Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

Emily041285

All of my sympathies to our loss ladies and anyone hurt by all of this mess.

I totally feel like a slacker because I haven't shopped for my box yet.

Also, a baby store I follow on fb has an open topic Tuesday were they post questions submitted by moms for other moms to answer. Tuesday I asked about mommy and me at night or weekends because I'd love some mom friends. While I didn't get much response, the owner msg me to tell me about a fb support group designed for working moms tonight. She thought I might meet some people there. I'm kinda excited!

chichi589

@edoliesmom‌ ygpm I'll be around if you have any more questions I'll check it again

BiggerinRealLife

honeyzoo said:

@BiggerInRealLife how did it go sans swaddle?

Hi @honeyzoo! Worse than I'd hoped but better than I feared. I now know Josie is a dedicated belly sleeper, which means her dad and I got no sleep via paranoia all night long. @-)

tamaraaaa

What Vinny said.  You need some serious help lady.

Also, let's bingo this up in true TB form and let me add a "I feel sorry for your husband."

PoppySeedWindsor

You're all right. I've lied about everything. I'm a man. I have no baby. I don't live in Kentucky. I've never been to Portland. I don't know what a miscarriage is. I'm not married. I still don't know what a bloody show is. I hate cats. 

What I do know is that the majority of you are cunts. Go fuck yourselves.

Please ban me as I can't fucking figure out how to fucking get off the bump.

GBCB. You guys fucking win. Big hats off to you.

mrscrcalli

I always read the word cunt with a British accent I have no idea why.. 8-}

BiggerinRealLife

I'm love-it-ing all the above comments re: poppy, even though they're conflicting, because I don't wish her ill, I wish her well whatever and whoever she is. But the long monologue didn't explain anything, nor did it help IMO.

And I'm confused over the second (third?) GBCB. What did you expect Poppy? You had responses of both support and derision, which I'd say is pretty kind for TB. It wasn't enough unless everyone believed you? So we're all cunts? Even the people who said they wished you well and hoped you got help?

Wow. 

Twirple

I'm pretty sure that is the first time I've ever seen someone asked to get banned!

RedDawnsRevenge

@macgrs‌ I need that pattern

I need to get on my knitting. I have 7 Xmas stockings to knit. I keep making mistakes and having to tear back. I made a hat for my buddy but it was way to big, so I have to make a second one today.

mrscrcalli

In honor of the dramz, I made some Annie's mac n cheese, this feels like pregnancy times on A14 so I really wanted to go all out.

Serenla

So is this a real GBCB or are we pretending again?

mrscrcalli

Why do you have to be banned you don't have enough self-control to just stay away? that's a whole new bag of issues you'll need to address with yourself.

chichi589

I am getting nexplanon (sp?) tomorrow and I'm terrified they are going to be like just kidding your pregnant you can't have it.

tamaraaaa

Don't worry guys.

avidkeo

dani+california said:

BOO CANADA! It just cost me $30 to ship my contraband. So this will be my last exchange, lol.

Mine is going to be closer to about $60 to send....

ETA god I hope it doesn't cost my buddy that much. if so, I love you even more and Thank you so much in advance!

Serenla

mrscrcalli said:

In honor of the dramz, I made some Annie's mac n cheese, this feels like pregnancy times on A14 so I really wanted to go all out.

I had forgotten!

Serenla

mommyofmac said:

BiggerinRealLife said:

I'm loving all the above comments re: poppy, even though they're conflicting, because I don't wish her ill, I wish her well whatever and whoever she is. But the long monologue didn't explain anything, nor did it help IMO.

And I'm confused over the second (third?) GBCB. What did you expect Poppy? You had responses of both support and derision, which I'd say is pretty kind for TB. It wasn't enough unless everyone believed you? So we're all cunts? Even the people who said they wished you well and hoped you got help?

Wow. 

Could t have said it better BIRL.

This is an appropriate time for an Archer gif.

Bluebird2318

Re: Poppygate. Here, have a novel:

The hospitalization thing many people realized after she got conveniently released from the hospital the evening before her extended vacation started (and talking to a nurse who said that there's no way in hell she would have been given internet access). Since then, another one of us who has worked in psychiatric hospitals (@celticlullaby?) said that bloodwork (including a pregnancy test) would have been taken place prior to hospitalization, at which point Poppy was 7-8 weeks pregnant. 

The pregnancy thing. Many were willing to believe that it COULD be true, but first inclinations were to think "bullshit." Saying she wasn't going to join another BMB unless she made an AE was questionable. Spotting seemed like a weird reason to take a pregnancy test if you are EBF and using condoms. Also, I think saying "we use birth control but it doesn't really work for us" is odd language if you're just talking about condoms (which she had mentioned in the past was their only method). Condoms break, but they don't just "not really work." She mentioned one miscarriage in the past, then her pregnancy with Merri. Now she mentions multiple previous miscarriages and one abortion. She also announced a negative pregnancy test at a time she should have been 5-6 weeks pregnant.

The miscarriage thing, by the time it happened, was something many saw coming. The language she used just was not right. "Crap in a fucking balls ass hat hand basket" and "hit up the emergency room..." It just seems far too casual if you just bled huge clots while pregnant. True that you can't read expression well over the internet, but still odd given the word choices.

Then BIRL made some statement like "Oh, Poppy, I saw that you had checked in. Does this mean that everything is okay? *praying*" When Poppy came back, the first thing she did was not to address any of the positive support from anyone else, just the one statement that BIRL made because, depending upon your mindset, it could be interpreted that BIRL was questioning her story.

She comes back and explains more. Her MIL has her phone, which explains the check-in. But even if MIL did have her phone, why was she actively using it for anything? They weren't calling Poppy's husband, because she said he didn't know and that she would possibly tell him the next day, also odd. Why not tell your husband? Maybe he was working and wasn't able to be reached? Sure. Well, that's not right either, because she posted that her husband "just sent her that video." At that time the video had been posted 1.5-2 hours ago, which leaves a 1.5-2 hour window that he could have been reached even if he was unavailable before. Also worth mentioning that the video was intended to be their announcement and was to include a shot of the BFP at the end of the video. There was no such thing, and Poppy claimed it was weird that her husband forgot to add it.

More odd choices: it seemed like she focused as much on our feelings as her own. "I feel bad that I got you all stoked and then gave this Debbie Downer update for you" or something to that effect. I know everyone grieves differently, but it's extremely odd to care how some internet buddies feel when you just lost a baby and aren't even telling your husband. Weird priorities. 

"Ten weeks. That's hella far." More casual language. The whole thing just came off strangely. It read like a story and not the sort of stream of consciousness you'd imagine after an ordeal like that.

I'm sure there's some stuff I'm not remembering or thinking about, but this post is already long as fuck. None of it is concrete "proof," but you'd have to make a lot of assumptions in order for it to be true. A false negative pregnancy test at 5-6 weeks pregnant, a psychiatric hospital that ignores multiple basic principles of care, a husband forgetting to add the reveal to their reveal video, not informing her husband of the miscarriage even though they were in contact during the ordeal. The only supporting evidence to these assumptions being "but I'm telling you the truth on the internet." 

I'm sorry, but it makes so little sense.

avidkeo

J&NL said:

I keep getting this strange feeling that I'm pregnant. Maybe I'm just supposed to have my period right now and since I have a mirena (which takes away my period) I just feel the symptoms but no actual period? I think I'll POAS tomorrow just to be sure.

I've been feeling period like symptoms for a couple of weeks now, keep expecting to get it, but nothing... and suddenly teary again - cried in the shower this morning, haven't had that since 6 weeks PP. hmmmmmmmmm

lokimau

Ashleypixie said:

Haha! I just realized that when I had my first baby I was very young and none of my friends had babies which made it very isolating. Now on baby #3, I'm super old and everyone is already out of the baby stage. I can't win here. Avery's cheer moms and Girl Scout moms are nice but we're not friends and Austin's football moms are about 10 years older than me and are terrible awful bitches who hate me. GODDAMMIT I WISH YOU GUYS LIVED IN ATLANTA

You live in atlanta??? We just moved from there last week!!!!

avidkeo

I still don't know what a bloody show is, does that make me a liar? 

tamaraaaa

celticlullaby said:

Joytomylatex you were right, and I was going to bat signal you! Now I'm waiting for "hubster" to get on her account and tell us all how mean we are.

Yes, I did mention to a large group a few days ago that I predicted her "husband" was going to come on and tell us we are all terrible people and she was in the hospital due to the trauma we caused.  And we are all super mega assholes.

Edit: Still holding onto this happening actually.. 

BiggerinRealLife

Also, not to beat a dead horse, but here's just a few inconsistencies I've seen in the past few days. I know there are many more, esp. about her negative BFP, then positive BFP, and being 10 weeks and the math not adding up. But I couldn't find those, @Bluebird2318 had them. 

#1

PoppySeedWindsor said: (today)

She is my sunshine in this shitty period where I had to drive an hour, bleeding as I explained to my mother in law what was going on. What we knew for so few days. 

PoppySeedWindsor said: This. I didn't mean to be a bitch. I know MIL had my phone while I was out. Still in the hospital. Hate being without hubster. MIL is devastated but so strong. I hope I can be like her in real life. Also feel bad for making everyone stoke and then being a Debbie Downer with this. I feel bad about everything. At first I was freaked the fuck out and didn't want this baby. Was mad at it for sneaking up on me and Merriwether. But I got to a good place about it. And TEN WEEKS?!! Fuck. That's hella far. Damn it.

PoppySeedWindsor said: (Sept 8, later in the day)

But like, how do I go from not wanting a second child to mourning the loss of it in the span of like, five days?! Somebody said it already...this is a mindfuck. Times a million. I was really excited to have babies so close in age. I had wrapped my head around it. And now I have to explain to MIL. What was going on.

PoppySeedWindsor said: (Sept 8, earlier in the day)

This. I didn't mean to be a bitch. I know MIL had my phone while I was out. Still in the hospital. Hate being without hubster. MIL is devastated but so strong. I hope I can be like her in real life. Also feel bad for making everyone stoke and then being a Debbie Downer with this. I feel bad about everything. At first I was freaked the fuck out and didn't want this baby. Was mad at it for sneaking up on me and Merriwether. But I got to a good place about it. And TEN WEEKS?!! Fuck. That's hella far. Damn it.

#2

PoppySeedWindsor said: (Sept 2)

I definitely won't leave RTT. Honestly, idk if I have the energy to do May 15. If I happen to have an April due date though, that may be another thing. I mean, who could resist April 15? We definitely weren't TTC but contraception just doesn't work for us. Not that we don't use it...it just doesn't work. This is now our third pregnancy (early loss) in as many years. Hubster said last night, "Sooo we're never having sex again." I'm still wrapping my head around this, trying to get excited when all I feel is overwhelmed. I suppose it's good we found out while on vacay. All I can say is ohhhhh boy. Also, can I get a cliff notes on this exchange thingy? Id LOVE to participate! Also, I'll change my siggy soon. I've been mobile bumping the past three weeks.

PoppySeedWindsor said:

 I haven't lied though. Hubster and I have been married a little over two years. We got pregnant within the first five months of dating. Personally, taking a birth control pill freaks me out and, because of my eating disorder that I had for over a decade, I've needed to ensure I have my own period, without the help of the pill. So I've never take it. And condoms work...sometimes. Anyway, we got pregnant and for an abortion. Over the past three+ years of being together we got pregnant four more times. Not because we weren't careful, but because we are fertile people. Three of those were miscarriages. One of those I'm rocking to sleep in my arms right now.

.

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Like I said, don't want to beat a dead horse, but if you're going to repeatedly say you've never lied, I'd recommend you at least keep track of what you've written on here so that it doesn't *look* like you're lying. 

misskristina21

I don't think I have ever been called a cunt before. But I wonder if being a cunt is better than being a compulsive lying attention whore?

BiggerinRealLife

mrscrcalli said:

In honor of the dramz, I made some Annie's mac n cheese, this feels like pregnancy times on A14 so I really wanted to go all out.

Bahahahaha @MrscrCalli! I totally did the same!

Twirple

avidkeo said:

I still don't know what a bloody show is, does that make me a liar? 

I'm not sure, but every time I hear the words "bloody show" I think of a mustachioed British man in a bowler hat saying "Bloody good show, old chaps."  For some reason I feel like that is a line from Monty Python, but I'm not sure.

Serenla

Ah fuck, I'm getting a cold. I guess I'm not sneezing from only bullshit.
Edit posted too soon.

Bluebird2318

And anyway, I don't wish Poppy any ill. Whatever her problems are, I hope she figures them out. I just think this whole thing was a big injustice to our loss moms and that should have been addressed in lieu of calling everyone cunts. 

avidkeo

Thanks BIRL, that helps put things in perspective.

My biggest thing about her most recent pregnancy is she got her BFP just over a week ago right? and suddenly she's loosing it at 10 weeks. No mention of an US at all so how the hell did she know she was 10 weeks along? That just does not add up at all. 5 weeks perhaps but not 10.

So shes been pregnant 5 times in total, one abortion, 3MC then this baby??

Also, the whole needing her own period because of ED? I appologise if this is insensitive, and I don't know a lot about ED, I know it can mess with your periods but that didn't make sense at all! Happy to be corrected on that though.

I was on the fence, but every post she makes is making it worse. 

Twirple

dani+california said:

Aaaaanyway. What's everyone having for dinner tonight? I haven't cooked in like 3 months. I offered to tonight and am now regretting my decision. Bahaha

We are having leftovers.  I haven't decided if it is leftover split pea soup or leftover chicken taco bowls.

BiggerinRealLife

AprilMay9 said:

I honestly don't expect anyone to share their full reproductive history with the board. I haven't. I know everyone is really pissed at being lied to and you all point out valid points. This is obviously someone who is very sad and I don't want this to turn into a bullying situation or kicking someone when they're down. Motherhood has obv changed me since I would be first in line with the pitch forks a year ago.

I totally don't expect it, either. But if people choose to and they're genuine, I expect that which is shared to match up.

Not directed to AP9 but in general:

All in all the monologue was more "I never lied to you, and to prove it please feel sorry for me and my circumstances," less "let me actually set the record straight by addressing the stuff brought up against me."

BiggerinRealLife

Also, kegels. All those quote boxes got my stuff messed up!

UnofficiallyLO

Now that I've spent every baby nap of the day catching up on RTT since the drama, I think I'll stay and hang out! #:-S

mrscrcalli

I'm making pork chops stuffed with goat cheese and dried cranberries, with truffled mashed potatoes! =P~

Teresa1896

Stroganoff sounds amazing. we're having spaghetti leftovers. It's a cold evening, which I love, and hopefully the kids and I can snuggle up together on the couch without DH. :-)

Bluebird2318

Selective internet truth: I'm probably making stroganoff.

Real life truth: I'm probably making Hamburger Helper stroganoff

I have a handful of real, legitimate recipes, but I really need to get into cooking more. 

mrscrcalli

Bluebird2318 said:

Selective internet truth: I'm probably making stroganoff.

Real life truth: I'm probably making Hamburger Helper stroganoff

I have a handful of real, legitimate recipes, but I really need to get into cooking more. 

I have a handful too, DH is the cook but I'm off all week so I'm dipping into my recipe book.

baileymama3

Pot roast- but takes too much time for a quick one. Planned for leftovers!

lokimau

Definitely feel behind in RTT the past few days with moving and all. Spending nursing time trying to catch up!!! Lots of dramas !!!

AcaAwkward

KendraColeslaw said:

Fine, I wish her the best in the end, for her daughter's sake. But first I hope she steps on a bunch of Legos.

Woah. That's way harsh, Tai.

{and I ain't kidding. Have y'all ever stepped on a bunch of GD Legos?!}