@mamajudec2018 I'm sorry you had the high reading! Luckily for you (or unluckily depending on how you see it?) you'll most likely be taking the three hour glucose since you only failed by 5 points (based on my OBs office, not sure if yours is different). I know plenty of women who failed the one hour and passed the three hour with flying colors! So don't stress out too much about your results for the one hour! My reading came back at 208, so I was automatically classified as GD. So because of that I don't have any experience with the three hour test, but it's basically the same thing with a couple extra blood draws (one at every hour mark). Assuming they'll have you do that, make sure you take something with you for entertainment! If you want to try and help your results, eat a protein heavy breakfast before you go! But I wouldn't be too stressed out with a 145 at this point. Good luck and let me know how it goes!!
ETA bug me all you want! I'm not a pro by any means, but if by some chance you're dx with GD, I know what you'll probably be feeling and how tough it can be to adjust. I'm here if you (or anyone else!) needs to talk about GD!
@mamajudec2018, @CecilB93 is right - the 1 hr glucose screening is set up be really sensitive to catch *every* GD case (not have any false negatives — women who pass the 1 hr test but really do have GD). That means it’s not very specific and there are lots of false positives on the 1 hr screening — women who *fail* the 1 hr screen but don’t actually have GD.
The next step is the 3 hr glucose challenge which I believe is a fasting challenge. They’ll usually schedule it first thing in the morning and have you fast 8–12 hrs prior. You’ll likely have the same glucola beverage, and they do a an initial fasting reading, plus 2-3 more readings one hour apart. Lots of women (including me with my first pregnancy) fail the 1 hr screening but pass the 3 hr test, so I wouldn’t get too worried about the possibility of GD yet.
It probably didn’t help that as I was walking into my one hour I was finishing a bagel... but the 3 hour one invovled fasting. i did find it worse. Near the end I was getting really dizzy and sick. But that’s normal when you have no food in your body and a pile of sugar. Keep communication with the team there and they will get you a cold cloth or a room with a fan if need be. Just don’t throw up so you don’t need to start again.
@CecilB93@Katzalia@kristah2 Thank you ladies for the encouragement! I talked to my sister in law last night and she also failed the one hour but passed the 3 hour with her first prrgnancy. A nurse did get back to me late yesterday afternoon and said the next step is the 3 hour. I'm assuming I should just keep to all the same eating habits until the test so that the results are accurate and since she didn't mention changing anything? Man I am really praying all is good with the 3 hour!
@mamajudec2018 I wouldn't worry about changing your diet right now. It wouldn't really make any difference anyways. Good luck!! I'm sure you'll be fine!
@PensiveCrayon@hoosiermama-2 Re: K Beauty I'm a big fan of Asian Beauty routines, and I did pare down my routine, and am mostly using Japanese products sparingly. I still use my fave Hada Labo cleanser & toner, and some days I use a Shisheido essence - but that’s it. I don’t use masks (except for the occasional Glam Glow), and I’m not double cleansing, double toning or using any essences (except Shisheido). Sometimes I use some snail cream, but it doesn’t do much for me.
FWIW my OB didn’t advise against any topical products, but I didn’t ask either. I’m just using moderation, like everything else...except cream soda. I will enjoy that in excess.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@Selina1313 yup! First time around, they assured me my fetus was almost certainly a boy based on ultrasound right around that time. While she does like hockey and farting more than most little girls, my daughter most assuredly has two X chromosomes and zero penises.
I’m surprised how many techs say anything about the sex of the baby at 12 weeks. There was zero mention of that when I had my NT scan with my son.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Mine made a guess this time around, she said boy. @AGK2015 we actually want a girl so your experience gives me a little hope, lol. I still just have a gut feeling this baby is a girl! Even after being told boy. With DS, I hoped for a girl but knew he was a boy.
@CecilB93 me too! @AGK2015 is making me think there's a chance this baby may be a girl. My bf also keeps pointing out that we should pick girls names and such too just in case. Not sure if he truly wants a girl or just knows that I wanted on of each lol. I'll be happy either way, just would be nice to get to experience the girly things too.
@mamajudec2018 I've taken the 3 hours screening when I was not pregnant because I've had sugar issues all my life and wanted to know what was going on. I assume it's the same one you get to test for GD. Like others have said it was first thing and fasting, then I had to drink a sugary drink and they measured my glucose as time passed. I think I made it an hour and a half before I was so shaky I asked to stop. It turns out my body burns through sugar if that's the only thing I put in it. I've been a lot more conscious of balancing what I eat since then and rarely feel low blood sugary nowadays.
My dr said that I will have the option to do a blood test at my 16 week appointment to test for spina bifida. Is this common? Wouldn't spina bifida show up at the anatomy scan four weeks later anyway? Does knowing an extra few weeks provide any real benefits?
@kadeephd pretty common as part of your second tri quad screen. I can't speak to benefits earlier, but if I'm remembering right high or low levels of AFP can be useful in helping screen for other issues as well (chromosomal abnormalities if you didn't do NIPT, but also higher potential for things like intrauterine growth restriction or other issues that come from placental insufficiency that aren't necessarily evident on your anatomy scan).
For me, at least, I feel like if those issues apply to us, the sooner we know the sooner we can formulate a plan for care, so we'll definitely get any screening offered to us.
@kadeephd I think that test is totally normal to get, but I don’t think it’s required at least at my practice. There are a few different blood tests to check for various issues and spina bifida is the only one I’m getting.
My SIL just announced she is 7 weeks pregnant with their 2nd and I'm 14 weeks with our first (we we're ttc for over a year) and I am upset because I feel like she is stealing my preg glory. We waited until 12 weeks to tell our family, so theyvth only known for 2 weeks when she announced hers. Now everyone on my husband's side wants us to have a joint shower and are even talking about us having joint birthday parties in the future because a lot of his fanifa lives hours away! We aren't exactly close I really want my shower to be just about my baby and wouldn't want her to have to constantly share birthday parties! Am I crazy from pregnancy hormones or is it normal to feel pissed that she is announced right after me and is throwing all this joint stuff on me?
@laurench912 I'm sorry about SIL's timing for her announcement! I would definitely be upset too!
IMO, I don't think it's unreasonable or hormonal for you to want your own shower. I mean, it is your first baby (and her 2nd, so does she even need a formal shower?). I think you should have full attention on your baby bean! I think it might be different if you 2 were closer, and/or if it was also her first child. And 7 weeks doesn't seem all that close to me to warrant join bday parties. I mean, it's almost 2 months apart! Just my 2 cents... It will be cool for both babies to have a cousin so close in age, though!
Me: 33, DH: 41 Started IF Feb. 2014 PCOS & MFI (low sperm count and motility) 3 Femara cycles w/natural intercourse over summer 2014, BFN 1 Clomid cycle w/natural intercourse Nov. 2014, BFN IUI March 2015, BFN IUI June 2015, BFN IUI Oct. 2015, BFN IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen FET March 2018, 1 day-5 blast, BFP!
@laurench912 I can understand why you would want your child to get her own celebrations. I think it would be especially annoying to have to share a shower with a second time Mom. Can you have a family member or friend of yours host the shower that way your in-laws can come, but it is only for you since it is your person hosting it?
@laurench912 maybe a liiiiiiittle unreasonable. People being excited for her because she announced doesn't lessen the excitement they feel for you, and it's not like she announced at your wedding or your baby shower or something when you should be able to expect attention focused primarily on you. And just because people are talking about joint birthday parties doesn't mean your kids are obligated to have them (same with a shower). Like, it's possible that insisting on separate birthday parties relatively close together means some family members who'd have to travel are only able to make one or the other, but the same is true of having a baby so close to Christmas so meh.
@katy0990 my friends are planning on hosting my shower, so I'm hoping that deters more joint shower discussions.
@mag1cbeli3ver my in-laws pointed out mine is due the beginning of dec and hers is due in January so we could do them together right after Christmas because that's when his family celebrates Christmas together so all the kids can be at their own houses for Christmas. I get the idea but it makes me sad that they feel it's ok to not go to any of her "real" future bday parties that my family and our friends will be at. I guess it's probably an issues a lot of people with December kids probably have
@laurench912 Sorry that she announced her #2 so soon after your #1! DH and I have been trying hard for this LO too, and I 100% understand how you feel. I'm anti-shower (and far from family) but I would let them talk me into a joint family-only shower - something that's more like a fun BBQ than a formal gifting event. Otherwise, I'm sure that the birthdays will get figured out in a few years. FWIW I have a June birthday and I want LO to tag onto my bday so we can all do fun summer stuff without combo gifts...but maybe LO wants his own! Time will tell.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@laurench912 I would be frustrated, too. But, once the baby actually comes in they get to meet him or her and develop a relationship, they may not want to miss out on having a day to just celebrate him or her. I would not worry about the birthdays at this point.
My SIL just announced she is 7 weeks pregnant with their 2nd and I'm 14 weeks with our first (we we're ttc for over a year) and I am upset because I feel like she is stealing my preg glory. We waited until 12 weeks to tell our family, so theyvth only known for 2 weeks when she announced hers. Now everyone on my husband's side wants us to have a joint shower and are even talking about us having joint birthday parties in the future because a lot of his fanifa lives hours away! We aren't exactly close I really want my shower to be just about my baby and wouldn't want her to have to constantly share birthday parties! Am I crazy from pregnancy hormones or is it normal to feel pissed that she is announced right after me and is throwing all this joint stuff on me?
I think a lot of your feelings could be hormone related AND anything that affects your kid (even if it’s hypothetical) sets of your mom senses so easily! I’m having my 3rd. My SIL announced a week later. However, her baby is due within a couple weeks of mine so in reality we probably waited the same amount of time. Still felt like my thunder was taken a bit - but I am still excited for her. Then this week a friend (h’s friend, but I like her too) announced her 3rd (our 1st were due the same month, our 2nds 1 month apart, and now our 3rds 1 month apart). I feel so awkward to announce because this has happened to us 3 times now, lol. I know she has to think about this too. About the birthdays with your kids....that’s a personal decision. You are the mom, you make that decision. I’d be rebelling against someone telling me I need to do a joint party- that would make me want individual parties even more! However, the kids won’t know/care so that’s really just up to you. In summary your feelings sound normal and it’s okay to feel that way
@laurench912 I'm sure it's fine to be a tad bit annoyed but I would really try to put it into perspective and not to dwell on it. I don't have the trying to conceive for forever experience, but if one of my SILs or cousins announced to the family that they were pregnant around the same time I did I would have been thrilled for them and thrilled that my kid would have a cousin close in age. People get pregnant - and it's practically never to steal someone else's thunder.
When I was growing up, we never had individual birthday parties. All birthdays in my dad's extended family were lumped into seasons. We had one party for each winter, spring, summer, and fall birthdays. No one cared. Within our immediate family, we each got to choose dinner and had a cake on our individual birthdays, but it certainly wasn't a party and no extended family was there. I'm not sure when the phenomenon started that every kid gets his or her own birthday party every year, but I suspect it has a lot to do with Facebook and Instagram.
@laurench912 I would try to focus on the positive for this as much as you can. It’s great that the cousins will be so close in age. They will probably be BFFs! Family parties and stuff will be so fun for them. I am in a similar situation but I am your SIL. My SIL got pregnant after a long and difficult struggle to get pregnant and finally successful IVF. I’m about 3 weeks behind her with my second. I didn’t do it on purpose, it just is what it is. I did wait a while to tell her and her mom so as not to steal her thunder and to make sure she was in the clear. But I would just assume your SIL is excited about her baby and maybe even about being pregnant together. You can always just say no to joint shower and birthday parties. Just be cause they suggest it doesn’t mean you have to do it.
@hkom really? I've never heard of grouping parties like that! My family always did individual parties.
@laurench912 I'm sure she didn't mean to steal the spotlight at all, but I get how you could feel that way. Also, F that to joint showers and birthdays. No one can force you to do either of those, it's 100% your choice. Maybe when they're older the kids will want joint parties, but I wouldn't force it when they can't decide.
@CecilB93 Yep! Just how they've always done it. My dad is one of seven, and I have 16 cousins, which is big by some standards but not others (my husband has 44 cousins). Having an individual party for everyone would have been ridiculous. It was so much easier to just have joint ones and no one ever cared. I do not plan on having birthday parties for each of my kids. We can have a small celebration with our immediate family at home on each one's birthday. But a big party with extended family and friends for every year for each birthday? No freaking way.
@hkom 44 COUSINS?! Dang!! Yea I have 5 cousins, plus my sister, so 7 of us total and we're all spread out at least 2 years, some of us 4 in between, so joint parties wouldn't have made sense for us. It makes sense though with how large both of your families are!! I will say though, we don't invite everyone. We invited grandparents, great grandparents (2 living), aunts/uncle (so BIL and his wife plus my sister), and just a couple friends with kids our sons age. I invite my cousins but they never come really. So our parties are typically small anyways!
I’m over here like, “y’all had birthday parties when you were kids?!” We didn’t group them with cousins (we had a ton too, Catholic solidarity), but we also didn’t have them.
My nephew’s birthday is four days from my son’s (and DS is 3 years older). I’ll admit, this year was difficult for me to deal with them scheduling the weekend we wanted. A few people suggested joint in the future as a solution, but meh. We’ll do what we want and SIL will just have to figure out what she wants.
@laurench912 I feel like it's a LITTLE unreasonable to be pissed that they announced their pregnancy. They're excited and wanted to share the news with the family, there's nothing wrong with that I feel like. She's not going to steal your thunder, this is her second and your first so yours is more important and special (IMO). As far as sharing a baby shower.. Ummm NO! Not even if you were super close, just no. The baby shower is supposed to be all about you, not all about you and someone else (unless it's your DH, obviously). I wouldn't want to share birthday parties either, and that's your decision! I'd be afraid with a shared birthday party my kid wouldn't get as much attention (selfish, I guess. lol). Anyway, I think they just announced because they're super excited, not to try to one up you.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@laurench912 i too doubt your SIL was trying to steal your thunder. Is she your husband’s sister? are they close?
That said people often have more than one baby shower like people have more than one bridal shower. If your H’s family really wants to do a joint shower (which is weird IMO) maybe you can let’s your friends or family know you really would like your own shower.
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
@CecilB93 I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes today ☹️ so I've just been crying. Ugh. I was wondering if you think there are other GD mom's in this group? Maybe we could start a GD thread?
@mamajudec2018 Oh, I'm sorry to hear that! I hope everything goes smoothly and hopefully @CecilB93 can be an awesome resource for you, since she was diagnosed so early!
Question for you ladies - has anyone else been having problems with the app this week? No matter how many times I log in or log out, it won't officially log me in, so I can't respond to posts or love tit or anything. I wonder if I should just switch to using my safari browser and ignore the app - it seems so wonky! Thoughts? Thank you!
Re: Question Thread
ETA bug me all you want! I'm not a pro by any means, but if by some chance you're dx with GD, I know what you'll probably be feeling and how tough it can be to adjust. I'm here if you (or anyone else!) needs to talk about GD!
DS2 due 12/12/18
The next step is the 3 hr glucose challenge which I believe is a fasting challenge. They’ll usually schedule it first thing in the morning and have you fast 8–12 hrs prior. You’ll likely have the same glucola beverage, and they do a an initial fasting reading, plus 2-3 more readings one hour apart. Lots of women (including me with my first pregnancy) fail the 1 hr screening but pass the 3 hr test, so I wouldn’t get too worried about the possibility of GD yet.
It probably didn’t help that as I was walking into my one hour I was finishing a bagel...
but the 3 hour one invovled fasting.
i did find it worse. Near the end I was getting really dizzy and sick. But that’s normal when you have no food in your body and a pile of sugar. Keep communication with the team there and they will get you a cold cloth or a room with a fan if need be. Just don’t throw up so you don’t need to start again.
DS2 due 12/12/18
I'm a big fan of Asian Beauty routines, and I did pare down my routine, and am mostly using Japanese products sparingly. I still use my fave Hada Labo cleanser & toner, and some days I use a Shisheido essence - but that’s it. I don’t use masks (except for the occasional Glam Glow), and I’m not double cleansing, double toning or using any essences (except Shisheido). Sometimes I use some snail cream, but it doesn’t do much for me.
FWIW my OB didn’t advise against any topical products, but I didn’t ask either. I’m just using moderation, like everything else...except cream soda. I will enjoy that in excess.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
DS2 due 12/12/18
For me, at least, I feel like if those issues apply to us, the sooner we know the sooner we can formulate a plan for care, so we'll definitely get any screening offered to us.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!IMO, I don't think it's unreasonable or hormonal for you to want your own shower. I mean, it is your first baby (and her 2nd, so does she even need a formal shower?). I think you should have full attention on your baby bean! I think it might be different if you 2 were closer, and/or if it was also her first child. And 7 weeks doesn't seem all that close to me to warrant join bday parties. I mean, it's almost 2 months apart! Just my 2 cents... It will be cool for both babies to have a cousin so close in age, though!
Started IF Feb. 2014
PCOS & MFI (low sperm count and motility)
3 Femara cycles w/natural intercourse over summer 2014, BFN
1 Clomid cycle w/natural intercourse Nov. 2014, BFN
IUI March 2015, BFN
IUI June 2015, BFN
IUI Oct. 2015, BFN
IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze
IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen
FET March 2018, 1 day-5 blast, BFP!
@mag1cbeli3ver my in-laws pointed out mine is due the beginning of dec and hers is due in January so we could do them together right after Christmas because that's when his family celebrates Christmas together so all the kids can be at their own houses for Christmas. I get the idea but it makes me sad that they feel it's ok to not go to any of her "real" future bday parties that my family and our friends will be at. I guess it's probably an issues a lot of people with December kids probably have
Otherwise, I'm sure that the birthdays will get figured out in a few years. FWIW I have a June birthday and I want LO to tag onto my bday so we can all do fun summer stuff without combo gifts...but maybe LO wants his own! Time will tell.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
still excited for her. Then this week a friend (h’s friend, but I like her too) announced her 3rd (our 1st were due the same month, our 2nds 1 month apart, and now our 3rds 1 month apart). I feel so awkward to announce because this has happened to us 3 times now, lol. I know she has to think about this too.
About the birthdays with your kids....that’s a personal decision. You are the mom, you make that decision. I’d be rebelling against someone telling me I need to do a joint party- that would make me want individual parties even more! However, the kids won’t know/care so that’s really just up to you.
In summary your feelings sound normal and it’s okay to feel that way
When I was growing up, we never had individual birthday parties. All birthdays in my dad's extended family were lumped into seasons. We had one party for each winter, spring, summer, and fall birthdays. No one cared. Within our immediate family, we each got to choose dinner and had a cake on our individual birthdays, but it certainly wasn't a party and no extended family was there. I'm not sure when the phenomenon started that every kid gets his or her own birthday party every year, but I suspect it has a lot to do with Facebook and Instagram.
@laurench912 I'm sure she didn't mean to steal the spotlight at all, but I get how you could feel that way. Also, F that to joint showers and birthdays. No one can force you to do either of those, it's 100% your choice. Maybe when they're older the kids will want joint parties, but I wouldn't force it when they can't decide.
DS2 due 12/12/18
DS2 due 12/12/18
My nephew’s birthday is four days from my son’s (and DS is 3 years older). I’ll admit, this year was difficult for me to deal with them scheduling the weekend we wanted. A few people suggested joint in the future as a solution, but meh. We’ll do what we want and SIL will just have to figure out what she wants.
@laurench912 I feel like it's a LITTLE unreasonable to be pissed that they announced their pregnancy. They're excited and wanted to share the news with the family, there's nothing wrong with that I feel like. She's not going to steal your thunder, this is her second and your first so yours is more important and special (IMO). As far as sharing a baby shower.. Ummm NO! Not even if you were super close, just no. The baby shower is supposed to be all about you, not all about you and someone else (unless it's your DH, obviously). I wouldn't want to share birthday parties either, and that's your decision! I'd be afraid with a shared birthday party my kid wouldn't get as much attention (selfish, I guess. lol). Anyway, I think they just announced because they're super excited, not to try to one up you.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!That said people often have more than one baby shower like people have more than one bridal shower. If your H’s family really wants to do a joint shower (which is weird IMO) maybe you can let’s your friends or family know you really would like your own shower.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
Question for you ladies - has anyone else been having problems with the app this week? No matter how many times I log in or log out, it won't officially log me in, so I can't respond to posts or love tit or anything. I wonder if I should just switch to using my safari browser and ignore the app - it seems so wonky! Thoughts? Thank you!