@kaleesi93 - I wouldn't settle on something you don't 100% love. Its easy to get swept up in the idea of buying something and I wouldn't go in with the 'not our forever home'. lots of things can happen in you may end up stuck in a house you hate.
Our house is set up with 4 bedrooms (including master) upstairs with a guest suite down stairs, with a large open living area. We built it a year ago and LOVE it.
Have you looked into a builder? You can sometimes get more money and they work really hard to help and make it happen.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@kaleesi93 for us having a two story house was a total deal breaker. My almost 4 year old gets in my bed every night, I can’t imagine him having to navigate stairs at 3am. I definitely wouldn’t want my bedroom to be on a different floor than my baby. When we lived in an apartment my baby’s room was immediately next to mine which was great, we didn’t even have a monitor. In the house we lived in for one year his room was on the other side of the house and I hated it. I never actually let him sleep there, I always brought him to my room when I went to bed. In our home now, his room is on the same side of the house (Share a wall) but you have to walk through the living room. This layout is good with me because I can hear when he calls me at night even without the monitor. If you haven’t bought a house, don’t feel pressured into something you don’t like. The house we lived in for only a year never felt like home. We ended up hating it. Our house now felt wonderful immediately. It’s my favorite place we’ve ever had.
@kosmo86@professormama I'm definitely not the type to get swept up in anything, housing commitments are something that seriously freak me out and cause anxiety attacks so at first it was hard to tell whether I was just afraid of change or it was my gut telling me it's not right for us. I have told all this to my boyfriend, of course, and he would never buy a house I truly didn't want him to, but I think he feels more pressure to provide a house for me RIGHT NOW. I told him we can move closer to my due date.. it's not ideal but I can work with it. And I found a house I liked immediately on the listing, but I don't think he wants to look anymore. I think he wants to get approved for a renovation loan and make an offer and buy the house and call it good. The thing is.. I've renovated houses with baby siblings (bc I raised all my siblings) and I feel like this feeling of dread I'm getting, he has never had that. He's also working his way through school and growing a company so he has a lot on his plate right now and we can't afford to build.. also even if we did want to build we wouldn't be able to cancel our lease in a few months and then we're paying rent plus a mortgage which neither of us want. Living in DC sucks so bad lol. We pay out the butt for a tiny little saltbox apartment. The thing is our two rooms here are way nicer than anything in this whole house. Also the house has no closets. Bleh sorry to rant like this.. it's just a lot all at once. It's really overwhelming me
@kaleesi93 consider your feelings in the house thing, take time to look around some more, you may find something else that you both like instead of it being 1 sided. I wished I had spoken up about our current house - and we've been here only 4 years and I'm dying to move. Renovation is not something I recommend going into pregnant and with a newborn/toddler. Your BF sounds a lot like my DH - just ready to pick something now and get it over with, but that's not always the best way to think. You all have a lot going on your plate - new baby coming, he's in school and working. That's seriously a lot of stress right there, you don't need the added stress of a house you have to fix. You can always live with baby in your apartment for another year and save up money in that time frame as well. Babies don't care where they live as long as they are taken care of - it's the parents that care more.
@kaleesi93 I agree with @gollygeeitsamy - babies just need love and care and some kind of shelter! We lived in 2 bedroom apartment for the first year and a half of my 3 year olds life. It was totally fine. No rush to buy if your current living situation works.
@professormama Our current living situation doesn't work, we really need something with more affordable rent with added baby expenses... I wish we could stay here, I really do, I love the area, just not how unreasonable it is to live here That being said I appreciate all the confidence votes, I would rather have two nice rooms than a whole house full of crappy tiny dark rooms with no closets lol
@kaleesi93 I agree with @gollygeeitsamy - babies just need love and care and some kind of shelter! We lived in 2 bedroom apartment for the first year and a half of my 3 year olds life. It was totally fine. No rush to buy if your current living situation works.
We are in a 2 bedroom cabin in the Redwoods and this is baby #2. Not going to have a secluded nursery space, keeping the 2.75yr is room as her room for now and baby will be in our room in a cradle and then probably in our bed for the first year at least. I’m making our dryer in the bathroom hall into a changing station and not sure where my nursing chair will go. Our stuff is getting a bit overwhelmed though, so my goal is to declutter over the next 5months and get as many toys into my dd room instead of the living space. She needs a twin bed before baby comes because she is tall and outgrowing the toddler bed situation. So that’s going to be interesting.
I’ve had a really long week, cumulating in an important presentation today. I’m having 2oz of wine right now and I’m not sad about it. Should I have put that in FFFC?
I love it when people tell me I look tired. How are people still so clueless about this faux pas?! I am tired. But can't you at least pretend that my makeup is hiding my exhaustion?
@loveanddatadriven, my MIL and my dad do that to me all the time! Even before I was pregnant. I like to think it's because they care, but it does come off like, "gee thanks, now I know I look like sh**." Sigh.
I love it when people tell me I look tired. How are people still so clueless about this faux pas?! I am tired. But can't you at least pretend that my makeup is hiding my exhaustion?
Omg. My old advisor did this to me every time I wasn’t wearing makeup! I knew he was totally clueless about it and that he genuinely cared about me. But it was so annoying.
Okay y’all. I know we keep this board apolitical and I’m 100% for that. But consider this a nonpartisan plea /reminder. MAKE SURE YOURE REGISTERED TO VOTE!!!! The deadline is October 9th, which is Tuesday. It’s very easy to do. Search voter registration for your state, print the form, fill it out (or fill it out online then print it) and sign the form, before mailing it in!! Most states don’t allow online voter registration because the registration form needs an actual signature. But it will take just a few minutes of your time. GO REGISTER!!
A former coworker gave birth to a 10 lb, 3 oz baby today. I told my husband with a tone of amazement. His response: “isn’t 10 lbs average? I thought, like. 15 lbs was big.” This man is SO smart, but sometimes... 🙈
Omgg @sdelg09 that's hilarious! Well my maintenance guy just walked in, said "YOU'RE PREGNANT" asked how many months I was and said "oh wow you're going to have a HUGE baby"... I'm going to let it slide off because he moved here from Mexico not long ago, and maybe having big babies is a mark or.. wealth or something I don't know about in other cultures! I didn't think I looked giant
@sdelg09 I think he meant it was a good thing but he slightly scoffed too (maybe in amazement)? so I'm not sure, It must be a good thing though, that's what I'm thinking!!
Okay y’all. I know we keep this board apolitical and I’m 100% for that. But consider this a nonpartisan plea /reminder. MAKE SURE YOURE REGISTERED TO VOTE!!!! The deadline is October 9th, which is Tuesday. It’s very easy to do. Search voter registration for your state, print the form, fill it out (or fill it out online then print it) and sign the form, before mailing it in!! Most states don’t allow online voter registration because the registration form needs an actual signature. But it will take just a few minutes of your time. GO REGISTER!!
Chiming in to add that registration dates differ by state (CT is Oct 30th, ID, IL, ME, and VT go straight through Election Day, others stop at Oct 7th), so it’s even more important for American Bumpies to know their local info. It’s super easy to Google.
Moving between the deadline and Election Day? Your state almost certainly has a provision for that. Go to the local registrar of voters in person to discuss.
In many cases, including NY and CT, if you think you should be able to vote but aren’t on the register, you can cast a provisional ballot, which will be evaluated for whether you are a valid voter in that district before being counted (or not).
Want to double check that you are registered? Call your local registrar of voters or check here: https://www.vote.org/am-i-registered-to-vote/ You may still be registered at your last out-of-state address (I am) because states are bad at talking to each other. Unregister by calling the registrar of voters.
xoxo, poll worker/daughter of a registrar of voters
@MRDCle That happened very frequently during the first half of my last pregnancy. While it always made me panic, it stopped pretty quickly and my doctor chalked it up to an extra sensitive cervix and all the extra blood rushing to my lady parts at the time. I remember her telling me to just lay on the couch with my feet up and drink lots of water for an hour or so after sex to help it (also to help with post-sex cramping). It stopped happening as pregnancy progressed, and my daughter is healthy. Fingers crossed that what you're experiencing is something similar - please keep us posted!
In other news: I've been scared to weigh myself recently. I feel like I look bigger every day and I'm only 12 weeks along, so I assumed I was just packing on the pounds (even though I swore I'd gain less this pregnancy than I did during my last). Just stepped on the scale, and I've only gained a pound and a half since getting pregnant! I had gained ELEVEN pounds by the time I was this far with my daughter. I'm proud of myself and excited that what I'm seeing in the mirror really is bump already!
@MRDCle, I've been told spotting after sex is common, especially in the first trimester. I would be freaking out too though. Fingers crossed all is well .
@ashtuesday that’s awesome. I was feeling the same since I’m not eating as healthy as I usually do. I was pleasantly surprised at my check up Wednesday that I had gained zero pounds
@MRDCle spotting is completely normal after sex. But calling your doctor can help ease your fears and anxiety
Anyone else noticing their fingernails are amazeballs? I have to actually trim mine now instead of just filing them as they inevitably break off. Like, my thumbnails are hindering my text messaging today. Insane! 💅🏻
My nails have been growing like crazy, but I'm not sure if my hair is falling out because it's growing or I'm just gonna be bald by April . My hair is also super oily, more so than normal (my face is also breaking out more than normal too, so I just have oil everywhere I guess!).
+1 for super long nails. I got a pedicure today and the ladies kept asking me if I wanted a manicure lol. I didn’t get one because the polish never stays
@thatbaintforbetty seriously. Hemeroids were not on my radar with baby #1 and I pushed for 3 hrs and that was the longest part of recovery. Flushable wipes are your friend.
My my nails are looking better my hair is weird. Like trying to curl??? It’s straight-wavy usually.
Anyone ever hear hear about something called granulated tissue? Apparently it isn’t supposed to hurt but when it’s down at your tear spot it sure does. Took months to get that figured out and mostly because I’d never been warned or told about it at all.
Re: Weekly Randoms - W/O 10/01
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Our house is set up with 4 bedrooms (including master) upstairs with a guest suite down stairs, with a large open living area. We built it a year ago and LOVE it.
Have you looked into a builder? You can sometimes get more money and they work really hard to help and make it happen.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
If you haven’t bought a house, don’t feel pressured into something you don’t like. The house we lived in for only a year never felt like home. We ended up hating it. Our house now felt wonderful immediately. It’s my favorite place we’ve ever had.
I'm definitely not the type to get swept up in anything, housing commitments are something that seriously freak me out and cause anxiety attacks so at first it was hard to tell whether I was just afraid of change or it was my gut telling me it's not right for us.
I have told all this to my boyfriend, of course, and he would never buy a house I truly didn't want him to, but I think he feels more pressure to provide a house for me RIGHT NOW. I told him we can move closer to my due date.. it's not ideal but I can work with it. And I found a house I liked immediately on the listing, but I don't think he wants to look anymore. I think he wants to get approved for a renovation loan and make an offer and buy the house and call it good.
The thing is.. I've renovated houses with baby siblings (bc I raised all my siblings) and I feel like this feeling of dread I'm getting, he has never had that.
He's also working his way through school and growing a company so he has a lot on his plate right now and we can't afford to build.. also even if we did want to build we wouldn't be able to cancel our lease in a few months and then we're paying rent plus a mortgage which neither of us want.
Living in DC sucks so bad lol. We pay out the butt for a tiny little saltbox apartment.
The thing is our two rooms here are way nicer than anything in this whole house. Also the house has no closets.
Bleh sorry to rant like this.. it's just a lot all at once. It's really overwhelming me
It is so much to bite off at one time for sure!
Our current living situation doesn't work, we really need something with more affordable rent with added baby expenses... I wish we could stay here, I really do, I love the area, just not how unreasonable it is to live here
That being said I appreciate all the confidence votes, I would rather have two nice rooms than a whole house full of crappy tiny dark rooms with no closets lol
Well my maintenance guy just walked in, said "YOU'RE PREGNANT" asked how many months I was and said "oh wow you're going to have a HUGE baby"...
I'm going to let it slide off because he moved here from Mexico not long ago, and maybe having big babies is a mark or.. wealth or something I don't know about in other cultures!
I didn't think I looked giant
Moving between the deadline and Election Day? Your state almost certainly has a provision for that. Go to the local registrar of voters in person to discuss.
In many cases, including NY and CT, if you think you should be able to vote but aren’t on the register, you can cast a provisional ballot, which will be evaluated for whether you are a valid voter in that district before being counted (or not).
Want to double check that you are registered? Call your local registrar of voters or check here: https://www.vote.org/am-i-registered-to-vote/
You may still be registered at your last out-of-state address (I am) because states are bad at talking to each other. Unregister by calling the registrar of voters.
xoxo, poll worker/daughter of a registrar of voters
DH and I had sex this morning and after I was bleeding. I don’t know if it’s just from the sex or what but I have a call in to my OB. I’m so scared.
In other news: I've been scared to weigh myself recently. I feel like I look bigger every day and I'm only 12 weeks along, so I assumed I was just packing on the pounds (even though I swore I'd gain less this pregnancy than I did during my last). Just stepped on the scale, and I've only gained a pound and a half since getting pregnant! I had gained ELEVEN pounds by the time I was this far with my daughter. I'm proud of myself and excited that what I'm seeing in the mirror really is bump already!
@MRDCle spotting is completely normal after sex. But calling your doctor can help ease your fears and anxiety
+1 for super long nails. I got a pedicure today and the ladies kept asking me if I wanted a manicure lol. I didn’t get one because the polish never stays
I just want to be able to breathe again!
Tmi?
You know what the worst part of having kids is?
Hemorrhoids.
I pushed for 5 hours, no way I was going to escape them. But seriously I have had more issues in the last 8 weeks then in the 4 years previously.
Let me poop in pain free peace!!!!!!!
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
My my nails are looking better my hair is weird. Like trying to curl??? It’s straight-wavy usually.
Anyone ever hear hear about something called granulated tissue? Apparently it isn’t supposed to hurt but when it’s down at your tear spot it sure does. Took months to get that figured out and mostly because I’d never been warned or told about it at all.