Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

pineconey

I paid $2000 for my home birth that didn't happen. *grumble grumble*
Thankful to be "working poor" so we are on state assistance and our hospital visit should be paid in full. We may never have enough money to own a home, but at least our healthcare is paid for dammit!!!

Found a way to help my insane nipple pain when nursing!!! If I hand express a bit before LO latches on, it hurts significantly less! Still painful, but a definite improvement!!

MadBloom

I have no freaking summer clothes that fit me......

deidremaria

mrscrcalli said:

deidremaria said:

mrscrcalli said:

Saw an email where SIL told MIL that DS was "a handful, fussy and hard to comfort" ummmm what the fuck, he is so chill and RANDOMLY has his gas pains and gets fussy. Maybe I'm being a baby but it bothered me. He's such a sweet baby and not hard to comfort at all. Maybe I'm just mad cause it's a lie and it was behind my back idk, maybe I just need sleep.

Fucking asshole!!!! It always frustrates me when people make snap judgements about a baby's temperament based on a visit or two. Maybe he was just fussy when she visited.

It was hot as hell he had a major blow out in his diaper and that was like the only time he was fussy. Idk I'm trying not to let it bother me but it does! Her DD is now not the only baby so maybe what's why she did it. Just hurts my feelings she did that behind my back like that..

It would bother me that's for sure. Hopefully your MIL doesn't let your SIL's opinion affect how often she visits the little man. She'll see for herself that her daughter was wrong.

Emily041285

@ebie79‌ a pitcher sounds awesome. Where did you get it? I'm fortunate that dd will take a bottle however. I've given her one straight from the fridge and she's totally fine

deidremaria

aronie82 said:

I went back to work this week. I get annoyed when people ask if I had the baby. No he's still in there he just shrunk.

Hey it's somehow better than a random cashier at the grocery store saying "I can see in your face that you're pregnant".... Two fucking weeks PP.

deidremaria

I think I'm gonna change my avatar.

SoulTermination

There are times I want to smack my DH for being an idiot. He texted me from work on his break to ask how DD and I are doing; told him I was about to lose my mind because she'd been crying for 2.5 hours. He told me to give her a bath or try gas drops.

REALLY?! You seriously think I haven't tried that shit already?? #-o

sking72

Dd is acting like a rabid animal tonight. She is violently attacking my boob, drooling breast milk all over, thrashing her head around while clawing in every which direction panting and grunting. Pass out before you tear my nip off kid!

baileymama3

sking72 said:

Dd is acting like a rabid animal tonight. She is violently attacking my boob, drooling breast milk all over, thrashing her head around while clawing in every which direction panting and grunting. Pass out before you tear my nip off kid!

This is every feeding for me. Whether it's been 1 hr or 3... It's like he hasn't eaten in 2 days!

pineconey

All day long smalls hasn't been satisfied unless he's being held and his back patted.
Tonight is gonna suck.

mrscrcalli

Anyone baby sleep un swaddled?

DS sleeps during the day un swaddled but if we put him to bed that way he looses his mind.

Thoughts?

Emily041285

mrscrcalli said:

Anyone baby sleep un swaddled?

DS sleeps during the day un swaddled but if we put him to bed that way he looses his mind.

Thoughts?

DD does. She likes to stretch out and would always kick out of it. Especially her hands. She always sleeps with them above her head. Plus it's easier for us on diaper changes.

mrscrcalli

MrsStanton87 said:

mrscrcalli said:

Anyone baby sleep un swaddled?

DS sleeps during the day un swaddled but if we put him to bed that way he looses his mind.

Thoughts?

We swaddle him at night and have been considering not doing it to see how he does. He loves having his hands near his face and breaks out of swaddles but he also sleeps for 4+ hours at a time at night. So we're torn.

This is where we're at too

smushi

@kseccomb17  I'm so sorry I can't imagine how tough it is for you both.  DH had a straight year of injuries... First his collar bone, which was so incredibly debilitating for him and took two months to recover enough to regain some independence.  Then he broke his wrist, which resulted in more of me playing nursemaid.  Then he got bitten by a copperhead snake and couldn't walk for 3 weeks.  It was a tough year for sure, but I can't imagine throwing in caring for a baby as well.

@mrscrcalli LO sleeps unswaddled.  From early on, he would lose his mind if we put his arms in a swaddle, then it became legs too, and now he will fight to kick off any blankets if he's not completely asleep.

To whomever mentioned the side to side sway burping technique at some point on here, I just want to say a thousand thanks.  It's really the only way LO will burp for me.  Of course, it's also really successful for burping myself... going on 100% effectiveness for my own 'gas'.

pineconey

mrscrcalli said:

Anyone baby sleep un swaddled?

DS sleeps during the day un swaddled but if we put him to bed that way he looses his mind.

Thoughts?

Mine changes his mind constantly. We swaddle about 38% of the time....

michaelad3

@pineconey‌ I'm with you in spirit. DD has been a very stubborn napper today. She is currently wide awake in the rnp, but thankfully, for the time being, she is content with the wubbanub. Last night for 3 hours, starting at 1:40, she would only sleep while I was holding her. Every time I put her down, I'd manage to turn the bedside lamp off, lay my head on the pillow, close my eyes, and then the screaming would commence. I hope tonight is better, but it's not looking promising

pineconey

Wine: check.
Chocolate: check.
Couch snuggles with DH: check.

Ready for bed now!!!

JessieAlbin

Catching up:

@deidremaria‌ add me to the club of figuring out the new "us". DH was so above and beyond wonderful the first week pp, and now he's still great and helpful but I am definitely having a rough time with sleep deprivation and baby blues/hormonal changes etc.. I'm like, I know I'm a crazy bitch!! I'm sorry! And then I snap at him five minutes later. Ugh. I can't wait until we can be intimate again, and at least have some semblance of what "us" used to be, even if it is a quickie while praying the kid stays asleep. Or until kiddo is old enough we feel comfortable leaving him with a sitter and we can go on a date.

@Stace0616 and @dani+california‌ this sprout app y'all are talking about has me curious, I've been using the free one from similac and I really like it except I wish DH could download the same app and sync all the data so we could keep each other in the loop that way.. Does the sprout one let you share an account on two devices?

JessieAlbin

Also, my kid is sleeping right now.. Why the eff am I not taking advantage of this opportunity to sleep for an hour before he's up again to eat??!

fourthnlast

mrscrcalli said:

Saw an email where SIL told MIL that DS was "a handful, fussy and hard to comfort" ummmm what the fuck, he is so chill and RANDOMLY has his gas pains and gets fussy. Maybe I'm being a baby but it bothered me. He's such a sweet baby and not hard to comfort at all. Maybe I'm just mad cause it's a lie and it was behind my back idk, maybe I just need sleep.

I would be pissed as well

fourthnlast

MrsStanton87 said:

Just got $100 in gift cards for BRU from a random uncle of DH's. What to buy, what to buy....we pretty much have everything. Hmm...

That's a fun problem to have! Maybe something for when LO is older, like an exersaucer or jumperoo?

fourthnlast

mrscrcalli said:

Anyone baby sleep un swaddled?

DS sleeps during the day un swaddled but if we put him to bed that way he looses his mind.

Thoughts?

Unswaddled here, she goes bat shit crazy if she gets swaddled day or night.

fourthnlast

mamrotu73 said:

Nursing in the middle of the night always makes me need to go to the bathroom. I sit there trying to hold it in and hoping A would eat faster. I really should go first, but I never need to until half way through. Anyone else?

As soon as i hear her start waking up i get up and go pee and get a drink of water, by then she is really awake.

pineconey

That moment when you immediately regret commenting on how quickly LO went back to sleep after a feeding...... Oy.

Bluebird2318

dani+california said:

After 2 nights of regression and waking up every hour and a half, LO slept 7 hours straight tonight! I could sing from the rooftops! It's probably a one-off but I don't even care. It felt great to get that sleep and gives me hope that I won't be doing this for all eternity. Ahhh

It's amazing what a little sleep can do! Sometimes even an hour or two is enough to completely change my mindset. 

sarlimes34

so everyone is sleeping in my house except me. that ulcer pain came back & with a vengence. holy fuck i'm hurting so bad. a nap may or may not be in my future. little dude has his 2mth appt today & gets his shots. i am sooooo not looking forward to it. 

@ColleenSwerb‌ - i'm in glen burnie, by marley station mall. i think a lunch date may need to be set up once we all get adjusted into our new routines

Mamamonzo

mrscrcalli said:

Anyone baby sleep un swaddled?

DS sleeps during the day un swaddled but if we put him to bed that way he looses his mind.

Thoughts?

We do. I swaddle under his armpits. He likes hi arms above his head, but I think he likes the tight feeling around his body. Seems to work for him!

speechie517

Been leaking like crazy the past 24 hours. Also woke up with a clogged duct. I though supply was supposed tho start regulate around 6 weeks?

JessieAlbin

My kid most definitely just projectile pooped during his last diaper change. He got a good two feet. I didn't know that was even a thing. Wtaf!?

mrscrcalli

mamrotu73 said:

JessieAlbin said:

My kid most definitely just projectile pooped during his last diaper change. He got a good two feet. I didn't know that was even a thing. Wtaf!?

Lovetit'ed because I'm sorry. But that shits funny.

Literally! B-)

michaelad3

Lol @JessieAlbin‌ LO has been projectile pooping more and more. On Sunday she had an epic one for DH (finally). She managed to shoot all the way into the hallway, hitting the carpet, the lamp, the diaper pail, the Kleenex box, the Vaseline, and a bunch of other things along the way. Adventures in parenting

PoppySeedWindsor

Bees Everywhere said:

I feel like a jerk- I just disappeared from A14, I know. Things are hard here. 

I try to read RTT to see what you guys are up to though.

I've been really depressed lately.  I guess that's all.  I'll try to catch up more with RTT. 

Let us know what we can do! We're here for you mama. I've been having a hard time too and the RTTers haven't been shy to give their hugs and love. XOXO!

janice9821

Is life about to get easier? We finally got DD to take a pacifier and a bottle, and she actually slept not on top of or next to me for 4 hours last night. Fingers crossed this continues! It's been a rough 8 weeks.

PoppySeedWindsor

kseccomb17 said:

Dh is super depressed. He's so uninterested in pretty much anything. He lost pretty much all independence. Today, his family dog died. I wish I knew how to get him out of this funk. I think he's really struggling with ptsd.. he won't talk to anyone about it. I know it's soon, but I hate seeing him like this. I just don't know what to do

I'm so sorry to hear this is going on. There's so much your DH -- and your family -- has been through. Depression funks are really difficult, but there is a way out of them...that's the first thing to keep in mind, especially for you as a recovering new mama. Maybe he could talk to his family about the good times he had with the dog? Maybe you could look up ways to deal with grief and then help him be open about it (I KNOW that's a lot to ask of you!)?  From everything you've posted I know you're a freaking amazing wife and awesome mom. I think support comes really naturally to you. If he doesn't respond to the cheer up-type of support, perhaps give him some time to accept the loss of his dog. It could also be helpful (it is with hubster for me, anyway) to confront him and say, "I know you've been through a lot lately and things seem really hard. You had the accident and now your pup died. I'm here for you." Sometimes opening up the conversation enables my DH to release his emotions...maybe it'd work for you too?

ALSO...sorry this is coming so late. I'm finally catching up after a long night. Hugs to you!

michaelad3

DD has been wide awake for the last hour. 3am party time

PoppySeedWindsor

Eireyes said:

I effing hate insurance companies.  Just found out they denied my entire hospital bill for the delivery of Aiden... WTF?! Apparently my hospital didn't call to preauthorize anything... Well duh, its not like they can hold off on the process, nor was the final outcome unexpected! I spent 30 minutes on the phone back and forth with the hospital and my insurance company with one saying one thing and the other saying something different. I finally hung up on the insurance company because I got pissed and was getting nowhere fast. I guess I need to to that more often though, because insurance called me back five minutes later asking me for the hospital phone number so they could talk directly with them.

Like hell I'm paying the $14K bill myself when it should be 100% covered... asshats.

DUDE! I'm sure you'll get it figured out. I'm so sorry to hear you have to deal with effing dumb insurance companies while you have a newborn.

On the "I love you and think you're awesome in a totally non creepy way" side...I'm smitten on your use of asshat. 

janice9821

RE the relationship with hubby- things were strained for a few weeks. I was disappointed with how he was not very helpful the first half of my labor before I got the epidural I was planning to avoid, and frustrated with what I perceived as his lack of interest in the baby. Turns out he was just unsure of himself and not wanting to do something wrong. We talked about it and came up with a plan to get him more involved and things have been much better. Not perfect, but better.

PoppySeedWindsor

HOLY FIVE HOUR STRETCH OF SLEEP!!!!! WOOOOOOHOOOOOOO!

Praying this doesn't mean a shit storm is on the horizon...

(And yes, I mean literal and metaphorical shit storm. She's an infant after all)

mamahann

mamrotu73 said:

Nursing in the middle of the night always makes me need to go to the bathroom. I sit there trying to hold it in and hoping A would eat faster. I really should go first, but I never need to until half way through. Anyone else?

Ugh yes! I change DD after the first side and I practically run to put her down and pee.

pineconey

Last night DH told me that he thought LO wasn't going to survive because of his NICU stay. He told me about how he cried in the shower at the hospital because he felt so helpless.
All the feels, guise. All the feels.