@kbirchtree, that's adorable! My son has long hair and I can sometimes get him to let me put it in a half ponytail to keep it out of his face. Of course, he's also mistaken for a girl all the time just because of his hair .
I bought a new diaper bag and it was delivered Monday. It’s still sitting sealed in the Amazon box on our table. DH hasn’t once asked what it is or if I’m going to open it. His lack of curiosity is tripping me out.
Also I think I’m going to buy a big sister shirt for DD and tell my family this week. DH has repeatedly been asking when and I told him after vacation. It’s probably time to rip the band aid off.
He also suggested buying my dad a bottle of scotch, lol.
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@thatbaintforbetty DH would ask right away and then I’d get a lecture about not needing another diaper bag lol
ugh mil keeps harassing DH about when SHE can tell people. She gets mad that we haven’t told the entire family yet because she has to tell people, it’s so annoying. Then we told her we weren’t putting it on Facebook at this point and she got super pouty about it.
Also my dad told me this morning that MIL and FIL comfronted him about me going to boot camp and how it isn’t good for me or baby. So I should stop immediately. A) I come from a very athletic and active family so my dad stood up for me MIL has never exercised is her life and both my in laws are very unhealthy (ie diabetes, blood pressure, overweight, drink too much) My dad tried to explain how my trainers modify workouts and that exercising is very good for mom and baby to have a healthy pregnancy. I’m just annoyed that they are taking behind my back and acting like I’m doing something dangerous to my baby.
@blueberrymomma it's the worst when people go behind your back and confront others about your decisions. My boyfriends mom has just been harassing him too and continues to try and micromanage every freaking thing. She's asked 4 times if he won't take me to my appointments so she can. Wtf. Grow up already. Good on your Dad for sticking up for you!
Wait, wait, wait, @kaleesi93. Your MIL wants your bf to voluntarily not go to appointments that he can go to and wants to go to so she can go in his place?? F that.
I haven't told my parents yet and I might this weekend (11 weeks). I really want to wait a month or 2 to share on facebook and I don't want to tell my dad bc he will tell everyone. He lives 2 hours away so I want to send him a cute pic of DD in a big sister shirt but even if I ask he will share it on facebook so I can't.
Why can't parents be normal?
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@lyse01 yeahhh.... I've been really upset about it tbh. She acts like he's a virgin and doesn't and shouldn't be concerned about any part of this process. Except she told him behind my back not to let me pick my own midwife.... She wants to go to the appointments to force me to get sonograms and she wants to know the address of the building I'm going to go to for appointments so she can just show up and control everything. If she doesn't cool her ass I'm going to absolutely lose it and scream at her.
@kosmo86 that's a beautiful announcement idea! I wish parents could be more normal! Ha! I don't have any relationship with my bio parents but my future MIL is all I can handle
Had to do my volunteer shift at the food coop last night (lol I swear I’m not super crunchy), and I’m so exhausted and still smell like celery. Then this morning I had to swallow my puke three times on the train platform because I didn’t want to make a nasty mess. I’m 10.5 weeks, very ready to get the 2nd tri.
DH and I are putting off social media announcements for a while for a bunch of reasons, but my MIL is one of them. They’re basically no-contact and once the news gets around to her she’s definitely going to feel entitled to ‘her grandchild’ and just trample over every boundary DH has set for her. Thankfully she’s on the other side of the country but it’s gonna be rough.
@kaleesi93 someone needs to sit her down and explain the role of parent vs grandparent, and it probably needs to be someone not you or your bf. I wish I had suggestions for who, though.
@lin0442 that's rough! I have a rocky relationship with celery and smelling like it would put me over the edge! I walked like 5 miles yesterday because I would rather puke on suburban walking trails than my bosses floor I hate how grandparents think they're entitled to anything. Especially when they're not close with their own children
@lyse01 thank you for sympathizing. I wish I knew who could talk to her too besides myself or my bf.. everybody that knows her has the same opinion that there's nothing anybody can do to change her, and everyone gives her so much grace by saying "oh she just wants to help". Ummm. There's a big difference between being helpful and controlling. My bf thinks once we move across the state it will help her to stop, but she's already saying this shit over messenger... so short of blocking her that's not going to stop anything. I think because she's always been this way, a lot of people don't even realize how far she goes.. I'm just rambling at this point though!
@kaleesi93 Wow. Just wow. I'm sorry, but your MIL sounds a bit crazy. That would be a LOT to handle! Of course, I have no advice lol, just floored that people actually do that. It makes me very grateful for my mom and MIL. The only thing I have to worry about is my mom buying me and the baby too much stuff. She flies out to see us next weekend, and she's already getting her credit card ready. Slow down, woman!
@rennie1108 aww but that's so sweet at the same time!! I'm glad you have a supportive mom tribe around you! I have you all so that makes MILs craziness easier to deal with! Although technically she's not my MIL yet, I cant even imagine what kind of motherofthegroomzilla will happen when bf and I get married omg
@kaleesi93 my MIL is obsessed with going to appointments too. With DD I let her and my mom go to one so they could hear the heartbeat(MIL recorded it on her phone!). She’ll also ask for the exact time and date of my appts and my kids doctors appt and start calling DH as soon as we’re done wanting to know the babies heartbeat or how much kids weigh etc... It’s so obnoxious that we give vague answers about appt now, like “oh it’s sometime in Oct, but I can’t remember the exact date” lol @lyse01 thanks! He’s usually not confrontational (my mom is 100% lol) but he gets super protective of me when I’m pregnant. My parents are trying to sell their house and move closer to us. Since my dad already started his new job he’s living with us for now and has being super helpful with the kids at night
@kaleesi93 I can commiserate with the awful MIL. I have stories for... years. I'm sorry you're going through this right now. Just stay positive and hold on to your boundaries! We are here for you.
Y’all, thanks for the well wishes on apartment hunting. It went even better than expected... we are getting a HOUSE!!! This is an absolute dream come true for me. It’s tiny, every single room needs paint and we probably need new windows, but I’m so excited for us to have our OWN space and place to build our family.
@blueberrymomma@kaleesi93 I’m sorry to hear about your MIL issues. I will never understand why MILs sometimes have that crazy sense of entitlement just because it’s their grandchild.
@sdelg09, yay! That's so exciting! Even though our house has had to have a ton of work done, it's so nice to have our own space. It'll be nice to have the time to close and get settled in before April! Good luck!
For all the MIL issues, I don't really have any advice but I sympathize. I like to think it comes from a place of caring, but some people are just jerks. Sorry you ladies have to deal with such negativity.
You all, thank you so much! You're the best, It sucks you all have horrid MILs too but it's nice we can all commiserate with each other. Honestly I think she doesn't stop to think what anybody wants but her. My bf should WANT to sit out because she wants to take me. End of story. The idea of privacy is just alien. When I was over there this weekend she sat in front of me on the floor and scratched my toenails like she was a cat.
Congrats on the house @sdelg09!! It is so amazing having your own space that you can change and do things to without anyone's permission. Being a home owner is amazing!
@kaleesi93 I would absolutely lose it if my MIL was that controlling. I can't even imagine that. Stay strong and stick to your boundaries because she sounds like a pill. I just wouldn't tell her about any appointments and tell your bf to keep it to himself as well then there isn't any arguing with you. I wish I had something to relate but I got extremely lucky to have a MIL I talk to more than my own mother so I don't have advice other than that on my end. Hope it gets better!
Bump keeps logging me out. which wouldn't be so bad except that everytime it logs my back in it redirects to the home page with a giant pic of a pregnant lady. Like I am trying to be on here WITHOUT showing my office mates that I am on a pregnancy site (they don't know yet)
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@kosmo86@mermaidca you guys are braver then me. I won’t bump from my work computer. The cubicle next to me is IT and while I’ve never seen him log that kind of stuff I’m super paranoid. Even though my previous cubicle mate used to spend time on FB and he’s back up IT and would know if we had that kind of tracking. (He got moved not fired)
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@thatbaintforbetty - I do everything on my work computer. lol I work for a large fortune 500 company and I am a salaried employee. As long as my work is done no one really cares. There are 1000 other people in my building so they have better things to do than monitor my facebook/bump activity
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I would love a MIL thread. My story might be uplifting and offer some light at the end of the tunnel for others. This pregnancy is totally different than my first in terms of our relationship. First pregnancy, she was newly sober, annoying as hell, and living with us in our too small house. Now she's almost 2 years sober, I enjoy hanging out with her, she has her own place, and is such an important part of DD's and our lives.
@sdelg09 tell us more about the house! Mostly I'm curious about what people consider small and also what drives people to pick what they do (besides affordability).
At my appointment this afternoon I met the new OB and he was super nice and it wasn’t awkward( all my other OBs are women) He answered all my questions and spent over 30 min with me. For the Greys Anatomy fans his name is Dr Shepard lol. Found the heartbeat instantly, 158
@lovelybabybumpz the house is not much bigger than our current apartment. Our apartment is 700 sqf, the house is about 740 sqf. Two beds, one bath. It’s closer to both of our jobs (actually in between both) and also happens to be closer to my midwife’s office too! It has a nice green yard and backyard. But when I say it needs paint... I mean everything needs paint. We are painting the outside of the house, the kitchen cabinets and walls, the living room, the dining room, completely painting the bathroom including tile, and not to mention the baby’s room/master bedroom. The nice thing is that we’ve had the house thing on the back burner for a while, so this is about as set in stone as you can get without the keys in our hands just yet. I think I had just convinced myself that we wouldn’t be approved and we needed to look for apartments in order to avoid getting excited. But here we are! It really is the perfect little starter house for us.
ETA: I’d also like to point out how ridiculously expensive it is to live in an apartment with cats. I REFUSE to put down an $800 deposit because I own two fur balls. I will NOT. And paying rent for my CATS? Count me out.
When I was over there this weekend she sat in front of me on the floor and scratched my toenails like she was a cat.
Excuse me but WTF?? That is the strangest behavior I think I've ever heard of an adult doing. What on earth was her intention with that?? You officially have the weirdest MIL to be!
@sdelg09 it's amazing what a paint job can do! We painted one floor of our 50's home and it looks brighter and feels bigger! Sorry, can't help but get giddy for people who get new houses, we just got our first in Dec of last year and it's been amazing. How long until you close and get to start making it "home?"
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Also I think I’m going to buy a big sister shirt for DD and tell my family this week. DH has repeatedly been asking when and I told him after vacation. It’s probably time to rip the band aid off.
He also suggested buying my dad a bottle of scotch, lol.
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ugh mil keeps harassing DH about when SHE can tell people. She gets mad that we haven’t told the entire family yet because she has to tell people, it’s so annoying. Then we told her we weren’t putting it on Facebook at this point and she got super pouty about it.
Also my dad told me this morning that MIL and FIL comfronted him about me going to boot camp and how it isn’t good for me or baby. So I should stop immediately. A) I come from a very athletic and active family so my dad stood up for me
My boyfriends mom has just been harassing him too and continues to try and micromanage every freaking thing.
She's asked 4 times if he won't take me to my appointments so she can.
Wtf. Grow up already.
Good on your Dad for sticking up for you!
Why can't parents be normal?
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Except she told him behind my back not to let me pick my own midwife....
She wants to go to the appointments to force me to get sonograms and she wants to know the address of the building I'm going to go to for appointments so she can just show up and control everything.
If she doesn't cool her ass I'm going to absolutely lose it and scream at her.
@kosmo86 that's a beautiful announcement idea! I wish parents could be more normal! Ha! I don't have any relationship with my bio parents but my future MIL is all I can handle
DH and I are putting off social media announcements for a while for a bunch of reasons, but my MIL is one of them. They’re basically no-contact and once the news gets around to her she’s definitely going to feel entitled to ‘her grandchild’ and just trample over every boundary DH has set for her. Thankfully she’s on the other side of the country but it’s gonna be rough.
I hate how grandparents think they're entitled to anything. Especially when they're not close with their own children
Ummm.
There's a big difference between being helpful and controlling.
My bf thinks once we move across the state it will help her to stop, but she's already saying this shit over messenger... so short of blocking her that's not going to stop anything.
I think because she's always been this way, a lot of people don't even realize how far she goes..
I'm just rambling at this point though!
I have you all so that makes MILs craziness easier to deal with! Although technically she's not my MIL yet, I cant even imagine what kind of motherofthegroomzilla will happen when bf and I get married omg
@lyse01 thanks! He’s usually not confrontational (my mom is 100% lol) but he gets super protective of me when I’m pregnant. My parents are trying to sell their house and move closer to us. Since my dad already started his new job he’s living with us for now and has being super helpful with the kids at night
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@blueberrymomma @kaleesi93 I’m sorry to hear about your MIL issues. I will never understand why MILs sometimes have that crazy sense of entitlement just because it’s their grandchild.
AWESOME!
For all the MIL issues, I don't really have any advice but I sympathize. I like to think it comes from a place of caring, but some people are just jerks. Sorry you ladies have to deal with such negativity.
Honestly I think she doesn't stop to think what anybody wants but her. My bf should WANT to sit out because she wants to take me. End of story. The idea of privacy is just alien.
When I was over there this weekend she sat in front of me on the floor and scratched my toenails like she was a cat.
@sdelg09
That's SO exciting!
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@kaleesi93 I would absolutely lose it if my MIL was that controlling. I can't even imagine that. Stay strong and stick to your boundaries because she sounds like a pill. I just wouldn't tell her about any appointments and tell your bf to keep it to himself as well then there isn't any arguing with you. I wish I had something to relate but I got extremely lucky to have a MIL I talk to more than my own mother so I don't have advice other than that on my end. Hope it gets better!
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H: 36
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@sdelg09 congrats!
At my appointment this afternoon I met the new OB and he was super nice and it wasn’t awkward( all my other OBs are women) He answered all my questions and spent over 30 min with me. For the Greys Anatomy fans his name is Dr Shepard lol. Found the heartbeat instantly, 158
ETA: I’d also like to point out how ridiculously expensive it is to live in an apartment with cats. I REFUSE to put down an $800 deposit because I own two fur balls. I will NOT. And paying rent for my CATS? Count me out.