There is definitely a huge difference between teasing and bullying. In the end getting teased makes you stronger. It drives me nuts when parents say their kid is being bullied and it’s just normal kid teasing...maybe that’s an UO.
I guess this is an UO-I think youneek spellings are stupid, as are made up names, and I agree with someone in that thread that they are potentially harming their kids. Names matter, and if there is a lawyer named Elizabeth vs a lawyer named Darickk (aka Derek)...I am going to Elizabeth. #sorrynotsorry
FFMC? I cringe anytime I see a unique spelling of a name. I actually have an uncommonly spelled name and I hate it. I considered changing it legally to the normal spelling when I changed my last name, but it seemed like it would make things confusing. I guess I don't get the point in spelling a name differently. It doesn't make sense to me.
I’ll say it too: maybe that poster was a bit rough, but I also think that intentional misspelling like jaxson drives me up a wall. I don’t understand people who would choose to do that. But it’s also not my kid, I guess.
Re names - it’s true with even the simplest most normal names, kids will find a way to tease each other about something. My name is fairly common, yet people still misspell it all the time. It also can be pronounced the “wrong” way to sound like a female body part, which for middle school boys is apparently hilarious
I’m irrationally frustrated that I can’t figure out what your name is. I love word games. I will get this. I will.
@kiwi2628 I agree with you that you-neek names for sure can harm kids’ potential futures based on how society is today. There have been studies done that found that for people evaluating resumes of potential job applicants, with the exact same qualifications, a person with a more traditional name would be more likely to get asked for an interview vs a person with a “youneek” name. It upsets me because that person could certainly be just as if not more qualified than the “John doe”, but the name puts them at a disadvantage because of our biases. I’ll admit that I’m guilty of this as well (internally judging names, not hiring people), but when I see a made up name or a traditional name with an intentionally strange spelling, I can’t help it. I know it’s not the kid’s fault what their parents named them, but parents should really consider these things when considering names for their kids.
Side note on names and illiteracy @cdepperschmidt... I always remember this from my MIL, who was a teacher in NYC... there were a few times she told me about how kids would come in with their name being either “Name” (pronounced na-may) or “Female” (if a girl, pronounced fe-ma-lay), because their parents, when in the hospital after giving birth, wouldn’t understand the forms and would give them those names because they saw the words on the forms. Not sure if this was more due to a lack of understanding of the English language or illiteracy, but in either case, it doesn’t really reflect well on the child later on.
Re names - it’s true with even the simplest most normal names, kids will find a way to tease each other about something. My name is fairly common, yet people still misspell it all the time. It also can be pronounced the “wrong” way to sound like a female body part, which for middle school boys is apparently hilarious
I’m irrationally frustrated that I can’t figure out what your name is. I love word games. I will get this. I will.
Haha @DunkinDecaf pm me if you really want to know
@kiwi2628 I used to work offshore with men between the ages of 25-35, and they would pronounce the other female's name (named Regina) like vagina. Because men are perpetually 12.
Re names - it’s true with even the simplest most normal names, kids will find a way to tease each other about something. My name is fairly common, yet people still misspell it all the time. It also can be pronounced the “wrong” way to sound like a female body part, which for middle school boys is apparently hilarious
I’m irrationally frustrated that I can’t figure out what your name is. I love word games. I will get this. I will.
Haha @DunkinDecaf pm me if you really want to know
It’s not fun unless I figure it out myself! So I’m hoping it’s not Regina. Thinking cap on. I’ll pm once I have a good guess haha
@krzyriver I agree that it's weird for step dad to post that stuff on FB like that, especially when E can see it. Although, I agree that they gave you permission to stalk
So SS has wanted to learn to play guitar. My cousin plays and has agreed to teach him! SS adores my cousin and will think it's so cool. I'm so excited to tell him.
You’re close with Regina, just remove the “Re”. Even with the shortened version of it, boys still loved pronouncing it that way, which always drove me nuts!
I’m still unapologetically naming this kid Jaxson. We’re planning to call him Jax (thus the spelling we chose. It wasn’t random.) Spelling it “Jacks” as in Jackson seems a bit odd to me and I didn’t want to call him Jax and have his full name spelled Jackson. I personally don’t think Jaxson is THAT weird (not like Darrick imo) but hey we’re all entitled to our own opinions!
I’m still unapologetically naming this kid Jaxson. We’re planning to call him Jax (thus the spelling we chose. It wasn’t random.) Spelling it “Jacks” as in Jackson seems a bit odd to me and I didn’t want to call him Jax and have his full name spelled Jackson. I personally don’t think Jaxson is THAT weird (not like Darrick imo) but hey we’re all entitled to our own opinions!
Oh shit I stuck my foot in my mouth on that one! I forgot you were using it when I was referring to the December board poster. Mea culpa!
I think it’s worth noting that the studies on names and resumes is more about implicit racial bias. It’s less about Darrick versus Jason and more Latasha versus Lauren. If that makes sense. I think it’s really important to reduce bias in hiring, to the point where we have considered hiding name, gender, even school when we review resumes. It should always be about skills and aptitude.
@HoosOnFirst you’re right, and I meant to mention that in my post too, but it got kind of long as it was. I’ve seen studies to both effects (including racial biases and not), but in both cases, it just shows how much your name actually impacts your day to day life. (And I agree, it’s important to try and take steps in hiring to reduce those biases whenever possible, but unfortunately that doesn’t seem to be common practice yet...)
My mom has been texting me random names for this Baby if it’s a girl. They are all really funny to me and I’d only consider about three out of the fifty or so she has sent. Last nights were so ridiculous. One of them was Melanie Ok not bad, but then my mom goes “you can call her Melly!” What? I laughed so hard...I’m not even sure why. Moms man. Can’t make this stuff up!
You’re close with Regina, just remove the “Re”. Even with the shortened version of it, boys still loved pronouncing it that way, which always drove me nuts!
Booooo I hit quote to reply to this and apparently that opens spoilers. Just as well, I had no idea anyway and the “show” button was staring at me.
Sooo...this probably belongs in the baby brain thread but, I left my super expensive custom all weather mats at the car wash. I went back and they checked cameras and we could plainly see who took them. They’re wash club members so the owner has their phone number. I have the license plate also but is it incredibly petty to have the police try get them back (if they even will) if the guy doesn’t return them or let me pick them up? I mean it WAS my bad that I left them in the first place...but I really really want them back.
@HoosOnFirst excellent, excellent reference. Do you watch Westworld? There’s a character called Dolores... I can’t think of anything else every time they say her name.
Definitely call first and explain you took them you took them out and forgot to put then back in when you were done and if they refuse then call the cops. At least you asked first
@HoosOnFirst excellent, excellent reference. Do you watch Westworld? There’s a character called Dolores... I can’t think of anything else every time they say her name.
Absolutely! The only show we watch same day it’s on
@pumpkinpancake I was going to guess Virginia. One of our friends was in the hospital for a while and we went to visit him. He told us to check out his nurse’s name. Whoever wrote it forgot the last i so it said “Virgina” and every time somebody walked into the room, all the guys pointed it out and started giggling. I half wonder if they did it on purpose to lift his spirits a bit.
I agree about not liking weird spellings, but I think Jaxson is cute. Maybe it’s because I’ve seen it spelled that way a few times so it seems like an alternate spelling to me, like Ann or Anne, not something purposely misspelled to be different.
Hi guys!!!! I have been off of the threads for about 2 weeks now... I have taken on training a student at work (she will be the one to eventually cover for me while I'm on maternity leave) and it literally takes up every moment of my day. I can't waste work time browsing our threads anymore. I feel so sad and like I have no idea whats going on. I miss you guys, ha!
Also totally can't believe its June and that we are mostly all about half way now. I have a follow up today to review my AS. Gonna do my best to thumb through the threads and get caught up on all thats going on in bump world.
@linssears4 we definitely make it hard to keep up when you have to go a while in between checking!
That's another reason why I think separate posts for major events are good, like p@princessandthegator 's AS results. That way those who are busy can keep up with key things going on in our lives.
ETA: my post totally cut out Chyvie's shoulder infection. When I go to edit, the comment is there but it's not when I post...
How come I’m craving all the things that give me horrible heartburn?! Yesterday I wanted sloppy joes and today was pasta salad. These littles need to stop tourturing momma.
My coworker rocks. She's done having kids and loaded up her car with three bins +1 bag of clothes, a playmat, extra breast pump (gotta go grab new attachments, but who cares!) and brought it in for me today. Made her let me pay her for it, but not a bad haul for a steep discount!
@chopchop25 - On the breast pump, make sure it is a closed system. If it isn’t, buying new attachments won’t be enough to prevent possible transmission of bacteria or viruses.
Thanks @knottieamusements! I had heard about not sharing pumps, but assumed it was just the tubes/attachments you didn't want to share. I will go do some Googling!
edit update: It's a Spectra closed-system hospital grade. Dr. Google says that hospital grade ones may be okay to reuse, but now I think I'm still nervous about it. Really was hoping to use it as one to keep at work so I didn't have to carry back and forth!
@chopchop25 - I would not be nervous about using a closed system pump as long as you replaced all the relevant parts. (Although- read some more on Dr. Goolge, talk to your doctor or lactation consultant, etc. to get comfortable for yourself.)
There is a reason they are used in hospitals- the system is designed to be used for multiple patients without transferring disease.
Re: Randoms 6/1
Side note on names and illiteracy @cdepperschmidt... I always remember this from my MIL, who was a teacher in NYC... there were a few times she told me about how kids would come in with their name being either “Name” (pronounced na-may) or “Female” (if a girl, pronounced fe-ma-lay), because their parents, when in the hospital after giving birth, wouldn’t understand the forms and would give them those names because they saw the words on the forms. Not sure if this was more due to a lack of understanding of the English language or illiteracy, but in either case, it doesn’t really reflect well on the child later on.
I think it’s worth noting that the studies on names and resumes is more about implicit racial bias. It’s less about Darrick versus Jason and more Latasha versus Lauren. If that makes sense. I think it’s really important to reduce bias in hiring, to the point where we have considered hiding name, gender, even school when we review resumes. It should always be about skills and aptitude.
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I agree about not liking weird spellings, but I think Jaxson is cute. Maybe it’s because I’ve seen it spelled that way a few times so it seems like an alternate spelling to me, like Ann or Anne, not something purposely misspelled to be different.
Also totally can't believe its June and that we are mostly all about half way now. I have a follow up today to review my AS. Gonna do my best to thumb through the threads and get caught up on all thats going on in bump world.
That's another reason why I think separate posts for major events are good, like p@princessandthegator 's AS results. That way those who are busy can keep up with key things going on in our lives.
ETA: my post totally cut out Chyvie's shoulder infection. When I go to edit, the comment is there but it's not when I post...
https://xkcd.com/2002
edit update: It's a Spectra closed-system hospital grade. Dr. Google says that hospital grade ones may be okay to reuse, but now I think I'm still nervous about it. Really was hoping to use it as one to keep at work so I didn't have to carry back and forth!
There is a reason they are used in hospitals- the system is designed to be used for multiple patients without transferring disease.