Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Introduce Yourself Here!
I'm Kate. Just found out I'm expecting my second baby today! (I am super paranoid so since going off the pill in June I've been testing weekly.) I have a daughter who is about 2.5 years old. Due date seems to be 3/26/2020. I haven't told anyone yet! Trying to think of a cute way to announce since last time I just blurted it out to my husband while he was in the shower!
I am 31 and husband is 36. We have a rescue pup who is about 5. This is our first pregnancy. I'm a social worker, but I'm not currently working - we just relocated for my husband's new job. I'm pretty nervous about job hunting while pregnant and not thrilled about no qualifying for FMLA. I like to cook, exercise, read and travel.
welcome!
Hi all, my name is April and my EDD is March 7th. We had been trying for a few months towards the end of last year then took a break as I started a new job – we had just started trying again so it was a bit of a (very happy!) surprise to get a positive test on the 4th of July while on vacation!
I’m 35 and DH is 36 – we have been married for 3 years this month and it will be our first child and first grandchild on my side (2nd on his). We live in CT with our adorable corgi and I work in corporate events.
We are extremely excited but also nervous and haven’t yet told anyone else. We will probably wait to tell our immediate families until after the first doctor’s visit on the 31st. Glad to be able to share the news and journey here!!
My EDD is 3/5/20, I am 6 weeks today
My husband and I started trying in May, and at the end of June, I started feeling like I was going to see AF very soon! I was cramping like crazy and then no AF, so I tested on the day I was supposed to start: negative. I waited two more days, tested: negative. Decided to go buy one more box of tests two days later (5 days after I was supposed to start) and voila! My BFP! I was super surprised! We found out on July 5th!
I am 27, my DH is 32 and this is my very first pregnancy: cue all of the crazy overwhelming emotions.
We live in Northern California with our two dogs and one cat. I manage a veterinary clinic for the local humane society and my husband is a lineman.
I am so glad that this group exists because I feel like I have no clue what I’m doing, what to expect, etc. even though I have been reading every piece of pregnancy related material I can get my hands on for the last few months.
Looking forward to getting to know my birth month club
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
DH and I have been married for almost 5 years and already have DS who is almost 3. We also have 1 dog that we all adore (DS the most).
I just finished a big certification for work, so this is perfect timing since I don't have to study anymore. I like to read, cross-stitch, and I do a killer impression of Stitch from Lilo & Stitch.
My EDD is March 9 (my grandpa is 3/6, DH grandpa is 3/3 and our niece is 3/11/19!)
I had a feeling based on my BBT and took test since I was going to a concert and wanted to see if I could share the wine (obviously not!). This is our first baby, and my hubby had no clue, so I bought him a book called "dude you're gonna be a daddy" and put signs on our dogs, one said "Hey Dad!" and they other said "Guess What!?" then I was holding a balloon that said "Oh Baby!"
I am a special-ed preschool teacher, and am really looking forward to my kiddos watching my belly grow this year! I also work part-time for a not-for-profit trade association as their financial manager, and own/run my own cake & cookie business. Hubby and I play co-ed softball in summer & fall, I love to read, and i love to bake!
We've been married 2 1/2 years, we have two black labs, and live close to our families in Ohio!
Looking forward to getting to know all of you, and share this exciting journey!
We have two golden retrievers and volunteer with a local dog rescue.
My job keeps me busy and traveling, not really sure how all that is going to work out. Anyone else travel for work?
First pregnancy, super excited and terrified all at the same time!
TBH I’m pretty nervous. This was an “oops”. H definitely wanted another but I was sort of trying to convince him we were one and done. Parenting my daughter as a baby was tough (she woke up 3-8 times a night for 2 years, she BFed to 23 months, she screamed every time she was in the car for like a year). I’m just not 100% sure I’m really ready to do it all again. Of course I love my daughter immensely and I know I’ll love this baby. The love is on another level and I’m so excited for that.
I deeply love my BMB moms from my Feb’16 baby and I hope to make some new friendships here!
I found out I was pregnant in January of this year & were quite surprised. It took a bit to get used to the idea but once we did we were excited. We lost out sweet baby at 10 weeks. After a few months of praying we decided we wanted to have another child. Now we are pregnant with our rainbow baby 🙂 I'm trying not to let the fear of losing this baby creep into my mind. I'm praying all goes well with this pregnancy. Our kids are super excited. Especially my 10 year old!
I'm a stay at home mom & my husband is a police officer. We live in Ohio & also have 3 wonderful dogs that we adore!
@ashesdene Sorry to hear about your loss, but happy to hear about your rainbow! Feel free to join us over at PGAL, where we talk about a lot of the anxieties you've mentioned.--I am also 35 & also had a loss earlier this year, but I will be a FTM when my rainbow comes in March.
I’m a psych nurse in graduate school and my husband is an elementary school teacher. We have an almost 16 month old and a cat. We like gardening and hiking and cooking and sleeping (when we get the chance).
ETA: my EDD is 3/18
I live in Philly and work in non-profit education. I love most things, but mostly hiking, reading, art, gardening, exploring, and going for the beach.
I'm looking forward for his community since with my first I had many friends that were pregnant at the same time and that may not be the case this time around!
I have two boys - DS1 will be 4 this month, and DS2 is 21 months. It took us a year to conceive DS1 and 6 months for DS2, but we had just started TTC again this time for #3 - yesterday's BFP was a big surprise when I decided to test on a whim, expecting a negative.
DH and I are both in healthcare IT and are gamers in our free time.
DS2 10/2017
DS3 due 03/2020
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
I think my EDD is around March 19. My cycles are long and irregular. I’m 32 and DH is 35. Hoping to be active on this BMB like I was on my last one.
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
TW*** I have had three miscarriages in the past, so I am extremely hopeful and trying to be positive that this little babe sticks! ***TW
Can't wait to share this journey with you all!
My hobbies include reading, hiking, working out (Burn Bootcamp), and DIY projects around the house. My husband and I have one daughter and a 10 year old chocolate lab mix and we live in Indiana!
Happy to meet you all!
My name's Mary. I'm 27 and this is my first pregnancy! My estimated due date is March 22, 2020 and I'm so excited for this next adventure!
As for hobbies and occupations, I'm currently a high school English teacher and I love to read. I've been working my way through reading Sing, Unburied, Sing this summer and I'm hoping to read Where the Crawdads Sing next.
I'm excited to get to know you all!
I am a RN and a mother to a son from my previous marriage who is 8 years old , going on 9 in November. Looking forward to my first OB appointment in August, and fingers crossed this rainbow baby will be ok.
Based on LMP, my EDD is 3/24/2020. I found out almost a full week ago with a positive home test. So glad to see other EDDs around mine in here!
We’re PGAL, so I am very hopeful this is our rainbow. I had a MC in March at 9 wks, and am grateful I’ve gotten pregnant again but also feeling more cautious/worried this time. I don’t have many symptoms yet besides being fatigued, but I know it’s still very early! Trying to remember each pregnancy is unique and not compare everything to last time. Another quirk is my whole family basically knows already—I found out right before we went on vacation, and I’m normally never one to turn down a glass of wine, so that turned out to be a big tip-off!
My husband is also an elementary school teacher and we have one rescue Lab, named Buzz. We love traveling and reading. @lattesswithgreatlit I’ve been on a waitlist at my library for Where the Crawdads Sing for months! I’m hoping it’s a good one once I get my hands on it.
I am am beyond excited to be able to make this post right now. My EDD is March 19– I have a longer cycle. I know that I can’t be any earlier than that because I had sonohystergram and had awful side effects. I decided to take a test because I was 6 days late (in anti-test because we’ve been trying for 2 years).
I love to sew and make various things I am a teacher so right now I’m off on summer break. My husband and I have 1 daughter (4) and an older dog. That’s all for now! Looking forward to getting to know some other expecting moms.