@hoodoll82 I will trade you. I've had a period for three weeks (Not spotting. Full period with clots and everything) because of the birth control my OB put me on, despite breastfeeding. The pill is the only one he hadn't had people complain about low supply on so he had good intentions, but I am not taking it anymore. That sucked.
DH says LO sleeping in our room is birth control enough. He wakes up every time DH tries to get frisky.
@hoodoll82 I will trade you. I've had a period for three weeks (Not spotting. Full period with clots and everything) because of the birth control my OB put me on, despite breastfeeding. The pill is the only one he hadn't had people complain about low supply on so he had good intentions, but I am not taking it anymore. That sucked.
DH says LO sleeping in our room is birth control enough. He wakes up every time DH tries to get frisky.
Ugh I'm sorry to hear this! That's why my doc said I couldn't start the pill - there's a risk of one big, long period if I didn't wait for it to come on its own and started the pill.
@hoodoll82 I will trade you. I've had a period for three weeks (Not spotting. Full period with clots and everything) because of the birth control my OB put me on, despite breastfeeding. The pill is the only one he hadn't had people complain about low supply on so he had good intentions, but I am not taking it anymore. That sucked.
DH says LO sleeping in our room is birth control enough. He wakes up every time DH tries to get frisky.
Ugh I'm sorry to hear this! That's why my doc said I couldn't start the pill - there's a risk of one big, long period if I didn't wait for it to come on its own and started the pill.
Is this still true if you are BFing? At my second week appointment she put me on the pill but I haven't gotten a period yet....
Not sure @alwayssunny1012. It sounds like docs vary on this, to be honest. I think another poster I recall got the same direction as you, I wouldn't worry too much.
Todays gripe: I could have done without my period starting the same exact day I go back to work! One more thing to manage. Was scrounging around in drawers for 11 month old tampons this morning!
My neighbors (whom I have referred to as the Jones's) had their grandkids over yesterday. They had the grandkids dog off leash and running all over the place, running thru our yard into the yard of the people behind us to bother their dog (who has an invisible fence and thus will not leave her own yard), who you could tell was annoyed that this other dog kept running into her space and acting like an ass then running out. The dog runs into our yard and the kids are wandering in our yard and looking in at us from the middle of our yard. They don't even make an effort to call the dog back when it wanders, the dog came right up to our back door and was nosing around. DH was about to run it off but it got distracted by Oreo (the dog with the invisible fence) barking at it and it took off. I don't know what that dog would have done if it had come up to our sliding door and seen Samurai thru the screen, but I don't need a dog trying to attack or chase my one remaining cat and destroying our screen door. I swear, I'm not one of those 'get off our lawn' people, but it annoys the crap out of me that if we had a dog that went into THEIR yard, it would be all this drama about keeping the dog on our property and not letting it run around the neighborhood.
Now that my two old cats have passed into the clearing, once we have a little more money we can get a dog. I'm gonna get a big, mean looking pit bull (which I know is actually a very sweet breed and good with children). Bet they'll keep their dog and their kids in their yard then (my house already has an invisible fence installed. Just waiting for a dog to use it with)
@AlwaysSunny1012 I am EBF and that's what happened to me. My doctor didn't say anything about waiting for it to come it's own, he told me to just start it and now I'm in period hell. I called this morning to tell them I was officially off and why and the nurse said that there was a good chance this would happen with any form of hormonal BC.
So far all of the Mom-side BF perks have been a load of poop. Weight loss? Nope. No periods? Nope.
@mellymar We love our scary dog for exactly that reason. He's a pit mix, is great with LO, sweet as can be, but looks scary enough that people don't mess with us. When we go walk trails (which we haven't done since LO was born because it hasn't been under 100 degrees yet) people get out of our way and don't try to engage him. It's great.
It's been almost a month now since the airline lost DH's bag. The problem is they have a U.S. customer relations team, who is responsive but not responsible for these things. A Lost Baggage team, who cannot be contacted by phone - they are in Iceland. And a Customer Relations team in Their home country who is responsible for claims for compensation.
We have filed a claim for compensation, but the U.S. customer relations team said they won't compensate us until the bag is considered permanently lost. Normally that is two weeks. However, the Lost Baggage team is "very busy (!!) so it could be longer right now." Customer Relations in The home country will not respond to us, and we can only contact them via email.
We have been emailing or calling every day. This is $3,200 worth of stuff, and is also just a huge stress factor for DH and our relationship. We are at wits end, but our hands are tied in getting this resolved. At this point, we just need closure.
Ideas on how to get the airline to find the bag or pay us? How to escalate this so someone finally pays attention?
Please, no advice on "it's just stuff" or "taking deep breaths." That's a whole other issue...
It's been almost a month now since Iceland Air lost DH's bag. The problem is they have a U.S. customer relations team, who is responsive but not responsible for these things. A Lost Baggage team, who cannot be contacted by phone - they are in Iceland. And a Customer Relations team in Iceland who is responsible for claims for compensation.
We have filed a claim for compensation, but the U.S. customer relations team said they won't compensate us until the bag is considered permanently lost. Normally that is two weeks. However, the Lost Baggage team is "very busy (!!) so it could be longer right now." Customer Relations in Iceland will not respond to us, and we can only contact them via email.
We have been emailing or calling every day. This is $3,200 worth of stuff, and is also just a huge stress factor for DH and our relationship. We are at wits end, but our hands are tied in getting this resolved. At this point, we just need closure.
Ideas on how to get the airline to find the bag or pay us? How to escalate this so someone finally pays attention?
Please, no advice on "it's just stuff" or "taking deep breaths." That's a whole other issue...
TIA
This is a really last ditch effort thing, but what sometimes works for me when I want to get a company's attention because of bad service is to blast them on the internet. Tweets with the company tagged in them, reviews on trip advisor, comments on their Facebook... it's crude and isn't always effective, but the internet can make or break a company's reputation, so I've had instances where this has been the fastest way to get a decent response from the company. I don't do it often, but when I've had a really bad experience, I make it known on the internet. Good luck!
ETA this works best when it's done in a straightforward manner (what happened, how it made you feel as a customer), rather than a dramatic rant. You don't seem like the type to do a dramatic rant, but just wanted to throw that out there
Here's my gripe. Anytime I have plans to get things done...... This baby is a crab. It's almost as if he can sense that I'm determined to get stuff done and he's so crabby that day!!!!
@virginiaunicorn11 I also suggest a public shame campaign. Like @kes166 says, nothing really inflammatory, but with accents to the value of items lost ('priceless family items' or 'objects of high dollar value'), the time already spent spinning your wheels, and the marked lack of responsiveness on the company's part. A lot of companies have a social media management team, and good media managers will respond to negative press via social media, if for no other reason than to at least *look* like they give a crap. Also, these people can hopefully use alternative routes within the organization to find some answers or results for you.
When we transferred here the moving company brought our stuff late. It ended up being 30 days late, actually. But I didn't start to get traction on any action being taken or reimbursement until I went thru their fb. I was contacted back by their social media person by end of the day, and by end of the next day I had the supervisor of the woman I had been talking to for 2 weeks on the phone, and she continued to be our contact person afterwards. I also sent a tweet every day and had all of my friends retweet me, and asked them to ask their friends to retweet also. Social media can be a powerful tool when wielded well
Love that hashtag @mellymar and agree that social media seems to be the way to get things done these days! Worth a shot @virginiaunicorn11.
My gripe: my foot freaking hurts. It's so swollen my toes look like Vienna sausages or those little cocktail weinies. My mom came and got me and LO yesterday so she can help me out. She is a saint. She's taking care of us in addition to my 2 year old niece that she babysits while my sister works. I'm going to see a podiatrist tomorrow. This is ridiculous. I can't do anything.
ETA : while packing, I forgot my anxiety meds at home so I'm trying to get my doctor to call some in closer to here.
@virginiaunicorn11 definitely use social media. Go to their Facebook page, tweet them, hashtag on their Instagram. Get their attention. Use loaded phrases like "poor customer service" And "incredibly disappointed" etc etc. Publicly squeaky wheel gets the grease.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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my gripe is that a local tattoo artist i really like is avaliable for walk ins today, but i have no pumped milk and no one to watch LO -_- (and my design isn't printed as it would need to be for walkins.
@virginiaunicorn11 I agree with the social Media approach. That seems to be a big deal lately. Even our enemies use it. Ha. This is my only form of social media so I'm no expert but it's a powerful tool. They definitely don't want to look bad.
My gripe is cleaning related. The floors in our new house are those click together wood panels, which are beautiful, but show EVERY SINGLE DOG HAIR. It's driving me insane because I sweep and two seconds later it look filthy again. I feel like a bad parent for having LO in a house this dirty, and it isn't even dirty...
My gripe is cleaning related. The floors in our new house are those click together wood panels, which are beautiful, but show EVERY SINGLE DOG HAIR. It's driving me insane because I sweep and two seconds later it look filthy again. I feel like a bad parent for having LO in a house this dirty, and it isn't even dirty...
In our current house We put in light colored floors bc i HATED seeing dog hair and footprints in our old house. Drove me nuts. We had a roomba that ran daily.
So I was all proud of myself because I made cinnamon apple bread with a 12 week old baby in the house... and then when I was making dinner, the oven caught on fire and I had to throw the bread away because it was out in the smoky kitchen and we used the fire extinguisher so the bread isn't safe to eat anymore.
Salty about the bread... but everyone is ok and the bread was the most valuable thing to be damaged, aside from possibly the oven but we won't need to pay to repair that, so can't complain I guess!
I just cooked dinner while pumping. While DH stood there holding LO. I asked him to get me something from the pantry and he looked at me with a panic while looking for a place to put LO down..I was like um you can do it while holding her I'm just attached to an outlet at the moment.
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BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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Someone stole DHs wallet, as it fell out while we were at the movies ... There was no cash but his military ID was right in front, sucks there are those people that would steal from a serviceman (not that it's right to steal from anybody) but really?
Someone stole DHs wallet, as it fell out while we were at the movies ... There was no cash but his military ID was right in front, sucks there are those people that would steal from a serviceman (not that it's right to steal from anybody) but really?
I'm sorry. Its SO annoying to get another one of those without the original, too. At least they have stopped putting their and our SSN#s on them
I can't remember if I showered yesterday. I'm pretty sure I didn't. And I won't until tonight, since it's just so much easier to shower when DH is here to watch LO. But my ponytail miraculously has volume still, yesterday's make up doesn't look so bad, and I have no plans to leave the house anyway so I really don't care.
I can't decide if this is liberating or pathetic. Pre-baby me would've definitely said pathetic, but I think post baby me is going to go with liberating
ETA I guess this would've gone better in randoms but when I started the post it felt more negative than it does now.
I can't remember if I showered yesterday. I'm pretty sure I didn't. And I won't until tonight, since it's just so much easier to shower when DH is here to watch LO. But my ponytail miraculously has volume still, yesterday's make up doesn't look so bad, and I have no plans to leave the house anyway so I really don't care.
I can't decide if this is liberating or pathetic. Pre-baby me would've definitely said pathetic, but I think post baby me is going to go with liberating
ETA I guess this would've gone better in randoms but when I started the post it felt more negative than it does now.
This is me! Haha.. I love when yesterday's makeup/eyelashes don't get all twisted and sideways and can get another day out of them .. Lol that's a good day
We were supposed to move back to Europe in January, to headquarters there. Our visa process has taken a curve ball, and the timeline now is completely unknown. "Probably not January. Hopefully by March or June, but it could potentially even be later than that."
On the one hand, it's good because I can continue working from home (yay, time with LO!) and we can likely go back to Germany in the interim, which is what we wanted to do.
On the other, it prevents DH from working; all our belongings go into storage October 1 until we get our permanent placement; and the temporary life with an infant is pretty stressful. We own an apartment but have a tenant coming October-June.
So we are spending 3 months in our hometown with our parents, Oct-Dec. My parents just told us they might move in November.
@virginiaunicorn11 wow that's a lot! I hated moving with a 2 week old with half of our possessions packed up. I can't imagine doing an international move with so many things up in the air-props to you for your great outlook on this, you seem very calm!
We were supposed to move back to Europe in January, to headquarters there. Our visa process has taken a curve ball, and the timeline now is completely unknown. "Probably not January. Hopefully by March or June, but it could potentially even be later than that."
On the one hand, it's good because I can continue working from home (yay, time with LO!) and we can likely go back to Germany in the interim, which is what we wanted to do.
On the other, it prevents DH from working; all our belongings go into storage October 1 until we get our permanent placement; and the temporary life with an infant is pretty stressful. We own an apartment but have a tenant coming October-June.
So we are spending 3 months in our hometown with our parents, Oct-Dec. My parents just told us they might move in November.
The only permanent is change...
This would be stressful it will be nice once you can settle down in one place, with all of your things. Let's just hope parents don't move in November! But like you said, being able to stay home with baby is the big perk here
Took LO to church for the first time this morning (don't really like the church that DH'S family goes to, but that's a different story). Anyway, FIL guilted us into going, because somehow he believes that me and LO going to stay with my family last week so they could help me since I injured my foot was unfair to his side of the family. Mind you my family lives 2 hours away and they live 15 minutes away and can pretty much see LO whenever. LO had shots Friday and we visited my family for my niece's birthday yesterday. He's napped and rested a lot the past couple days, my family doesn't see the need to have him awake constantly. His family will not let this child rest. He fell asleep on the way to church, his aunt wanted me to wake him so she could hold him, the minute he stirred, she insisted I take him out. He barely fell back asleep in church, but then soaked through his diaper and outfit so I took him out to the car and changed him and fed him. Fell asleep on the way to lunch, but they kept poking him till he woke up. Then we had to go to a wedding shower. I went by my inlaws to pick up DH and we stayed for a bit, every time he started sleeping, they woke him up. He screamed for 30 minutes when we got home before he finally fell asleep. He needs to eat and have a bath,but our whole schedule is screwed. Grrrrrr.
Took LO to church for the first time this morning (don't really like the church that DH'S family goes to, but that's a different story). Anyway, FIL guilted us into going, because somehow he believes that me and LO going to stay with my family last week so they could help me since I injured my foot was unfair to his side of the family. Mind you my family lives 2 hours away and they live 15 minutes away and can pretty much see LO whenever. LO had shots Friday and we visited my family for my niece's birthday yesterday. He's napped and rested a lot the past couple days, my family doesn't see the need to have him awake constantly. His family will not let this child rest. He fell asleep on the way to church, his aunt wanted me to wake him so she could hold him, the minute he stirred, she insisted I take him out. He barely fell back asleep in church, but then soaked through his diaper and outfit so I took him out to the car and changed him and fed him. Fell asleep on the way to lunch, but they kept poking him till he woke up. Then we had to go to a wedding shower. I went by my inlaws to pick up DH and we stayed for a bit, every time he started sleeping, they woke him up. He screamed for 30 minutes when we got home before he finally fell asleep. He needs to eat and have a bath,but our whole schedule is screwed. Grrrrrr.
Has your husband noticed these tendencies of your ILs, too? And if so, is he bothered by it? Wondering if it might be worth having him talk to his family and respectfully explain your LO's need for the schedule, sleep, etc. Sounds like their attempts to interact at less than ideal times are causing unnecessary stress for everyone
Took LO to church for the first time this morning (don't really like the church that DH'S family goes to, but that's a different story). Anyway, FIL guilted us into going, because somehow he believes that me and LO going to stay with my family last week so they could help me since I injured my foot was unfair to his side of the family. Mind you my family lives 2 hours away and they live 15 minutes away and can pretty much see LO whenever. LO had shots Friday and we visited my family for my niece's birthday yesterday. He's napped and rested a lot the past couple days, my family doesn't see the need to have him awake constantly. His family will not let this child rest. He fell asleep on the way to church, his aunt wanted me to wake him so she could hold him, the minute he stirred, she insisted I take him out. He barely fell back asleep in church, but then soaked through his diaper and outfit so I took him out to the car and changed him and fed him. Fell asleep on the way to lunch, but they kept poking him till he woke up. Then we had to go to a wedding shower. I went by my inlaws to pick up DH and we stayed for a bit, every time he started sleeping, they woke him up. He screamed for 30 minutes when we got home before he finally fell asleep. He needs to eat and have a bath,but our whole schedule is screwed. Grrrrrr.
Has your husband noticed these tendencies of your ILs, too? And if so, is he bothered by it? Wondering if it might be worth having him talk to his family and respectfully explain your LO's need for the schedule, sleep, etc. Sounds like their attempts to interact at less than ideal times are causing unnecessary stress for everyone
Oh, he notices it, his dad drives us both nuts. He kept calling this morning and when DH didn't answer, he called me. Then wanted to know why we were already getting ready. Dude, we have a baby to get ready, geez. He's a giant baby himself and gets whiny and unbearable to deal with if you try to reason with him or say anything. Him and DH had a strained relationship for a long time and now that they get along, he refuses to do anything that might rock the boat. I did jump all over FIL today because LOs little ears are fused down a little at the top, kind of curled over and every time we see him he inspects his ears and makes some comment. I lost it today. He's just a selfish jerk.
Aww, well I'm sorry you guys are having such a hard time with it! I can definitely relate to having a challenging FIL. Among other issues, mine lacks a filter and once asked me if LO "empties my breasts" when she eats, and if I could feel her doing so... super awkward! :-O
So, LO blows through every diaper brand except honest diapers so far. Pampers, Huggies, Costco brand, Seventh Generation, I've tried them all. I looked at the bundle package from the Honest website and with the USD to Canadian exchange rate, it's cheaper for me to buy them from the store than it is to 'subscribe and save.' Damn dollar
@kes166 omg, I would die! I've seen some of your posts about him, sounds like a lot to deal with. It's so difficult when it's your in laws, I feel like DH thinks I'm attacking his family if I say anything. Such a tough situation
@kes166 yes! DH is super nonconfrontational, too, so even though 99% of the time he agrees that his dad is in the wrong, he never ever does anything about it. With the breast milk comment, after his dad left, I told DH how uncomfortable it made me and he was just like, "I don't know what you expect, you know what he's like." Usually I just defer to DH's judgment where his family is concerned (his dad's the main challenge, but there have been little issues with most of the rest of them here and there), but I felt like that incident crossed a line so I told him next time something that level of inappropriate happens, if he doesn't say something, I will.
So I am by NO means saying you ladies are in the wrong or that you are like this... Just thinking through my own family's situation.
My family finds my brother's wife to be, um, challenging. She gives us the silent treatment when she's mad, she is very abrasive, makes comments about weight, pretends to be vegan and is preachy about nutrition but sneaks meat when she thinks no one's looking, etc. I get along with her way better than anyone else in the family, but she's definitely difficult.
One of the things my parents always point to, when they refuse my efforts to try to mend things, is that she is so focused on a schedule for the kids and having everything be exact (puts tape on my parents' walls to try to create blackout curtains, travels with huge fans because the "kids need the noise to sleep", etc.) that she doesn't let the family enjoy the kids.
I know it's easy to defend schedules, and they can be important, but a) in my family, getting off schedule is important in exchange for extended family time, and b) when the girls spend a week with my parents without their mother, they actually sleep fine without all her, um, neuroses.
So again, not saying you're in the wrong AT ALL. (And my family would never wake a sleeping baby, @KarasTwin - that's awful.) Just thinking about it from the side of the in-laws. I could picture my SIL complaining on here and making my family sound terrible - and from our side, we just think we are loving, eager to bond with the kids, and there's needless tension. (Though we don't make awkward comments about boobs, @kes166!!)
@virginiaunicorn11 ugh I have a feeling my in laws are going to view me like this. I try not to do anything to rock her sleeping through the night boat, and since she's a really crappy daytime sleeper when we're out of the house, and if I know she's overtired I want to get her to bed early. For example it was Dh's birthday and they hosted a party for him. LO was hot and miserable towards the end and wouldn't sleep so I told them we had to leave (we live an hour away and it was 9Pm). I think everyone was mad we were leaving (we had been there for 5 hours) because he was the guest of honor but...her sleep directly effects my sleep as well as our next day. They're very relaxed and go with the flow whereas I am not. Sleep outweighs all for me.
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@virginiaunicorn11 it wasn't even the schedule thing that upset me the most, it was the guilting us into going to church, then they didn't even sit with us, then constantly waking him up. He didn't get more than 15 minute naps at all. I completely understand that they're excited to see him, but he needs to nap, especially after shots. They get upset because "they never see him" which is bull because they see him 2-3 times a week. They only want to see him on their terms and think we should bring him to them. They live 15 minutes away, why can't they come over here? FIL actually gets mad because he sleeps. I'm so sick of him saying that all LO does is sleep, he's a baby, of course he sleeps. Then MIL kept telling people not to touch his legs because he just had shots, but constantly kept rubbing and squeezing his thighs. If it had been a normal weekend, it wouldn't have been such a big deal, but since he'd just had shots and was a rainy, nasty day, I was aggravated. LO hardly ever cries and when he's upset because of something that could've been prevented, I go all momma bear.
Sleep trumps all. We just had a surprise birthday party for a family member and at 1030 pm I had to say ..... "Sorry we need to leave so we can get our first stretch of sleep. Mom needs sleep." I said sorry but I wasn't sorry because I am dying for a good nights rest. I say don't feel bad. Neuroses are another thing! Totally different.
Re: The Daily Gripe
So the whole thing was probably totally unnecessary.
DH says LO sleeping in our room is birth control enough. He wakes up every time DH tries to get frisky.
Todays gripe: I could have done without my period starting the same exact day I go back to work! One more thing to manage. Was scrounging around in drawers for 11 month old tampons this morning!
Now that my two old cats have passed into the clearing, once we have a little more money we can get a dog. I'm gonna get a big, mean looking pit bull (which I know is actually a very sweet breed and good with children). Bet they'll keep their dog and their kids in their yard then (my house already has an invisible fence installed. Just waiting for a dog to use it with)
So far all of the Mom-side BF perks have been a load of poop. Weight loss? Nope. No periods? Nope.
Edit: autocorrect sucks
It's been almost a month now since the airline lost DH's bag. The problem is they have a U.S. customer relations team, who is responsive but not responsible for these things. A Lost Baggage team, who cannot be contacted by phone - they are in Iceland. And a Customer Relations team in Their home country who is responsible for claims for compensation.
We have filed a claim for compensation, but the U.S. customer relations team said they won't compensate us until the bag is considered permanently lost. Normally that is two weeks. However, the Lost Baggage team is "very busy (!!) so it could be longer right now." Customer Relations in The home country will not respond to us, and we can only contact them via email.
We have been emailing or calling every day. This is $3,200 worth of stuff, and is also just a huge stress factor for DH and our relationship. We are at wits end, but our hands are tied in getting this resolved. At this point, we just need closure.
Ideas on how to get the airline to find the bag or pay us? How to escalate this so someone finally pays attention?
Please, no advice on "it's just stuff" or "taking deep breaths." That's a whole other issue...
TIA
ETA this works best when it's done in a straightforward manner (what happened, how it made you feel as a customer), rather than a dramatic rant. You don't seem like the type to do a dramatic rant, but just wanted to throw that out there
Anytime I have plans to get things done...... This baby is a crab.
It's almost as if he can sense that I'm determined to get stuff done and he's so crabby that day!!!!
When we transferred here the moving company brought our stuff late. It ended up being 30 days late, actually. But I didn't start to get traction on any action being taken or reimbursement until I went thru their fb. I was contacted back by their social media person by end of the day, and by end of the next day I had the supervisor of the woman I had been talking to for 2 weeks on the phone, and she continued to be our contact person afterwards. I also sent a tweet every day and had all of my friends retweet me, and asked them to ask their friends to retweet also. Social media can be a powerful tool when wielded well
#wheresmystuff
My gripe: my foot freaking hurts. It's so swollen my toes look like Vienna sausages or those little cocktail weinies. My mom came and got me and LO yesterday so she can help me out. She is a saint. She's taking care of us in addition to my 2 year old niece that she babysits while my sister works. I'm going to see a podiatrist tomorrow. This is ridiculous. I can't do anything.
ETA : while packing, I forgot my anxiety meds at home so I'm trying to get my doctor to call some in closer to here.
Salty about the bread... but everyone is ok and the bread was the most valuable thing to be damaged, aside from possibly the oven but we won't need to pay to repair that, so can't complain I guess!
I can't decide if this is liberating or pathetic. Pre-baby me would've definitely said pathetic, but I think post baby me is going to go with liberating
ETA I guess this would've gone better in randoms but when I started the post it felt more negative than it does now.
On the one hand, it's good because I can continue working from home (yay, time with LO!) and we can likely go back to Germany in the interim, which is what we wanted to do.
On the other, it prevents DH from working; all our belongings go into storage October 1 until we get our permanent placement; and the temporary life with an infant is pretty stressful. We own an apartment but have a tenant coming October-June.
So we are spending 3 months in our hometown with our parents, Oct-Dec. My parents just told us they might move in November.
The only permanent is change...
Oh, in-laws...always making life interesting, lol
My family finds my brother's wife to be, um, challenging. She gives us the silent treatment when she's mad, she is very abrasive, makes comments about weight, pretends to be vegan and is preachy about nutrition but sneaks meat when she thinks no one's looking, etc. I get along with her way better than anyone else in the family, but she's definitely difficult.
One of the things my parents always point to, when they refuse my efforts to try to mend things, is that she is so focused on a schedule for the kids and having everything be exact (puts tape on my parents' walls to try to create blackout curtains, travels with huge fans because the "kids need the noise to sleep", etc.) that she doesn't let the family enjoy the kids.
I know it's easy to defend schedules, and they can be important, but a) in my family, getting off schedule is important in exchange for extended family time, and b) when the girls spend a week with my parents without their mother, they actually sleep fine without all her, um, neuroses.
So again, not saying you're in the wrong AT ALL. (And my family would never wake a sleeping baby, @KarasTwin - that's awful.) Just thinking about it from the side of the in-laws. I could picture my SIL complaining on here and making my family sound terrible - and from our side, we just think we are loving, eager to bond with the kids, and there's needless tension. (Though we don't make awkward comments about boobs, @kes166!!)
I said sorry but I wasn't sorry because I am dying for a good nights rest. I say don't feel bad.
Neuroses are another thing! Totally different.