1) My hubby is getting super impatient about feeling baby move. I'm just about 27 weeks along and I have been feeling baby since about 21 weeks. Most recently I've felt hiccups! Have any of your DHs been able to feel baby yet?
2) I haven't had an ultrasound since February, when I went in for extra scans in response to a positive screening for DS (everything turned out to be OK). When do we start having more ultrasounds??
My DH has been able to feel since I would say 22 weeks? A while!
I don't get any more scans supposedly, so it varies by practice.
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1) My hubby is getting super impatient about feeling baby move. I'm just about 27 weeks along and I have been feeling baby since about 21 weeks. Most recently I've felt hiccups! Have any of your DHs been able to feel baby yet?
2) I haven't had an ultrasound since February, when I went in for extra scans in response to a positive screening for DS (everything turned out to be OK). When do we start having more ultrasounds??
I started feeling baby around 18 weeks. DH was able to feel around 20.
Regarding scans, I agree with PP. Low risk pregnancies typically don't have any scans after the anatomy scan.
DH just started to feel them because he can't avoid it (it freaks him out) but the position of your baby, placenta and body can greatly alter when you can feel the LO from outside. Plus if you have a squirmy baby over one that favors kicks/punches that will effect it too.
Hiccups were my favorite to feel. Once again though it depends on baby, my daughter hiccuped ALL the time, both my DSs barely hiccuped. Poor DD hiccuped a lot as a baby and it drove her crazy.
@becskurie I started to feel baby at 20 weeks, DH felt her at 22wks. But then she was a stinker for awhile and would be kicking away then stop as soon as he touched my belly.
Regarding ultrasounds- for low risk mamas, my office does an optional one early to confirm the pregnancy/guess date, one ~20wks for anatomy, and one at 36 weeks for size and position. Older mamas also get the NT ultrasound around 14wks.
@becskurie The first time DH felt mine was around 25 weeks, but I do have an anterior placenta. The baby does love to stop right when DH puts his hand on my belly though.
Thanks for all your responses! I did feel like last night, he should have been able to feel the kicks...but then baby would stop as soon as he put his hand on my belly! What a stinker! I totally get that each is different tho and will just try to not play it up too much so he doesn't feel so left out
As for scans, man! I can't believe there's so much time in between. I was reading that at this point the doc will be able to do some measurements externally, is that true?
Thanks for all your responses! I did feel like last night, he should have been able to feel the kicks...but then baby would stop as soon as he put his hand on my belly! What a stinker! I totally get that each is different tho and will just try to not play it up too much so he doesn't feel so left out
As for scans, man! I can't believe there's so much time in between. I was reading that at this point the doc will be able to do some measurements externally, is that true?
at some point around 22 weeks, my doctor started doing fundal height measurements each appointment. Basically she just uses a little disposable paper tape measure to measure from the top of your pubic bone to the top of your uterus. As long as that number falls within a certain range, they assume fetus growth is normal. I think within 2 cm of your gestational age is the standard. So I am 30 weeks, 'normal' fundal height would be 28-32cm.
@becskurie Make sure he is quite firm touching your belly and he's more likely to feel something. My partner was worried he'd hurt me or hurt me or the baby. Hope he feels something soon!
I am trying to decide between cord blood donation vs. delayed cord clamping. I was told we could not do both because the blood in the cord would need to be taken right away. I plan to discuss with my midwife at my appointment tomorrow- in the meantime if anyone else has experience with cord blood donation I'd be interested in hearing your experience.
@oheliza44 We are having the same dilemma because I want both. We haven't decided 100% on banking, but we are pretty certain on delayed clamping. From what I've read and understand, the placental tissue can still be banked and the stem cells still reside within that tissue. Keep me posted on what your MW says.
Someone correct me if I'm wrong but through my research years ago, cord blood cannot be used for that current child because theoretically it contains the same DNA. It can only be used for other children/people. Is that still the case? That was a major deterrent for me. I don't want to pay for something that maybe wouldn't even be usable at all anyway.
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I am trying to decide between cord blood donation vs. delayed cord clamping. I was told we could not do both because the blood in the cord would need to be taken right away. I plan to discuss with my midwife at my appointment tomorrow- in the meantime if anyone else has experience with cord blood donation I'd be interested in hearing your experience.
I had this internal debate with my son and ultimately planned to donate (although screwed up the process and was unable). My reasoning was that millions of babies do awesome without delayed cord clamping and there are still a lot of unknowns as to the extent of the benefits. Stem cells from cord blood can definitely save a life. For me the choice between my kid maybe being a bit healthier or saving a baby's life was the deciding factor.
@dancegurl1118 I believe you are right. And to be clear, I have no intention of banking them for future familial use. Any donation would be made to either a stem cell bank for others or for scientific research. I feel very strongly about donating for these purposes. Also, there is no cost associated with these types of donations.
I will say with saving the cord blood it's expensive but ultimately saved one of my uncles lives. He's still going through chemo for a fourth time of lymphoma returning and he was able to use his nieces cord blood to help do something, I can ask my mom more details if anyone is interested-she explained everything last night actually and I can't remember(thanks preg brain.) But she wasn't a perfect match so he was able to do something with his daughters wisdom tooth blood they saved (yeah, didn't know that was a thing) to help with the process. That solidified it for me. We'll be keeping this baby's cord blood to potentially save our or a family members life!
@dancegurl1118 this is true. At least in the case of blood cancers where chord blood could be the most helpful. There seem to be a couple of preliminary studies on potentially being able to use chord blood autologously, but nothing is FDA approved at this time (from my research on medical journals) and so it's not really a treatment option currently. We considered this with my DD as my father had AML (currently in remission). His oncologist, told me that this would not be helpful to him as he had a perfect match already, his brother, but could be helpful to a sibling of my DD. I was told our DDs chord blood would not be helpful to myself or my DH (at this current time)in the case of blood cancers as she shares our DNA. In the end, we did choose to bank, in the event that new treatments would be available down the road in reguards to chord blood. We will bank this baby's as well. With the history of leukemia in our family, I would rather do it. Had we not had this history, I probably would not have and just donated.
I agree. From what I have read, you should only do private cord blood banking if your family currently has a disease that can be treated with stem cells, otherwise, you are more likely to get a match from a public bank. So if you want to donate, public is the way to go! As for delayed clamping, most of the research says it's very good for premature births, but there is not as much benefits for full term births. My OB practice agrees with this last point.
I don't know if this is a dumb question or baby gear question but just in case I'm putting it here. I was planning on getting the Britax B-Agile stroller but wanted a Chicco car seat to be able to attach to it. I found adapters for the 2015 model that are sold out but no adapters for the 2017. Has anyone used this combination or is planning on doing so? Thinking I may have to just go with the Britax car seat but I like the reviews on the Chicco better.
I don't know if this is a dumb question or baby gear question but just in case I'm putting it here. I was planning on getting the Britax B-Agile stroller but wanted a Chicco car seat to be able to attach to it. I found adapters for the 2015 model that are sold out but no adapters for the 2017. Has anyone used this combination or is planning on doing so? Thinking I may have to just go with the Britax car seat but I like the reviews on the Chicco better.
I did this, but I think I have an older model Britax. Their customer support line is pretty good; if you call or email they should be able to give you guidance on what will work
Here's a random dumb question- any toddler moms trying to potty train before July? My DD will be about 21 months when this baby is born and I assumed that was way too early and even if we did get the hang of it, I didn't want her to have a regression once the new baby comes. This rando woman came up to me the other day and lectured me about how DD shouldn't be in diapers once this baby comes and now I'm wondering if we should try it sooner rather than later?
Here's a random dumb question- any toddler moms trying to potty train before July? My DD will be about 21 months when this baby is born and I assumed that was way too early and even if we did get the hang of it, I didn't want her to have a regression once the new baby comes. This rando woman came up to me the other day and lectured me about how DD shouldn't be in diapers once this baby comes and now I'm wondering if we should try it sooner rather than later?
So I'm a FTM, but I've heard it enough times from my mother that I was totally potty trained when my brother was born (I was 25 months) and I regressed. I guess it depends on the child, but I know that it's always a possibility regardless of how long they've been potty trained.
Here's a random dumb question- any toddler moms trying to potty train before July? My DD will be about 21 months when this baby is born and I assumed that was way too early and even if we did get the hang of it, I didn't want her to have a regression once the new baby comes. This rando woman came up to me the other day and lectured me about how DD shouldn't be in diapers once this baby comes and now I'm wondering if we should try it sooner rather than later?
Don't listen to the rando. Pushing kids who aren't ready rarely works and is almost always super stressful. Big life changes almost always cause regression.
And honestly when you're sleep deprived with a newborn, it's easier to deal with 2 sets of diaper changes than dealing with PL. Baby is going to need you at times and a PL toddler is going to need help (or have an accident) at times. I found it much easier to just wait until DS1 was ready and then it was much smoother for both of us.
@OperaSingerMommy my son is 22 months and was almost completely potty trained by 18 months. He showed interest in the potty and told us before he would go in his diaper so I thought that meant he was ready. He was daytime potty trained for 2 months with maybe 2 accidents a week (usually on the way to the bathroom) and then we moved and he was all of the sudden terrified of the toilet here. It's been a month and he is consistently pooping on the potty and that's it. I just stopped nursing 2 weeks ago so I figure I'll let him recover from that and then push the potty again. We didn't use a kid potty we just used the seat that sits in our because selfishly I was potty training so I didn't have to continue to clean up dirty diapers so I wasn't going to just transfer that poop somewhere else I still have to clean.
Thanks, ladies! I'll discuss with DH but based on what you're saying, I think we will likely wait until the fall when she's two. I think accidents would frustrate us like crazy and I need to get a reasonable amount of sleep before I can deal with that!
@nktrodden826 That's a good point- we have a kid potty in storage that we bought a long time ago and I hadn't really thought about the transfer process. We do cloth diapers so I'm used to spraying down poppy diapers, I'm hoping cleaning out the potty won't be too much worse?! Lol
@nktrodden826 That's a good point- we have a kid potty in storage that we bought a long time ago and I hadn't really thought about the transfer process. We do cloth diapers so I'm used to spraying down poppy diapers, I'm hoping cleaning out the potty won't be too much worse?! Lol
No definitely not, I still have horrible nausea and M/S that is morning and night so changing poop diapers was at times unbearable! I've also heard of a hard transition to an adult potty from a kid one but DS had a hard transition from one adult toilet to another so who knows!
DD will be turning 3 and I still haven't potty trained her. I was going to wait till we moved and baby was here. Someone here recommended the "oh crap" potty training book and I bought it - just haven't had a chance to read it yet.
I honestly not that worried about it, lol and this is for my almost 3 year old! As long as we figure it out before preschool I am not going to sweat it. My cousin who has successfully raised 4 kids youngest turned 3 in December and is still in diapers and my SIL didn't get my niece potty trained until she was 4 and she is perfect.
My daughter is now 20 months and will be 23 months when this baby comes and I have no intention of even attempting potty training any time soon. Maybe when DD2 is 6 months old, because that's when life started to feel a little more manageable the first time around, I will give it a thought. Right now it's not even on my radar.
The thought of having to deal with messy accidents in car seats and the floor and sheets is just too overwhelming when I think of having to take care of a needy newborn in addition to all that. My daughter is definitely not ready right now. We have enough change in her life between moving and then the new baby, I don't want to push her.
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DD will be 25 months when this baby arrives and I'm just going to wait. She's slowly getting there with interest in the potty but only recently. I'm in no hurry right now.
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Speaking from experience, I wouldn't push the potty training. It took us a year with our 3yo because we started her too early. She would do well and then regress and we wasted a lot of resources trying to push her. She finally became fully trained at 2 and a half. Watch for readiness signs and go from there.
DS turns 2 in August and I have no plans to start potty training until fall at the earliest. Between dealing with a newborn, regression triggers in the summer, no desire to deal with accidents while sleep deprived and some articles that say waiting until closer to 3 is better it was an easy decision for me....now knowing my luck he will decide he's ready this summer well before I am haha
DS is 21 months and knows about the potty but will not tell us when he has to pee and refuses to sit down to poop - he does tell us when he needs to go. He sits on the potty when we go and they do active pottying at the Montessori school but he is not interested. He has had chronic constipation since he was 5 months old so our GI specialist prepared us for delayed interest due to negative experiences. Nevertheless, he loves the books about going to the potty. (The Sears book, 'You can go to the potty' is his favorite.) We will wait on him to give us stronger signs that he is ready.
My plan the first time was to have delayed cord clamping - but that didn't work out because baby did not cry immediately after emerging. I'm slightly anemic and DS was anemic when tested at 12 months - so my mind will always wonder what if he got his full iron stores. I will request it in my birth wish list but the midwives do this anyway at the hospital where I will be delivering.
I read the Oh Crap Potty Training method and potty trained DS at 24 months. I think the timing was good and I dont regret doing it because I was off for summer break, but it took so much energy on my part that I can not imagine doing it now. And I think regression is likely if a kid is so newly potty trained when a new baby is born. So if I hadn't already done it, I don't think I'd be starting now.
Re: Big Dumb Questions Thread
I don't get any more scans supposedly, so it varies by practice.
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Regarding scans, I agree with PP. Low risk pregnancies typically don't have any scans after the anatomy scan.
Hiccups were my favorite to feel. Once again though it depends on baby, my daughter hiccuped ALL the time, both my DSs barely hiccuped. Poor DD hiccuped a lot as a baby and it drove her crazy.
Regarding ultrasounds- for low risk mamas, my office does an optional one early to confirm the pregnancy/guess date, one ~20wks for anatomy, and one at 36 weeks for size and position. Older mamas also get the NT ultrasound around 14wks.
As for scans, man! I can't believe there's so much time in between. I was reading that at this point the doc will be able to do some measurements externally, is that true?
Eta I just realized I called DH she instead of he. Whatever, leaving it. He does act like a girl sometimes.
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Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Hope he feels something soon!
I am trying to decide between cord blood donation vs. delayed cord clamping. I was told we could not do both because the blood in the cord would need to be taken right away. I plan to discuss with my midwife at my appointment tomorrow- in the meantime if anyone else has experience with cord blood donation I'd be interested in hearing your experience.
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https://www.cordblood.com/how-banking-works/delayed-cord-clamping
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Eta grammar... it's been a long day
Sorry, that was really long winded.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
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And honestly when you're sleep deprived with a newborn, it's easier to deal with 2 sets of diaper changes than dealing with PL. Baby is going to need you at times and a PL toddler is going to need help (or have an accident) at times. I found it much easier to just wait until DS1 was ready and then it was much smoother for both of us.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
I honestly not that worried about it, lol and this is for my almost 3 year old! As long as we figure it out before preschool I am not going to sweat it. My cousin who has successfully raised 4 kids youngest turned 3 in December and is still in diapers and my SIL didn't get my niece potty trained until she was 4 and she is perfect.
Randos are the worst
The thought of having to deal with messy accidents in car seats and the floor and sheets is just too overwhelming when I think of having to take care of a needy newborn in addition to all that. My daughter is definitely not ready right now. We have enough change in her life between moving and then the new baby, I don't want to push her.
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
My plan the first time was to have delayed cord clamping - but that didn't work out because baby did not cry immediately after emerging. I'm slightly anemic and DS was anemic when tested at 12 months - so my mind will always wonder what if he got his full iron stores. I will request it in my birth wish list but the midwives do this anyway at the hospital where I will be delivering.