I had one of the higher ups at my college tell me yesterday not to have the baby while she's there (if I go into labor at work and apparently have him really fast) because she would have no idea what to do. Why would I want you to do anything? Call 911 if you all don't think I can make it to my hospital! She went into this long spiel about it too...I just stood there and was like well good thing there are phones around so we can call someone!
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Well-meaning coworker told me (RE: our baby's cleft lip) that if I stop thinking about his lip and visualize a perfect baby maybe he'll be born with a perfect lip, and that "sometimes doctors are wrong". Lady, I have like FOUR 3-D photos and it is clear as day. It's called science. I'm not going to magically sew his lip together with my thoughts. I'm actually into visualization & positivity but W-in-the-actual-F?!
@sweaterboots dude, WTF?! Besides, he's going to perfect regardless! He is adorable and that little lip isn't going to heal itself through positive thinking, nor does it need to!
Well-meaning coworker told me (RE: our baby's cleft lip) that if I stop thinking about his lip and visualize a perfect baby maybe he'll be born with a perfect lip, and that "sometimes doctors are wrong". Lady, I have like FOUR 3-D photos and it is clear as day. It's called science. I'm not going to magically sew his lip together with my thoughts. I'm actually into visualization & positivity but W-in-the-actual-F?!
Ack. Maybe if you close your eyes and visualize really hard, she'll disappear.
I had one of the higher ups at my college tell me yesterday not to have the baby while she's there (if I go into labor at work and apparently have him really fast) because she would have no idea what to do. Why would I want you to do anything? Call 911 if you all don't think I can make it to my hospital! She went into this long spiel about it too...I just stood there and was like well good thing there are phones around so we can call someone!
I made a comment to my mom that I was a little worried that I wasn't going to be able to pump enough to keep up with my baby because he's eating more and more, and she got all anxious and said "Well, you better start making more milk." Um, yeah, that's my point... I don't have control over it.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Im team green. Some lady at work yesterday told me I am having a boy because my thighs aren't very big. Apparently if my thighs were bigger I'd be having a girl. I'm so happy for random people with such scientific knowledge to tell me the gender of my baby based on my thigh size.
Im team green. Some lady at work yesterday told me I am having a boy because my thighs aren't very big. Apparently if my thighs were bigger I'd be having a girl. I'm so happy for random people with such scientific knowledge to tell me the gender of my baby based on my thigh size.
Does that mean I've been pregnant with a girl for like 10 years?
Bahahaha! What?! @luckywife10I must have gotten pregnant with a girl in early high school because that is when these thighs blossomed into their shapely glory!
"I can see the outline of your uterus, babe!" -"....are you trying to say I didn't get as fat this time?" "Yeah, like you can see asymmetry from her position and the outline of things, that's good." -"Thanks?"
He really should have just stuck with a "you still look great naked".
This wasn't a stupid one. I talked to my mom today and she asked "how are you? Are you uncomfortable?" (I'm 38wks today) before I could respond she said "of course you, dumb question." Thank you for remembering what it's like
This wasn't a stupid one. I talked to my mom today and she asked "how are you? Are you uncomfortable?" (I'm 38wks today) before I could respond she said "of course you, dumb question." Thank you for remembering what it's like
My mum does this it's usually a "how are you feeling?" And I just grunt back at her, she understands
Me - 22 | DH - 32 | Married - 24 May 2014 DS - January 2014
TTC#2 - December 2015
BFP - 6 March 2016 | MC Confirmed - 21 March 2016 TTCAL | April 2016 CP | June 2016 CP | July 2016
I made a comment about baby's head being low enough for the doctor to feel it to a friend who I visited at her work when she asked about being dilated etc. Her coworker that I don't know and was not a part of the convo then asks: "How does it feel? Like, is it like wearing a tampon where you can kinda feel it up there?" I decided to be nice and just explain that it's more of a pressure thing not a head dangling between my legs thing, but seriously...weird.
I made a comment about baby's head being low enough for the doctor to feel it to a friend who I visited at her work when she asked about being dilated etc. Her coworker that I don't know and was not a part of the convo then asks: "How does it feel? Like, is it like wearing a tampon where you can kinda feel it up there?" I decided to be nice and just explain that it's more of a pressure thing not a head dangling between my legs thing, but seriously...weird.
Omg can you imagine if it felt like a baby's head-sized tampon down there for like, weeks?
I made a comment about baby's head being low enough for the doctor to feel it to a friend who I visited at her work when she asked about being dilated etc. Her coworker that I don't know and was not a part of the convo then asks: "How does it feel? Like, is it like wearing a tampon where you can kinda feel it up there?" I decided to be nice and just explain that it's more of a pressure thing not a head dangling between my legs thing, but seriously...weird.
Omg can you imagine if it felt like a baby's head-sized tampon down there for like, weeks?
Actually I feel like the coworker didn't say such a weird thing. Sometimes it really does feel like I put in a tampon wrong 'cause the baby is so damn low! At my appointment yesterday, the midwife was like, "wow, the baby is VERY low" and I was like, "I know." She was like, "that must be uncomfortable." Personally I think it's better than the constant rib jabbing.
A doctor to me (team green): "You look like the kind of girl who would have a girl." He didn't mean it to be mean, but that's easily an offensive thing to say, no? I just laughed and said, "I don't even know what to make of that comment."
One of my (male) coworkers overheard me mentioning how tired I am. Of course, he had to chime in with "Well, that's not going to change for 18+ years!" (1) I have a person living inside of my body, it's a different kind of tired. (2) You're a dude. Shut up. (3) This isn't my first rodeo. I know what life with a baby is like.
On the plus side, I mentioned this conversation to one of the female judges I often appear in front of (who is effing awesome). Her immediate response "Oh fuck him!" She then realized what she'd said and back tracked, but it was hilarious and so genuine.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
One of my (male) coworkers overheard me mentioning how tired I am. Of course, he had to chime in with "Well, that's not going to change for 18+ years!" (1) I have a person living inside of my body, it's a different kind of tired. (2) You're a dude. Shut up. (3) This isn't my first rodeo. I know what life with a baby is like.
On the plus side, I mentioned this conversation to one of the female judges I often appear in front of (who is effing awesome). Her immediate response "Oh fuck him!" She then realized what she'd said and back tracked, but it was hilarious and so genuine.
omg I love this judge.
As for me, ok, I have to complain about my mom for a second. She and my dad were in town for just under a day (1pm yesterday to 9am today) on their way to my dad's college reunion. She kept going on about how the baby needed to come, how she wanted to go on a walk with me to get the baby to come out, etc etc etc. Totally ignoring the fact that I said I wanted to go to this one thing on Saturday (though in her defense I was 99% done with my work work and I'm now done with that; that was the main barrier to going early IMO.) She called today from their drive to say my dad lost his sunglasses so could we look for them, but started the conversation with, "what are you doing home? Don't you know that a baby is supposed to come today?"
These are seriously not the things to be saying to someone on their due date! My current mental state is the BEST of all possible worlds because I'm fine with going now or going a few days late. What if I was impatient already? Wouldn't her comments be even worse for me to take?
Part of it is that they'll be back here on their way back, and only for a short time (Sunday afternoon to early Monday morning) and I get they'll be sad if there is no baby yet. But look, they had to drive this way anyway and we are still people worth visiting. It's not like this trip was FOR the baby. The trip was for the reunion and the baby might be a bonus.
So last week brother's GF/SIL (it's been 10 years, SIL is easier at this point) finally got her TDaP. Today she starts complaining that her whole body is sore and it feels like she's been hit by a truck. She hopes I'm happy she got that "stupid shot". Then I was super sore today, like every Tuesday I have my appointments, and baby was sticking its feet in my ribs while trying to escape out of the side of my belly. I'm trying to explain the feeling and she tells me she knows exactly how I feel. I said well not exactly, this is different. No, EXACTLY how I feel in the exact way because what I described is how she feels all the time after that "stupid shot". She has never had a kid, but please tell me how it feels to have a foot in the ribs while a head is trying to push its way south, moving in every direction.
So last week brother's GF/SIL (it's been 10 years, SIL is easier at this point) finally got her TDaP. Today she starts complaining that her whole body is sore and it feels like she's been hit by a truck. She hopes I'm happy she got that "stupid shot". Then I was super sore today, like every Tuesday I have my appointments, and baby was sticking its feet in my ribs while trying to escape out of the side of my belly. I'm trying to explain the feeling and she tells me she knows exactly how I feel. I said well not exactly, this is different. No, EXACTLY how I feel in the exact way because what I described is how she feels all the time after that "stupid shot". She has never had a kid, but please tell me how it feels to have a foot in the ribs while a head is trying to push its way south, moving in every direction.
So last week brother's GF/SIL (it's been 10 years, SIL is easier at this point) finally got her TDaP. Today she starts complaining that her whole body is sore and it feels like she's been hit by a truck. She hopes I'm happy she got that "stupid shot". Then I was super sore today, like every Tuesday I have my appointments, and baby was sticking its feet in my ribs while trying to escape out of the side of my belly. I'm trying to explain the feeling and she tells me she knows exactly how I feel. I said well not exactly, this is different. No, EXACTLY how I feel in the exact way because what I described is how she feels all the time after that "stupid shot". She has never had a kid, but please tell me how it feels to have a foot in the ribs while a head is trying to push its way south, moving in every direction.
She sounds like a PEACH.
What makes it worse is we are actually very good friends, but she's the one that also tells me that the stuff I picked for baby is wrong or not the best (because obviously I didn't research stuff to pick what I think will work best for us). Or wants me to buy big lots of clothing even though we are team green. She doesn't let me say no and doesn't let things go. Then complains nonstop for the last week about the TDaP expecting me to feel bad? NOPE.
Now that I'm 39 weeks I've heard many things throughout pregnancy. At 18 weeks a friend of a friend told me "Wow you're belly is big for only being 18 weeks! Mine wasn't that big at this far along." Seriously?! At my husband's work holiday party in Feb I was about 27 weeks when his coworker said to me "oh you look so good! You haven't gained any weight in your face! Your pregnancy makes my daughter's size look huge!" (her daughter is due around the same time). Who says that?? What does one even say in response to that? Then there are the endless people who ask "so when are you guys planning on having another one?" Can we stay focused here and enjoy the one we are currently baking? Then of course there are endless unsolicited opinions...why I should or shouldn't do an epidural, why I should or shouldn't breastfeed, etc. I can only imagine the comments and opinions once my daughter has arrived!
I'm so annoyed by all of the people who have made disapproving statements about the fact that I'm planning on working right up to baby's arrival. I'm thankful that I qualify for FMLA and will have 12 weeks of protected leave, even if it is unpaid. It's going to be tight, but I plan on taking every second of that 12 weeks and I want to use it when the baby is here.
What makes it even better is that these statements generally come from older, conservative men (many of whom I've heard praising Trump...) who I am sure don't give a rats ass about changing the US's garbage policies regarding parental leave. Would I like to take an additional week and spend the next few days lounging on the sofa watching Netflix and not putting on real pants? Damn right I would.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@kayemjay2 I'm not sure I understand where the comments are coming from? Why do they care what you do before you go into labor?
I'm also not sure why they care, but they do. I think a lot of the older people think of pregnant women as being very fragile and they make me feel like I'm being irresponsible for continuing to work in my fragile state. Who knows. I think I've mentioned this before, but one older gentleman in particular keeps insisting to me that pregnant women are not allowed to go swimming. Old people have weird ideas sometimes.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
So interesting to hear about everyone's workplace dynamics. As a nurse I work in a super demanding job physically yet it's essentially all women. Not one person has asked or insinuated that I might take extra days off before baby comes. Which isn't hilarious since I spend 12 hours on my feet, moving 400+lb patients, squatting to get stuff near the floor, wrestling crazy confused people, etc. I don't say this to brag (after all I only work 2-3 days per week and people are pretty protective of our pregnant ladies). I just think it's super interesting. In fact, I'm scheduled to my due date and then my manager was like "if you go over we'll just add on days until you go!" No mention of stopping early!
@ShadeofGreen816 - I got tired just reading a description of your job duties...haha. That's is interesting! I'm an attorney, so much of my day is spent sitting at a desk or walking around. I'm the same distance from the hospital as I would be at home, so my view is that I'd either be waiting for baby by sitting on my ass at work or sitting on my ass at home. That being said, I really hope my water doesn't break at work.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@kayemjay2 either way I'm in 100% agreement that I want to use my precious little time at home with my babe and not alone. If I had a year or even 6 months I'd probably be off already!
Speaking of atupid things, my MIL claims that she started her maternity leave on her "due date" of August 1st with MH and he wasn't born until 9/20 and her leave was almost over when he finally arrived. She claims since it was 1981 they just didn't have accurate EDDs... except I think even in 1981 no doc would let you go 6 weeks overdue! I just roll my eyes and smile whenever she tells that story!
@ShadeofGreen816 My MIL says the same thing about my DH born in '83! According to her he was almost 4 weeks late, but yet just 8lbs. Ummm ok lady.
Yeah MH was 7 and change,.... sure. Also supposedly spent some time in NICU but no one can tell me why or how long. I'm thinking he went to the nursery since last week she mentioned him being in her hospital room on night two... whatever!
I have a good one from today...I work at two locations and I've been primarily at one due to staffing needs for the last several weeks. I got to go to the other one today for the first time in a while. I don't expect everyone at the other location to know all my personal business but I was totally blown away today when multiple people told me TO MY FACE that they were shocked I had taken such a short maternity leave and they really expected me to be out longer.
Umm...what a weird thing to say to someone. And in case you didn't know, the capitalized portion is for emphasis because these people were standing there talking to me in real life...where they can not miss my giant pregnant belly sticking out. Seriously. I get that you didn't know why I had been MIA but once you saw me I figure it's obvious I'm still pregnant. And if it's not obvious to you (because you're crazy) then why wouldn't manners dictate that you check with someone else before saying something so strange??? People are so bizarre.
Got a mani/pedi today and the lady next to me was shocked that I was getting my toenails done in blue since I'm having a girl. I just told her that her room is blue too and I'm not crazy about everything being pink. She was nice and all, just thought it was funny how surprised she was about my color choice.
Super nosy table bussing lady at Portillo's upon seeing DS: Your first? me: no her: you breastfeeding? me, startled and before thinking: yeah... her, patting my shoulder: good girl!
Ugh. Why did I respond? Why didn't I think of a sarcastic response?
Re: Stupid Stuff People Have Said Now You Are Pregnant
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
-"....are you trying to say I didn't get as fat this time?"
"Yeah, like you can see asymmetry from her position and the outline of things, that's good."
-"Thanks?"
He really should have just stuck with a "you still look great naked".
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DS - January 2014
TTCAL | April 2016
CP | June 2016
CP | July 2016
"How does it feel? Like, is it like wearing a tampon where you can kinda feel it up there?"
I decided to be nice and just explain that it's more of a pressure thing not a head dangling between my legs thing, but seriously...weird.
On the plus side, I mentioned this conversation to one of the female judges I often appear in front of (who is effing awesome). Her immediate response "Oh fuck him!" She then realized what she'd said and back tracked, but it was hilarious and so genuine.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
As for me, ok, I have to complain about my mom for a second. She and my dad were in town for just under a day (1pm yesterday to 9am today) on their way to my dad's college reunion. She kept going on about how the baby needed to come, how she wanted to go on a walk with me to get the baby to come out, etc etc etc. Totally ignoring the fact that I said I wanted to go to this one thing on Saturday (though in her defense I was 99% done with my work work and I'm now done with that; that was the main barrier to going early IMO.) She called today from their drive to say my dad lost his sunglasses so could we look for them, but started the conversation with, "what are you doing home? Don't you know that a baby is supposed to come today?"
These are seriously not the things to be saying to someone on their due date! My current mental state is the BEST of all possible worlds because I'm fine with going now or going a few days late. What if I was impatient already? Wouldn't her comments be even worse for me to take?
Part of it is that they'll be back here on their way back, and only for a short time (Sunday afternoon to early Monday morning) and I get they'll be sad if there is no baby yet. But look, they had to drive this way anyway and we are still people worth visiting. It's not like this trip was FOR the baby. The trip was for the reunion and the baby might be a bonus.
"When are you do?"
"Sunday."
"Shouldn't you be on bed rest or something?"
"Well, nothing is wrong so nope."
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Me: "Yep, he's at home. His 18 month old brother is watching him."
Ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
What makes it even better is that these statements generally come from older, conservative men (many of whom I've heard praising Trump...) who I am sure don't give a rats ass about changing the US's garbage policies regarding parental leave. Would I like to take an additional week and spend the next few days lounging on the sofa watching Netflix and not putting on real pants? Damn right I would.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Speaking of atupid things, my MIL claims that she started her maternity leave on her "due date" of August 1st with MH and he wasn't born until 9/20 and her leave was almost over when he finally arrived. She claims since it was 1981 they just didn't have accurate EDDs... except I think even in 1981 no doc would let you go 6 weeks overdue! I just roll my eyes and smile whenever she tells that story!
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Umm...what a weird thing to say to someone. And in case you didn't know, the capitalized portion is for emphasis because these people were standing there talking to me in real life...where they can not miss my giant pregnant belly sticking out. Seriously. I get that you didn't know why I had been MIA but once you saw me I figure it's obvious I'm still pregnant. And if it's not obvious to you (because you're crazy) then why wouldn't manners dictate that you check with someone else before saying something so strange??? People are so bizarre.
me: no
her: you breastfeeding?
me, startled and before thinking: yeah...
her, patting my shoulder: good girl!
Ugh. Why did I respond? Why didn't I think of a sarcastic response?
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