Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: *Introductions!*
Excited! Our first mc at 10 weeks. So I hope this sticks! I just turned 34 last week and my husband is 36.
We have done 8 rounds of letrozole and iui and were told by our doctor we would need to move on to ivf. I was to the point of not trying and had been busy with work (I'm a florist and wedding season just started) and bam, it happened while on a road trip!
Looking forward to connecting with you all on this journey!
So, I'm just gonne own it: I've got my frist BPF quite a while back, on 5/24, but it took me THIS LONG to actually let myself fully believe that it is not a cosmic joke, we are actually finally here
Doc gave me an EDD 6th of February (it should be a little sooner, but he wanted to push it a couple of days. Fine by me
Married: May 2015
TTC since September 2015
Anna Josephine 3-29-2016
Baby #3 EDD 3-3-2018
My Chart
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Unsure of my due date, possibly 2/28 but I'd like to stay here, regardless!
I have a sweet 21month old son. My Sep15 board was amazing and I was so appreciative of the support.
Looking forward to my new friendships here!!
Also, totally going for VBAC with zero negativity in my mind so I'm doubly excited to share this with you ladies!!!
Very cautiously into-ing here. Waiting for betas on Friday.
Got my BFP after a frozen embryo transfer. This will (hopefully) be baby number 3!
TW I had a loss at 8 weeks back in April so my loss brain is in full force end TW
Looking forward to getting to know everyone, and super psyched to join my ladies from TTGP and the IF thread!
I'm posting here a little tentatively but very excitedly. I got my positive pregnancy test about a week ago and, based on my last period, I should be due 2/13. We are super excited to welcome this babe and to give our daughter a sibling.
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
@heatherdubrow YAYYYYY!!!! Congratulations, so thrilled to see you here
Im madie, this will be baby #2 for us. EDD based on LMP would be about feb 26th, but I don't get to see the midwives for a few more weeks still so nothing for sure o guess.
Got my BFP just this past Sunday on Father's Day!
DS is 13 months, so babies will be about 19/20 months apart. I am so overjoyed.
So I am here. I am still trying to wrap my mind around having an other, but I am feeling good about it.
Anna Josephine 3-29-2016
Baby #3 EDD 3-3-2018
My Chart
I'm a mom to two boys. Ages 7 and 3. We just found out we're expecting again on June 8. I'm not sure on due date yet. I think I'm around 6 weeks. I have an internal ultrasound today at 9:45 am. we just saw the gestational sac Monday. I have a history of miscarriages, we've lost 5 since 2008. Hoping this little miracle is meant to stay with us.
Congratulations to you all.
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
All went well. We could see the baby and heard the heartbeat at 113 bpm. My doctor said it probably just started beating within the past couple days. Looks like this little one will stay put.
I'm so excited to be here! I am a mother to twin angels who were stillborn in 2014 and a mother to a very energetic 2 year old. I am a nurse and dh is a corrections officer. I was active on the board when I was pregnant with Lucas and Ryan but kind of stepped back when I was pregnant with Tyler.
I look forward to getting to know everyone!
-karissa