@eatinwatermelonseeds definitely not a huge fan of nicknames, either. Being that my name is Gabrielle, I got called Gabby all the time growing up. I hated it. I just wanted to be called Gabrielle. I’ve gotten very good at standing up for that now, but when I was younger, I let a lot of it slide. Not so much anymore.
@poshspice an easy nickname for Logan James would be LJ! Then he could be one of the cool kids who goes by their initials, and definitely knows how to spell their name in kindergarten, haha.
@mrskoz428 it's so funny how much it varies. My friend's name is Elizabeth and she LOVES that she has so many possibilities. My name is Jamie. I'm either Jamie, or James. Though I haven't been called James in YEARS. Almost a decade now.
We had DD's name in 2 seconds. Actually we came up with her nickname (initials) first, and then the name came together almost immediately after. We are pretty set on DD #2's name, but may still change it up at the last minute, so we're telling people with that caveat. It's a family name. Alma Sue. Although I'm thinking about maybe tweaking the Sue to Susanne. I'm almost glad we're not having a boy because I wasn't as in love with our boy name this time around. We couldn't reuse our boy name from round one because it has the same initials as DD, so we had to start from scratch.
I have a name that doesn't have a nickname, and I always hated that growing up bc people would just make up weird things instead. My name is Aubrey, and my mom tried to call me Aubbie-Sue, friends called me L'Aubster or L'aubs or just Aub/Aubs. Gag. Therefore, one of my requirements is it must have a nickname.
@poshspice an easy nickname for Logan James would be LJ! Then he could be one of the cool kids who goes by their initials, and definitely knows how to spell their name in kindergarten, haha.
YOU GUYS. My old coworker just named her newborn son Logan James. I'm floored. I don't really see her anymore, I just saw her announcement on insta. I can still keep that name on my list, right??
@poshspice Absolutely! I don't know what I would do if a friend named their kid what we had chosen but see a lot of people saying that they can't name their kid something because of friends and my transient self is like "but will they be your friend in 5 years?"
When I was pregnant with DD2 one of my closest friends was pregnant with twin girls. We were keeping our considered names a secret, but she told me they had it narrowed down to three names for their girls, including Margo, Josephine, and Eliza........we had picked Eliza for DD2 and I could not beLIEVE we had a crossover on names because I hadn't cared for any of her boy names for her first. So I completely abandoned Eliza (got DH to agree on my favorite name anyway). Guess which of the three names they didn't use 🙄
@poshspice I think you should still use it! Friends of ours chose the same name that we picked for DD2. We both were pregnant at the same time although I was two months ahead, but she asked would it be weird for them to have the same name. We said no and go ahead and use it. We hang out all the time and it’s not weird at all.
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I feel like I wouldn’t mind if someone used the same name as me at all. After DD was born and we announced her name, a friend told me she was upset because it was the exact name, first and middle, she always dreamed of naming her daughter. She was single and not pregnant but I told her when the time comes I have no issue at all with her still using the same name. It’s not a big deal for me. All I care about is knowing I picked a name for my child that I love. I wouldn’t wanna change it if a friend had the same name already and I don’t expect people to give up a favorite name cuz I already used it. That would be unfair. The only exception would be immediate family.
Our best friends who have been trying for their first have the same girl name picked as us, and we’ve talked about it and agreed we wouldn’t care if we both used it 🤷🏻♀️
I have been very particular to pick names that are rather uncommon only because, as a teacher, I really don't want to name my child something common, have a student by that name and have that child be a living hell! My front-runner for a boy is Tennyson. DH likes Haakon. We are set on Beatrice for a girl. We had Annemarie as the middle name but I'm second guessing it now...
I mostly don’t care about having the same name but there’s one girl in my circle I would absolutely abandon a name for. She makes everythingggg about her and would be like “you loved the name I picked sooo much, I picked it first and you copied me because you want to be just like me”. Of course, not in so many words. When I registered for my wedding (married two months after her), she went through my registry and sent me snaps of all the things I had registered for that she apparently had too and I hadn’t thought of it (like a freaking colander). It was so obnoxious that I took off every single thing she snapped me.
So anyway. In general I don’t care. But her? I’d change it 😂 I also wouldn’t care if someone named their kid the same as my kid.
@secicc12@megsb615 oh don’t you worry. It’s been done. She’s being “distanced” which will be awkward but whatever, better for my life! As a side note, I do have a lot of really great friends who treat me well and love my baby and will love this baby. I should talk about them more 😂 it’s really only three I have issues with, two are mostly okay and this third is 👋🏽 👋🏽 👋🏽
@mrskoz428 I really like Tennyson! My goal for names is always unique enough that there won't be 5 in his class, but common enough everyone knows how to pronounce and spell it. This coming from someone with a name nobody could pronounce or spell and it drove me absolutely bananas lol.
@sleepy33 I just had a memory pop up from when a worker at Arby’s tried to spell my name (Gahbreil). Um, not even a little bit! Plus, I was frequently called Gabriel (like the MALE angel) more times than I can count. I so hope I can convince DH on Tennyson, but he’s very convinced it sounds like a girl’s name.
@sleepy33 I just had a memory pop up from when a worker at Arby’s tried to spell my name (Gahbreil). Um, not even a little bit! Plus, I was frequently called Gabriel (like the MALE angel) more times than I can count. I so hope I can convince DH on Tennyson, but he’s very convinced it sounds like a girl’s name.
I mean, it says SON right there in the name, come on DH! People didn't mess up my first name too badly, but they frequently call me Audrey instead of Aubrey, and also frequently ask how to spell it. My maiden name was challenging, FFFC I totally kept my ex's last name after we divorced because it's a very common, simple name and I love not having to spell or correct people's pronunciation of it lol. Luckily, new SO also has a nice easy last name, so that's a nice bonus.
When I lived in New Mexico I got Jaime (hi-may) a lot. My name is spelled Jamie and I'm not a Mexican man so... And my maiden name is Italian and had ello at the end, so I got a call one day for "the parents of hi-may ----eyo" "um well, it's Jamie... And I'm 21." 😂
@sleepy33 I was so excited to change my name... But now I still get people spelling it wrong. I can't win. And before there was only one other person with my full name on Facebook. Now there are thousands.
@sleepy33 what other way is their to spell Aubrey? It’s not like Aubree is a super commen spelling! Agreed on the SON in the name, I mean come on babe! 😂😂 So not judging you on keeping the last name! I would do the same thing! Plus, it’s a shit ton of work to change a name! @eatinwatermelonseeds coming from a town with a large Hispanic population, I can totally appreciate this! 😂😂😂
Guys my full name is Katherine and I literally had teachers in school who read it off on the first day as “KathREEN”. Like how more common of a first name can you get? What I decided after that is when it comes to name pronounciations people are just lazy. Well dumb and lazy. My married name is not that common, but easy and phonetic and I don’t think I’ve ever had it pronounced correctly at my Drs appt.
My best friend had a really uncommon name growing up and so it’s very important to her that her kids not deal with the pronounciation issues she dealt with. Her daughters name is Vivian and she was fretting on how to spell her nickname- Vivie or Vivi. I told her that it didn’t matter, that she would be called whatever a lazy person felt like calling her. She didn’t believe me and went with Vivie- but I still think people will call her Veevee.
@sleepy33 I went from an east last name to a very difficult one that one one can pronounce or spell and when I spell it over the phone I have to say P as is Paul..etc because of all the letters that sound like other letters. Had trouble with my first name too- would either get Brian or Brianna when clearly there is no a on the end of my name.
@bpietronicco My personal rule is that I will correct people twice, if they don't get it after that, they are too self-involved to bother. I will also tell people if they aren't sure/don't think they'll remember, they can just call me Bree, which I actually go by, rather than Brianna, which is not my name.
@brie_and_almonds I hear ya. I have a very long last name (married into it all) so I don't even try with that. But my first name ends in -ie instead of the more common -y. That I expect people to get. I used to have a job where I would email back and forth with this guy Frank multiple times to set up a visit each month. After 1.5 years, he never got it. So I started addressing him as Franc. I still don't know if he ever realized it, but I just couldn't let it slide.
Re: Favorite Names Thread
We are pretty set on DD #2's name, but may still change it up at the last minute, so we're telling people with that caveat. It's a family name. Alma Sue. Although I'm thinking about maybe tweaking the Sue to Susanne.
I'm almost glad we're not having a boy because I wasn't as in love with our boy name this time around. We couldn't reuse our boy name from round one because it has the same initials as DD, so we had to start from scratch.
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So anyway. In general I don’t care. But her? I’d change it 😂 I also wouldn’t care if someone named their kid the same as my kid.
@eatinwatermelonseeds coming from a town with a large Hispanic population, I can totally appreciate this! 😂😂😂
My best friend had a really uncommon name growing up and so it’s very important to her that her kids not deal with the pronounciation issues she dealt with. Her daughters name is Vivian and she was fretting on how to spell her nickname- Vivie or Vivi. I told her that it didn’t matter, that she would be called whatever a lazy person felt like calling her. She didn’t believe me and went with Vivie- but I still think people will call her Veevee.
I even get Brianna after I introduce myself as Brianne. It’s crazy- most times I just give up and do not correct them.