@kiwi2628 DS is 17 months old and we still haven’t decided. Either of our parents would gladly take him. They’d both do just fine, but both have their issues, too.
@kiwi2628, we have an equally hard decision because we trust absolutely NO ONE in my family and my husband's family lives half a world away. My eldest daughter is an adult and would carry out our wishes to get her siblings to my husband's family. However it would be terribly hard for her to say goodbye to them (those aren't her relatives). Argh! Such a hard but necessary thing to think about.
Regarding your water breaking. So far I've only experienced it in 1 out of 4 pregnancies. It was actually a gush for me, but towards the end of my pregnancies I usually start wearing super absorbance pads just in case. I was lucky to be wearing one because I was sitting on my mom's brand new couch when it happened lol. I was in early stages of labor so I knew baby wasn't too far off. I had actually just been sent home from the hospital because I wasn't dilating only to have to turn around and go right back.
Z is almost 21 months and we have nothing on paper. We have no one to ask but my parents and I know they assume they’ll take the kids until hey hear anything different. Just have to get around to actually putting it on paper.
As for water breaking, I was induced with Z. They gave me something to thin my cervix which also dilated me to 2. Then she broke my water (whoosh!) and I was almost immediately in active labor. 4 hours later, Z was here. I’m really excited to see how things will go with this baby. FX I don’t have to be I diced again. I was miserable and I barely remember giving birth.
I actually have no idea when my water broke. Apparently some time in the hospital, although none of the nurses nor I ever saw it happen. When I was at 10cm the nurse asked if my water broke yet and I told her no, so she grabbed the doctor to break it and there was nothing there. So we have no clue!
DS is 18 months and we have no will or plans for him if something happened to us, and here we are on a 9 day trip away from him. I told DH that we MUST get this done this summer. He said I should research how to do it. No, this isn’t fixing an appliance, this is serious! We’re getting an attorney to do it, no question.
My H and I are currently trying to decide who gets the baby if something happened to us. It's such a hard decision!
Yeah exactly. All of our options would be fine but none would be perfect, and we just didn’t want to choose one person over another. Thinking we’ll ask SIL and BIL and change our documents to reflect that, but they live in another country so there are logistical issues like @ummibtihaj, and also we really would prefer our kids to be raised here. I guess we’ll just go with the best available and then try not to get hit by a bus at the same time.
Our family is across the country, but it was hands down my brother and SIL for baby. I think she will like Philly were something to happen to us! We did the will early for any other assets and just wrote the baby in at the same time (attorney told us it’d be easier this way even though we weren’t pregnant) simply so H’s family couldn’t try to interject themselves into any matters. There is no way they will get this child or cause any headaches for my family over our house, insurance policies, anything.
My water broke after hours of contractions and it was a lot of water! My cousin was one of those rare few who had zero signs of labor and then the water broke! I'm hoping it's like last time where I have several hours of very mild contractions before it got intense so even if I'm at work I have time to get to the hospital.
Re: water breaking. I was in labor for 5 days (with contractions 2-3 minutes apart the entire time), was sent home from the hospital that morning so I can "labor in peace" ( because I wasn't dilated past 3, so they don't keep you lol) about 4 hours after getting home from the hospital, thought I had to pee. Decided to do that before asking DH to the me back to the hospital (contractions were so painful by then). Water broke as I was trying to sit down to pee. I had polyhydramnios, so it was like dumping a gallon of water all over and around me. Lol (which was hilarious because the nurse kept telling me not to expect a movie style gush. She didn't read my chart about polyhydramnios.) So I knew it was coming at any time, but still a little shocked at the moment. Lol
Re: guardianship. We really want my cousins to take our kids in the event anything happens. They parent just like us, and have 2 kids. But they live like, half way across the states from us (I want to say like 18+hr drive). So it would break my mom's heart. I would love her to have them, I just don't think she could physically handle my 2 plus my niece. No one else would even be a candidate for us.
Random note, when the nurses were inspecting my placenta post birth, they commented how I had a very thick, strong amniotic sac. Makes sense since my water didn’t break until maybe 10 minutes before I started pushing. OB said typically if you make strong sacs, you make strong sacs always. So I’ll be curious to see if I have a similar experience this time.
It was weird when my water broke. I woke up at 1am feeling like I peed a bit, but I knew it wasn’t pee. Changed, went back to sleep, then it happened again around 6, now accompanied by mild period-like cramps. Got to the hospital around 10, and they did like 3 tests of the fluid and said it wasn’t amniotic, and were about to send me to the mall (which is across campus at Stanford) to walk around. Uhhh, no? Cramps were slowly getting more painful, too. Then they had me stand up for a few minutes, and then it all came out right in front of DH. Told you!
Tonight my best friend's husband is throwing her a surprise 30th birthday. They're going to dinner at a fancy restaurant and then dancing, starting at 8. I feel bad but I'm bailing. I'm exhausted and emotional. I've cried for no reason several times today. DH and SS have spent their day at my in-laws and I guess SS is spending the night there. DH won't be home until 10ish. I'm trying hard not to be a PITA wife and tell him I want him home. I've barely seen him since I got home yesterday and he's gonna be gone most of next week starting Tuesday.
I'm going to say something that is very much my mother's influence, @sammierose464, so forgive me.
I really think you should go to the birthday shindig. You'll feel better and your friend will be happy you were there. Even better? You get to bail early by saying you haven't seen your husband since you have been out of town for a conference.
Dancing with people you love and a hard cider will do you good!
Don’t hate me @sammierose464 but I agree with @sliztee. It always does me good to get out and do something when I really don’t want to. DH “makes” me sometimes when I’m in a hormonal, moody, crying funk and it truly helps. As much as I bitch and moan before hand, I’m always glad I went! I’d for sure use the missing your husband or exhaustion excuse though to bail early if you end up hating it.
@sammierose464 - I’m sorry that you are having a rough day. I agree with the other ladies though (excepting the hard cider ). Since it seems like your funk is due in part to being alone, go find some people to be with. Even many of those of us who identify as introverts occasionally need to spend some time with people.
Your friends will be delighted to see you, even if you say “I’m only here for half an hour to wish you a happy birthday.”
My water broke unexpectedly 10 days before my due date. I went to use the bathroom first thing in the morning and instead it was a huge gush. I would have been in a commuter train if it was 1 hour later! And then I never went into labor. It was super weird. I then had to get induced about 10 hours later.
@HoosOnFirst That would have been a fun train ride! FTM so no experience with my water breaking but my sister’s bf thought he broke hers because it happened while they were having sex. He was like “My dick popped it!”
Garage Sale was a success! Sold lots, but still have a couple boxes to take to Goodwill. Now I'm exhausted, everything hurts and I've got a headache. The kid's lemonade stand did quite well too! They were SO excited!
Re water breaking: When your water breaks, it is not red. I guess I didn't catch on about it being clear, or something, so when I started bleeding, I thought it was my water breaking. It was a LOT of blood. I called the hospital told them my water broke, and DH and I headed for the hospital. Dr didn't call back, nurses say it's not a rush, until I tell them it was bright red. The Dr acted fairly relaxed, probably so I wouldn't panic, and said to head into the hospital, which was an hour drive away. Anyway, long story short, I ended up having a C-section because the placenta was starting to detach and I wasn't progressing at all, and I was losing a lot of blood. If I hadn't been bleeding so bad, they probably would've wanted me to be started with something. After DS was born, the Dr informed me, when your water breaks, it is NOT red. He was a very straight forward, blunt kind of a Dr which DH actually liked. There was no guessing what he thought! I was a little disappointed because I really think I could've done it all naturally, or med-free. But I for sure wouldn't have wanted to put my son in danger just to try it!
Re: water breaking - with DS, my water broke spontaneously in the middle of the night 22 days before my due date. Hadn’t had any signs of labor before that, but contractions started coming on pretty strong once I woke up and realized what was going on.
I’m treating myself to a prenatal yoga class tomorrow, and I’m so excited. Don’t get too much quiet time to myself, so I’m going to enjoy every minute of it!
This is such a ***TMI*** about poop. Seriously gross and weird. So I have been constipated the past 2 days since I haven't been drinking enough water, and I was finally just going and I was using my abdominal muscles quite a bit and everytime I would, baby would kick, lol. So I kept trying to poop and every time I pushed, the kicks would stop me. Super awkward 5 minutes there.
@kiwi2628 - When I went to BRU yesterday, I picked up a Pack and Play and a changing table. They aren’t heavy (to me, pre-pregnancy), but they are close to the edge of what I am comfortable lifting right now. Of course, like an idiot, I declined assistance loading my car. Blast let me know every time I tightened my abs, and continued to bitch at me for a good 10min afterwards.
Apparently, my Mom isn’t the only one telling me to take it easy...
Recommendations for tolerable protein powder? Lately the only thing that helps when I get nauseous and can’t eat is those naked juice protein boost drinks and I’m sick of paying $4/bottle for them. I really, really hate protein powder but I need a way to not be nauseous and dizzy when I can’t eat. Does anyone have a fav?
I use the Sun Warrior Organic/Vegan vanilla. It's great in a quick shake with some berries and whatever else (the powder adds a bit of sweetness.) A friend of a friend is a nutritional scientist or something of the sort and recommended it as a good blend of different proteins and I've just stuck with it since.
I like the premixed protein drinks from Costco (Sams club also carries them). They come in boxes of like 12-24 and I think they end up being about $1-1.50 each you can recap them too. Think the brand is pure protein and they don't have added sugar.
@DunkinDecaf I work for the makers of Muscletech so I'm totally bias, but the Muscletech Nitro Tech cookies and cream is awesome, also the Muscletech 100% Whey Gold Vanilla.
So DH and I are off to dinner with a friend of mine, she texted me yesterday asking to meet up and that she had to ask me something so naturally it's been bugging me all yesterday and today as to what she has to ask!! Find out soon!!!
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Regarding your water breaking. So far I've only experienced it in 1 out of 4 pregnancies. It was actually a gush for me, but towards the end of my pregnancies I usually start wearing super absorbance pads just in case. I was lucky to be wearing one because I was sitting on my mom's brand new couch when it happened lol. I was in early stages of labor so I knew baby wasn't too far off. I had actually just been sent home from the hospital because I wasn't dilating only to have to turn around and go right back.
As for water breaking, I was induced with Z. They gave me something to thin my cervix which also dilated me to 2. Then she broke my water (whoosh!) and I was almost immediately in active labor. 4 hours later, Z was here. I’m really excited to see how things will go with this baby. FX I don’t have to be I diced again. I was miserable and I barely remember giving birth.
We did the will early for any other assets and just wrote the baby in at the same time (attorney told us it’d be easier this way even though we weren’t pregnant) simply so H’s family couldn’t try to interject themselves into any matters. There is no way they will get this child or cause any headaches for my family over our house, insurance policies, anything.
Re: guardianship.
We really want my cousins to take our kids in the event anything happens. They parent just like us, and have 2 kids. But they live like, half way across the states from us (I want to say like 18+hr drive). So it would break my mom's heart. I would love her to have them, I just don't think she could physically handle my 2 plus my niece. No one else would even be a candidate for us.
So I'm wallowing.
I really think you should go to the birthday shindig. You'll feel better and your friend will be happy you were there. Even better? You get to bail early by saying you haven't seen your husband since you have been out of town for a conference.
Dancing with people you love and a hard cider will do you good!
Your friends will be delighted to see you, even if you say “I’m only here for half an hour to wish you a happy birthday.”
FTM so no experience with my water breaking but my sister’s bf thought he broke hers because it happened while they were having sex. He was like “My dick popped it!”
Re water breaking: When your water breaks, it is not red. I guess I didn't catch on about it being clear, or something, so when I started bleeding, I thought it was my water breaking. It was a LOT of blood. I called the hospital told them my water broke, and DH and I headed for the hospital. Dr didn't call back, nurses say it's not a rush, until I tell them it was bright red. The Dr acted fairly relaxed, probably so I wouldn't panic, and said to head into the hospital, which was an hour drive away. Anyway, long story short, I ended up having a C-section because the placenta was starting to detach and I wasn't progressing at all, and I was losing a lot of blood. If I hadn't been bleeding so bad, they probably would've wanted me to be started with something. After DS was born, the Dr informed me, when your water breaks, it is NOT red. He was a very straight forward, blunt kind of a Dr which DH actually liked. There was no guessing what he thought!
I was a little disappointed because I really think I could've done it all naturally, or med-free. But I for sure wouldn't have wanted to put my son in danger just to try it!
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It's actually a bit of a blessing when your waters break late, as contractions become a lot more intense once they've broke.
of labor before that, but contractions started coming on pretty strong once I woke up and realized what was going on.
I’m treating myself to a prenatal yoga class tomorrow, and I’m so excited. Don’t get too much quiet time to myself, so I’m going to enjoy every minute of it!
I can’t wait till we get internet again, because I can’t handle this site on mobile. I was my laptop!!
Apparently, my Mom isn’t the only one telling me to take it easy...
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