I did @hoosiermama-2! I went 13 months period free after baby #1 and it was right when I stopped BFing. Now, we'll just wait and see what happens this time.
@tvh1982 I can't even begin to imagine how frustrating and exhausting that must feel from time to time. I wish there was a way to help - know that we are here as your sounding board and I hope it cools there off and LO decides sleeping in is really great idea. Creepy internet hugs to you!
Thank you ladies. Its nice to be able to say it out loud without hearing 'but you wanted to do it on your own' or 'this is what you wanted'
My mum has still her mum sense on so she asked if my LO could stay over tomorrow night. So am looking forward to that! I just dropped my LO off at daycare where she goes every Wednesday morning. She absolutely loves it. She has enough children around her to get entertained I'd have her go more often as she loves it, but it's too expensive when one isn't working.
I have been thinking about moving back, my uncle proposed he would drive all my stuff back again. I might even get my redundancy contract taken back as they struggle in my department. But I know that's not going to make me happy either. I kinda felt my adventure there was over. (But the stability and the luxury life one has there is very tempting to go back to) Guess I'll be ok once I have a job and know I'll be able to do it all financially. Accept that my sister is who she is, and maybe be better in asking help from my mum and one of her besties that sooooo badly want to be a grandma. Im just still that 3 year old that says 'doing it myself!'
I have a hard time feeling sorry for the monthly visitors...mine started coming around exactly 28days after my LO was born.
@tvh1982 I'm sorry you feel so alone. I feel alone quite often with my family so far away, I can't imagine them being nearby and still feeling alone. I hope you got some time to recharge this morning. ETA; I got my period about 2-3 months after A was born. It's still not regular though (and I was always regular before, 30 days on the dot) which frequently gives me heart attack a when I'm approaching 10 days late. But it is much lighter and less painful than before.
@RhodaMorgenstern You are probably just ovulating later than normal. Many things can cause this, such as being ill, stressed, travel and much more.
Not sure how much you all know, but I started on the TTGP board and learned so much! The time between ovulation and your period (luteal phase) is always consistent. The time between your period and ovulation (follicular phase) can vary.
@m6agua I had no idea, thank you! I got pregnant on my second try so I never really learned the ins and outs of ovulation. But ovulating later is probably because I'm still breastfeeding, right?
I'm having such a hard time today, especially with adjusting to LO becoming mobile. I feel like before I could set her down in the same room as DS and she would play while he kind of kept to himself and played on the other side of the room, but now she just instantly crawls to wherever he is and starts trying to climb on top of him, take his toys, etc. It's not fair to him and I'm concerned for her safety because he's not always aware that she's right there and isn't careful enough to not step on her or drop things on her. I can separate them upstairs, but our living room is TINY and there is no way to make separate spaces, but it's also open to the kitchen, so I need to be down there frequently. I just feel like I have to be RIGHT THERE supervising everything from less than a foot away at this point and every time I start to make dinner or get DS snack I'm having to stop every few seconds to pull DD off of DS or keep her from harm.
I also think she is starting to go through a leap because she has been super fussy and in this mood where if I put her down she fusses and whines, but if I pick her up she wiggles and practically jumps out of my arms because she wants to go explore stuff.
And the last part of my vent is that it's 108 degrees here today and we're trapped inside with an a/c that has been struggling to keep the house under 80 degrees by the afternoon. Losing. My. Mind.
@mrsmoose5 Sounds like it's time to head to the playground at the mall! Let your son get his wiggles out in the big kids area and keep your daughter occupied in the little kids area and you enjoy the AC!
@MrsMaryK2016 Our mall doesn't haven't have separate big and little kids' areas. It's just one small toddler area, so there would be nothing for DD to do or anywhere for her to go . Pretty much the only indoor place we can go where it's friendly for both of them is the learning center where I take DS to a weekly class, and we were there yesterday morning and will go again tomorrow.
@RhodaMorgenstern I haven't tried. We can't go to for a stroll because of the extreme heat, and I don't want to strap an energetic 2-year-old in the carseat and drive around when he wants/needs to be playing and running around
@mrsmoose5 Sounds like it's time to head to the playground at the mall! Let your son get his wiggles out in the big kids area and keep your daughter occupied in the little kids area and you enjoy the AC!
I'm so glad you mentioned this. I think S is getting around enough that I can take her there on the weekends to get out of the house without sweating our butts off.
It's probably due to breastfeeding and your hormones @rhodamorgenstern. I don't become pregnant naturally so I've learned a lot about my cycle. For me pregnancy has gotten my hormones aligned (normally I miss out on a few) so I'm regular and heavy (which means I probably will be able to get pregnant naturally...if only there was a DH!) Its funny how our bodies work due to pregnancy, breastfeeding, stress and what not.
I might be very easy going @mrsmoose5, but what is exactly the problem if you let them 'play' together? Id say they both learn how to interact. Will they really hurt each other that bad? In the Netherlands we use a sort of square playpen in the living room. Its ideal if one needs to leave the room and they are mobile. Not all babies are a big fan, as once they are mobile they want to be mobile. But it lets you use both hands and eyes too cook. Or maybe set her in her highchair while cooking, you'll interact with her and DS can play uninterrupted?
@m6agua I had no idea, thank you! I got pregnant on my second try so I never really learned the ins and outs of ovulation. But ovulating later is probably because I'm still breastfeeding, right?
I'm not too sure. I haven't done much research on breastfeeding because I couldn't.
I recommend this book to anyone and everyone! Yes it is about trying to get pregnant, but it is so much more. It actually explains how a woman's cycle works and there is info about PCOS, endometriosis, miscarriage, and I think breastfeeding. I am so glad I bought it, I've loaned it to a couple friends and I plan on using it to teach my daughter. What they teach in school is garbage! It's called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. I am having a hard time with links, but it is on amazon.
@desoky01 oh jeeze, his life is clearly so difficult, having to move an iPad.. give me a break. You wouldn't believe the things I've had to move out of my way today
@desoky01 I get it. This morning H got mad damanding we need new sheets (as if these are defective) because side of the fitted sheet keeps coming off at night. No matter how many times I tell him it's his fault. Easier to blame the sheets I suppose.
I seriously don't know what the F to do. We're in a heat wave, it's 8:30 pm and currently 102 outside. We have a/c but it struggles to keep up in this heat and the kids' rooms are upstairs where it's hottest. Right now DD's room is 81 degrees and she cannot sleep. She is losing her mind crying, and clearly so tired but so uncomfortable in that room. I tried taking her downstairs and sitting on the couch with her, but she just got stimulated by being there and kept trying to sit up and wiggle around. DH isn't even home yet and I have no idea what to do, I'm just sitting here sobbing while she screams her head off.
I finally got her to sleep in her crib, but now of course I'm worried about her overheating, so I'm just sitting here watching her breathe on the monitor. She doesn't seem like she is overheating, just over-tired and uncomfortable. I have her in just a onesie. Her skin feels normal/cool and I took her temp several times and it's normal. I'm trying to tell myself that there are babies all around the world who have never even known an air conditioner and they are just fine, but still, this is just so hot and it's clearly bugging her
I'm not sure this helps if it's that hot, but her we put frozen water bottles in front of a fan so it'll blow cold air. It might be just enough for her to fall asleep next time.
It just keeps on coming at me; I'm in the ER with my husband. He woke me up around 11, in awful pain like I've never seen. He went to the ER, I frantically called everyone I know and ended up posting an SOS on the mommy group I belong to on Facebook. A woman responded and came over to stay while A sleeps. We just found out my husband has a kidney stone lodged in his urinary tract so he's here all night while I head home and try to get a few hours sleep before I take A to daycare and head to work.
@RhodaMorgenstern I don't even know what to say. I'm so sorry that you are going through so much right now. I hope that once the stone passes and your mom gets settled things will calm down for you.
@mrsmoose5 Do you have a pack n play you could move downstairs temporarily?
@rhodamorgenstern I'm so sorry! Thank god for mom Facebook groups right? I'm in a local one too and they really do step up when another mom needs help. It's our modern day village I hope your husband feels better soon!
@RhodaMorgenstern I'm sorry that sucks! Hopefully things will start settling down soon. I feel like the universe is giving a lot of us a hard time (in different ways) right now.
Mine is a petty one compared to what others are going through. Just got a bill from the pediatrician and I'm all wtf because I pay a copay for his visits so there shouldn't have been any extra charges. I looked at the date and it was his 6 month well child visit. I guess we're being billed for an office visit since they diagnosed his ear infection during it. They have signs in the room saying if they discuss a problem and diagnose something you may be charged for it but in this case I didn't bring up any symptoms, he just literally noticed it while doing his routine checkup stuff.
I am so sorry @RhodaMorgenstern! I hope this is the last of the crap for a while. The silver lining is that at least you know what it is and that he will feel better soon. It's Friday and I hope you can take a few deep breathes and find some quiet time for your brain - there's a lot going on in your world!
@mrsmoose5 I'm glad LO eventually slept. 81 degrees is manageable and as long as she is hydrated, you're OK. I know this might be the obvious, but do you have her sleeping in just a diaper? That's always my first go-to in super hot situations. The next is the bath tub. Good luck, mama!
@mrsmoose5 I hope everything calmed down and sleep was had. I would probably run out to the store today and pick up some fans that way tonight will be better.
Thanks everyone. My husband's still in the hospital and this morning was a disaster but my sister is coming down from NY to rescue the day. Thank God. I want to do something nice for the mom who came last night. I initially thought I'd get her and her husband a gift certificate to a nice restaurant and offer to babysit but she has 3 kids and her 10 month old still wakes in the night. Any suggestions? @kvruns was it $10? I got the same bill and no clue what it's for. I call my pediatricians all the time on nights and weekends so giving them an extra $10 is fine by me.
What about a subscription to BlueApron @RhodaMorgenstern? Or some food delivery? It would clearly get used and make life easier for a few nights for them without you taking on more than you can.
@RhodaMorgenstern Omg that is awful! I totally wish we were all your local mom's group so we could do something other than send moral support and internet hugs. I'm glad things are a bit better this morning and that your sister is coming to save the day.
@jsmai We do and that was going to be my plan if it went on much longer, but H gets home after 9 p.m. and makes a lot of noise coming in and eating his dinner down there so I wanted to wait because I knew he would just wake her up.
@SandNStarsNJ I have her in just a onesie and then add layers throughout the night as it cools down and our a/c can start doing it's job. By 3 am her room was back down to a normal 71 degrees.
@kvruns@Ladybug2821 Definitely getting fans TODAY! Luckily yesterday was the hottest day and it's supposed to start cooling down from here, but still it's going to be 101 today
MY FFFC is that I mostly avoid posting in the Mom Wins thread because I'm scared it will jinx me. I know it's silly but I just can't help it. Sometimes I'll start a post and then delete it and think nope, not getting jinxed today.
@kvruns how odd, has anyone been able to explain it? PS I clearly do not want to be at work and have zero energy or desire to do anything other post on the Bump.
Ugh I'm a bad wife today. Im SO frustrated. I feel like as soon as M naps I start cleaning. I feel like everyday it's crazy between tidying and sweeping and vacuuming and mopping and dishes etc and H comes home, makes the place a mess and then says things like "the house is so dirty, we need to clean this weekend" he has 2 jobs. Recyclables/ garbage and bathrooms. Wellllll... the recyclables are starting to pile up on the counter. There is garbage by the back door abd my master bath... I don't even want to use it anymore it's disgusting. The main bath currently has his tool box in it because we're supposed to install a gate.. I can't open the porch closet because my winter tires are there since he hasn't gone to drop them off in storage yet (not to mention that he still has his winter tires on his car). I want to rip his head off. And I get so cranky when the house is so dirty I don't want to deal with M. I don't want to do the dishes. I just want to throw all the mugs at his face. (Anger much?!). He serious "does the dishes" by putting stuff in the dishwasher that I later have to take out and wash by hand... and then leave plates by the sink.
But here's why I'm a bad wife.. today is the anniversary of his dad's death. It's been 8 years and he passed away when he was young. He's having a really hard time with it today (the night before his death was a hard night for him). I'm trying to be a good wife but I seriously want to cry with all this mess. Anndd we committed to going to my friends (who moved MONTHS ago and I've yet to see her place) to celebrate another friends birthday with BBQ and cake (she is only here for a few days and flies back home tomorrow) and now he doesn't want to go. I understand but I'm still disappointed.
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@tvh1982 I can't even begin to imagine how frustrating and exhausting that must feel from time to time. I wish there was a way to help - know that we are here as your sounding board and I hope it cools there off and LO decides sleeping in is really great idea. Creepy internet hugs to you!
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
Its nice to be able to say it out loud without hearing 'but you wanted to do it on your own' or 'this is what you wanted'
My mum has still her mum sense on so she asked if my LO could stay over tomorrow night.
So am looking forward to that!
I just dropped my LO off at daycare where she goes every Wednesday morning. She absolutely loves it. She has enough children around her to get entertained
I'd have her go more often as she loves it, but it's too expensive when one isn't working.
I have been thinking about moving back, my uncle proposed he would drive all my stuff back again. I might even get my redundancy contract taken back as they struggle in my department.
But I know that's not going to make me happy either. I kinda felt my adventure there was over. (But the stability and the luxury life one has there is very tempting to go back to)
Guess I'll be ok once I have a job and know I'll be able to do it all financially.
Accept that my sister is who she is, and maybe be better in asking help from my mum and one of her besties that sooooo badly want to be a grandma.
Im just still that 3 year old that says 'doing it myself!'
I have a hard time feeling sorry for the monthly visitors...mine started coming around exactly 28days after my LO was born.
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@tvh1982 *hugs*
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019ETA; I got my period about 2-3 months after A was born. It's still not regular though (and I was always regular before, 30 days on the dot) which frequently gives me heart attack a when I'm approaching 10 days late. But it is much lighter and less painful than before.
@RhodaMorgenstern You are probably just ovulating later than normal. Many things can cause this, such as being ill, stressed, travel and much more.
Not sure how much you all know, but I started on the TTGP board and learned so much! The time between ovulation and your period (luteal phase) is always consistent. The time between your period and ovulation (follicular phase) can vary.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I also think she is starting to go through a leap because she has been super fussy and in this mood where if I put her down she fusses and whines, but if I pick her up she wiggles and practically jumps out of my arms because she wants to go explore stuff.
And the last part of my vent is that it's 108 degrees here today and we're trapped inside with an a/c that has been struggling to keep the house under 80 degrees by the afternoon. Losing. My. Mind.
@RhodaMorgenstern I haven't tried. We can't go to for a stroll because of the extreme heat, and I don't want to strap an energetic 2-year-old in the carseat and drive around when he wants/needs to be playing and running around
I don't become pregnant naturally so I've learned a lot about my cycle.
For me pregnancy has gotten my hormones aligned (normally I miss out on a few) so I'm regular and heavy (which means I probably will be able to get pregnant naturally...if only there was a DH!)
Its funny how our bodies work due to pregnancy, breastfeeding, stress and what not.
I might be very easy going @mrsmoose5, but what is exactly the problem if you let them 'play' together?
Id say they both learn how to interact.
Will they really hurt each other that bad?
In the Netherlands we use a sort of square playpen in the living room.
Its ideal if one needs to leave the room and they are mobile. Not all babies are a big fan, as once they are mobile they want to be mobile. But it lets you use both hands and eyes too cook.
Or maybe set her in her highchair while cooking, you'll interact with her and DS can play uninterrupted?
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I recommend this book to anyone and everyone! Yes it is about trying to get pregnant, but it is so much more. It actually explains how a woman's cycle works and there is info about PCOS, endometriosis, miscarriage, and I think breastfeeding. I am so glad I bought it, I've loaned it to a couple friends and I plan on using it to teach my daughter. What they teach in school is garbage! It's called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. I am having a hard time with links, but it is on amazon.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019It might be just enough for her to fall asleep next time.
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@mrsmoose5 Do you have a pack n play you could move downstairs temporarily?
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019@RhodaMorgenstern oh no hope your H is ok. And wow on finding the other mom to come help, that is awesome!
@mrsmoose5 I'm glad LO eventually slept. 81 degrees is manageable and as long as she is hydrated, you're OK. I know this might be the obvious, but do you have her sleeping in just a diaper? That's always my first go-to in super hot situations. The next is the bath tub. Good luck, mama!
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
@mrsmoose5 I hope everything calmed down and sleep was had. I would probably run out to the store today and pick up some fans that way tonight will be better.
@kvruns was it $10? I got the same bill and no clue what it's for. I call my pediatricians all the time on nights and weekends so giving them an extra $10 is fine by me.
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
@jsmai We do and that was going to be my plan if it went on much longer, but H gets home after 9 p.m. and makes a lot of noise coming in and eating his dinner down there so I wanted to wait because I knew he would just wake her up.
@SandNStarsNJ I have her in just a onesie and then add layers throughout the night as it cools down and our a/c can start doing it's job. By 3 am her room was back down to a normal 71 degrees.
@kvruns @Ladybug2821 Definitely getting fans TODAY! Luckily yesterday was the hottest day and it's supposed to start cooling down from here, but still it's going to be 101 today
PS I clearly do not want to be at work and have zero energy or desire to do anything other post on the Bump.
Im SO frustrated. I feel like as soon as M naps I start cleaning. I feel like everyday it's crazy between tidying and sweeping and vacuuming and mopping and dishes etc and H comes home, makes the place a mess and then says things like "the house is so dirty, we need to clean this weekend"
he has 2 jobs. Recyclables/ garbage and bathrooms. Wellllll... the recyclables are starting to pile up on the counter. There is garbage by the back door abd my master bath... I don't even want to use it anymore it's disgusting. The main bath currently has his tool box in it because we're supposed to install a gate.. I can't open the porch closet because my winter tires are there since he hasn't gone to drop them off in storage yet (not to mention that he still has his winter tires on his car). I want to rip his head off. And I get so cranky when the house is so dirty I don't want to deal with M. I don't want to do the dishes. I just want to throw all the mugs at his face. (Anger much?!). He serious "does the dishes" by putting stuff in the dishwasher that I later have to take out and wash by hand... and then leave plates by the sink.
But here's why I'm a bad wife.. today is the anniversary of his dad's death. It's been 8 years and he passed away when he was young. He's having a really hard time with it today (the night before his death was a hard night for him). I'm trying to be a good wife but I seriously want to cry with all this mess.
Anndd we committed to going to my friends (who moved MONTHS ago and I've yet to see her place) to celebrate another friends birthday with BBQ and cake (she is only here for a few days and flies back home tomorrow) and now he doesn't want to go. I understand but I'm still disappointed.
Ugh. Sorry for the long vent.