It's hard. I've had to change my throw and my back aches pretty badly towards the end of game 2 and game 3 but my doctor is ok with it as long as I don't get hurt and use a lighter ball. We have 4 weeks left in bowling. I'll be 36 weeks when we are done.
Oddly, enough I've bowled my highest game and highest series ever while pregnant. Don't ask how.
@fbmandy55 I went bowling with MH and some friends a few weeks ago. I am not a good bowler ANYWAY, but it was one of the worst games I've ever bowled (Not a frequent bowler, but usually fairly consistent) by probably 40-50 points. I blamed my change in center of gravity.... you're making me look bad!!
I went digging for this thread because I've noticed something that isn't that annoying per se but it has happened quite a bit.
Often when I'm out without the kids or like the couple of times I've taken a prenatal fitness class this pregnancy, I find that the people/strangers I'm talking to assume that it is my first pregnancy and say something a bit patronizing/know-it-all/advice-y. It's always well-intentioned but it does make me chuckle because it's typically someone with one young kid saying it. Examples:
"Enjoy these days while you can!" (i.e. from someone who has ONE kid--I don't mind hearing it from someone with 3+ as it is true I still only have 2 and I should enjoy 2 while I can.) "Congratulations on your entry to motherhood. It's hard, but you'll love it." "You're probably impatient now, but just wait--they grow up so fast! Mine is already 15 months!" ***insert any random advice here that is useful to a FTM but is something a STM+ would already know***
@kat81 Weird! I still have been lucky in that I don't get too much "advice", just alllllll the annoying comments about how big I am. I'm SO over it. No pregnant woman wants to be told she's huge, even if you put it in the same sentence as adorable.
I guess DH fits into this thread. He said to me last night that I look like I am ready to pop. Yes, I am almost 35 weeks and measuring 3 weeks ahead. Yes, I am only 1 lb lighter than my ending weight with DD but dude, if there is ANYONE that knows that I still have 5 weeks left, it's YOU.
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@kat81 I do get more strangers making comments when I'm out solo than when I have DD with me. But most people ask if it's my first instead of assuming.
I'm still getting that I look cute and constantly being asked if it's my first and being told it's a boy when it's a girl. I haven't gained much I have always been thin but cute! Gag me. Half the people I meet say I won't make it till due date because I'm "so big" not knowing my medical issues with this one or half say I'm too small. I'm kinda limping from pulling my groin muscle in the fall I had now everyone is saying I'm waddling no no I'm limping and it hurts so shut it. Had some random pt rub my belly as I was saying goodbye at the waiting room usually I'd smack hi's hand away but he was nice enough. And may in a nice month to have a baby... any months a nice month especially if your a mom who may have been trying for a long time or what not. I was told I have that pregnant look even in my face... no idea what that means as I haven't gained much etc. Sorry for rant had a lot of them today
I casually said something about how my weight gain has leveled off to my mom and she responded "that's good because you were gaining really rapidly!" I won't talk specifics because I don't think it's healthy to, but I was *not* gaining rapidly. I told her the first time she made a comment that I was well within the range that my doctor said is normal. She's made comments about my weight my whole life, so it's no wonder I have a bit of a complex now.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kat81 that is weird! I have had a few people ask if it's my first but no one just assumes. You must look really young!
I love this interpretation but at least one of the times it was over e-mail (it was someone I was in touch with about a prenatal fitness class.) This is my first pregnancy where I'm "advanced maternal age" so I'd love it if everyone thinks I'm 6-10 years younger! haha
I casually said something about how my weight gain has leveled off to my mom and she responded "that's good because you were gaining really rapidly!" I won't talk specifics because I don't think it's healthy to, but I was *not* gaining rapidly. I told her the first time she made a comment that I was well within the range that my doctor said is normal. She's made comments about my weight my whole life, so it's no wonder I have a bit of a complex now.
This blows. My mom made lots of comments during my last pregnancy about my size and/or what I was eating & how much. We didn't live near her, so these were when we visited briefly and then when we took a weeklong vacation with my sister and her husband when I was quite far along, like 32 weeks. In all fairness, I DID gain too much weight and it was noticeably more than my first pregnancy, when we did live near her and she saw me more. But the comments got out of hand. DH and I were about to confront her on it (especially because she made comments in front of my SON) but we realized that my dad probably said something to her because it abruptly stopped right before we were going to say something.
This pregnancy she hasn't said anything but we again don't live nearby. I think I'm smaller...like the baby is measuring small, and my weight gain is...so-so. It will be interesting to see if she says anything when they come to visit for Easter.
Picking the grilled cheese I ordered at work: "When are you due?" "End of May. Two more months" "Wow it seems like you have been pregnant forever!"
-_-
LOL, you're like, "you're telling me!!!!"
I've actually had a few people say, "wow, it's coming up so soon! That went by fast!" And I'm all, "yeah it went by fast for YOU because we told you more than halfway through the pregnancy! It has felt much longer for me!!"
@kat81 I do get more strangers making comments when I'm out solo than when I have DD with me. But most people ask if it's my first instead of assuming.
I feel like I used to get asked this with previous pregnancies and now I don't!
I'm also thinking that with regard to the prenatal fitness classes when this has happened a few times, it's probably because STMs never go to these. Because, you know, you have kids and how are you going to get out and exercise? I remember I took a ton when I was a FTM and there was a STM there once or twice, ever, out of the many people who went through there. So I guess that's why they're surprised I'd be going as a TTM?
But again, it has happened in random other places as well, and there is really no reason for it. Seriously they should be able to tell that my maternity clothes are 6 years out of style and worn out! haha
I have this coworker that has really struggled with being supportive throughout my pregnancy. Always making comments about doom and gloom things that might happen to baby or me, throwing a fit about the date for my work shower, and rolling her eyes when people compliment my bump. Well, the other day, I was late to eat lunch because I had been fighting a ridiculous bloody nose in my classroom, and I hadn't been sitting for more than 5 minutes when she says, "oh! I don't mean this in a rude way, or want hurt your feelings, but I noticed yesterday that your nose is spreading and getting flat like mine did when I was pregnant. It's such a crappy thing to have happen. I hope that doesn't hurt your feelings."
I have this coworker that has really struggled with being supportive throughout my pregnancy. Always making comments about doom and gloom things that might happen to baby or me, throwing a fit about the date for my work shower, and rolling her eyes when people compliment my bump. Well, the other day, I was late to eat lunch because I had been fighting a ridiculous bloody nose in my classroom, and I hadn't been sitting for more than 5 minutes when she says, "oh! I don't mean this in a rude way, or want hurt your feelings, but I noticed yesterday that your nose is spreading and getting flat like mine did when I was pregnant. It's such a crappy thing to have happen. I hope that doesn't hurt your feelings."
can't seem to tag you correctly! I honestly think I would have punched that girl in the face by now. It sounds like shes majorly jealous of you. I am pretty sure pregnancy doesn't make your nose spread out. She may have gained weight in her face but its pretty impossible to spread your nose... just ignorance. I wish there was a way you could pull a joke on her or something!
I thought I was going to get a nice comment from yet another stranger, but instead I got hit on while riding the bus yesterday.
Him: "Hey girl, how are ya?" Me: "I'm fine." Him: "I KNOW you're fiiiine, but how are ya?" (wink wink) Ummmm, 7 months pregnant?
And because my pregnant brain is slow, I didn't even catch the meaning for a few minutes and I felt silly that I was all smiley instead of side-eye-y. UGH why do some men think it's okay to hit on women whenever they damn well please?! This scrawny pregnant woman would kick your a$$ if she could even lift her legs to put on shoes these days...
L1C4gal, it's so weird to hit on a pregnant lady! What's the goal there? I had that happen when I was about 6 months pregnant, and I was very obviously pregnant at 6 months.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kns1988 Right?! He even looked down at my obviously-pregnant belly first (which is why I thought I was getting a baby-related comment). People are weird!
I was helping out with chores and starting running the vacuum. DH came out and asked if it was okay to vacuum because it's so loud that it could maybe damage the baby's hearing. And we have one kid already that hears too well! I should have said good point and just let him take over.
I got myself into a pair of non maternity pants this morning and felt decent about it until... DH: "Your pants look uncomfortable" Thanks DH, thanks a bunch.
@OmegaRose3 SOs are the best. My H asked me the other day if I could feel a draft under my shirt (it was one of my normal tshirts, so stretched pretty tight over my belly and higher up than normal). Why yes, H, I sure can. Thanks for asking.
Still getting wide eyed looks when I say I have 6 weeks left so now I'm getting snarky (okay, snarky for me) and saying "6 weeks. I look big and round because I'm carrying so high! *Huge grin*" H likes to remind me I still have a bit of time. I like to remind him I'm in my 3rd trimester I'm allowed to be uncomfortable.
@Jens_Hoes someone pages ago on this thread said something like the only thing people should say to a pregnant woman is "You look great! Here's a cookie!".
I was walking past a coworker who was talking with a customer. The customer sees me, interupts my coworker, and exclaims loudly (and off topic), "And she's PREGNANT!" My coworker and I exchange glances and I give the customer an awkward smile/look as I keep on walking. People are so weird.
Was grocery shopping and turn a corner and this lady, in her loudest "good boy puppy voice", says "Oh my goodness you're walking so GOOD for being so BIG!!" I just looked at her like she was stupid lol "That's the weirdest, most insulting compliment I've ever gotten."
Today some random person asked me when I walked up to the grill for my egg sandwich when am I due. I'm at the point where -I'm sorry but why do you care why do you think I want to talk to you ? Then she follows it up with when her daughters due... OK random lady why would I care about your daughters due date? Can a girl just go get breakfast. Sorry feeling snarky today
Re: Stupid Stuff People Have Said Now You Are Pregnant
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It's hard. I've had to change my throw and my back aches pretty badly towards the end of game 2 and game 3 but my doctor is ok with it as long as I don't get hurt and use a lighter ball. We have 4 weeks left in bowling. I'll be 36 weeks when we are done.
Oddly, enough I've bowled my highest game and highest series ever while pregnant. Don't ask how.
@ShadeofGreen816 nothing beats an army bowling alley!
Often when I'm out without the kids or like the couple of times I've taken a prenatal fitness class this pregnancy, I find that the people/strangers I'm talking to assume that it is my first pregnancy and say something a bit patronizing/know-it-all/advice-y. It's always well-intentioned but it does make me chuckle because it's typically someone with one young kid saying it. Examples:
"Enjoy these days while you can!" (i.e. from someone who has ONE kid--I don't mind hearing it from someone with 3+ as it is true I still only have 2 and I should enjoy 2 while I can.)
"Congratulations on your entry to motherhood. It's hard, but you'll love it."
"You're probably impatient now, but just wait--they grow up so fast! Mine is already 15 months!"
***insert any random advice here that is useful to a FTM but is something a STM+ would already know***
Has this been the experience for any other STM+s?
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
"When are you due?"
"End of May. Two more months"
"Wow it seems like you have been pregnant forever!"
-_-
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
This pregnancy she hasn't said anything but we again don't live nearby. I think I'm smaller...like the baby is measuring small, and my weight gain is...so-so. It will be interesting to see if she says anything when they come to visit for Easter.
I've actually had a few people say, "wow, it's coming up so soon! That went by fast!" And I'm all, "yeah it went by fast for YOU because we told you more than halfway through the pregnancy! It has felt much longer for me!!"
I'm also thinking that with regard to the prenatal fitness classes when this has happened a few times, it's probably because STMs never go to these. Because, you know, you have kids and how are you going to get out and exercise? I remember I took a ton when I was a FTM and there was a STM there once or twice, ever, out of the many people who went through there. So I guess that's why they're surprised I'd be going as a TTM?
But again, it has happened in random other places as well, and there is really no reason for it. Seriously they should be able to tell that my maternity clothes are 6 years out of style and worn out! haha
can't seem to tag you correctly! I honestly think I would have punched that girl in the face by now. It sounds like shes majorly jealous of you. I am pretty sure pregnancy doesn't make your nose spread out. She may have gained weight in her face but its pretty impossible to spread your nose... just ignorance. I wish there was a way you could pull a joke on her or something!
Him: "Hey girl, how are ya?"
Me: "I'm fine."
Him: "I KNOW you're fiiiine, but how are ya?" (wink wink)
Ummmm, 7 months pregnant?
And because my pregnant brain is slow, I didn't even catch the meaning for a few minutes and I felt silly that I was all smiley instead of side-eye-y. UGH why do some men think it's okay to hit on women whenever they damn well please?! This scrawny pregnant woman would kick your a$$ if she could even lift her legs to put on shoes these days...
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
DH: "Your pants look uncomfortable"
Thanks DH, thanks a bunch.
H likes to remind me I still have a bit of time. I like to remind him I'm in my 3rd trimester I'm allowed to be uncomfortable.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
WTF. not cool bro.
Someone should tell that to him.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018