Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

avidkeo

Dinner tonight... Fish and Chips!! (Fush and Chups?? lol)

Ashleypixie

Love when people post shit on Facebook about 9/11 being an inside job. Save it for another day.

Twirple

Hugs to @avidkeo, @deidremaria and @RedDawnsRevenge.  I haven't had to have a c-section, but I think it is always hard to have to give up an experience that we want.  Even more so if it is something that you feel like you are supposed to be able to do.

You may not have given birth in the way that you wanted or anticipated, but you ladies made people! 

RedDawnsRevenge

@avidkeo‌ I think your feelings are one of the greatest hidden costs of C/S's. They tell you "you have a healthy baby and that's all that matters" but it's not. It's just not. As a nurse I thought I was SO SMART, so informed, so beyond the reaches of a c/s. And beyond what I learned and saw in nursing school I never set out to learn more about c/s because I was having a home birth. And as a nurse I never understood until then how insensitive to birthing mothers we as healthcare workers are until it happened to me.

So yes your feelings are normal. We just don't talk about them. Because when you do people tell you to be thankful and your baby is alive and that's all that maters. So we sweep it under the rug.

And now I have my masters thesis and UO all in one!

ambarnett1

We had wings and crab dip for dinner. Yum! Go Ravens! (Minus the wife beating asshole Ray Rice)

edoliesmom

dani+california said:

We need another never have I ever thread, those are the tits.

Do it!! I thought of a couple juicy ones.

Bluebird2318

dani+california said:

We need another never have I ever thread, those are the tits.

Never have I ever faked a miscarriage on the internet.

Too soon?

Sisimama10

Bluebird2318 said:

dani+california said:

We need another never have I ever thread, those are the tits.

Never have I ever faked a miscarriage on the internet.

Too soon?

Sisimama10

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Sisimama10

Mom of the year award here. I dressed my 4 year old in shorts today. It was 50 something degrees all day. Opps. When we got to school this morning even some random dad was like good job with the outfit today! Awesome.

fireflygirl12

I just fell asleep while getting 2 cavities filled. Sleep deprivation at its finest.

deidremaria

@Vinny424‌ that's a wonderful idea! I think once the three of us get used to our new living situation it'll definitely still work out for us. @dani+california‌ I really can't think of any time before now that someone's "you're birth experience was just as adequate" speech actually made me feel good

avidkeo

dani+california said:

Dinner tonight... Fish and Chips!! (Fush and Chups?? lol)

Are you denying that New Zealanders say fush and chups? Because you totally do! DH and I specifically sought out a fish and chips place while in NZ because someone told us you said it that way. Hee hee I'm 6

I deny it with every fiber of my being! Do you get fish and chips there?? is it the same?? 

avidkeo

deidremaria said:

@Vinny424‌ that's a wonderful idea! I think once the three of us get used to our new living situation it'll definitely still work out for us. @dani+california‌ I really can't think of any time before now that someone's "you're birth experience was just as adequate" speech actually made me feel good

This! PPH you @dani+california!

rtv3

dani+california said:

Also to the c-section mamas...this is just my opinion and I know someone saying it doesn't just make your feelings go away...but whatever.

Some of you say you feel like you 'missed' something. Honestly, the only magical moment I remember clearly was my husband saying 'it's a boy!' and seeing tears in his eyes. I don't remember pushing the placenta. I don't remember them cutting the cord. The labour is a vague memory (thank God) and the delivery is a blur. I was just staring down at this slimy, warm little being that was plunked down on my chest. Half 'what the fuck just happened' half 'oh my god this is real!'.

Please don't feel like the birth of your child is in any way inadequate or sub-par, in the sense that 'it could have been better'. Your baby is the end result, and that's pretty fucking amazing.

Oh and you're totally bad-ass for having delivered a child THROUGH YOUR STOMACH. Seriously. People are all 'ermagerd, my appendix was removed, I could have died' or 'I had a gallstone lasered, it hurt so bad'. You have the biggest trump card for life!

Like oh, I'm sorry! Your appendix? The thing we don't even know why it exists?! Yeah...I'm the Fifth Element and someone pulled a living being from my stomach and I'm still alive. Shut the fuck up.

Can I just say I love that you referenced The Fifth Element? Such an awesome movie

I have to go back to the laptop now just to see if I can find a gif...

chichi589

The only thing I really remember clearly from his birth is telling everyone I really would like to put my legs down now while they were stitching me up. Super unpleasant as I wasn't allowed to put my legs down. He pooped on me too when they put him on my chest sooo not only was I a bloody mess I had poop literally everywhere on me.
So there's that. It was nice after I was showered although then I had a icepack under my vagina. So that sucked too.
I might have just committed myself to not having anymore with those statements.

rtv3

Because one just isn't enough...

rtv3

And a bonus 'what I look like while Bumping.'

avidkeo

gaaaaa. I was supposed to get marks back for my first assignment on Wednesday, its now midday Friday! Surposed to be doing an oral presentation based on this assignment on Thursday, how can I prepare if I don't know what needs improving!

deidremaria

Vinny424 said:

Today went an visited dh's grandmother. She's in a nursing home and holy shit some of those places can be nice. Anyway I got lost trying to leave and ended up on the dementia floor and nothing made these little old ladies spring to life like a little smiley baby. Anyway she was telling me how some women were from out of state and were pretty much put there so their family didn't have to see them. If my fucking kids brought me to a home hours away so they didn't have to visit if write them out of my fucking will and donate it all after I died.

Since I'm one and done I actually want Dylan to place me in a home but I'll be damned if it's hours away.

Ashleypixie

I made the kids help me get groceries out of the car. Apparently they argued over who needed to shut the trunk. Neither one of them shut the trunk. This thunderstorm has been raging a whole 30 minutes... OMG today needs to end. (:|

edoliesmom

mamrotu73 said:

Do you have to know someone at the home to visit? Or can you just show up with a baby to make old people happy? Indy doesn't like strangers enough to be a therapy dog. But Ansel is so charming and smiley that he would be a great therapy baby.

People I know from church have weekly Bible studies at nursing homes, and I've Christmas caroled in one a couple times. So I would think yes.

Serenla

Vinny424 said:

Well, it finally happened. Quinn shit in the tub. Haha!

I had that happen forever ago and it was a liquid cloud of yellow spread through the tub. I got flashbacks from when my parents made me and my sister bath together and she'd shit in the tub.

I'm due for this to happen, luckily he has not done it yet.

smushi

KendraColeslaw said:

DH is playing basketball tonight (to make him the most stereotypical 6'8" person ever) so I'm throwing a frozen chicken alfredo pasta on a skillet.

I hope you're tall

4'11" Jk I'm 5'6". I can't lie for a minute.

Is it odd that both my mom and my MIL are 4'11"? Coinky dink. Love and hugs to those needing them. I just finished reading 10 pages. Wowzas. LO took a 3 hour nap at daycare today. Baby win. He's been on a 3 day poop strike and I had DH write on his note a warning to the ladies there. Sure enough, midday poospolsion to his armpits. All I could do was laugh. Speaking of 3's, DH is on night 3 of washing my pump parts and bottles for me while I nurse LO to bed. I feel like a lottery winner for sure.

snowbound

Serious question. Would you take your LO to see someone at the hospital? In the ICU? Do they even allow infants in the ICU?

Serenla

rtv3 said:

Because one just isn't enough...

Agreed such a great movie.

I was going to say something similar to what Dani said to our csection mamas. I cannot compete with her awesomeness so just know that you guys are not less of a Mom. You worked just as hard to grow a person and then brought them into the world, cheers.

snowbound

Vinny424 said:

snowbound said:

Serious question. Would you take your LO to see someone at the hospital? In the ICU? Do they even allow infants in the ICU?

No hospitals are cesspools of infection and mrsa

I agree. However, this is a terrible situation and may be one of the last times (hopefully not!) this person ever gets to see LO. I feel conflicted. I need some RTT T&Ps over here.

rtv3

Prayers @snowbound!

@serenla - PERFECT gif

FFTC: half the time when I'm going to tag someone I type out the word 'at'. Then I have to backspace and replace it with the @ symbol...

Serenla

snowbound said:

Vinny424 said:

snowbound said:

Serious question. Would you take your LO to see someone at the hospital? In the ICU? Do they even allow infants in the ICU?

No hospitals are cesspools of infection and mrsa

I agree. However, this is a terrible situation and may be one of the last times (hopefully not!) this person ever gets to see LO. I feel conflicted. I need some RTT T&Ps over here.

((Hugs))

avidkeo

Vinny424 said:

Serious question. Would you take your LO to see someone at the hospital? In the ICU? Do they even allow infants in the ICU?

No hospitals are cesspools of infection and mrsa

I work in a hospital and DD is here all the time! lol. But I wouldn't take to ICU because those people are seriously ill and I wouldn't want to add to potential stress with a LO crying or anything. 

avidkeo

snowbound said:

Serious question. Would you take your LO to see someone at the hospital? In the ICU? Do they even allow infants in the ICU?

No hospitals are cesspools of infection and mrsa

I agree. However, this is a terrible situation and may be one of the last times (hopefully not!) this person ever gets to see LO. I feel conflicted. I need some RTT T&Ps over here.

Oh in this case I would call and ask, maybe wear LO to protect them?

smushi

mamrotu73 said:

@poru‌ I don't think we will make it to CA without bumpers. A sticks a limb through the slats and bawls everytime I put him down. And he changes which way he rolls all the time now. He used to only roll one way, so I could put Ghim closer to one edge and he'd roll to the middle. Now it's a crapshoot. Anyhow, thanks for the offer. But I'm gonna go find some tomorrow.

I love our mesh bumper, I'd highly recommend

rtv3

I really really really don't want to pump now. Or get all my stuff ready for tomorrow. Or do anything but still on the couch and bump/facebook. Blah.

snowbound

Thanks for the input! It's LOs grandpa and he is so attached to DS. I would feel terrible if something happened and we didn't get down there one last time.

TallaB

snowbound said:

Thanks for the input! It's LOs grandpa and he is so attached to DS. I would feel terrible if something happened and we didn't get down there one last time.

Everywhere I've worked, you have to be over 12 to visit the ICU, unless the patient is not likely to survive. In that case, I would definitely take baby to visit.

fireflygirl12

Just decided to POAS in the Target bathroom. No symptoms, just a sudden urge while I was shopping. Ute's empty.

Serenla

ok seriously I have a cold that is starting to kick my ass. I'm BFing, advice?

Ashleypixie

Whats POAS?

smushi

fireflygirl12 said:

Just decided to POAS in the Target bathroom. No symptoms, just a sudden urge while I was shopping. Ute's empty.

I had a horribly stupid (read drunk) moment about a month ago and told DH to leave it in. From then on I had myself convinced I was KU. I got a BFN but continue to get the urge to POAS. Acronyms.

Ashleypixie

Oops, just figured it out. Damn it's been a while since I've had to even think about shit like that.