@borgie05 my 40lbs behemoth of a 3 year old (he *is* almost 4, I guess) jumps on my stomach all the time. I'm not too worried about it right now, but I'm also trying to drill into him that he can't keep doing that, because I imagine it'll be more of a problem later.
@borgie05 I've never heard of anywhere closing or even being off early for Mother's Day I've also got a 2 year old who likes to jump on my stomach if I'm not careful. Since baby is still so low I'm not concerned at the moment, o imagine it'll be worse as our bellies start to grow.
Thanks ladies! I was mainly concerned because where he jumped was low, like pelvic area. It definitely hurt, but I’m sure it’s probably ok. If that’s all it took to cause harm, I’m sure most women’s 2nd plus babies would have issues then... because I know all toddlers get rough. And I thought it was so weird that they are closed early too! Literally today AND Monday. I’ve never heard of anyone taking a 4 day weekend for Mother’s Day. I had know idea til I heard the recording when I tried to call.
@borgie05 I have wondered the same thing. My son will jump on my stomach, too. We tell him to be careful and he kisses the baby afterward, but it still worries me.
I totally forget - is lightheadedness normal? I got lightheaded after getting up this morning and I had a split second spell of vertigo at my desk the other day, but I don't remember if that's normal first tri stuff or not.
I wish my big worry was gaining too little weight. That is so not my problem. I currently am not nauseas at all until I try to eat veggies and I get quesy. The only things I can tolerate are total junk. It’s like feeling hungover all the time and all I want are greasy grilled cheese sandwiches, fries and pickles. I had gestational diabetes last pregnancy and they took all my delicious food away at the end of my second trimester. I think they will test me earlier this time so I feel like my food is going to get taken away earlier anyway. Has anyone had GD with their first? Do you know when they test the next time?
Probably a silly question, but the B6 that some of you have been talking about, did you ask your Dr before starting that? DH picked some up from the store bc I can't keep down my prenatals or any healthy food, but I don't know of I should wait til I talk to my doctor first
@married_to_a_muggle I am worried about gaining too little OR too much weight. I've spent most of my post 14 y/o life trying very hard to stay slim (at times in not such healthy ways), so I am worried I won't be able to appropriately listen to hunger cues. I guess I shouldn't worry until I go off track.
@rawarr I did ask my dr about B6 during the day. I don't see why it would be a problem but it doesn't hurt to ask.
So need some advice on a silly thing that's been bugging me. I'm still early on at 7 wks 5 days, but need to tell work asap because of the hazards of my job so i am planing on telling them tomorrow. Do I unfriend my co-workers on Facebook for fear they will blab since I haven't told anyone yet, then explain why I unfriended them later on, or do I tell them not to say anything on Facebook and hope they listen? Silly, I know!
@scaredunprepared I actually told my manager the day I peed on a stick and got my positive and the rest of my coworkers a days later. I stressed that I didn't want them saying anything and they haven't. But my job has lots of hazards as well so I need to be safe.
@rawarr I did not talk to my Dr before I added B6. I'll tell him when I see him next, and I know he'll ask how well it was working before changing the subject. He is more concerned that I stay away from processed meats & listeria salads, while staying well hydrated.
@scaredunprepared I would tell your direct supervisor, but not the co-workers. Personally I #1 don't add all coworkers to my FB profile because I'm a jerk, and #2 I set it so that only I can write on my wall and any tags must be reviewed. If they're already in, just change the wall setting AND tell them to keep their traps shut.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@selina1113 I am slightly worried I've been putting myself in danger by waiting this long but I really wanted to be CERTAIN before jeopardizing my job and career. But thanks for the vote of confidence in coworkers. Hopefully mine will stay quiet too!
@echo-charlietango that's what I am going to do tomorrow. Telling my boss only. The rest will find out eventually. Thanks for the advice about changing the facebook wall settings. I did that just in case my boss lets it slip and everyone else finds out and tries to day something on Facebook!
I just got some of my test results back and it looks like my creatinine was low. The normal range is 20+ and mine was 14.9. I got an email from my doctors office that everything looks normal. However, it clearly shows that result in red. I sent a message back and the nurse practitioner said she would discuss it with the doctor, but I am just wondering if anyone has any insight.
@katy0990 If I'm remembering right, creatinine levels drop hard in pregnancy because of increased blood volume, so low levels are pretty common and not ususally concerning.
With DD, I got some scary red rest results in my patient portal. Like, I was freaking tf out and called the after-hours line sobbing. When the on-call doctor got back to me, she said the ranges shown on the portal are the "normal" ranges, not pregnancy ones. Unacceptable UX in my opinion, but hey, everything was okay. I don't remember what the test was for but wanted to offer it up in addition to PP's insight.
I had this posted in Unpopular Opinions since there was a bit of shower talk, but I moved it, since it's more of a question than a UO! Anyway my question - one of my closest friends told me this weekend that she wants to throw us a baby shower for this baby (her reasoning - we've had two losses so we should celebrate, and this one is a boy and we will need a bunch of boy clothes, aaaand she also just loves to throw parties) but I am really hesitant because I know it's really frowned upon to have showers other than for your first baby. My husband is pro and doesn't understand why I care about etiquette. What do you guys think?
@maureenmce I say go for it! But I also said, in my UO, that etiquette isn’t enough of a reason to not do something, imo. The argument “that’s the way it’s always been” is lazy at best and dangerous at worst. I think you get a pass especially because someone else is excited to offer this shower for you. If any potential guests think it’s too greedy or “tacky” of you, then maybe you don’t want them at the party?
@kristah2 Lol, I feel like I should have just left it there! Oh well! I am nauseous and my brain is not working great today, so I'll blame my wishy washiness on that, haha.
@maureenmce if you don't really need anything you could always make it a no gift party and more of a celebrate baby sort of thing. I think receiving gifts a second time is what people may see as "greedy" or "tacky" if kids are close in age. Or, you could make it a diaper shower if you plan to do disposables! That way you're all stocked up on diapers and there can still be a party.
Me personally, I don't plan to have a shower for this baby because we have everything we need, even if it's a girl. No we may not have "girl" clothes, but lord knows I'll be buying and sewing new clothes for this baby regardless of sex anyways, I personally don't need to be showered with baby clothes, or any other items really.
Another question- this isn’t on our board organization list, but maybe it’s something to add? Should we have a crafting theme thread going? I’ve read a few posts today of moms sewing and into making all things baby related (or one or two things baby related). I’ve already sewn a shirt and a blanket. Enough interesting to make this its own thing, or should we stick to it coming up naturally in other threads?
@maureenmce if someone wants to throw you a shower I’d say do what you want. I had a small shower at work with my 2nd. I felt really awkward and said I just wanted a good celebration with food and cake, and I did not have a registry (I actually did, but just for the discounts). My assistant who organized it knew I didn’t want presents, but asked if I could use new bath stuff, so I said yes. So I had a group gift of baby bath supplies and some got me diapers or clothes. It was nice and not a huge overboard shower. I don’t want a shower for my 3rd either - but I’d say yes to a little celebratory cake!
Another question- this isn’t on our board organization list, but maybe it’s something to add? Should we have a crafting theme thread going? I’ve read a few posts today of moms sewing and into making all things baby related (or one or two things baby related). I’ve already sewn a shirt and a blanket. Enough interesting to make this its own thing, or should we stick to it coming up naturally in other threads
Start a thread! I’m not going to be able to contribute, but I can like everyone’s things they make!
@tumbleweed-1 I'd participate in a crafting thread! Haven't actually made anything yet, but I have a long list of crochet items when I feel less fatigued.
@maureenmce I am team no second showers typically. But I’d have to know the details before weighing in on your situation. Does she want to do elaborate with games, and registry and gifts expected? I’d side eye that. But if you did something more casual and diapers only or books or something like that I’d go if I were close to the person. I assume my work will do something very small for me because this is my first baby at this job, but I expect nothing. I wish I could have a full second shower because these babies are so close in age and I need everything (double stroller, crib, dresser, another camera for the monitor) but we’ll survive without one lol
@Jens_Hoes Not sure what she had in mind this time around, since I told her I'd have to think about it and we didn't get into detail. She also threw my first shower and there were no games (except she had everyone who attended send her a photo of themselves as a baby and we tried to guess who was who, which was actually fun, anyone looking for non annoying shower game ideas!) We just had snacks and cake and hung out with friends. People brought presents, of course, and we had a registry since it was my first baby.
She did ask if there was anything I need this time around and I told her really just boy baby clothes, since we did not do a great job being gender neutral with our DD! We don't need anything else baby wise that's small (and we want to buy the bigger things we need like car seats and crib ourselves, since it's our second and people should save their money for first babies and other special gift giving occasions!)
I'd guess I'd be fine with a very chill, low key, no registry shower to celebrate this rainbow baby, where people brought baby boy clothes or no presents at all. But I'd also be fine with nothing! I guess I'll talk to her more about it later and think about it more!
@maureenmce Since she offered, I do not see a problem with it. I would just keep it smaller and make it a day to celebrate baby. Actually, I recently saw a blogger who instead of a second shower, someone hosted a big sister party for her daughter. Maybe you could do something like that?
@maureenmce I say go for it ifsomeone wants to throw you a shower! My sister wants to throw me a party because we have a huge age gap and I have nothing because I thought we were done. I think she plans on not including any registry information (I’m registering for the discounts) unless people ask, so people can feel free to just come and celebrate the baby.
I think a “sprinkle” is okay, but I’d decline a huge shower. Diapers and clothes would really be about what you’d need I’d think. I think the issue is more on the guests feeling like they have to show up with gifts when they’ve already done that for you. I think a small “sprinkle” is fine. Make sure the hostess is clear that diapers and clothes are all that’s needed.
Does everyone swaddle their baby for the first little while? Or do some babies just hate to be swaddled? Is it just to help baby sleep, or for some safety reason?
Does everyone swaddle their baby for the first little while? Or do some babies just hate to be swaddled? Is it just to help baby sleep, or for some safety reason?
My son didn't like it, so we really didn't swaddle very long. If this baby doesn't like it either I won't force it, there's really no "need" to swaddle.
Re: Question Thread
DS2 due 12/12/18
Yes, it is. The blood vessels dialate in pregnancy, causing lower blood pressure and sometimes lightheadedness
@rawarr I did ask my dr about B6 during the day. I don't see why it would be a problem but it doesn't hurt to ask.
@scaredunprepared I would tell your direct supervisor, but not the co-workers. Personally I #1 don't add all coworkers to my FB profile because I'm a jerk, and #2 I set it so that only I can write on my wall and any tags must be reviewed. If they're already in, just change the wall setting AND tell them to keep their traps shut.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango that's what I am going to do tomorrow. Telling my boss only. The rest will find out eventually. Thanks for the advice about changing the facebook wall settings. I did that just in case my boss lets it slip and everyone else finds out and tries to day something on Facebook!
@scaredunprepared I would stress to your supervisor that you do not want others to know.
I think you get a pass especially because someone else is excited to offer this shower for you. If any potential guests think it’s too greedy or “tacky” of you, then maybe you don’t want them at the party?
Me personally, I don't plan to have a shower for this baby because we have everything we need, even if it's a girl. No we may not have "girl" clothes, but lord knows I'll be buying and sewing new clothes for this baby regardless of sex anyways, I personally don't need to be showered with baby clothes, or any other items really.
DS2 due 12/12/18
I assume my work will do something very small for me because this is my first baby at this job, but I expect nothing. I wish I could have a full second shower because these babies are so close in age and I need everything (double stroller, crib, dresser, another camera for the monitor) but we’ll survive without one lol
She did ask if there was anything I need this time around and I told her really just boy baby clothes, since we did not do a great job being gender neutral with our DD! We don't need anything else baby wise that's small (and we want to buy the bigger things we need like car seats and crib ourselves, since it's our second and people should save their money for first babies and other special gift giving occasions!)
I'd guess I'd be fine with a very chill, low key, no registry shower to celebrate this rainbow baby, where people brought baby boy clothes or no presents at all. But I'd also be fine with nothing! I guess I'll talk to her more about it later and think about it more!
I think the issue is more on the guests feeling like they have to show up with gifts when they’ve already done that for you. I think a small “sprinkle” is fine. Make sure the hostess is clear that diapers and clothes are all that’s needed.
Does everyone swaddle their baby for the first little while? Or do some babies just hate to be swaddled? Is it just to help baby sleep, or for some safety reason?
DS2 due 12/12/18