A few years ago someone I used to be friends with when I was little named her kid the same as ours. Her and my SO used to text each other before we started dating (not sure if it was friendly or flirty, never asked lol) We picked Caeden with the ‘ae’ because my Dads name (Michael) has ‘ae’ and we just liked the way it looked. She named her kid Kaeden not even a year later. Thought it was really weird. They go to school together, I hope they don’t become friends bahaha. Sucks that you can share the name early in hopes that no one you know will take it but apparently it happens anyways!
We are loving Ira for a boy and for a girl we are leaning toward Ava.
When I told my husband we were expecting he said if it's a boy I like the name Jonah. A week ago my cousin had a son and they named him JONAH! My husband was pretty disappointed but he's been talking to his friends about it and their consensus is he could use the name anyway. I'm fine with whatever he decides.
Thoughts? Would it be wrong to use the name anyway?
ETA: All of my husbands siblings, nieces, and nephews have J names....ugh!
Is it a cousin you would see regularly?? If so it may make family gatherings a little awkward at first but if you both really love the name then use It!
My husband has 2 cousins with the same name. Their Moms are sisters. At first I thought that was odd, but now i dont think anything of it. So that's siblings that both used same name!
Hello. I introduced myself into the Intro thread, but have mostly lurked. I'm hoping to get some suggestions if possible and I promise to try to contribute more! :-) My grandmother that I dearly loved and was close to passed away unexpectedly 2 days ago. I was already thinking of honoring her in some way with this baby's name, but now I am really really hoping to do so. I do not know if it is a girl or boy yet. My grandmother's first and middle is Gloria Jean. Here are my thoughts:
Ramona Jean Ramona Glory/Gloria (I don't think I like the double /a/ sounds at the end) Autumn Jean Autumn Gloria
Elias Glory Desmond Glory Elias Jean/Gene Desmond Jean/Gene
Are there any other ways of honoring her name that you can think of? Any preferences on the names above? I'm not against different first names either.. The boy names are the hardest. Thanks for the help!
@Allisonblue5- I think it's great that you are honoring your grandmother. I really like all of the names you picked out. I personally know a lot of people with the middle name Jean (although Jean is still great), so I'm partial to the Gloria/Glory middle name. I think it's beautiful and Glory would work well for a boy as well. My two faves are Autumn Gloria and Elias Glory.
I think having cousins or something with the same name is similar to when you have fathers/sons with the same name. My cousin is Edward the 3rd, he goes by Eddie, his dad is Teddy, and grandpa was Ed. Another cousin is Richard Lawrence the 4th. He goes by Rich, his dad is Richard, and grandpa is Larry. I don't know what Richard the 1st went by.
@Allisonblue5 I am so sorry about your gram, I just lost mine a few months ago and we are planning to use her middle name if we have a girl as well!! I absolutly LOVE Ramona Jean! I think it's beautiful. I also like Desmond Gene a lot. I personally don't like Gloria as a middle name, I think it's a hard name to pair with and have a flow.
We are considering naming our little boy, Hugo Apollo. What do you guys think? I've always been a fan of Greek names, and my husband wants his name to translate well for my spanish-speaking family.
@Allisonblue5 I’m so sorry for your loss. Big hugs ❤️ I absolutely love the name Gloria Jean. If it’s a girl, you could just have a Gloria Jean. I love your ideas too though. From your girl list my fav is definitely Autumn Gloria. I agree about the double “a” sounds being a little goofy with Ramona Gloria. I love all your boy names. I can’t even pick, I’m useless.
@sliztee@DunkinDecaf@arome2311@mamabearcj@nasalot188@chopchop25 Thank you for all your kind words! I feel better about my choices and narrowing it down will be difficult! I think I'm partial to Autumn Gloria and Desmond Glory right now - but we'll see. :-)
90% sold on Benjamin Elias. We'll call him Eli. Unless something catches our eye before birth that'll be his name. I'm just not 100% sold on the long first name and long last name. But it's really only one letter longer than Nicolas (DS1).
So I was really set on Henry Christopher and my dad apparently hates the name Henry so much. He made a big fuss over it and now DH says he doesn't like it either. I usually don't care what people think but my dad and I are very close and it sucks he doesn't like the name. Its so hard for DH and I to agree on names and I really felt connected to Henry
Right now the only potential name we have is Benjamin which was one of my favorites for years even before we were having children. It's a great name but now I keep comparing it to Henry and I just don't feel the same.
I don't think we will be sharing any more names until baby is born.
@drb2424 my mom felt the same way about DS1's name - Nicolas. I loved it though and wasn't changing it. Now she likes it because of association with her grandchild. It's hard to make everyone happy when the only people who should like it is DH and yourself.
I also like Henry but come to find out that's my BIL's name. He goes by his middle name and I just never knew his real first name. DH is not using it for that reason but I feel like its a good name not being used!!
I agree Benjamin is a good name. If I could I'd go with Elias first but since DH and I can't agree on it, I'll take it as a middle name and use it in real life lol.
@SweetSweetTooth yes! I do the same thing! If it's too high on the popularity charts, it's out for me. I had been thinking of Lucas too. Would Luca bee weird? I've heard it before and haven't ever decided if I like it or not
Last night we added Florence to our list after watching Florence Foster Jenkins. @wendylattes I am a huge mythology fan in general, but Greek mythology especially. The name I go by comes from mythology and my patron god and goddesses are from greek mythology. I'm super tickled to see names like Apollo being used! And I think Hugo Apollo is absolutely adorable.
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I’ve been debating whether to put this here or in the WTF thread, but with @drb2424’s comment, I’m going to put it here.
I decided early on that I wanted Blast’s middle name to honor my Mom’s family. I suggested to her using her maiden name, and she was dead set against it, but understood what I was trying to do, and worked with me to decide on another family name. (On this one, I didn’t mind not using her maiden name, because it is her name and I wanted to make sure she was okay with it.)
While (other than that), I’m not really discussing names with my friends/family, I have been sharing the process with some of them.
So, Wednesday night, I was having dinner with a close friend, and was telling her this story. She asked what my Mom’s maiden name is, and when I said it, she was very adamantly against that, and was like “Yeah, I would never use that name.” Curious, because her reaction was so similar to my Mom’s, I asked what her beef was with the name.
I was then subjected to a five minute lecture about how a name should have a good rhythm and flow, and that name could never work with my last name. When she finally wound down, I gave her a suitable name combination with good flow, and she was like “Oh.” Seriously- I’m a published poet (been a long time, but she has read some of my more recent, unpublished stuff), as if I wouldn’t pay attention to the cadence of my own baby’s name.
She is no longer welcome to discuss names with me, at all.
@knottieamusements this is your close friend you're talking about so I want to put this in a way that doesn't offend you but it's not her damn business. Poetry, like music, is heavily dependent on the reader/audience and just because she thinks it doesn't have flow doesn't mean it doesn't flow. I know pregnant Nikki is not regular Nikki, but pregnant Nikki especially does not like hr intelligence to be questioned and I would've been hella pissed if someone had said that to me...and I'm not published. Not her kid, not her place to go on a rant about flow.
I'm glad you're avoiding those convos with her. As for your Mom, I remember you saying you were going to respect her opinion, but I also probably would've gone with my (your) original choice because it's your kid and she'll learn to love it eventually.
Super exactly about my friend. And yeah me being a “pregnant Nikki” too.
Re: my Mom - I totally get your position, and totally advocate it, especially for situations like what @drb2424 mentioned.
For my personal situation, there are family politics that I know I am blissfully unaware of. If my Mom doesn’t want baby to have her maiden name, I’m okay with it. If I hadn’t been willing to take her opinion into consideration, I wouldn’t have asked for her input.
ETA- not trying to argue with you, just to explain why this works for me.
Is it bad I haven't even looked at baby names yet? I havent thought of one name I liked and everyone keeps asking me the name. With DS I couldnt think of a name and was shot down everytime I kinda liked one my BF picked the name halfway, but I hated the name.. They even put it on the baby shower cake even after I said I hated the name and I cried when I saw the cake.. I was emotional at the time but DS didnt have that name until after birth. My BF is putting the pressure on me and saying im picking the name this time since I said I didnt have any input into DS name. I hate making decisions!
@momoflogan20 I don’t blame you for not thinking of names yet after your last experience! Sounds like people really weren’t listening to you last time around. My suggestion would be not to share your name ideas right now and just let people know you are thinking on it.
Re: Baby names!
We picked Caeden with the ‘ae’ because my Dads name (Michael) has ‘ae’ and we just liked the way it looked. She named her kid Kaeden not even a year later. Thought it was really weird. They go to school together, I hope they don’t become friends bahaha.
Sucks that you can share the name early in hopes that no one you know will take it but apparently it happens anyways!
We are loving Ira for a boy and for a girl we are leaning toward Ava.
When I told my husband we were expecting he said if it's a boy I like the name Jonah. A week ago my cousin had a son and they named him JONAH! My husband was pretty disappointed but he's been talking to his friends about it and their consensus is he could use the name anyway. I'm fine with whatever he decides.
Thoughts? Would it be wrong to use the name anyway?
ETA: All of my husbands siblings, nieces, and nephews have J names....ugh!
My top contender is Julian but it’s starting to feel trendy.
But you could have a pudgy Fox, and they could pull it off.
I like Julian- especially as a gender neutral name.
we've officially decided on Henry Randolph, "Huck" as the nickname (DH can't help himself).
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Here are my thoughts:
Ramona Jean
Ramona Glory/Gloria (I don't think I like the double /a/ sounds at the end)
Autumn Jean
Autumn Gloria
Elias Glory
Desmond Glory
Elias Jean/Gene
Desmond Jean/Gene
Are there any other ways of honoring her name that you can think of? Any preferences on the names above? I'm not against different first names either.. The boy names are the hardest.
Thanks for the help!
I like all of the names, but if I had to pick favorites I'd go with:
Autumn Jean or Ramona Jean and Elias Jean/Gene.
I absolutly LOVE Ramona Jean! I think it's beautiful. I also like Desmond Gene a lot.
I personally don't like Gloria as a middle name, I think it's a hard name to pair with and have a flow.
I love Ramona Jean and Desmond Glory
I absolutely love the name Gloria Jean. If it’s a girl, you could just have a Gloria Jean. I love your ideas too though. From your girl list my fav is definitely Autumn Gloria. I agree about the double “a” sounds being a little goofy with Ramona Gloria. I love all your boy names. I can’t even pick, I’m useless.
So I was really set on Henry Christopher and my dad apparently hates the name Henry so much. He made a big fuss over it and now DH says he doesn't like it either. I usually don't care what people think but my dad and I are very close and it sucks he doesn't like the name. Its so hard for DH and I to agree on names and I really felt connected to Henry
Right now the only potential name we have is Benjamin which was one of my favorites for years even before we were having children. It's a great name but now I keep comparing it to Henry and I just don't feel the same.
I don't think we will be sharing any more names until baby is born.
edited: I cant spell lol
I also like Henry but come to find out that's my BIL's name. He goes by his middle name and I just never knew his real first name. DH is not using it for that reason but I feel like its a good name not being used!!
I agree Benjamin is a good name. If I could I'd go with Elias first but since DH and I can't agree on it, I'll take it as a middle name and use it in real life lol.
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@wendylattes I am a huge mythology fan in general, but Greek mythology especially. The name I go by comes from mythology and my patron god and goddesses are from greek mythology. I'm super tickled to see names like Apollo being used! And I think Hugo Apollo is absolutely adorable.
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I decided early on that I wanted Blast’s middle name to honor my Mom’s family. I suggested to her using her maiden name, and she was dead set against it, but understood what I was trying to do, and worked with me to decide on another family name. (On this one, I didn’t mind not using her maiden name, because it is her name and I wanted to make sure she was okay with it.)
While (other than that), I’m not really discussing names with my friends/family, I have been sharing the process with some of them.
So, Wednesday night, I was having dinner with a close friend, and was telling her this story. She asked what my Mom’s maiden name is, and when I said it, she was very adamantly against that, and was like “Yeah, I would never use that name.” Curious, because her reaction was so similar to my Mom’s, I asked what her beef was with the name.
I was then subjected to a five minute lecture about how a name should have a good rhythm and flow, and that name could never work with my last name. When she finally wound down, I gave her a suitable name combination with good flow, and she was like “Oh.” Seriously- I’m a published poet (been a long time, but she has read some of my more recent, unpublished stuff), as if I wouldn’t pay attention to the cadence of my own baby’s name.
She is no longer welcome to discuss names with me, at all.
I'm glad you're avoiding those convos with her. As for your Mom, I remember you saying you were going to respect her opinion, but I also probably would've gone with my (your) original choice because it's your kid and she'll learn to love it eventually.
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Super exactly about my friend. And yeah me being a “pregnant Nikki” too.
Re: my Mom - I totally get your position, and totally advocate it, especially for situations like what @drb2424 mentioned.
For my personal situation, there are family politics that I know I am blissfully unaware of. If my Mom doesn’t want baby to have her maiden name, I’m okay with it. If I hadn’t been willing to take her opinion into consideration, I wouldn’t have asked for her input.
ETA- not trying to argue with you, just to explain why this works for me.
@tropical1982 Im glad you went with what you wanted for your first. I wish I never told me dad but now DH doesn't like the name anymore so its out.
@sweetsweettooth I really like Luca. I just looked it up and it is an Italian name.