I got most of my hospital bag packed this weekend! I’ve come to realize something about myself: even though I project manage a lot at work and think about organizing baby stuff at home, when it comes to physically moving stuff and putting it away, I absolutely hate it. I have to tempt myself with a lot of rewards to get anything like that done. Paper and digital projects I don’t mind doing the work at all—feels like a snap comparatively.
Plus it doesn’t help that I tire so easily these days....
All I want to do today is go home and take a nap... no idea how I am going to get through today or this week...
Also I'm annoyed this morning that my supervisor just moved a meeting to be at noon for me. I know we are on different timezones, but I always take that into consideration when I schedule meetings and she never does. I mean technically I take working lunches at my desk, but I cant exactly eat and participate in a meeting at the same time.
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Goals for the day are to pack the hospital bag, put away all the baby clothes I washed the other day- that are now wrinkly in a basket, and mop all of the floors in the house so I can not be disgusted walking around without socks on. DS spilled sugar on the floor while we were baking cookies yesterday, I swept and mopped twice and it’s STILL sticky. Its another rainy day so maybe that will help with my motivation? Probably not.
We had our "backyard BBQ" sprinkle on Saturday and it literally down-poured the entire time. It was still really nice and I appreciated the effort from my family for putting it together. No one from my husband's family showed up which doesn't surprise me but hurts just the same. My MIL has a lot of passive-aggressive hostility towards me and it's really starting to effect my marriage and our family dynamic. Anyone else have a less-than-friendly MIL?
I spent the day yesterday nesting.....I finished DD's nursery, put her clothes away and organized her dressers. Tonight I am going to finish packing my hospital bag and write some thank you cards. Once I am done with that, I am officially DONE and plan to spend the rest of my time hanging with DS as much as possible before he becomes a big brother. I am due July 4th so I have exactly 30 days until my due date! Whoo Hoo!
What does everyone plan on doing for AC at night? I had DD in November and DS was June and it was HOT but we kept the AC on in our room at 72 (oh the night sweats...that was fun)
I feel like I was super paranoid with DS, 12 year age gap between my kiddos so it was like being a FTM all over again.
@owl_momma We have central air - we kept it a bit warmer than DH prefers while DD was in our room and kept the bassinet out of direct drafts (it also has a minicanopy and we swaddled in flannel) with extra fans on DH directly. You could also sleep in hats if DH keeps it arctic!
We demolished the kitchen this weekend - 4 men, a sawsall, a sledgehammer, and a crowbar and 5 hours. The women folk stripped the furniture that's going into DD's new room since I can't. The men swooped in and packed the cabinets before I could reign them in...so now I have NO idea where anything is - including the dog treats. This morning I had 2 hot dog buns and under-sugared coffee for breakfast because it's all I could find... I may need to start going back in the office just to get a decent meal... They also over-packed the bins and left the lids off and didn't stack them...so my dining room is a sea of overflowing buckets... GC comes over tomorrow to finalize contract and it's going to be a race of baby vs kitchen.
@owl_momma we always run the ac at night, plus a ceiling fan. I want to say we keep it just under 70. DS was usually fine with a sleeper and a swaddle, I’d tuck an extra blanket around the swaddle if he felt chilly.
@acunamatada now I want cookies! Try warm water and 1 cup white vinegar with a small squirt of dawn dish soap to mop up the stickiness. My mom cleaned houses for 15+ years and sweats by this mixture for EVERYTHING (pet stains, shower cleaner, floor cleaner, etc.).
@lindsayleigh1989 can you pick your top three and get him to help from there maybe? And that’s awesome of your mom!
@owl_momma we keep our AC around 67 at night and sleep with a fan on . I’m thinking we’re going to turn the fan off while the baby’s in our room. But keep the air pretty low and just bundle him up nicely. I figure while we’re already not getting much sleep we shouldn’t hinder our sleep too much more by making it too warm since we both can’t sleep if we’re hot. That may change but that’s our plan right now.
So my husband and I both took off work today because he was supposed to have an endoscopy around 11:30. We realized yesterday he didn’t get a confirmation call so I had him call this morning and it turns out they CANCELED his appointment and no one told him!! The lady said there was a note that said “call disconnected”. How is that an adequate notation!?!? That means the patient didn’t get notified because you didn’t actually get in contact with him! (He doesn’t have a missed call so it appears the call just didn’t go through) Ugh, we’re both so annoyed today.
@zombiehoohaa I'll have to remember that tip! I am so worried about the heat in the house with the SIDS risk and all that...it was 85 this weekend and it was 81 in the house! I was miserable and so worried about what we'll do to keep it cool when Bernie gets here. I think we are gonna get a portable air conditioner for the bedroom but its $200 we don't really have.
So DS discovered Peppa Pig today...is this show like, 98% for adults? Because I'm laughing about how ridiculous it is and I'm not sure DS has any idea what is really happeneing.
@acunamatada you've inspired me! I'm going to get the clothes put away today too, and take away the last of the clutter hopefully!
I just made a list of all the little things I don't have that I need to purchase, like butt balm and nipple balm and nursing pads and nursing tanks, etc, and adding those to my cart for purchase in the next week as I remember and add things to it.
My dogs are on the prowl for an asshole squirrel who loves to taunt them. I typically think it's pretty funny, except they woke me up at 3:30 this morning for this.
Also, I dropped my strawberry banana muffin in the trash this morning...I picked it out and still ate it. No shame. Its delicious!
@owl_momma we have central AC and will likely keep it the same temp we always do, around 70. (same temp we usually keep the heat at in the winter too). You can always add layers to the baby if it's cooler, but an overheated baby during sleep can be a SIDS risk, so I definitely feel safer keeping it cooler.
I was really hoping my mental state would improve today. It hasn't. I'm really confused by my husband's reaction to me right now. We had a little argument last night because he lost something and was trying to blame me (what else is new), but something in his tone/look on his face scared me that he was going to blow up and go Hulk on me again. So I left the room and spent the rest of the evening crying alone in our bedroom while watching the Gilmoore Girls. When I went to bed I texted him that I thought maybe I was depressed, and just generally not doing well, and we texted back and forth for a bit, but he never got up off the couch and came in to try to comfort me. So I basically cried myself to sleep alone, and he slept on the couch. I don't even know why, he told me I "made it abundantly clear" that I wanted to be left alone, but I specifically reached out to him to let him know how I was feeling, so I am legit just so confused how he could think that. Then this morning he barely acknowledged any of it and just sat on the couch staring at his phone for 2 hours before going to work, while I juggled working from my laptop and taking care of my son until my mom arrived. I am just so confused by my marriage and feeling very alone. I also didn't make it into work today because by the time I started driving in, there was construction and my traffic app was saying I'd be 20 minutes late for a phone hearing, so I turned around and came home. Now the hearing officer is late calling us for the hearing anyway, and even though I'm up in my office, I can hear my son sobbing/screaming downstairs for some reason. I might need to go to the library later or something so I can actually get work done.
@zombiehoohaa I love that picture! And no judgement on eating your trash muffin. I would have done the same thing AND made sure to tell the germaphobe that sits across from me at work lol
@zande2016 I’m sorry you’re struggling. I hope you can sit down with your DH and get on the same page. I’d also recommend telling your OB of you’re feeling depressed, perinatal depression is a real thing. Hugs and hoping your day gets better!
Omg @zombiehoohaa your dog is amazing! I’m sorry they woke you up but that picture is hilarious.
@lindsayleigh1989 I like @ashbub714’s idea of giving him a list to choose from, that’s how we decided on this baby’s name. I had a huge list that I’d been collecting whenever I found a name I like or he mentioned one. Then when we found out the sex, I gave him the list and let him cut out everything he hated. We got to like 5 and worked through them together (we had some criteria around popularity that we used to cut things, plus I removed ones I wasn’t overly fond of). We did struggle between our top two for a week or two but we had little conversations about them here and there and we finally chose!
@zande2016 Not much advice or input I can provide. Just know I'm thinking of you and sending you many hugs!!!
@ashbub714 BAHAHAHA!!! I work with chiropractors, MD, Nutritionists, etc. One of our practitioner advisors says if something drops and you pick it up to eat it, you are actually building your immunity to germs. I mean, there is a limit. However, I'm game with that.
@zombiehoohaa same! I love letting my kids build their immunities.
Also, on related terms, I dropped a quesadilla I made myself on the nasty dining room floor and I don’t think I’ve moved so fast in a while. My dog and I were in a race to see could get to said quesadilla first. I won!
UGH the desktop site is not letting me love tit or tag anyone or check my notifications....BUT thank you ladies who commented re the AC. We have window units and I think he should be good in a long sleeve sleeper with the fan off, but I'm glad to hear from others! I like it to be freezing but I'm totally fine sacrificing my frigid temps for LO..I think 69-70 will work, better than the 72 we had the summer with DS...those 2 degrees make a huge difference!
@lindsayleigh1989 I still need to sit down with my DH to make progress on baby name decision. It's not that he won't we just haven't and I'm frustrated with myself for not making it a priority, because time is ticking. I feel your pain!
@zande2016 I really felt for you reading your post and I hope your week improves. I agree w/ PP about talking to your OB about perinatal depression. If that kind of reaction is out of character for your DH, perhaps he is having some depression issues himself? Just a suggestion since my DH is currently working through some things and I've noticed a huge improvement in his general mood & ability to respond to me in ways that I need him to right now since he's been seeing a therapist and taking medication.
Today is not a great Monday. I didn't sleep well last night and was hoping to get sent home early this afternoon since I worked over the weekend (I work in software development for an insurance company and we had a major release). But, basically the first thing that came up today was a production issue from one of my projects so, I'm not going anywhere. Dreaming of ice cream and naps until I get home.
@zande2016 (hope this tags) I'm so sorry you are going through all this right now, depression and feeling alone are hard enough, never mind with all the hormones right now. Hoping for a better week for you and DH.
+1 for having to sit down about the name +1 about the fan and AC, we will also have a portable unit in the bedroom (@smashjam I'm so with you on the $$, that's the last "big" purchase we still need to make) @gingerbride26 sorry about your random breakfast and good luck on the demo project! @ashbub714 super inconsiderate! @zombiehoohaa needed a dog picture to cheer me up, and yes, your mom advice is great and works well on yellow armpit stains on tshirts too btw! @zande2016 I'm so sorry about what you're going through, fx for a good week ahead
For all those annoyed with work, I'm also with you, just witnessed my developer and boss dragging a call I didn't even wanna be part of because they were clueless about the client's requirements and it just looked so bad. I'm swamped today and I have my nst in an hour plus I really wanna make it to yoga tonight. It will be a long ass day!
I feel like I've taken 4 steps back since DH got so fixated on potentially moving. We don't know if we will be getting approved for this new townhome yet so I know I shouldn't worry now but I feel like all the nesting progress I've made is useless now. And i honestly think this place is too expensive for us right now especially with a new car and daycare expenses coming up next year. I don't think DH sees it. I know we can afford it on paper and still be ok but I think now is not the time for unnecessary expenses like moving and paying higher rent. More in the BF thread once I get some time to share how I'm feeling...I hate anxiety!!!
@foxbaby2016 I'm having MIL drama here too. FIL and DH were supposed to work in the backyard this weekend while MIL and I finished sewing curtains and teething rail covers for nursery. Instead she brought 2 dozen plants to make flower beds in my backyard, because I "need a butterfly garden". I had said she could bring 4 specific plants and gave her a $30 budget. She spent $70 and kept mentioning being "reimbursed". We put those plants in, which took two 1 hour sessions cause it was so hot, and she fully expected this 33 week preggo who is on meds to prevent preterm labor to help her with the "light gardening" as she put it. She then spent the rest of the weekend "recovering" by sitting in DH's chair and fooling around on her laptop. I still had to cook all meals and watch DD. I'm officially done with her shit at this point, she'll get better to get back in our good graces then go back to doing exactly what she wants. I told DH that if she wants to come over to "help" anymore in the future and after LO is born it will be on a weekend or he'll have to take PTO to supervise her the whole time. I've tried to keep the peace for the whole family's sake by keeping my mouth shut, but I'm done. Just hoping DH will be fully supportive or I forsee major trouble after DS is born. Sorry for the novel rant, but you ladies are my only sounding board besides my mom and sis. Thank you for being there to listen!
@rkk0002 You couldn’t pay me enough to garden right now! Did you agree to the $30 worth of plants to be nice and do something she wanted to do? I would say no to all of it next time!! Can you send the other $40 worth of plants back with her? I would just give her $30 and say you will pay back later or say you can’t afford it. That would probably teach her to not go overboard again but then again you will probably have to deal with attitude.
Just wanted to come share that I just found out my 20 month old has Lyme’s disease. I am devastated and just feel like a horrible mom right now. I posted on STM questions last week about his rash and grabbing his ear, and what it could be, thinking maybe ear infection. Obviously I was concerned enough to post but I never followed through and ignored it until today. I was so consumed with my own emotions that I ignored everything going on with him. He had a fever Tuesday - Thursday, a rash around his ear Wednesday that faded to what is now just redness near his ear, but thank god my mom snapped a photo on Wednesday and the doctor identified it as lymes. It didn’t look like the classic bulls eye to me but the doctor is 99% sure, and since bloodwork takes 30 days to test for it, he’s starting antibiotics today...three times a day for a month. I Just keep thinking what would have happened if I hadn’t made that call today and had my mom bring him in. He’s been waking up early crying, and has been really cranky, and finally today I just woke up out of my fog and realized somethings off with him and he’s not being himself. Anyway, just wanted to share and I guess let all the mommas know to listen to your instincts when it comes to your kids, and look for signs of lymes, because untreated it can be so so serious, especially in kids. Ughhh. Photo below of the supposed bulls eye, before and after it faded, because I never ever would have guessed and wanted to bring awareness to it.
Oh no! @zande2016 you’re not a terrible mom- don’t even think that. It’s a good thing that he’s getting on antibiotics ASAP! I think that if you get it pretty early there doesn’t have to be long term effects. FX that he feels better in no time. Poor little guy!
Oh wow @zande2016 I'm so glad you took him in and got him diagnosed and treatment started, that's so scary! Please don't beat yourself up, it's so hard to tell what's going on with them at this age. Hugs!
Thanks everyone. I've just worked with kids with PANDAS before, which is a chronic long term disease that can result from untreated Lymes, and I'm so shaken up by this, and knowing what could have happened to him if we hadn't caught it. And also still scared about whether he still could have long term effects, and waiting to speak to the doctor to see about that. If my mom hadn't taken that photo, there's no way they would have been able to make this diagnosis. I'm also mad at myself because my dog is way overdue for his tick prevention treatment, and the tick probably came from my dog....or one of my mom's dogs/cats.
Oh my goodness @zande2016 - very thankful that she grabbed that picture and that ya'll have caught it now! I'm sure the mom guilt is really hard right now, even though I agree with others that it's not your fault. Please do your best to focus on the "what can I do now" part and not the "what if" part!
I was going to post what @acunamatada did about the fan - I typically hate sleeping with the fan on, but we kept it on updraft when DD was in our room (even the nights the heater was on in the house) in order to keep airflow going around her. That's also the reason she has a Vornado in her room right now. LO's room and ours both have a ceiling fan that we'll use, and we'll just need to come up with another Vornado or something when he's sleeping in my office (no ceiling fan in here).
@zande2016 oh my gosh! Thank goodness you caught it- please don’t beat yourself up about it, you’re not a bad mom! Toddlers are always changing! Do you know how long until he starts feeling better? My 11yo sister had Lyme at the end of last summer that they luckily caught early too and made a full recovery almost in time for school. Kids are so resilient! @zombiehoohaa I wish I saw your post before I started- I mopped it a good 3 times before I could walk through the kitchen barefoot without hating life. @kissableviv props to you for even considering moving right now- I’d lose my mind! Personally I wouldn’t move if it were more expensive and less space but I’m cheap lol.
@zande2016 late to the game but I really think most of us would have done the same thing - especially not having the typical bullseye. I'm not a dr and obviously rashes are tough to photograph/rx by photograph, but that looks more like eczema or contact dermatitis to me. If the dr is suggesting prophylactic antibiotics, I'd do the exact same, but I would wait for the bloodwork before going completely down the long-term lyme anxiety road - easier said than done I know. You have enough on your plate lately without going there without all the data back.
@acunamatada what drives me crazy is that I mentioned moving as we got pregnant and he was the one not seeing major issues with our place. He just doesn't see farther than his nose...I know you can't put a price on safety but the funny thing is that we are not unsafe here, he is making it a huge deal all of a sudden after telling ME not to make a huge deal out of it...he keeps saying it's for the baby and it's really sweet to see I'm just so mad because I brought up all of the same things 9 months ago!
The place we saw is adorable and well kept, it just has less storage space however it has a better layout. And I am swooning over how I could literally walk to the bay with the baby...but I'm not ready to spend more of our budget just for that and for a place that still doesn't check some of the boxes that we really need. To be honest I'd rather not move at all or if I really have to I would rather move this fall.
I also would probably be happier moving to an apartment complex, it's a lot of people/neighbors I know but some of the ones around here have all the amenities we need (private laundry, garages, AC...). I would love to have a community pool, not to mention a gym which would save on gym membership. DH thinks it's a bigger adjustment to live in a complex and wants a privately owned townhome in this area we visited instead, but those are EXTREMELY hard to find and $$.
ETA: andplusalso who would be doing all the legwork to find a new place? This gal...
@zande2016 I agree with @gingerbride26 I definitely don't doubt the diagnosis but I know how tricky Lyme can be, waiting for the blood test could be a good idea. In any case please don't blame yourself you're human and you are doing you're absolute best given all the things you are juggling.
@zande2016 omg how scary! Glad to hear antibiotics are started. Your not a bad mommy! These things are hard to determine when it something minor or major and sometimes life happens. Hope your little man feel better soon!
@gingerbride26 I agree I totally thought it was some sort of eczema at first, but when the rash never fully went away after 5 days but rather just faded, it just set off an alarm bell for me. I just got off the phone with the doctor (since I didn’t actually go to the appointment), and he actually said the rash is classic lymes...it’s harder to see because his ear breaks up the rash, but he consulted with another doctor in the office and they’re very sure he has it. There’s no way I’m waiting on antibiotics, but what he suggested was testing his blood after the month of treatment to see if there’s any left in his blood - if yes, we can see an infectious disease doctor to decide if further treatment is needed. He also said we couldn’t Have caught it any earlier, but I can’t help but fret over those 5 days when the rash showed up and we didn’t do anything about it. Mom guilt is so real.
Re: Weekday Randoms 6/4
I got most of my hospital bag packed this weekend! I’ve come to realize something about myself: even though I project manage a lot at work and think about organizing baby stuff at home, when it comes to physically moving stuff and putting it away, I absolutely hate it. I have to tempt myself with a lot of rewards to get anything like that done. Paper and digital projects I don’t mind doing the work at all—feels like a snap comparatively.
Plus it doesn’t help that I tire so easily these days....
I am so annoyed that DH won't sit down and finalize a name with me. It really helps me to bond so it is really frustrating that he won't.
My mom is watching DD today while I have work meetings and is going to finish painting the trim on DD's new room. I am so grateful for her help.
Also I'm annoyed this morning that my supervisor just moved a meeting to be at noon for me. I know we are on different timezones, but I always take that into consideration when I schedule meetings and she never does. I mean technically I take working lunches at my desk, but I cant exactly eat and participate in a meeting at the same time.
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Goals for the day are to pack the hospital bag, put away all the baby clothes I washed the other day- that are now wrinkly in a basket, and mop all of the floors in the house so I can not be disgusted walking around without socks on. DS spilled sugar on the floor while we were baking cookies yesterday, I swept and mopped twice and it’s STILL sticky.
Its another rainy day so maybe that will help with my motivation? Probably not.
I spent the day yesterday nesting.....I finished DD's nursery, put her clothes away and organized her dressers. Tonight I am going to finish packing my hospital bag and write some thank you cards. Once I am done with that, I am officially DONE and plan to spend the rest of my time hanging with DS as much as possible before he becomes a big brother. I am due July 4th so I have exactly 30 days until my due date! Whoo Hoo!
What does everyone plan on doing for AC at night? I had DD in November and DS was June and it was HOT but we kept the AC on in our room at 72 (oh the night sweats...that was fun)
I feel like I was super paranoid with DS, 12 year age gap between my kiddos so it was like being a FTM all over again.
We demolished the kitchen this weekend - 4 men, a sawsall, a sledgehammer, and a crowbar and 5 hours. The women folk stripped the furniture that's going into DD's new room since I can't. The men swooped in and packed the cabinets before I could reign them in...so now I have NO idea where anything is - including the dog treats. This morning I had 2 hot dog buns and under-sugared coffee for breakfast because it's all I could find... I may need to start going back in the office just to get a decent meal... They also over-packed the bins and left the lids off and didn't stack them...so my dining room is a sea of overflowing buckets... GC comes over tomorrow to finalize contract and it's going to be a race of baby vs kitchen.
@lindsayleigh1989 can you pick your top three and get him to help from there maybe? And that’s awesome of your mom!
@owl_momma we keep our AC around 67 at night and sleep with a fan on
So my husband and I both took off work today because he was supposed to have an endoscopy around 11:30. We realized yesterday he didn’t get a confirmation call so I had him call this morning and it turns out they CANCELED his appointment and no one told him!! The lady said there was a note that said “call disconnected”. How is that an adequate notation!?!? That means the patient didn’t get notified because you didn’t actually get in contact with him! (He doesn’t have a missed call so it appears the call just didn’t go through) Ugh, we’re both so annoyed today.
So DS discovered Peppa Pig today...is this show like, 98% for adults? Because I'm laughing about how ridiculous it is and I'm not sure DS has any idea what is really happeneing.
@acunamatada you've inspired me! I'm going to get the clothes put away today too, and take away the last of the clutter hopefully!
I just made a list of all the little things I don't have that I need to purchase, like butt balm and nipple balm and nursing pads and nursing tanks, etc, and adding those to my cart for purchase in the next week as I remember and add things to it.
Also, I dropped my strawberry banana muffin in the trash this morning...I picked it out and still ate it. No shame. Its delicious!
I was really hoping my mental state would improve today. It hasn't. I'm really confused by my husband's reaction to me right now. We had a little argument last night because he lost something and was trying to blame me (what else is new), but something in his tone/look on his face scared me that he was going to blow up and go Hulk on me again. So I left the room and spent the rest of the evening crying alone in our bedroom while watching the Gilmoore Girls. When I went to bed I texted him that I thought maybe I was depressed, and just generally not doing well, and we texted back and forth for a bit, but he never got up off the couch and came in to try to comfort me. So I basically cried myself to sleep alone, and he slept on the couch. I don't even know why, he told me I "made it abundantly clear" that I wanted to be left alone, but I specifically reached out to him to let him know how I was feeling, so I am legit just so confused how he could think that. Then this morning he barely acknowledged any of it and just sat on the couch staring at his phone for 2 hours before going to work, while I juggled working from my laptop and taking care of my son until my mom arrived. I am just so confused by my marriage and feeling very alone. I also didn't make it into work today because by the time I started driving in, there was construction and my traffic app was saying I'd be 20 minutes late for a phone hearing, so I turned around and came home. Now the hearing officer is late calling us for the hearing anyway, and even though I'm up in my office, I can hear my son sobbing/screaming downstairs for some reason. I might need to go to the library later or something so I can actually get work done.
$200.00 later....omg.....
I forgot how expensive Target is. I also may have bought a few things that are considered indulgences like a baby k'tan. Oops.
Omg @zombiehoohaa your dog is amazing! I’m sorry they woke you up but that picture is hilarious.
@lindsayleigh1989 I like @ashbub714’s idea of giving him a list to choose from, that’s how we decided on this baby’s name. I had a huge list that I’d been collecting whenever I found a name I like or he mentioned one. Then when we found out the sex, I gave him the list and let him cut out everything he hated. We got to like 5 and worked through them together (we had some criteria around popularity that we used to cut things, plus I removed ones I wasn’t overly fond of). We did struggle between our top two for a week or two but we had little conversations about them here and there and we finally chose!
Also, on related terms, I dropped a quesadilla I made myself on the nasty dining room floor and I don’t think I’ve moved so fast in a while. My dog and I were in a race to see could get to said quesadilla first. I won!
UGH the desktop site is not letting me love tit or tag anyone or check my notifications....BUT thank you ladies who commented re the AC. We have window units and I think he should be good in a long sleeve sleeper with the fan off, but I'm glad to hear from others! I like it to be freezing but I'm totally fine sacrificing my frigid temps for LO..I think 69-70 will work, better than the 72 we had the summer with DS...those 2 degrees make a huge difference!
@zande2016 I really felt for you reading your post and I hope your week improves. I agree w/ PP about talking to your OB about perinatal depression. If that kind of reaction is out of character for your DH, perhaps he is having some depression issues himself? Just a suggestion since my DH is currently working through some things and I've noticed a huge improvement in his general mood & ability to respond to me in ways that I need him to right now since he's been seeing a therapist and taking medication.
Today is not a great Monday. I didn't sleep well last night and was hoping to get sent home early this afternoon since I worked over the weekend (I work in software development for an insurance company and we had a major release). But, basically the first thing that came up today was a production issue from one of my projects so, I'm not going anywhere. Dreaming of ice cream and naps until I get home.
+1 about the fan and AC, we will also have a portable unit in the bedroom (@smashjam I'm so with you on the $$, that's the last "big" purchase we still need to make)
@gingerbride26 sorry about your random breakfast and good luck on the demo project!
@ashbub714 super inconsiderate!
@zombiehoohaa needed a dog picture to cheer me up, and yes, your mom advice is great and works well on yellow armpit stains on tshirts too btw!
@zande2016 I'm so sorry about what you're going through, fx for a good week ahead
For all those annoyed with work, I'm also with you, just witnessed my developer and boss dragging a call I didn't even wanna be part of because they were clueless about the client's requirements and it just looked so bad. I'm swamped today and I have my nst in an hour plus I really wanna make it to yoga tonight. It will be a long ass day!
I feel like I've taken 4 steps back since DH got so fixated on potentially moving. We don't know if we will be getting approved for this new townhome yet so I know I shouldn't worry now but I feel like all the nesting progress I've made is useless now. And i honestly think this place is too expensive for us right now especially with a new car and daycare expenses coming up next year. I don't think DH sees it. I know we can afford it on paper and still be ok but I think now is not the time for unnecessary expenses like moving and paying higher rent. More in the BF thread once I get some time to share how I'm feeling...I hate anxiety!!!
@zande2016 you are not a horrible mom at all!
@zande2016 FX for a fast recovery for your little guy, Lyme is so scary
I was going to post what @acunamatada did about the fan - I typically hate sleeping with the fan on, but we kept it on updraft when DD was in our room (even the nights the heater was on in the house) in order to keep airflow going around her. That's also the reason she has a Vornado in her room right now. LO's room and ours both have a ceiling fan that we'll use, and we'll just need to come up with another Vornado or something when he's sleeping in my office (no ceiling fan in here).
@zombiehoohaa I wish I saw your post before I started- I mopped it a good 3 times before I could walk through the kitchen barefoot without hating life.
@kissableviv props to you for even considering moving right now- I’d lose my mind! Personally I wouldn’t move if it were more expensive and less space but I’m cheap lol.
The place we saw is adorable and well kept, it just has less storage space however it has a better layout. And I am swooning over how I could literally walk to the bay with the baby...but I'm not ready to spend more of our budget just for that and for a place that still doesn't check some of the boxes that we really need. To be honest I'd rather not move at all or if I really have to I would rather move this fall.
I also would probably be happier moving to an apartment complex, it's a lot of people/neighbors I know but some of the ones around here have all the amenities we need (private laundry, garages, AC...). I would love to have a community pool, not to mention a gym which would save on gym membership. DH thinks it's a bigger adjustment to live in a complex and wants a privately owned townhome in this area we visited instead, but those are EXTREMELY hard to find and $$.
ETA: andplusalso who would be doing all the legwork to find a new place? This gal...
@zande2016 I agree with @gingerbride26 I definitely don't doubt the diagnosis but I know how tricky Lyme can be, waiting for the blood test could be a good idea. In any case please don't blame yourself you're human and you are doing you're absolute best given all the things you are juggling.
in his blood - if yes, we can see an infectious disease doctor to decide if further treatment is needed. He also said we couldn’t Have caught it any earlier, but I can’t help but fret over those 5 days when the rash showed up and we didn’t do anything about it. Mom guilt is so real.