll his friend always offers it! The issue is it’s in a tiny town with nothing in it or around it for hours. Not even a hospital with full facilities is close by. 
Because we want a family, all of our family is on the same island as we live on as well, it wouldn’t work for him to do it permanently. Plus the job is very dangerous. I mean, really, any job is dangerous of course. It’s always good to know he has another option if something happens with his current job though. 

shamrocandroll

@kels0091 Ah, okay.  That makes sense.  In that case, I would personally stay home while he went for a couple of months.  It would definitely be hard, but would make things so much more romantic when he got back!!!  

mercury94

@kels0091 I think you’ve gotten a lot of good advice. Just want to add that we spent 3 nights in a small hotel with our dogs (2 big and 3 small) a few years back during a hurricane. That alone was a nightmare. Don’t think I could do it long term. Plus, the dogs were on edge the whole time with so many people walking by, etc. 

whitealbum29

The random drive by today...I'm just like....don't you have friends you can text??? I can think of at least 4 people off the top of my head who would genuinely LOVE to get a text from me with something I've peed on asking if they see a line. Zero of them are strangers on the internet!!! Jeeeeeesus woman!

shamrocandroll

@whitealbum29 Right?  I'll also never understand why these women have accounts on TB just ready to go in case of the unexpected possibly positive pee stick... 

dpchickens

I want to know WHO creates a TB account when they 'aren't even trying'???  I mean, just in case you randomly get KU and want to go drive-by a bunch of bitter hags waving your fertility and careless abandon in their faces?  Cause I think I've been doing my life wrong...

shamrocandroll

@dpchickens "Hmmm... how can I be most upsetting to a complete stranger?  Ooh!  I know!!!"

ETA punctuation

dpchickens

shamrocandroll And people wonder why I callously throw deets about my 5 MCs into people's faces... THIS is why.  Like, you were a jagoff first and I'm too tired of this journey to give 2 shits about your feelings anymore, so tuff shyte...

inthewoods23

@whitealbum29 the lady that got pissy with me in the positive test thread mentioned that everyone IRL that had seen that first test she posted could see that it was positive. And all I could think was, you show your pee sticks to your family like the moment you walked out of the bathroom with it?? Why do people reveal that so early?

whitealbum29

@inthewoods23 - maybe they're just the type of people who need as many people's input as possible on literally everything - weird strain of narcissism. People who post on Facebook stuff like, "I'm at the grocery store....which brand of orange juice does everybody like??" Like every aspect of their life is a journey we're all on with them. Everyone's just on the edge of their seat waiting to see your pee stick!

b_1029

this is just my competitive side speaking but TTGP ladies have 3 of the 4 leader spots right now and I'm wildly confused about the girl who has the #3 spot because she hasn't even been active since 4/6? WTF??? We need to figure out how to get her out of there and get another TTGP person on there 

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