I'm sorry to hear that so many people had such a bad Monday! I was right there with you, overwhelmed with stress and constantly feeling on the verge of some kind of panic attack. It was a "hold it together on the phone then cry on the floor as soon as you hang up, at least twice that I can remember" kind of day. Here's to hoping that everyone has a MUCH better Tuesday!!!
@Jen_Shoes HAPPY 30th BIRTHDAY!!! I hope your day turned out great and you were able to do something nice for yourself. And I second the great advice that everyone has given about the situation with H. Stay strong!
@Yiggle09 I'm so sorry to hear about your puppy dog That's never easy!
@starphish18 I'm definitely feeling stretched...not uncomfortably so, but my belly button is pushed out to almost even with my belly now, and *TMI* I have this irrational fear that it's going to burst and all of my insides are going to come shooting out
@laurapalmier Yes, potholes and sneezes are the worst right now! I'm fortunate so far in that sneezes are not causing me to pee, but they hurt so much. I wonder if it's just because my ab muscles aren't able to brace my midsection as well.
@kns1988 Yes! to the thirst. Whats up with that I get so thirsty lately. I hear you on the chores, it gets exhausting. I was trying to photograph LLR stuff last night and finally had to stop because my stomach was feeling so tight and uncomfortable (BH?).
@starphish18 I feel stretching in random spots. I don't feel like my skin is too tight or anything, but more so the muscles underneath are getting a work out.
@BabyMC517 I got mine yesterday too! Exact same box, with the elephant. H was like why'd you buy all this? I didn't! Woohoo! If the Target bag had more stuff I was interested in I'd totally go grab another.
@Yiggle09 I am so sorry about your dog! Losing a fur baby is so, so hard. Please be gentle on yourself and don't rush to get a new pup if you aren't ready.
@laurapalmier your question to @BabyMC517 made me laugh out loud. I am expecting to pay over $6,000 out of pocket for delivery of this baby. I have insurance.
@Yiggle09 - I am so sorry about your dog! I lost one of my dogs last September, and I still miss him every day Hopefully you're able to find a dog to help the healing for you and your remaining pup.
@Jen_Shoes - Happy (belated) birthday! Welcome to the 30 club I hope you were able to take some time to do something for yourself!
Work has been nuts lately, and my brain has a hard time focusing on non-baby related things. In other news, our house offer was accepted! We're now anxiously awaiting loan approval- we should know by tomorrow! We were pre-approved for much more than we ended up going with, but DH's job is not traditional, so apparently it's up in the air as to whether lenders will accept it. *Fingers crossed* I love the house we're trying to purchase, and it's in a much better location- it would be amazing if we could move before this little nugget arrives!
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Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@nda_roxybabe I don't think BuyBuyBaby and Babies R Us offer any welcome or registry bags, but they offer deals on your registry items once baby is born (like a discount on items on yet purchased after you EDD.) Also, babies R Us does a registry start up event with lots of free goodies and a registry completion event, I think with free goodies. So if you live near one that might be worth checking out.
@starphish18 I find that if I hold my belly up or bring my legs closer to my belly when I sneeze I almost always avoid the sharp pain, but I've also heard people say that stretching out helps them
Speaking of insurance, I just found out mine most likely doesn't cover a wig even though I have a prescription from my oncologist. It's not a huge deal - I can buy a wig myself. But I was kind of having a rough cancer-feelings morning as it is and this definitely didn't help.
@nda_roxybabe BRU has a welcome bag. Mine had the same diaper and pouch thing from amazon, a few small items, and a MAM bottle and pacifier. The pacifier is so small and perfect. I drove out of my way just to go get the bag for that pacifier. I really loved their registry last time. You have a full year to return anything off the registry (which is a blessing when you realize you do not need something after 6 months), Also anything anyone purchases off your registry you get rewards back in the form of a gift card. 10% I believe. Because of that I got a huge gift card a months after DS was born which was awesome to buy some items that I hadn't realized I would need. Also there is a 10% completion discount. The ease of returns and the rewards was a huge help last time.
@RainyDays86 Ugh! That sucks about them not covering a wig. I am sorry. When you do get one I hope you find a style you like! My MIL ended up with a small collection of them (cancer 4 times) and it was kinda fun to see her switch up her style.
Thanks for commiserating guys. In the grand scheme of things it isn't a huge deal - it's not like a wig is medically necessary. It just would have been validating to have my insurance company recognize the impact that losing ones hair has on mental well being. Which is silly because I know insurance companies are notoriously heartless and awful.
@RainyDays86 That stinks!! I hate insurance companies. They really are heartless. Maybe you can find a wig of a hair do that you might not try for real and see if it works for you!
@RainyDays86 They really are so heartless! That just plain sucks they won't cover it. I hope you find an awesome wig in spite of them. Did you end up making it through the first 3-5 days after with no major side effects?
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@RainyDays86 aw, that doesn't seem fair! I'm sorry. I hope you are able to find the perfect wig- maybe even a couple of extras in styles you've always wanted to try but haven't been brave enough to try!
I guess I have a mild vent too. We are staying with my FIL while we look for a house. After what feels like forever saving and renting we are ready to buy. Now he's not the most emotionally supportive but holy hell he's hit new heights lately. We found out about baby number three and he almost immediately started in on DH about getting a visectomy, like our reproductive decisions some how involve him. If that's not enough DH and I found out this morning that his younger cousin ( on his mom's side) just passed away and while he and I were in the kitchen calling family and crying FIL decides that's the time to say "well her mom was told not to have kids." Like really?! WTF?!
@bacorrea I use an app the helps me keep track of how much water I should be drinking. After landing in the ER due to dehydration DH made me do something. It helps a lot and I'm pretty strict with myself. I only count water or anything that doesn't contain caffeine.
soooo...since i am really enjoying this group of wonderful (drama free) ladies we got going on here, does anyone know do these boards typically continue once the baby is born? FTM here and thinking it would be nice to have this kind of support after peanut (team green) is here.
soooo...since i am really enjoying this group of wonderful (drama free) ladies we got going on here, does anyone know do these boards typically continue once the baby is born? FTM here and thinking it would be nice to have this kind of support after peanut (team green) is here.
Yup! If you have a good group and people continue to stay active. If you look at all the BMB, some go waaay back and they still chat. Then again, once you narrow down the group and build a good relationship I think a lot migrates to FB (gasp!). I'm finally feeling more on board with taking this relationship to the next level. Not quite there yet, but I could see it.
All my blah blah blah above reminded me of a thought I had over the weekend that had me feeling down.
Does anyone else struggle to find/ keep friends as an adult? I feel like I keep making friends and then realize they kind of suck or flake or whatever and I once again find myself feeling friendless. My BFF as well as my other closest friends live out of state. I just want someone to hangout with sometime, or a good group I can invite to my baby shower and I feel like it's so hard. Anyone else?
@nda_roxybabe I'm in the same boat. I moved out of state with my Hubby and the people I've meet where we live now are just not ones you call to hang out or do anything with. I also find that my friends who met through me do stuff and don't invite me anymore. Totally sucks! Too bad all of us didn't live close together to meet up.
Also to whomever asked about BRU registry bags, mine sucked. Got a Kiinde bottle and refill bag and a few coupons that expired the next week and that's all. If you aren't registering there it's not worth doing it for the welcome bag.
@nda_roxybabe I'm in the same boat. I moved out of state with my Hubby and the people I've meet where we live now are just not ones you call to hang out or do anything with. I also find that my friends who met through me do stuff and don't invite me anymore. Totally sucks! Too bad all of us didn't live close together to meet up.
Also to whomever asked about BRU registry bags, mine sucked. Got a Kiinde bottle and refill bag and a few coupons that expired the next week and that's all. If you aren't registering there it's not worth doing it for the welcome bag.
Yea, I had a group of SIL's friends that became my friends. Then they got mad at SIL and stopped inviting me too. It's hard! I'm hoping having a baby and maybe joining some local mom groups will help.
@nda_roxybabe I feel ya! Dh was always very social and I tend to be more of a home body. I had a very close knit group of friends growing up but we all moved away. I didn't enjoy college because I didn't enjoy partying and missed my old friends and was so happy when DH and I decided to move back to our hometown, but it was a big adjustment because everyone we had grown up with was still gone and since we weren't in college anymore it was harder to meet people. We have a group of friends we love from church, but we are by far the youngest and there were 11 babies born to that friend group last year so everyone has had a harder time getting together. Plus some of us are on round two now. Also, a lot of folks from that group already knew each other so often times we feel like outsiders. Kinda sucks.
I just went to look at my amazon registry and someone ordered off it so I get the welcome box now!! Can't wait
I got on for a few minutes yesterday to lurk so I saw how many other people were having crummy mondays. There were multiple times that I cried, got no sleep, daughter didn't want to nap, I thought I was going to snap in half from the pain of SPD so I too had a horrible day. I'm glad to say, my day is SO MUCH better today! I hope you ladies are also having a better day!!!
Thanks, @laurapalmier! I have insurance, but my dr's office suggested us applying for pregnancy medicaid as well as it couldn't hurt. Since I am approved, I believe they will have the hospital bill first and then the dr's office, so we may not have to pay anything out of pocket! Currently, we have been making monthly payments to the dr's office that have to be paid by April. It sounds like they had problems in the past with patients possibly not paying, or not paying in a reasonable amount of time. It all seemed a little weird to me, but understandable. So, if medicaid covers everything and we don't have to pay out of pocket, we should get the money we've paid so far back, from what I understand that is! I'm going to see if I can speak with the billing person when we go Thursday for our next appointment. I'll try to remember to update what I find out!
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@BabyMC517 oh man that's good news! I'm not in the states so the health care system there really confuses me! It sounds like there are 100 steps to do everything Really glad that you should get reimbursed and hopefully have no out of pocket costs!
@nda_roxybabe with you on the joining local moms group front! Just found out there is a la leche league in my city, and there's a handful of mom/breastfeeding cafes! I went to one looking for a baby carrier and got more help from a mom who just happened to be there than the employee!
The next la leche league meeting in my city is Feb 11 and the topic is "the Advantages of Breastfeeding for Mother and Baby" which seems like a great place to start, but I'll only be 26 weeks. Does that seem to early to attend that sort of thing?
@BabyMC517 oh man that's good news! I'm not in the states so the health care system there really confuses me! It sounds like there are 100 steps to do everything Really glad that you should get reimbursed and hopefully have no out of pocket costs!
@nda_roxybabe with you on the joining local moms group front! Just found out there is a la leche league in my city, and there's a handful of mom/breastfeeding cafes! I went to one looking for a baby carrier and got more help from a mom who just happened to be there than the employee!
The next la leche league meeting in my city is Feb 11 and the topic is "the Advantages of Breastfeeding for Mother and Baby" which seems like a great place to start, but I'll only be 26 weeks. Does that seem to early to attend that sort of thing?
I don't think it's to early to start gathering info about breastfeeding. The more you know now the better you can prepare and look into things like pumps if you decide you want or need one.
ordered a few baggu pouches for keeping the diaper bag organized got so excited when they were in the mailbox this morning that I sort of started putting my diaper bag together
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@nda_roxybabe I joke with my husband that I suck at making friends and keeping them. I don't have that close girlfriend (or group) that do things often. Multiple moves kinda killed some fun friendships because I am not good at trying to keep them afloat long distance. I guess that go to text or hang out person is my mom for me. I could use some in person friends around my age. Mom groups intimidate me, but I should really give it a try.
Ok I have a baby shower question that isn't related to me. I can also move this over to its own thread, but I don't know how many other questions there will be like this since I assume (hope) most of you ladies aren't planning your own showers.
My cousin is due mid June with her first baby and I am going to help my sister plan her shower. For those of you who are having baby showers, I have a couple of questions: 1) Have you already set the date and if so how far in advance did you set it - I'd like to get started with planning but I don't know if it is too soon to be thinking about dates. I'm the kind of person that likes things on the calendar WAAAAAAY in advance but I know not everyone is. 2) How much has the host involved you in planning and do you have a preference either way?
@laurapalmier How funny, I was looking at my hospitals classes to go ahead and register and decided to see if there were other alternatives for BF classes and came across LLL I'm a little intimidated though! As for being too early, IDK. I'm a FTM and a huge planner. We already have my baby shower set for early march and I think I'd like to complete all my classes by April.
@Louise_Belcher I think back to that personality test we did here. Mine said that I will give up mediocre friendships because they're not the type of connection I like and it's so true! I think that's why I suck at keeping friends, I just don't like the people enough to keep trying in some cases.
Happy Tuesday! Hope everyone is having a much better day today. Happy belated Birthday @Jen_Shoes! Welcome to 30!
@RainyDays86 speaking from my last pregnancy, I was due at the end of April and had one in February and another in mid-March. I think invites went out about 6 weeks before each one. I loved having them a little earlier, because then I still had plenty of time to get my nursery organized and buy everything else I needed before I was huge and just ready to be done. I was also one of those super excited FTMs who had her hospital bag ready at like 35 weeks
@RainyDays86 My mom is planning my shower, and my SIL's are assisting. My mom and I discussed dates to have the shower, and that is the only opinion I've given her. I have some people who have other things going on, so I wanted to make sure the date was for a day people could come. I'm due May 27th and my shower is April 2nd. I know my mother booked a place, and I know she is a planner as well, so she will likely send out invites once I give her my address list. I like things to be in my calendar ahead of time (I have two weddings this fall that are already in there), so I don't think it can hurt to look into things ahead of time. Plus I assume as you get closer you become more limited on where you can go. As for input, I know my SILs are great at planning and they know my style, so I'm not concerned regarding what it will actually look like. I told my mother she can tell me as much as she can or it can be as much of a surprise as she wants. Right now, everything is a surprise.
Ok I have a baby shower question that isn't related to me. I can also move this over to its own thread, but I don't know how many other questions there will be like this since I assume (hope) most of you ladies aren't planning your own showers.
My cousin is due mid June with her first baby and I am going to help my sister plan her shower. For those of you who are having baby showers, I have a couple of questions: 1) Have you already set the date and if so how far in advance did you set it - I'd like to get started with planning but I don't know if it is too soon to be thinking about dates. I'm the kind of person that likes things on the calendar WAAAAAAY in advance but I know not everyone is. 2) How much has the host involved you in planning and do you have a preference either way?
Thanks for the input!
My SIL and Mom are planning mine right now. I requested it be a little early because I'm on over planner and want things early so I can finish the nursery early.
1. I am due May 5th. My shower is scheduled for March 4th. We just set that date, 2 weeks ago. I pushed to get the date down because I know I have people with busy schedules. I too like having things on the calendar in advance. 2. They asked for my input on a theme, if I'd like for there to be games, and if I have a preference for food. They know I love event planning, but also surprises. I think that's probably as involved as they will have me get. I do know the theme and I did ask about color scheme so I could start shopping for a coordinating dress. Other than that, I think they've got it. I've planned a few showers for SIL and 1 I didn't let her know much of anything. Another completely helped me plan, I think it just depends on your person.
As for your specific case, I guess depends about when she'd like to have the shower.
@nda_roxybabe , yep...making friends that you actually want to hang out with as an adult is definitely harder. DH and I made a really great group of adult friends in our 20s when we lived in NYC, but now we live in Boston and have 1.5 kids and a house in the 'burbs. We still see those friends every now and then, but none of them have kids and they just live a very different life. I have been able to make a few "mom friends" with my son, but it's still different. I think that working has been really helpful--having "work friends" that I can have adult conversations with at work has been huge, especially since having the kiddo.
Happy Tuesday! Hope everyone is having a much better day today. Happy belated Birthday @Jen_Shoes! Welcome to 30!
@RainyDays86 speaking from my last pregnancy, I was due at the end of April and had one in February and another in mid-March. I think invites went out about 6 weeks before each one. I loved having them a little earlier, because then I still had plenty of time to get my nursery organized and buy everything else I needed before I was huge and just ready to be done. I was also one of those super excited FTMs who had her hospital bag ready at like 35 weeks
LOL, this is me. I've already started thinking about packing that bag, but no, I'll wait till like 32 weeks haha
Ok I have a baby shower question that isn't related to me. I can also move this over to its own thread, but I don't know how many other questions there will be like this since I assume (hope) most of you ladies aren't planning your own showers.
My cousin is due mid June with her first baby and I am going to help my sister plan her shower. For those of you who are having baby showers, I have a couple of questions: 1) Have you already set the date and if so how far in advance did you set it - I'd like to get started with planning but I don't know if it is too soon to be thinking about dates. I'm the kind of person that likes things on the calendar WAAAAAAY in advance but I know not everyone is. 2) How much has the host involved you in planning and do you have a preference either way?
Thanks for the input!
We set mine 3 months out and invites were sent out 6 weeks in advance. I'm due May 23rd and having it March 12th. I worked with my schedule and the planners.
My bf, cousin and aunt are planning, my mom wanted to help but was told she isn't supposed to. I would LOVE more input as I am a control freak but other than date I have no idea what is going on. I told them I wanted an easy no fuss brunch type shower and that's all I know until I get there. They were also the ones that planned my bridal showers
@laurapalmier I have a methods of childbirth at the end of February. I thought it may be a bit early, but the next available class isn't until the middle of May. So I'm taking a class now!
@nda_roxybabe I already have a list going of what I'm going to pack in the hospital bag! Ready to be closer so I can actually put it together. lol
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@Jen_Shoes HAPPY 30th BIRTHDAY!!! I hope your day turned out great and you were able to do something nice for yourself. And I second the great advice that everyone has given about the situation with H. Stay strong!
@Yiggle09 I'm so sorry to hear about your puppy dog
@starphish18 I'm definitely feeling stretched...not uncomfortably so, but my belly button is pushed out to almost even with my belly now, and *TMI* I have this irrational fear that it's going to burst and all of my insides are going to come shooting out
@starphish18 I feel stretching in random spots. I don't feel like my skin is too tight or anything, but more so the muscles underneath are getting a work out.
@BabyMC517 I got mine yesterday too! Exact same box, with the elephant. H was like why'd you buy all this? I didn't! Woohoo! If the Target bag had more stuff I was interested in I'd totally go grab another.
What do BuyBuy Baby and BRU offer?
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@laurapalmier your question to @BabyMC517 made me laugh out loud. I am expecting to pay over $6,000 out of pocket for delivery of this baby. I have insurance.
@Yiggle09 - I am so sorry about your dog! I lost one of my dogs last September, and I still miss him every day
@Jen_Shoes - Happy (belated) birthday! Welcome to the 30 club
Work has been nuts lately, and my brain has a hard time focusing on non-baby related things. In other news, our house offer was accepted! We're now anxiously awaiting loan approval- we should know by tomorrow! We were pre-approved for much more than we ended up going with, but DH's job is not traditional, so apparently it's up in the air as to whether lenders will accept it. *Fingers crossed* I love the house we're trying to purchase, and it's in a much better location- it would be amazing if we could move before this little nugget arrives!
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Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
@RainyDays86 ooof!! It's not fair, I'm sorry.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
We found out about baby number three and he almost immediately started in on DH about getting a visectomy, like our reproductive decisions some how involve him. If that's not enough DH and I found out this morning that his younger cousin ( on his mom's side) just passed away and while he and I were in the kitchen calling family and crying FIL decides that's the time to say "well her mom was told not to have kids." Like really?! WTF?!
I'm so sorry! That sounds like a pretty awful FIL!
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Does anyone else struggle to find/ keep friends as an adult? I feel like I keep making friends and then realize they kind of suck or flake or whatever and I once again find myself feeling friendless. My BFF as well as my other closest friends live out of state. I just want someone to hangout with sometime, or a good group I can invite to my baby shower and I feel like it's so hard. Anyone else?
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Also to whomever asked about BRU registry bags, mine sucked. Got a Kiinde bottle and refill bag and a few coupons that expired the next week and that's all. If you aren't registering there it's not worth doing it for the welcome bag.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
I just went to look at my amazon registry and someone ordered off it so I get the welcome box now!! Can't wait
I got on for a few minutes yesterday to lurk so I saw how many other people were having crummy mondays. There were multiple times that I cried, got no sleep, daughter didn't want to nap, I thought I was going to snap in half from the pain of SPD so I too had a horrible day. I'm glad to say, my day is SO MUCH better today! I hope you ladies are also having a better day!!!
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@BabyMC517 oh man that's good news! I'm not in the states so the health care system there really confuses me! It sounds like there are 100 steps to do everything Really glad that you should get reimbursed and hopefully have no out of pocket costs!
@nda_roxybabe with you on the joining local moms group front! Just found out there is a la leche league in my city, and there's a handful of mom/breastfeeding cafes! I went to one looking for a baby carrier and got more help from a mom who just happened to be there than the employee!
The next la leche league meeting in my city is Feb 11 and the topic is "the Advantages of Breastfeeding for Mother and Baby" which seems like a great place to start, but I'll only be 26 weeks. Does that seem to early to attend that sort of thing?
ordered a few baggu pouches for keeping the diaper bag organized
I resized the photo but I'm on mobile so if this image is still gigantic lemme know and I'll fix it
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
My cousin is due mid June with her first baby and I am going to help my sister plan her shower. For those of you who are having baby showers, I have a couple of questions:
1) Have you already set the date and if so how far in advance did you set it - I'd like to get started with planning but I don't know if it is too soon to be thinking about dates. I'm the kind of person that likes things on the calendar WAAAAAAY in advance but I know not everyone is.
2) How much has the host involved you in planning and do you have a preference either way?
Thanks for the input!
@Louise_Belcher I think back to that personality test we did here. Mine said that I will give up mediocre friendships because they're not the type of connection I like and it's so true! I think that's why I suck at keeping friends, I just don't like the people enough to keep trying in some cases.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@RainyDays86 speaking from my last pregnancy, I was due at the end of April and had one in February and another in mid-March. I think invites went out about 6 weeks before each one. I loved having them a little earlier, because then I still had plenty of time to get my nursery organized and buy everything else I needed before I was huge and just ready to be done. I was also one of those super excited FTMs who had her hospital bag ready at like 35 weeks
As for input, I know my SILs are great at planning and they know my style, so I'm not concerned regarding what it will actually look like. I told my mother she can tell me as much as she can or it can be as much of a surprise as she wants. Right now, everything is a surprise.
1. I am due May 5th. My shower is scheduled for March 4th. We just set that date, 2 weeks ago. I pushed to get the date down because I know I have people with busy schedules. I too like having things on the calendar in advance.
2. They asked for my input on a theme, if I'd like for there to be games, and if I have a preference for food. They know I love event planning, but also surprises. I think that's probably as involved as they will have me get. I do know the theme and I did ask about color scheme so I could start shopping for a coordinating dress. Other than that, I think they've got it.
I've planned a few showers for SIL and 1 I didn't let her know much of anything. Another completely helped me plan, I think it just depends on your person.
As for your specific case, I guess depends about when she'd like to have the shower.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
My bf, cousin and aunt are planning, my mom wanted to help but was told she isn't supposed to. I would LOVE more input as I am a control freak but other than date I have no idea what is going on. I told them I wanted an easy no fuss brunch type shower and that's all I know until I get there. They were also the ones that planned my bridal showers
@nda_roxybabe I already have a list going of what I'm going to pack in the hospital bag! Ready to be closer so I can actually put it together. lol