Also I like that she said she hopes it doesn't blow up like the last one. Well maybe don't say you think kids with problems don't deserve to live, k thanks.
Seriously. She wasn't saying anything too far fetched but I find I really hate everything she says now. She's fucking insane and I just can't with her.
@expandcontract. The really crazy thread got deleted but I think the one she posted on the MC/PL forum is still up and full of crazy too if you are curious and want a sense of how crazy she was.
I’m shocked she wasn’t banned or jailed too cause she was really causing a lot of drama and saying some really shitty things. I guess she never explicitly attacked anyone though 🤷♀️
I don't feel like it should only be attacking a specific person. She attacked mothers with advanced maternal age, mothers with special needs children, and men with small penises. That's enough as far as I'm concerned. I'm really irritated she's still around after that.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I agree. Her “viewpoints” are pretty toxic and considering how many AMA mothers and mothers of special needs children are on here I don’t think she should be allowed to continue posting. I’m hoping she at least got a warning or some sort of strike on her record. If she’s allowed to put that shit again consequence free, I’ll be super pissed.
Yeah, I'd be super offended if I was AMA at basically being told I was being more selfish and risky tha someone who smokes during pregnancy. No. You're wrong. One is child abuse, one is love. GTFO.
@DuchessOfCambridge EXACTLY. Ugh. A close friend of mine has twins she conceived at 40. Beautiful boy and girl. Boy is autistic and perfect. He is as sweet as C. His sister has allergies (I basically got both of her kids in one kid 😂) and at Halloween my friend did switch witch with her daughter's candy, and her son sorted his own candy and gave up everything his sister can't eat. They're 6.
Ugh. She was just so infuriating on so many topics. I cannot imagine my sweet friend (who I told about this girl and she said "tell her to go fuck herself" 😂) not having those babies just because she was AMA.
Having a battle of wills with my 5 year old and I think he's winning. I told him to eat his dinner (ham and Mac & cheese) and he could have Oreos. I even gave him small pieces as he ate (4 pieces of) his Mac and cheese. But as soon as the ham came up, he wasn't hungry. I told him that means he doesn't get any cookies tonight and if he gets hungry, he can only have his dinner. He said okay, and asked for milk and I got it for him. He's too fucking smart for me. He asked for milk to fill his belly so he didn't have to eat again tonight 😒😩😂🤦♀️
@eatinwatermelonseeds my 4.5 year old nephew is the same way! My SIL had to start telling him he could only have milk after he ate certain things because he would do the same and would use the excuse "I ate something healthy, I drank milk" to get around not eating things he didnt like. Kids are too smart sometimes!
He's in the kitchen with H right now, and I hear him go "dad, you should take mom's glasses so she can't see me eating cookies" 😂 now H is getting him to eat his ham to get some cookies ♥️ good H.
With DD's birthday party done (and thank you cards too!) and a huge, important meeting at work wrapped up... I'm feeling good! Sorry for being MIA. I actually have time to take a breath and check out non work stuff for a minute (shh). Trying to catch up a bit here and there on threads. Just noticed Aug 2019 is up wow!
I cancelled all of DS's appointments today so I can pack. (And sleep in, let's be honest here 😂). He's asleep still, but I'm pretty certain that second I get out of bed, he will too.
Hoping I get the call early to go pick up the keys to our house, but she said it'll probably be later. 😩
@eatinwatermelonseeds I love your son’s thinking process. smart kid “take mom’s glasses”...love it!
@sleepy33, I haven’t read any of this woman’s comments yet...she sounds mental! As a FTM pregnant at 42, sounds like it was better I didn’t read whatever she wrote....I just don’t understand why people waste their time being mean. I would so have added 🐳 gifs as a light joke
apparently baby girl wants me to sleep in, I slept 2 hours past my alarm and just made it to work over 2 hours late oops!!
@sleepy33 she's so highly intellectual though, no one is as smart as her so probably the whole world is wrong and it's actually Whales not Wales. Even the country itself is wrong.
Yeah, I'd be super offended if I was AMA at basically being told I was being more selfish and risky tha someone who smokes during pregnancy. No. You're wrong. One is child abuse, one is love. GTFO.
Dude, as an almost 40 year old- I will say that I found her post more laughable and ill-informed than offensive. I didn’t want to get into it on that thread, but the risks associated with AMA are so greatly overstated. The biggest risks are not getting pregnant and having MCs. After that the risks of DS and other chromosomal abnormalities are higher- but the overwhelming majority of AMA moms, particularly those closer to 35 who get pregnant and don’t miscarry have healthy babies. Expecting Science has a great blog post on this that I will post in a bit.
If I would have posted on that thread I would post the statistical that show older women who give birth have greater socioeconomic status and education levels, which are the biggest factors in a child’s overall health. So overall, using her logic, women under 30 shouldn’t have kids and older women should. I obviously don’t believe it, but if I wanted to be as dense and as offensive as her, that is what I would say.
@chloe97 and she would've told you she has a bachelor's in pre-med and is HIGHLY intellectual and makes MORE than enough to support the baby. 🙄 She was ridiculous, there literally was nothing that could be said to her that she wouldn't argue to her benefit.
@SpaceBurger I mean, you can't really argue that with shitty statistics, so she might not have really had a choice but to just own up to the error. Everything else she had an argument for, this isn't really one that you can argue 😂 she could've been like "no no, I really wanted to go see whales, not wales" 😂
Been MIA lately and not feeling like my normal involved self on the boards. Hope to feel more "into it" in the next few days or weekish. Sending all my creepy cyber hugs until I'm all up in this bizness again.
I was so happy and positive about my app that locks my phone so I can get shit done but today I cannot bring myself to turn it on and be productive. Halp 😩
Yeah, I'd be super offended if I was AMA at basically being told I was being more selfish and risky tha someone who smokes during pregnancy. No. You're wrong. One is child abuse, one is love. GTFO.
I was highly offended. I didn’t choose to meet my husband later in life but I am doing everything I need to have a healthy AMA pregnancy.
I was more more offended for you ladies with special needs children. She is a horrible person for the things she said.
ZOMG, today is crazy. 1. My dumb ex husband has been moaning to me about how he pays too much in child support, as if I can control that. I finally told him I was done talking about it, if he thinks he can change it, file a motion to modify otherwise don't talk to me about it. So he filed a motion, but it was based on paying zero for child care. Uh...? I messaged him last night and told him hey look, when I moved back to town, I did not modify our support agreement, even though child care here is more expensive AND you no longer need a travel stipend since I moved back to town, so if you continue with your motion, by my calculations you'll wind up paying $200 MORE than before, why not be smart and let's reevaluate after he goes to kindergarten in the fall? I told him it would come down to whether the judge thought it was in our kids best interest to move schools AGAIN just to find something cheaper for the next 8 months and I highly doubted a judge would agree with that. He finally messaged back and asked if I'd agree to him just paying $50 less in arrears a month. I said hell yes. SO hoping the court agrees to that and I don't have to waste any more time on it.
b. My fiance's house went on the market yesterday and he already has a full price cash offer! I am excited!
iii. My capital campaign just got a $3 million gift. I'm poppin bubbly (metaphorically) and doing no work this afternoon, cause they are also handing out holiday bonuses this afternoon so I have to go mingle with the parents association people anyway.
@kbeers13 I hope you're doing well and we'd love to see you back here if you're up to it!
@sleepy33 congratulations on your fiancé's house sale (FX) and the huge donation!! 🍾🥂 Good for you on dealing with your ex. I would imagine there is a lot of emotional capital being spent on your part!
@knarlytaurus you have noooo idea lol. He just...does not exist in the real world. Like he thinks just because he feels like he pays too much, they should listen to him and lower his CS payment. I'm like, it's literally a formula mandated by law, what you think you can afford doesn't matter. Then posts on FB buying a new car, rims, going on week long trips to Vegas, etc. I'm like oh yes, so sad how broke you are from paying child support.
@sleepy33 huge eyeroll at your ex. Like, it's your kid, suck it TF up buttercup. You're nice to take $50 less. Though it seems like it's more of a hassle for you to not, I'm not really sure how it all works but I'm super annoyed by him.
LOL join the club @DuchessOfCambridge! I mean, I could just let him walk into that hearing and let the chips fall where they may, especially since I explicitly warned him this might be the case when he first filed his motion. The truth is, I spend way more on our son than he ever will, and if I let that get to me, I'd be mad about it constantly. Like, I buy all his clothes, pay for all the extras, lessons, sports, school pics, etc. He also thinks that since my parents have some money, I should just leach off of them forever, since they were constantly bailing us/him out of one disaster or another when we were married. The man has no shame whatsoever. I divorced him so we could stop fighting and I could be happy again, you know? So I try to just let go of expecting him to act right, and do what I can to have a harmonious co-parenting relationship (within reason). Like, what he pays now is just barely half of daycare cost and that's it. So none of it goes towards food, clothes, etc. If $50 less will keep him happy and out of my hair, I'm thrilled with it lol.
@sleepy33 OMG this $hit drives me crazy. I'm like, if you didn't want to pay child support, ask for joint custody! A lot of dads don't want that either, which boggles the mind but also I'm sure is nicer for you to get primary custody. God forbid something happened in our marriage, it would destroy DH to only see DD every other weekend and Wednesday nights. My dad wouldn't give me the stuff to submit for the FAFSA loan my last 2 years of college (not needs based but you have to submit income stuff) because he had been making more money and didn't want my mom to go to court to get more child support (my sister is 6 years younger). She had a great job and wasn't into the nickle and diming every time something happened but I know he thought it was ridiculous he had to pay, even though he could totally afford it - obviously a difference between being in your 30s and in your early 50s in terms of how much you're making, but it sounds like your ex (similar to my dad) has a whole burning in his pocket with money sometimes and spends it on silly stuff and then turns around complaining about the stupidest thing that costs $$ and it leaves you sooo confused.
Re: Randoms week of 12/3
ETA: Nevermind @DuchessOfCambridge. I found the random thread. Thank you!!
I’m shocked she wasn’t banned or jailed too cause she was really causing a lot of drama and saying some really shitty things. I guess she never explicitly attacked anyone though 🤷♀️
Ugh. She was just so infuriating on so many topics. I cannot imagine my sweet friend (who I told about this girl and she said "tell her to go fuck herself" 😂) not having those babies just because she was AMA.
I could of slept in until 7:40 this morning but the dog started having a puppy dream at 6 and woke me up. Now I guess I'm awake for the day 🙁
@eatinwatermelonseeds i need spaghetti now!
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
Hoping I get the call early to go pick up the keys to our house, but she said it'll probably be later. 😩
@megsb615 I'm so sorry for your loss, and the timing of it all.
@sleepy33, I haven’t read any of this woman’s comments yet...she sounds mental! As a FTM pregnant at 42, sounds like it was better I didn’t read whatever she wrote....I just don’t understand why people waste their time being mean. I would so have added 🐳 gifs as a light joke
apparently baby girl wants me to sleep in, I slept 2 hours past my alarm and just made it to work over 2 hours late oops!!
If I would have posted on that thread I would post the statistical that show older women who give birth have greater socioeconomic status and education levels, which are the biggest factors in a child’s overall health. So overall, using her logic, women under 30 shouldn’t have kids and older women should. I obviously don’t believe it, but if I wanted to be as dense and as offensive as her, that is what I would say.
ETA posts from Expecting Science https://expectingscience.com/2015/02/27/7-things-to-know-about-fertility-in-your-late-30s/
https://expectingscience.com/2015/03/06/the-mythical-fertility-cliff-at-age-35/
(jk I always wanna see you, but you know. Tough love)
I was more more offended for you ladies with special needs children. She is a horrible person for the things she said.
1. My dumb ex husband has been moaning to me about how he pays too much in child support, as if I can control that. I finally told him I was done talking about it, if he thinks he can change it, file a motion to modify otherwise don't talk to me about it. So he filed a motion, but it was based on paying zero for child care. Uh...? I messaged him last night and told him hey look, when I moved back to town, I did not modify our support agreement, even though child care here is more expensive AND you no longer need a travel stipend since I moved back to town, so if you continue with your motion, by my calculations you'll wind up paying $200 MORE than before, why not be smart and let's reevaluate after he goes to kindergarten in the fall? I told him it would come down to whether the judge thought it was in our kids best interest to move schools AGAIN just to find something cheaper for the next 8 months and I highly doubted a judge would agree with that. He finally messaged back and asked if I'd agree to him just paying $50 less in arrears a month. I said hell yes. SO hoping the court agrees to that and I don't have to waste any more time on it.
b. My fiance's house went on the market yesterday and he already has a full price cash offer! I am excited!
iii. My capital campaign just got a $3 million gift. I'm poppin bubbly (metaphorically) and doing no work this afternoon, cause they are also handing out holiday bonuses this afternoon so I have to go mingle with the parents association people anyway.
@sleepy33 congratulations on your fiancé's house sale (FX) and the huge donation!! 🍾🥂 Good for you on dealing with your ex. I would imagine there is a lot of emotional capital being spent on your part!