@mrsmartinez16 - Maybe a family name for a middle name? Then instead of honoring your DH’s naming traditions, you are honoring your family?
(Blast’s middle name is a family name from my mother’s side, so xe will have names from both families.)
I'd love to do this, but tbh my family have some pretty terrible Cuban names I'd rather not pass down lol. At least the men do. I'm figuring that 6 months of nagging will get him to cave.
@hannah8516 Honestly, as petty as it is, for some reason...I think I'll be irrationally upset if someone on this board decides to name their kiddo what my husband and I have picked out
In the December 2016 group, there were three other babies named the same thing as my kid (although slightly different full names, the same shortened name, if that makes sense). I don’t really care. *shrugs*
I got crazy salty when my ex best friend used a similar name to Z's when her son was born 6 months after. We're still FB friends and we have all the same mutual friends... no one knows what went down between us so they talk to us about each other all the time. You KNOW what name I picked.
But y'all can steal all my names, I don't care. Lol
@krzyriver - I think there is a difference between using the same name as some random on the internet is using, and using the same name someone close to you used (especially if the name is uncommon and/or babies are close in age).
I’m actually paying pretty close attention to new baby names at my office right now for just that reason. I don’t care about the “Alex” and “James”, but I don’t want to use the “Quinn” and “Austin”. I’m looking for somewhat less common names for a reason, and I imagine those parents may have felt the same way.
(And yes, as much as I like you all, I still consider you internet randoms for this purpose.)
@sliztee@missmaehurt I'd be lying if I wasn't a little salty. I check all the lists and get super annoyed if a name I like is popular. And a tiny part of me wanted to hurry and have kids so our friends didn't start using our names (because that actually happened and it really pissed us off). Lol But I'm also not going to change one that we've liked since before even being pregnant for people I don't know in real life. (But it does make me question everything about my choices.)
This is great, I so agree with you ladies, DH and I shared a few name ideas with a couple friends and one of his friends flat out said he hated the name choices... DH was pissed because we weren't very fond of what they chose for their daughter but we would NEVER say that to them it's rude af. And we got a mixed reaction from his parents as well, they also can't bite their tounge if they don't like something (I literally don't care what they think it'll be my child so we get to name her/him but they seem to persuade DH rather easily..) so we both agreed we wouldn't be telling anyone else about out name choices anymore because it's not fair to us to listen to others negative opinions on names we love. I also check so see if what I have picked has been mentioned and so far not yet lol not that'd I'd get super salty over it but I'd be a little surprised I guess, which is weird because they aren't outlandish names just a little different apparently
We have a huge list that I have shared with some of my friends to get their opinions/ thoughts. Especially since our last name is so difficult to pair with. It has helped eliminate some. Once we find out the sex we will discuss and choose a name, but won't be sharing it.
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Z's name was a huge bomb when we told my mom and MIL. They both hated it. My mom said she was going to call him by his middle name (James) and my MIL tried calling him EJ once. H shut both of those down FAST. Now everyone agrees it suits him, but I wish I'd kept his name quiet. We didn't tell anyone except family, but I think I'll keep our new boy name even from them...
I talked to my Mom very specifically about Blast’s middle name, because I was considering using her maiden name. She was very vehemently against doing so, which genuinely surprised me. However, she understood what I was trying to do, and helped me to find a name from her side of the family that we both liked. (She actually wanted me to use a name from my Dad’s side of the family, which I love, but I wanted to honor both of my parents.)
That said, while I am occasionally discussing some of the names on my short list with her and a couple of close friends, those names are not as personal, so most of those discussions are pretty generic too.
Ugh finally read through this whole post. Lol so this might be long!
I dont remember who said it but I love Norah!
@chopchop25 I LOVE that name pairing. I thought I loved Ellery as a first name but paired with Margot its perfect!
As for sharing names with family and friends... With DS we wanted to keep it between us but my mother kept badgering me that I just gave in. I couldn't stand all the questions any longer. She always feels entitled to know everything. This time I'm not sharing until she's here.
I would be bothered if someone close to us chose to use a name we were intending but here it doesn't matter to me. Also I dont really care what others think I just don't need anymore negativity if it can be avoided.
I do like reading this thread though for inspiration and I always love to hear why people choose the names they do. SO and I can't agree on any names. He is pushing for Addison which I'm just not sold on. I really like Autumn (he said no way) or Emmerson (he said this reminds him of an air conditioner wth???) My mom really wants the middle name to be Rose and that is her name (Roseann) which I'm ok with but I also feels that limits my first name choices.
@nmadjeski - I like the name Emerson too, but I makes me think of radios!
However, that name is also one (like Whitney, Harley, and Alexa) that I feel like once baby is here, the kid will own as their own. (FYI - Pratt & Whitney is an airplane engine manufacturer)
However, one of my favorite names for boy or girl is one I can’t do because when paired with my last name is one letter off from a famous actor. I love the actor, but just can’t do that to my kid.
@knottieamusements That's how I feel. I dont think when they meet my child they are going to associate her with radios or air conditioners or anything like that.
And I agree about the celebrity thing. I wouldn't be able to do it either! Lol
I wouldnt mind if someone here used the same name we chose because it wouldn’t ever be a real life issue to me. We probably won’t ever even meet! I’m leaning towards telling people close to me the name once we find out the sex though just so none of our friends tries to use it. (My immediate family already knows our names and luckily everyone loves them both) I don’t really care what or who the names are associated with because we absolutely love the names we chose and my kid will make their own name. Who cares if they’re named after an AC, airplane, or food? Besides I couldn’t care less if people hate it! Grouchy aggressive hormones probably but it’s MY baby and I’ll name him or her whatever I damn want! ETA I couldn’t name my kid after a celebrity. I’d roll my eyes every time I said my own child’s name.
I thought I'd share something entertaining I learned today.
Word names were very popular among the Puritans. So among all the Williams and Johns and Richards you found names like Love, Resolve, and Wrestling. And among all the Alices and Marys there were names like Remember, and Silence, and Thankful.
Tried real hard to convince DF on Silence for the sheer irony of it. He wasn't buying it.
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Ok I’m annoyed and I feel dumb. I was 100% on our baby name and I just found out I was spelling it wrong. I thought it was Issac and apparently it’s supposed to be Isaac, and the double “a” annoys me for some reason, so now I’m second guessing and thinking we might change it. I thought we were done with this and I’m super pissed to have to open this can of worms back up.
@DunkinDecaf love it! For anyone who has the same concerns, autocorrect quickly stops making that mistake if it's a word you often use. My son has an uncommon name and it will actually pop up when I text it now, rather than change it. As for voice-text, that probably wouldn't help haha. But I feel like voice-text get's it wrong 50% of the time even when it's a common name or word.
@DunkinDecaf for what it’s worth, I’ve never seen it spelled “Issac”, but when you first announced that that was his name, I didn’t even notice that you spelled it that way.
Same here. I've only seen it spelled with the double a, but didn't even realize it when you spelled it with a double s. I'd say spell it how you'd like!
I feel like such a dumbass! Totally thought Issac was the normal spelling. Also both kids are referring to him as Iss/aac now so although we could change the name, I’d rather not. I really wish the double a thing didn’t bother me so much. I guess we’ll give it a week and see if it still annoys me.
I'm failing at formatting, but I hope this works. Issac is a completely legitimate spelling. This is just a snippet, but it goes back as far as 1900, which is as early as the name lookup tool on the Social Security site goes. It's less popular than Isaac, but that's not a bad thing!
@mytrueloves There are several male ancestors in my family tree named Increase.
As for sharing names, we don’t. On the way to the hospital last time I told MH I wasn’t sure about one of their names. That was the excuse I gave people when they wanted to know what names we picked, but then it became reality (we ended up going with the name anyway, but almost changed it to the other one on our short list).
An ex boyfriend’s cousin did tell people the names they were thinking of. One of the names was Braden (whatever the middle name was) and they LOVED it... until a friend pointed out that their last name was pronounced “Hair”. Yep, they almost named their son Braden Hair. If you aren’t telling, just make sure you say all the name combinations out loud, especially first and last and nicknames and last (my boss once got a call from a man named Dick Palmer and thought it was a joke from a friend... turned out it was a sales rep named Richard Palmer and he went by Dick). Most of the posts I’ve seen here already seem aware of the last name, but thought I’d throw that out there just in case.
Oh! We go around yelling our kids’ full potential names so we’d know how it’d sound if we were mad! It feels ridiculous at times, but it does help to hear it in various tones.
And @mommy2ane I do that too! Gotta make sure it yells well as a first name alone, and as a “standing at the foot of the stairs” first-middle-last yell.
You know that guy knows exactly what he is doing going by Dick...
I’m sure he gets it all the time, but my poor boss. He kept telling the guy “yeah right did xx put you up to this” and refused to believe the guy, who also told my boss his company name, which happens to have “Headley” as part of it. He did say the guy seemed a little resigned to it happening, so we got the impression that it was something he’s been called since childhood and doesn’t like/want to change to his given name, although there are other options for nicknames for Richard.
When I was 16 at a summer job i once had to call a client who was Harry Cockburn. The receptionist snapped back "we call him Harold!" Yikes - then why did he sign his name Harry!
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Fortunately, that hasn't happened...yet.
I love talking names generally, and other can do what they want on sharing, but I’m unlikely to share specifics.
I got crazy salty when my ex best friend used a similar name to Z's when her son was born 6 months after. We're still FB friends and we have all the same mutual friends... no one knows what went down between us so they talk to us about each other all the time. You KNOW what name I picked.
But y'all can steal all my names, I don't care. Lol
I’m actually paying pretty close attention to new baby names at my office right now for just that reason. I don’t care about the “Alex” and “James”, but I don’t want to use the “Quinn” and “Austin”. I’m looking for somewhat less common names for a reason, and I imagine those parents may have felt the same way.
(And yes, as much as I like you all, I still consider you internet randoms for this purpose.)
I also check so see if what I have picked has been mentioned and so far not yet lol not that'd I'd get super salty over it but I'd be a little surprised I guess, which is weird because they aren't outlandish names just a little different apparently
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That said, while I am occasionally discussing some of the names on my short list with her and a couple of close friends, those names are not as personal, so most of those discussions are pretty generic too.
I dont remember who said it but I love Norah!
@chopchop25 I LOVE that name pairing. I thought I loved Ellery as a first name but paired with Margot its perfect!
As for sharing names with family and friends...
With DS we wanted to keep it between us but my mother kept badgering me that I just gave in. I couldn't stand all the questions any longer. She always feels entitled to know everything. This time I'm not sharing until she's here.
I would be bothered if someone close to us chose to use a name we were intending but here it doesn't matter to me. Also I dont really care what others think I just don't need anymore negativity if it can be avoided.
I do like reading this thread though for inspiration and I always love to hear why people choose the names they do. SO and I can't agree on any names. He is pushing for Addison which I'm just not sold on. I really like Autumn (he said no way) or Emmerson (he said this reminds him of an air conditioner wth???) My mom really wants the middle name to be Rose and that is her name (Roseann) which I'm ok with but I also feels that limits my first name choices.
However, that name is also one (like Whitney, Harley, and Alexa) that I feel like once baby is here, the kid will own as their own. (FYI - Pratt & Whitney is an airplane engine manufacturer)
However, one of my favorite names for boy or girl is one I can’t do because when paired with my last name is one letter off from a famous actor. I love the actor, but just can’t do that to my kid.
And I agree about the celebrity thing. I wouldn't be able to do it either! Lol
ETA I couldn’t name my kid after a celebrity. I’d roll my eyes every time I said my own child’s name.
Word names were very popular among the Puritans. So among all the Williams and Johns and Richards you found names like Love, Resolve, and Wrestling. And among all the Alices and Marys there were names like Remember, and Silence, and Thankful.
Tried real hard to convince DF on Silence for the sheer irony of it. He wasn't buying it.
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Spell it the way you want to spell it.
For anyone who has the same concerns, autocorrect quickly stops making that mistake if it's a word you often use. My son has an uncommon name and it will actually pop up when I text it now, rather than change it. As for voice-text, that probably wouldn't help haha. But I feel like voice-text get's it wrong 50% of the time even when it's a common name or word.
Edit because auto correct
@DunkinDecaf
I'm failing at formatting, but I hope this works. Issac is a completely legitimate spelling. This is just a snippet, but it goes back as far as 1900, which is as early as the name lookup tool on the Social Security site goes. It's less popular than Isaac, but that's not a bad thing!As for sharing names, we don’t. On the way to the hospital last time I told MH I wasn’t sure about one of their names. That was the excuse I gave people when they wanted to know what names we picked, but then it became reality (we ended up going with the name anyway, but almost changed it to the other one on our short list).
An ex boyfriend’s cousin did tell people the names they were thinking of. One of the names was Braden (whatever the middle name was) and they LOVED it... until a friend pointed out that their last name was pronounced “Hair”. Yep, they almost named their son Braden Hair. If you aren’t telling, just make sure you say all the name combinations out loud, especially first and last and nicknames and last (my boss once got a call from a man named Dick Palmer and thought it was a joke from a friend... turned out it was a sales rep named Richard Palmer and he went by Dick). Most of the posts I’ve seen here already seem aware of the last name, but thought I’d throw that out there just in case.
Edited because TB app is a PITA
And @mommy2ane I do that too! Gotta make sure it yells well as a first name alone, and as a “standing at the foot of the stairs” first-middle-last yell.
You know that guy knows exactly what he is doing going by Dick...
Yikes - then why did he sign his name Harry!
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