@angelob88 November, I believe a month from now. I cannot wait. I’m going to need some major nursery inspiration. I didn’t think the baby would have their own room, and I think I’m most excited for that!
+1 on feeling bad. I was so sick last night that I was getting uterus cramps and low key losing my mind so this morning I choked down a whole bag of jerky and a bottle of chocolate milk and that was the magical combination needed to settle my stomach bleh. @molecularmolly I don't even know why... Maybe she's awkward and doesn't know how to touch people? She caused a big fuss till I put my book down and then she totally went nuts being weird and touching my belly WHILE saying "I won't touch your belly if you dont want me to".. Like thanks for asking me. I never said I was okay with it. Next time I've determined I'm going to slap her hand gently. Maybe her parents never set down boundaries.. I don't care how excited you are. I wouldn't let my own mother touch me that way so tough luck. It's like the stories I hear of people in the grocery store randomly belly rubbing strangers, I could never actually fathom it till now. It's weird af.
Oh man. So my MIL and FIL live 2000 miles away and I won’t see them again until Christmas/ddbirthday and my parents live 3000+ miles away and we won’t see them until the week before Christmas. I don’t think we are around the in laws enough to feel like our toes are stepped on, I mean mil quirkiness does get to me after a few days visiting but I am grateful for at least the respect she shows for us and how we raise our kid.
Okay I missed a ton since the last time I was here and I don’t think I can fully catch up. So I’m just going to pop in to say that I HAVE A FRIDGE IN MY HOUSE NOW!!!! For the last year and a half my fridge has been in the garage. I finally have one in the house with a fancy ice maker and everything!
We have a great gym at work and it has a system for video workouts. I tried to go extra early today to avoid her but she got there early too. She ALWAYS picks the video and they are super hard and she COMPLAINS the whole time. Since only my boss knows I am pregnant I just try to do it and keep up. UGH i just want to have a good workout without killing myself
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@professormama Yay for a fridge in the house! We have one in the house and the carport and it's always a pain in the winter when I put leftovers in the outside fridge. Hate the idea of having to go to that fridge forever.
@kaleesi93 Your MIL scares the crap out of me, sounds like a new level of crazy. I have a known a few teenagers like that and always hoped they'd grow out of it, but guess some never do.
@kbirchtree My FIL lives 2,700 mi away and is planning multiple trips a year and wants to be super involved (so we'll have to have the boundaries talk sometime). I wish my MIL lived that far away...
Went to the dentist today for a cleaning, and on the forms they asked if I was pregnant and asked for my due date, which is April 21. I filled it out, did the cleaning, and when I went to pay they gave me an appointment card for my next appointment... that they had scheduled for April 22.
Sure, I'll show up and birth this baby in the dentist's waiting room, why not.
@sheepshepherdess I used to be afraid of her, but it's been long enough now to where I don't let her intimidate me, I'm just annoyed af..
Also I regret writing on the checkin that I'm feeling better. I just suddenly and violently puked my guts up and got a bloody nose. I didn't have chocolate milk and beef jerky for breakfast, so coincidence? I think not. Ugh.
@kosmo86 that sucks about your partner so bad, but the idea of a gym at work sounds so amazing.. I wish I had that! I could totally knock out a good workout while the toddler sleeps and not worry about coming home dead tired to do one. Could you maybe fake an injury and try the pity card so she lets you pick an easier workout? Its crazy how selfish people can be.
A question that really belongs in the fandoms thread: does anyone have any recommendations for closet organization systems? Ideally I’d like one with drawers, and that’s somewhat customizable, and not crazy expensive. I know I’m not likely to hit that wish list... but a girl can dream.
@kaleesi93 - my work is AMAZING, we have a full gym and I huge cafeteria and even a starbucks! She goes every single day and since I have been pregnant I only go 2-3 times a week. She got into a routine that I hate to mess up which is why I went an extra 30 minutes early today but so did she lol.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@professormama - We have done the IKEA ALGOT series, the drawers are a bit rickety but they work. it was substantially less than others on the market and very easy customize.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@professormama - We have done the IKEA ALGOT series, the drawers are a bit rickety but they work. it was substantially less than others on the market and very easy customize.
@professormama ooo. tag me in this if anyone has suggestions. We're reframing a closet in the nursery to go wall to wall because we have no storage, so I imagine we'll need some sort of system.
Posting here because we don't seem to have an active symptoms thread: dear GOD these hormones need to cool down. I lose interesting in having sex in the middle of having sex! This is NOT normal for me as a person or for my last pregnancy. It is so frustrating and mortifying and bkasdklasllawlretjrijaosidnnb.
@ashtuesday, that blows . It occasionally happens to me normally (I have issues with sex and sometimes a switch flips and I'm no longer enjoying it at all). Does your husband understand when that happens? Sex should never be a chore or just for one person.
Follow up appt in 1 hr!!! Hopefully everything looked ok on the scan on monday and I can start to relax a little bit. 4 weeks in limbo has been long enough!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
My random today: one of my SILs just scored us a barely used crib. I'm hoping it doesn't look SO far off from DS's because I think that'll drive me crazy but whatever. Free crib is a free crib.
My random is a question because its driving me nuts. How would you guys feel having baby's room on another floor as the master? I've seriously been crying because the house we are looking to buy is set up horribly. There's no master bedroom at all so we are talking about renovating and making the small upstairs into a master bed/bath. Baby is sleeping in our room for at least a year, but afterwards there is only a small bedroom downstairs that he/she can have.. I know there are monitors but... I'm struggling wrapping my head around not having my baby sleeping a room away from us.
@kaleesi93 For me it would be a deal breaker. I don’t like floor plans that have the bedrooms all split up. Unless it’s like 3 on the second and one on the first.
But it I also don’t like floor plans where the bedrooms are near the garage, or near the front or certain ones that have the master separate. I’m super weird about floor plans. It’s one reason I want to build and not buy.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014 BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
My random is a question because its driving me nuts. How would you guys feel having baby's room on another floor as the master? I've seriously been crying because the house we are looking to buy is set up horribly. There's no master bedroom at all so we are talking about renovating and making the small upstairs into a master bed/bath. Baby is sleeping in our room for at least a year, but afterwards there is only a small bedroom downstairs that he/she can have.. I know there are monitors but... I'm struggling wrapping my head around not having my baby sleeping a room away from us.
I wouldn't be a fan of it personally. Not only not having them near, but making the trips to and from their room MOTN? No thanks. I don't need to be exhausted climbing up and downstairs. We plan to redo our attic and have DS have a room up there so we can put the babies right across the hall from us.
My UO- Home births make me super anxious for the people that choose them. Things can go wrong so fast, and (non-nurse) midwife credentials in the US aren’t very robust. It’s really upsetting when people are like ‘it only takes 5-10min to get to the hospital’. In my job I’ve helped manage complications that can kill a momma in that time span. And 5 minutes without breathing is a very long time. At the end of the day, it’s that person’s choice, but it’s difficult to wrap my head around choosing to *not* have a team of trained pros and support around in favor of comfort and the illusion of control.
(I do have some sympathy for people who choose home birth because they can’t afford anything else, but that’s a failure of the US govt and medical system.)
@kaleesi93 in some ways I would like it better - going about my chores in the main part of the house while baby naps is way easier when on the same floor. But I’m not sure I’d wake up to monitors, or to noise downstairs.
@thatbaintforbetty@MRDCle@lyse01 Thanks you guys, I'm not happy about it at all either.. ugh such a hard thing. I keep telling myself it's not our forever home, and we are planning on building a few years down the road but miserable years are still miserable. Houses are ridiculous and the housing market is so frustrating.
Oh I 100% feel you @kaleesi93. I hate our current house. But DH bought it before we even met so the mortgage is almost paid off. He's constantly talking me down about how much I despise the house/the yard/the neighborhood.
Ughs @MRDCle I hate everything about this house and the only reason my BF picked it was for the office which he now wants to knock out and make a lovely space for me, but I'm depressed thinking about moving to an area I hate, to a house I hate, with a yard I hate, and on top of everything else there's nothing good about this house but the potential to gut the entire thing and make it better. Initially I wanted a fixer upper and my BF didnt and now he's all excited for a project and I just feel incredibly depressed and exhausted. I want our own house.. I hate apartments.. but once you buy something. There you are.
It really does stink. The only thing really getting me through it is that we'll have it paid off in a couple years. Do you have any other possibilities or is this a done deal?
@kangstadt My husband does understand - he takes it so much more lightly than I do! We always stop, and then I'm in a funk for the next hour. I imagine he's giving me the grace he'd want if roles were reversed, and I appreciate that.
@kaleesi93 I used to feel the way you do (there are two bedrooms upstairs and one downstairs in our house, but it is small), but now I feel differently! N's crib and changing table are still in our room, but we are NEVER upstairs, and I hate not being near her in the day. She takes most of her naps in the swing in our living room (which means she wakes up a lot, thanks to the dogs) and we change her on the couch 99% of the time. A baby room on the main floor would get so much more use! I could imagine feeling differently when she's older and might get out of bed to come get us, but I think a main floor kid's room could have a lot of perks.
@kaleesi93, we have a similar situation. Our bedroom and DS's room are upstairs (split level house) and the room we're making into the nursery is downstairs.
The baby will stay in our room for the first six months probably, and after that I'm actual hopeful that having the downstairs nursery will be a boon. Our son is loud and doesn't nap - I'm hoping that having a floor between them may help the baby's sleep versus hurt it.
@MRDCle we can keep looking, but we are trying to be out of our apartment by December. Also BF really wants to buy this house. I don't want to be unreasonable and ruin our chances, but this chance doesnt feel very great.. we just have to figure things out but the baby room I just really needed to vent and get opinions on!
@ashtuesday I want a baby room on the main floor for the same reasons, but I want the master on the main floor as well! I don't want to have to navigate deathtrap stairs at midnight and go through the living room, kitchen and all the way down the hall to the babies room just to change a diaper. I feel silly but I just feel that baby is supposed to be a room away from me and not a whole floor...
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@molecularmolly I don't even know why...
Maybe she's awkward and doesn't know how to touch people? She caused a big fuss till I put my book down and then she totally went nuts being weird and touching my belly WHILE saying "I won't touch your belly if you dont want me to"..
Like thanks for asking me. I never said I was okay with it. Next time I've determined I'm going to slap her hand gently. Maybe her parents never set down boundaries.. I don't care how excited you are. I wouldn't let my own mother touch me that way so tough luck.
It's like the stories I hear of people in the grocery store randomly belly rubbing strangers, I could never actually fathom it till now. It's weird af.
I haven’t seen my MIL in a year and if I don’t see her till next year it’ll be too soon. She doesn’t even like me, my DH or my kid.
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BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
We have a great gym at work and it has a system for video workouts. I tried to go extra early today to avoid her but she got there early too. She ALWAYS picks the video and they are super hard and she COMPLAINS the whole time. Since only my boss knows I am pregnant I just try to do it and keep up. UGH i just want to have a good workout without killing myself
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@kaleesi93 Your MIL scares the crap out of me, sounds like a new level of crazy. I have a known a few teenagers like that and always hoped they'd grow out of it, but guess some never do.
Sure, I'll show up and birth this baby in the dentist's waiting room, why not.
Also I regret writing on the checkin that I'm feeling better. I just suddenly and violently puked my guts up and got a bloody nose.
I didn't have chocolate milk and beef jerky for breakfast, so coincidence? I think not. Ugh.
I could totally knock out a good workout while the toddler sleeps and not worry about coming home dead tired to do one.
Could you maybe fake an injury and try the pity card so she lets you pick an easier workout? Its crazy how selfish people can be.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
But it I also don’t like floor plans where the bedrooms are near the garage, or near the front or certain ones that have the master separate. I’m super weird about floor plans. It’s one reason I want to build and not buy.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
(I do have some sympathy for people who choose home birth because they can’t afford anything else, but that’s a failure of the US govt and medical system.)
Thanks you guys, I'm not happy about it at all either.. ugh such a hard thing.
I keep telling myself it's not our forever home, and we are planning on building a few years down the road but miserable years are still miserable. Houses are ridiculous and the housing market is so frustrating.
Initially I wanted a fixer upper and my BF didnt and now he's all excited for a project and I just feel incredibly depressed and exhausted. I want our own house.. I hate apartments.. but once you buy something. There you are.
@kaleesi93 I used to feel the way you do (there are two bedrooms upstairs and one downstairs in our house, but it is small), but now I feel differently! N's crib and changing table are still in our room, but we are NEVER upstairs, and I hate not being near her in the day. She takes most of her naps in the swing in our living room (which means she wakes up a lot, thanks to the dogs) and we change her on the couch 99% of the time. A baby room on the main floor would get so much more use! I could imagine feeling differently when she's older and might get out of bed to come get us, but I think a main floor kid's room could have a lot of perks.
The baby will stay in our room for the first six months probably, and after that I'm actual hopeful that having the downstairs nursery will be a boon. Our son is loud and doesn't nap - I'm hoping that having a floor between them may help the baby's sleep versus hurt it.
@ashtuesday I want a baby room on the main floor for the same reasons, but I want the master on the main floor as well! I don't want to have to navigate deathtrap stairs at midnight and go through the living room, kitchen and all the way down the hall to the babies room just to change a diaper.
I feel silly but I just feel that baby is supposed to be a room away from me and not a whole floor...