Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: *Introductions!*
I Will be a STM, my DD is three and I found out yesterday about my pregnancy. I was here in these boards for my first pregnancy and I found lots of support and useful info.
I am probably due on the 19th of Feb. I'll try to book an appointment with my OB/GYN later. I am staying with her, I liked her during my first pregnancy, I was Just lucky b/c I went there when I found out without first hearing any opinions on her... Yesterday I messaged her after the test and she reccommended to start taking folic acid.
Now for the scary part... I will be 43 next Mon. I am very worried because of my age. When I had DD I was 39 but everything went well, but still I cannot stop worrying...
Last thing... Sorry if you find typos, but I am in Italy and my phone has an italian autocorrect, so funny things come out sometimes.
-TW- I had a MMC at 11 weeks a few months back and so I'm trying to remain optimistic this time, but do tend I get in my own way sometimes. -TW-
We're due on Feb 20 and saw a little tiny heartbeat last week. So far, everything looks great.
I've been lurking since my husband and I got our BFP 2 weeks ago.
We tried for years to get pregnant. We tried naturally for 1 year, 5 IUIs, 2 IVF cycles and 6 transfers. We suffered 2 miscarriages. We pursued adoption the beginning of 2015 and brought our sweet boy home in Sept last year. Imagine my surprise when my period was a week late and the test came up positive.
Had my first U/S today and measured 6w5d and heard and saw the heart beating at 139 bmp.
Excited to be on this journey with you all!
I'm 28 years old, this is a first pregnancy for me. My EDD is February 26th (two days after my birthday!). We just started TTC and had a positive test June 28th! I work in the school system with special needs children and have two fur babies. Oliver the cat and Beau the dog, both 6 this year.
Im expecting my second child, I have a 5yr old boy. Im 7 weeks 5days today and my due date is 18th February
Congrats to all of you here! I'm excited to share this journey with you all.
10/16-12/16 -3 IUI, all BFN
2/17 IVF #1 froze 5 five day blasts
5/17 FET#1 BFN
6/17 FET #2 BFP
Look forward to getting to know every one . The bump community was amazing through my first pregnncy and beyond
i have been quietly following for a few weeks. I got my positive may 30 and have an estimated due date of feb 9. I will be a first time mom. My husband and I have struggled w infertility for 3 years- 4 iuis, 2 ivfs and 2 miscarriages. Just had a 9 week us and everything is looking great so we have let down our guard slightly and decided to get a little excited. Happy to be here!
I'm Kahlya, 28 and excited to be a STM!
EDD of March 3, but planned csection will be late February.
Had an early MC last cycle and keeping my hopes high this time around.
My first ultrasound is scheduled for July 31st.
looking forward to sharing this new journey with everyone
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
This baby will actually be my 6th. Ironically, in the beginning of May I called an ob to schedule a consultation for getting my tubes tied and was waiting for a call back which didn't come until a month later. ...June 5th to be exact, which was the day I got my BFP!!!! apparently God had other plans. Obviously I wasn't completely opposed to another baby, else I would have taken preventative measures. I was just getting into shape and liking the way I look and after 5 kids, was thinking of maybe keeping it that way. .... HA!!! So much for that idea...But, since I was active prior to conception, I've continued to stay active and have also continued to lose a few more pounds, but am not expecting that to continue at this point (9 weeks).... looking forward to another February baby. ..which in my opinion is the BEST time to be due, the pregnancy FLIES by with the end of the year and there's plenty of time to feel somewhat normal by summer. ...
Oh yeah,
EDD FEBRUARY 10, 2018
I am a FTM and I got a BFP on the 4th, so a week ago. I was 7 weeks on Sunday. It's funny we were TTC but I kept waiting for my period to come and we didn't believe I could be pregnant already so I didn't take a test until over 2 weeks had passed. It was a surprise since I didn't think it would happen so quickly, only the 2nd month of trying. I only hope I'm as lucky throughout the pregnancy and come out the other side with a healthy baby. EDD is Feb 25 or Feb 28. I think I'm going to post in the March 2018 group too just in case. I hear it's rare for babies to be actually on time. Anyway, so excited to be here with you guys! DH and I are so excited to become parents. We were married 09/2016 and will be 31 (him) and 32 (me) when the baby comes.
Sad but sweet side story: My cat that I've had for 21 years (since I was 11) died two days after my BFP! It's sad because I miss her and we were like life partners, but crazy that she stayed with me until this moment in my life! From when I was a child to when I'm having my own child. It's like she was waiting for the next generation to come in.
I'm finally joining. I was afraid to for awhile. I've suffered to MMC in the past year so I had to wait until I heard the heartbeat. By LMP I'm supposed to be 8 weeks but my ovulation date was later so I'm actually 7. Had first Dr appt yesterday and measured 7w1d, HB 150bpm. This is my second and my husbands first. My DD is 15. I'm 40 & my husband is 41 so we are quite literally starting over! Lol
Glad to be here finally and good luck to everyone!
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Married 10/12
DS 11/14
Ectopic 2/16
PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
IUI x 3- BFN
Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
FET- 6/17- BFP!
Due Feb 15, 2017
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Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
Anyway, this is my third baby, I have a 6yo boy and 4yo boy. I attempted a home birth with my second but ended up having a concealed placenta abruption and part way through labour was transferred to the hospital for an emergency cs. For this reason and my age (36) I'll be considered high risk but will continue with my midwife care and do shared care with the local high risk OB.
Oh and while this is my third it will be my first with my partner. I'm a recent divorcee and the pregnancy came as a bit of a shock but we are embracing it
Poppy is measured about 8w4d today and will be due on my dads birthday next year.
I'm exited to be on this journey with all of you.
I'm due on the 21st.
Going solo... unfortunately.
44 years young...1st pregnancy.
I have a 3.5 year old and after 2 mc, I will be due 2/26.