My mother just told me to take care of my body because if it’s a girl I’m growing my future grandbabies too and all the future generations. Jesus fucking Christ mom.
I’m depressed. Like, I’ve been depressed most of my life, so it’s nothing new, but lately I just feel permanently blah - I think it’s a mixture of stress, not feeling well, more stress, and more not feeling well (and poor sleep) - but I just can’t shake it. We have to be out of this house (and have it cleaned) by August 12. I have known this deadline for a week now and have not really started packing still. I am just not motivated. I get 8-10k steps in at work and don’t feel like doing anything else after. I also just finally posted on FB about looking for a new home for my two dogs and I’m feeling guilty, even though it’s for the best and I honestly want to get rid of them in the worst way. This is not the right season in my life for me to have pets. I’m also worried about my appt tomorrow. Ever since my loss in the spring, I’ve been convinced that this pregnancy isn’t going to stick either and I just can’t get excited. I’m mentally preparing for no HB tomorrow, which is really irrational, as I’m 12w4d, have already seen and heard HB on IS at 8w0d and have had no complications this time around. Sigh.
@cmjenkies That really sucks, and I'm sorry. Sending you creepy internet hugs while you're dealing with all of this. Do you have a therapist that you're seeing? Seeing a therapist helps me process things when I'm feeling low or overwhelmed.
@cmjenkies I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're going through this rough patch. Know you can come talk to us about it here anytime you need. Sending you some internet stranger hugs.
@cmjenkies that's a lot going on all at once. I hope you are getting some in-person support with it all. FX for a lovely appointment today! I'll be thinking of you.
PS I’ve had full on breakdowns every time I’ve moved. It kicks my anxiety into high gear like nothing else. It’s just so so so much harder than people let on that it is, and so when you’re in it, it can really feel like you’re totally alone. But the good thing about moving is that it has an endpoint. One way or another, with the help of friends and family and sleepless nights, it gets done, and then it’s over with. No one ever says: oh yeah, I tried to move, but I just couldn’t.
@jessier19 moving is awful! When we bought our house I was like this is it, I'm spending the next 50 years here. But you are so right, you do it, it's awful, and then it's done! (Expect those three boxes tucked away a year later that I just don't want to bother with.....)
My mother just told me to take care of my body because if it’s a girl I’m growing my future grandbabies too and all the future generations. Jesus fucking Christ mom.
WOOOOOOOOWWWW.
@cmjenkies Thinking of you! That’s a lot and we are here for you anytime you need support or just to vent. Don’t ever feel like you have to apologize for sharing.
@cmjenkies I’m so sorry you’re going through that. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety and it can be crushing sometimes.
please talk to your doctor and maybe seek out some talk therapy...it has helped me tremendously. I also recommend some east meditations...there’s an app I use called simple habit. Really short and simple meditations for different situations. Moving is stressful period and on top of everything else it just too much. Can I recommend maybe a company that packs for you? I know it can be costly but sometimes your mental sanity is way worth it. I can’t stand cleaning and my husband gets really agitated about the house being a mess so I hired a cleaning lady every two weeks...
Talking about it, even here, is a great release too
@cmjenkies thinking about you - I had some savage prenatal depression a few weeks ago (lasted most of weeks 6-11), but I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety my whole life. I would also suggest talking with your doctor - there are a lot of safe medication options that can be helpful in combination with therapy. We’ll be thinking about you ❤️
@cmjenkies I’m sorry you’re dealing with all this. I also have a hard time accepting this pregnancy and went to my appt yesterday expecting not to hear a HB bc of previous losses. But I did and everything is fine. What you are feeling is crappy but normal and as you can see you have a lot of support here for you!
@cmjenkies Thinking of you!! Depression is absolutely no joke and that is a whole lot of stuff going on at once. Please don’t hesitate to talk to your doctor. They may be able to get you some help! *hugs*
@cmjenkies Thinking if you, and wishing you the best for your appt. Glad that you are talking about what you’re going through, even if it’s just to this group for now. I hope you can feel all of our support.
@cmjenkies Thinking of you, this will pass, you have a lot going on, all the while growing a little one. I echo everyone's wishes above, we are here for you.
@cmjenkies I had to move when I was pregnant with DD during the first tri, it was brutal. The bright side is that once it’s over with you’ll feel better. Hang in there!
None of my pants fit anymore, so I caved and bought two maternity leggings. It’s been hot lately so I’ve been getting away with flowy dresses and skirts, but it’s supposed to get cooler and rainy soon.
I also got two camisoles and a couple nursing bras. Hopefully my boobs will stay roughly the same size so I can use them for actual nursing too and not just for extra preg support!
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@grebretso My jeans don't fit anymore, either. I'm thinking I'll head out to Target and maybe Gap after work today to find a pair of maternity jeans with the little stretchy side panels. It's hot AF down here in Georgia, but the thermostat in my office says it's currently 71 degrees in here. I need dark wash jeans STAT. I hate jean shopping when I'm my normal size, so I've got to prepare myself for what could very well be hell.
@hannahbananas11 Yeah I’ll wait with buying jeans till later, if ever. I never wear jeans regularly, so I don’t think I’ll need maternity ones.
Fun fact: I bought my first pair of regular jeans in a decade two weeks before I got pregnant. I had wanted a pair of jeans for a while, but didn’t want to buy one since I was TTC, but at that point we’d had no success for almost 6 months so I thought “fuck it” and bought a pair anyway. Of course I got pregnant that cycle. Got about 6 weeks out of those jeans, hopefully they’ll fit again at some point.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@Venessa88 Same. I’m especially annoyed at coworkers who keep calling in sick for dumb reasons. Someone literally called in because of a stuffy nose last week, and today someone’s out because their therapy appointment yesterday made them exhausted. Really? And here I am, picking up the slack while puking in the work bathroom. Oh and my nose has been stuffy for weeks. I know they don’t know I’m pregnant, but I hope that once they know, they’ll feel bad about leaving me to do all their work.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@cmjenkies something to help is meditation. It calms your mind down. 10mins a day would do wonders. I'm not sure how much of this saying is true, but my mum says what you feel it might effect the baby and to be happy. It's hard, but once you force yourself to take steps to get out of it you will get there. 'Ke sera sera, whatever will be will be' i send your baby good vibes. Hugs gurl..
@Venessa88 and @grebretso I work at a library, and twice in the last two weeks the librarian who usually opens the library called me at 6:30 AM to say he felt unwell because of allergies, and could I open the library instead. This is the same one who said that he could tell I was pregnant "because of fluid retention in my face". He called in sick again this morning.
@hk0219 I know you have good intentions, so please don’t think I’m being snarky. Telling someone who is depressed to be happy is like telling someone who is drowning to just swim. It’s often said with the best intentions but tends to make people feel worse because they just can’t feel better. Again, I’m saying this supportively, not with snark so I hope it doesn’t come across that way. Just something a lot of people don’t think about.
@hk0219 I know you have good intentions, so please don’t think I’m being snarky. Telling someone who is depressed to be happy is like telling someone who is drowning to just swim. It’s often said with the best intentions but tends to make people feel worse because they just can’t feel better. Again, I’m saying this supportively, not with snark so I hope it doesn’t come across that way. Just something a lot of people don’t think about.
I was also bothered by the "it might affect the baby" as that isn't helpful at all and is something she's probably already thought/worried about. I get you were trying to be nice but it was all flippant, obvious, and insensitive. You can support without giving unsolicited advice.
Thanks @bleucheeznwine, that irked me too. If anyone’s actually worried about their mental health or stress levels affecting the baby, there have been studies recently that prove otherwise, thank goodness. No one’s hurting their unborn baby due to depression, anxiety or stress. As if pregnant women didn’t have enough to worry about already.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Glad you agree, @grebretso . And even if did affect the baby, why point it out? It was all a mess and telling someone to buck up and meditate is the dumbest shit I've read all day. It actually fires me up and I don't care if this is snarky.
Meditation does help with depression, as I've been there. Also i did mention I wasnt sure how true it is about feelings effecting the baby. And neither did I say to be happy but did say to try and take steps to overcome it. Anyway peace ..
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I’m depressed. Like, I’ve been depressed most of my life, so it’s nothing new, but lately I just feel permanently blah - I think it’s a mixture of stress, not feeling well, more stress, and more not feeling well (and poor sleep) - but I just can’t shake it. We have to be out of this house (and have it cleaned) by August 12. I have known this deadline for a week now and have not really started packing still. I am just not motivated. I get 8-10k steps in at work and don’t feel like doing anything else after. I also just finally posted on FB about looking for a new home for my two dogs and I’m feeling guilty, even though it’s for the best and I honestly want to get rid of them in the worst way. This is not the right season in my life for me to have pets. I’m also worried about my appt tomorrow. Ever since my loss in the spring, I’ve been convinced that this pregnancy isn’t going to stick either and I just can’t get excited. I’m mentally preparing for no HB tomorrow, which is really irrational, as I’m 12w4d, have already seen and heard HB on IS at 8w0d and have had no complications this time around. Sigh.
Do you have a therapist that you're seeing? Seeing a therapist helps me process things when I'm feeling low or overwhelmed.
@cmjenkies
Thinking of you! That’s a lot and we are here for you anytime you need support or just to vent. Don’t ever feel like you have to apologize for sharing.
please talk to your doctor and maybe seek out some talk therapy...it has helped me tremendously. I also recommend some east meditations...there’s an app I use called simple habit. Really short and simple meditations for different situations. Moving is stressful period and on top of everything else it just too much. Can I recommend maybe a company that packs for you? I know it can be costly but sometimes your mental sanity is way worth it. I can’t stand cleaning and my husband gets really agitated about the house being a mess so I hired a cleaning lady every two weeks...
Talking about it, even here, is a great release too
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
https://jezebel.com/would-you-share-paneras-two-for-one-bread-bowl-with-you-1827980602
ETA: And no, I would not share!
I also got two camisoles and a couple nursing bras. Hopefully my boobs will stay roughly the same size so I can use them for actual nursing too and not just for extra preg support!
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
I hate jean shopping when I'm my normal size, so I've got to prepare myself for what could very well be hell.
Fun fact: I bought my first pair of regular jeans in a decade two weeks before I got pregnant. I had wanted a pair of jeans for a while, but didn’t want to buy one since I was TTC, but at that point we’d had no success for almost 6 months so I thought “fuck it” and bought a pair anyway. Of course I got pregnant that cycle. Got about 6 weeks out of those jeans, hopefully they’ll fit again at some point.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
send your baby good vibes. Hugs gurl..
He called in sick again this morning.
also random but I need to bring a fresh pair of undies in my purse from now on...fluids etc
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024