Well my friend is getting married!! BUT she never asked me anything.. so I'm not sure if she meant to say ask or tell... I apologize for the disappointment ladies I was amped up for this lol
@mamabearcj Maybe she was thinking of asking you to be in the wedding in the excitement but then reconsidered after realizing you would be 8 months pregnant with twins which might not be realistic. Hopefully you can still attend the wedding?
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@chyvie she's getting married next year, but they only got engaged a few days ago and has so much on her mind with details I'm sure if she does want me in the party she'll ask when she's ready! If not I'm totally ok with that too! I'm pretty patient I like to think
So we just went over our lease. Still not sure if we are staying after Sept (we are fearing a rent increase and are already at the top of our budget, plus losing a bit of income as I probably won't be able to continue one of my PT jobs), but if we do stay, we can't paint any walls, and we can't drill into the walls.
On a superficial note: wahhhh, I wanted to paint the nursery.
On a (more important) safety note, isn't anchoring furniture into the walls kind of a major safety thing? Probably not a huge deal for the first 8ish months, but I'm worried about when the little kiddo starts grabbing onto bookshelves to stand up.
^^^ yes I think you must talk to your landlord about that. Most leases at least allow it if you will repair it before you leave. Filling a hole with putty isn’t a big deal.
I would talk to your landlord, but after deciding to renew or not and seeing the projected increase. I’d be worried the increase would be worse if he knew you were thinking about drilling some holes in the wall (which, hopefully he’d be okay with if you repaired before you moved!)
I missed that one @knottieamusements, but oh that one has good gifs! Definitely burrito bloat. There’s a closed name thread further down the page that I was reading earlier and got into a spelling debate.
The pedi conversation in the questions thread has me feeling crazy. We had a really bad experience with our first pediatrician's office and have since switched practices. Unfortunately, the first pediatrician is the one who does rounds and the hospital we are going to. I don't want to see them and I don't really want them near my kid.
I'm probably feeling too much about it and will have to just get over it but... ugh.
@lest12 That is completely understandable. I don’t think I would want someone touching my kid (or second kid) if I had a bad past experience with them. Are there other options at the hospital, maybe a resident or staff pediatrician? I know the hospital where I will deliver has a few different options of offices that round in the hospital as well as a hospital staff pediatrician that will care for the newborn if you chose a pediatrician that doesn’t round in our hospital.
@spartan4life - thank you. I think I will check in with the hospital and ask. It can't hurt, right?
It's just such an uncomfortable position to be in (laying in bed post-c-section with your newborn) and I would rather not feel that kind of anxiety. Plus, not to get ahead of myself, but if there are any questions about the baby's health, like weight gain, I really don't trust these people.
Ohhh!!! I thought you were being snarky about the thread’s name.
And the other one was delicious. Oh my!
White knighting aside, I don’t really disagree with the random knottie- the one person was rude. I’m not a fan of unique misspellings, but, to me, that is a personal decision. And even with standard spellings, people still spend their lives correcting people. (My name has three established, common spellings- nobody ever gets it right.)
@knottieamusements Yeah, people who harp about how important spelling is must have easy to spell names. My first name is Christine and I constantly have to spell that for people. "With a CH, not a K. NE at the end, not Christie or Christina." It's going to happen regardless, let people spell it how they want.
@knottieamusements and @krzyriver I agree with you both about the spelling. I think spelling of a name is a personal choice and no matter how common or uncommon it is, people will still spell it wrong. My name is a common name spelled differently, and yes it is annoying at times to always have to correct it, but overall it’s just a minor inconvenience and people spell it correctly once they get to know me. I was never “bullied” like someone in that thread mentioned, and the worst that ever happened was that i was never able to get a souvenir keychain with my name on it...who cares!
Woot woot! I just found out that we have limited access this month through my employer to get into to the Nike company store for awesome discounts. Might have to treat myself a little, even if I can’t wear normal clothes now!
@melbo444 if you’re staying there, like others have said, I’d definitely talk to your landlord about anchoring furniture. Not as important in the beginning obviously, but once baby gets bigger and starts pulling up, it’s essential to have things anchored properly.
Good lord kids will get bullied for all kinds of reasons. To me, the spelling of your child’s name is the least of their worries! (Unless their initials spelled ASS or something) Y’all may disagree but I think every kid should be bullied a little at some point. I may have strong opinions on the subject but I got called all kinds of names because of my red hair when I was a kid. My parents used that from a very young age to teach me that as long as you’re a kind and decent person, what others say/think doesn’t matter. It also taught me it’s never ok to make fun of someone for being different because I knew how it felt! Btw one of the girls who made the most fun of my hair now has fake red hair Also thanks @lolo_0924! I’m going to VS to see if I can find a sports bra or 2!
@jynjer91 I agree with you, not that bullying is okay BUT kids being teased a bit here and there isn't the end of the world.
As for spelling of a name, it's such a first world thing to argue about. No I don't like you-neek spellings for MY babies, but it doesn't affect me in the slightest how YOUR babies name is spelled. There is so much more in this world to be passionate about then how Becky down the block is spelling Jaxson.
Haha @mamabearcj DH is sold on naming this one Jaxson. Edit because this app cut off the rest. I should clarify that I by no means support bullying!! But this is real life and some people obviously have shitty parenting skills and their kids bully/tease mercilessly! I plan to use that to help teach my kids how to be good people like my parents did.
For what it's worth, I have a common name that is "misspelled" and I liked it growing up because it was different, but I hate it now because it seems unnecessary. Nobody ever once bullied me for it though. I was made fun of for other things, but never for my name. Also, I think there are going to be so many crazy names out there that the name bullying thing is probably not going to be a thing at all.
My first name, maiden name, and now new last name get mispelled ALL THE TIME. multiple spellings of the first name doesn't help, plus unique-ness of my maiden name, but that doesn't explain my new last name...it's not that hard guys! I get extra letters thrown in all the time, and it completely changes the pronounciation too.
Also, I wore two different earrings this morning to work, and just now noticed. After meeting a lot of high ups in the company. Fantastic. Mondays...
@jemmerjams with any luck they just think it's a trend that they're not onto yet! I feel like some celebs have been rocking that or the like 'one long earring' look...
Re names - it’s true with even the simplest most normal names, kids will find a way to tease each other about something. My name is fairly common, yet people still misspell it all the time. It also can be pronounced the “wrong” way to sound like a female body part, which for middle school boys is apparently hilarious
Yes, spelling is important. However, when it comes to names, to each their own. I don't think you look uneducated if you spell it Jaxson, Jaxon, or Jackson. Whatever. They're all common spellings of it now a days. I did think the "I hope for your child's sake it's a girl" comment was inappropriate.
I also felt the flaming in the bloat post wasn't necessary, but at least OP took it well.
@sammierose464 I missed the bloat post! Lol. But yeah, that was uncalled for. Spelling Jackson with an X is SO common now. I don't think anyone will think twice about it. And I've definitely seen Jaxson out there, so I don't know why they were acting like she just pulled that out of her a**.
We are definitely crazy nice here. Sometimes I wish for more drama, but I'm always complaining that people are too hung up on brute honesty these days and wishing that people could be just a little kinder. So it's a nice change of pace!
E finally friended his mom and stepdad, so now they're constantly liking stuff on my page. I took that as a green light to FB stalk theirs.
Well stepdad just shared this huge post about how you sometimes question if you're with the right person. It said something about how you have to work to learn to love the person you're with as they change and grow and something about how it's hard work and you won't always be happy. Then he commented under "This is my life right now" and E's mom came back with "Seriously."
Is it just me or is that super awkward? I like posts about how love is hard work and people need to fight for each other, but I don't post them and then announce that my marriage is struggling right now. A marriages have their low points, but why do people feel the need to air everything out on FB these days?
@krzyriver to each his own, I guess? My cousin and her ex-husband definitely posted too much on social media, IMO, during the end of their relationship. I guess everyone just needs to communicate / get their feelings out in their own way, but it definitely would not be my approach.
@chopchop25 Yeah, I guess. Maybe he doesn't realize his profile is open to the world and assumes that anyone seeing it is someone he's close to and would share that with anyway? Idk. I don't sugar coat my life, but I don't put my dirty laundry out for just anybody to see either.
ETA: Maybe it bothers me because I know E can see it. Kids shouldn't know that kind of thing about their parents. They shouldn't have to worry about it.
Re: Randoms 6/1
I apologize for the disappointment ladies I was amped up for this lol
@mamabearcj that is such a let down! I mean hooray for love and weddings and stuff but man! Sounded way more intriguing than that.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
On a superficial note: wahhhh, I wanted to paint the nursery.
On a (more important) safety note, isn't anchoring furniture into the walls kind of a major safety thing? Probably not a huge deal for the first 8ish months, but I'm worried about when the little kiddo starts grabbing onto bookshelves to stand up.
There’s a closed name thread further down the page that I was reading earlier and got into a spelling debate.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
The pedi conversation in the questions thread has me feeling crazy. We had a really bad experience with our first pediatrician's office and have since switched practices. Unfortunately, the first pediatrician is the one who does rounds and the hospital we are going to. I don't want to see them and I don't really want them near my kid.
I'm probably feeling too much about it and will have to just get over it but... ugh.
@spartan4life - thank you. I think I will check in with the hospital and ask. It can't hurt, right?
It's just such an uncomfortable position to be in (laying in bed post-c-section with your newborn) and I would rather not feel that kind of anxiety. Plus, not to get ahead of myself, but if there are any questions about the baby's health, like weight gain, I really don't trust these people.
Ohhh!!! I thought you were being snarky about the thread’s name.
And the other one was delicious. Oh my!
White knighting aside, I don’t really disagree with the random knottie- the one person was rude. I’m not a fan of unique misspellings, but, to me, that is a personal decision. And even with standard spellings, people still spend their lives correcting people. (My name has three established, common spellings- nobody ever gets it right.)
@melbo444 if you’re staying there, like others have said, I’d definitely talk to your landlord about anchoring furniture. Not as important in the beginning obviously, but once baby gets bigger and starts pulling up, it’s essential to have things anchored properly.
Also thanks @lolo_0924! I’m going to VS to see if I can find a sports bra or 2!
As for spelling of a name, it's such a first world thing to argue about. No I don't like you-neek spellings for MY babies, but it doesn't affect me in the slightest how YOUR babies name is spelled. There is so much more in this world to be passionate about then how Becky down the block is spelling Jaxson.
Edit because this app cut off the rest.
I should clarify that I by no means support bullying!! But this is real life and some people obviously have shitty parenting skills and their kids bully/tease mercilessly! I plan to use that to help teach my kids how to be good people like my parents did.
Also, I wore two different earrings this morning to work, and just now noticed. After meeting a lot of high ups in the company. Fantastic. Mondays...
Re names - it’s true with even the simplest most normal names, kids will find a way to tease each other about something. My name is fairly common, yet people still misspell it all the time. It also can be pronounced the “wrong” way to sound like a female body part, which for middle school boys is apparently hilarious
I also felt the flaming in the bloat post wasn't necessary, but at least OP took it well.
It really does show how nice we are
Well stepdad just shared this huge post about how you sometimes question if you're with the right person. It said something about how you have to work to learn to love the person you're with as they change and grow and something about how it's hard work and you won't always be happy. Then he commented under "This is my life right now" and E's mom came back with "Seriously."
Is it just me or is that super awkward? I like posts about how love is hard work and people need to fight for each other, but I don't post them and then announce that my marriage is struggling right now. A marriages have their low points, but why do people feel the need to air everything out on FB these days?
ETA: Maybe it bothers me because I know E can see it. Kids shouldn't know that kind of thing about their parents. They shouldn't have to worry about it.