CRAZY COMMENTS

TobieRose · May 2014

AshB62 said:

I got another "I had my kids the hard way. One at a time." last week.

Seriously? 8-|

Okay, really? I would have said something mean back. (Probably about how I had to recover from a vaginal AND a Cesaerian at the same time ... you wanna talk about the "hard way"??)

Honestly, I can understand people being nosy (ie asking questions about whether twins are "natural" etc) and the "hands full" comments more than I can understand non-MOMs trying to "one up" twin mothers. *eye roll*

katiebenes · May 2014

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:

katiebenes said:

My update from crazyland since the boys are getting out more now:

A lady looks at my boys (knowing they were boys), pinches Caleb’s cheeks and says “you look more like a little girl.” Then points at John and says “but you look like a little boy”
Another lady looks at my sleeping baby John and says “oh, sleeping babies are so so cute” and proceeds to try and pinch his cheeks. (She was also amazed that I physically stopped her from touching and waking the sleeping baby.)
I feel sorry for you
Wow, do they have the same Dad? (I count this as a comment since I didn’t respond)
That one (oddly pointing to Caleb, the thinner one) is too fat, you need to feed him less and her (pointing to John) more.
Oh look at you, you’re so adorable. But don’t worry, there always has to be one that isn’t as cute. (not sure who’s the no so cute one)

What the actual fuck? I would have ripped those people a new asshole.

I had to walk away in both cases because I would've gotten kicked out and I had shopping to do lol

Jules_Shamblin · May 2014

I finally have one to contribute!

So I wasn't actually present for it, but here's what happened: My sister works as a nanny and when she was telling the little boy and his parents that her sister was having twins the little boy got really excited and and said, "Twins!! Maybe they'll be Siamese Twins!! They could be born with TWO heads!!"

The dad (who is a doctor) was horrified and quickly tried to explain that it was very unlikely and it's always best to hope for healthy babies that aren't conjoined. Even so, the little boy just couldn't get over how cool it would be to have two heads.

SV917 · May 2014

AshB62 said:

"Did you take drugs to get twins or was it just God being awesome?"

First of all, none of your business.

Secondly, why can't it be both? I don't understand this idea that science/medicine and faith have to be mutually exclusive.

And third, no, I didn't take drugs to get twins. I took drugs to treat infertility. I just wanted a healthy baby. Twins weren't even on my radar while I was doing treatments.

Ugh.

Well wasn't (s)he direct. No sneaky do twins run in your family questions here. And yeah, those things are not mutually exclusive.

I had a friend tell me she wasn't sure she would do fertility treatments because maybe infertility was God's way of saying she shouldn't have children. I asked her if she would get treatment if she got cancer or would that be God's way of telling her she should be dead. God can work through science.

Edit: twins run in the family, not friends

frank3jr · May 2014

The number one comment we get is that we are all done now since we have b/g twins but at the store this weekend a rude old lady took it further.

At first she asked if they were twins and then after staring at them way too long she says "You better not try again, you could get triplets"

katiebenes · May 2014

AshB62 said:

"Did you take drugs to get twins or was it just God being awesome?"

First of all, none of your business.

Secondly, why can't it be both? I don't understand this idea that science/medicine and faith have to be mutually exclusive.

And third, no, I didn't take drugs to get twins. I took drugs to treat infertility. I just wanted a healthy baby. Twins weren't even on my radar while I was doing treatments.

Ugh.

I often think I'm the only one that feels #2 is true!

Rynleigh · May 2014

Regardless of personal beliefs, science is the human method of understanding and manipulating our own environment - medical science *is the direct result of HUMAN NATURE*... so whether you believe in a god or not... in fact, anyone who claims that their god is incompatible with science, well - frankly - that god doesn't exist. If a god exists they *must* be compatible with science. At the end of the day, all of our babies are natural and they are all wonderful and unless you are a medical or genetic researcher seeking data or an individual who is currently going through fertility struggles and seeking moral support, there is no excuse for asking a stranger whether they pursued the assistance of medical science to conceive their children. It is petty and it is offensive.

SandraPB1220 · May 2014

This one takes the cake. A woman just started the typical are they twins conversation and proceeded to tell me she and her twin brother were also identical, just like my little girls!!!! WTF?!?!?! #-o

bumpuser924057 · May 2014

Remember the crazy person who said in a year or so I'd have triplets? I guess I'm already there, because yesterday I had all the kids in the stroller (almost 3yo DS in the X-rider on the back) and three different people asked if they were triplets. How do people not see a difference between two one year olds and a three year old?!

zazu13 · May 2014

Stranger in a fast food restaurant: are they twins?
Me: Yep
Stranger: cool! i'll trade you my 3 for yours right now.
Me: (awkward chuckle)
Stranger: are they identical?
Me: no, fraternal.
Stranger: oh, nevermind then. Deal's off.

mommaoftrips · May 2014

thecheshirekat said:
Remember the crazy person who said in a year or so I'd have triplets? I guess I'm already there, because yesterday I had all the kids in the stroller (almost 3yo DS in the X-rider on the back) and three different people asked if they were triplets. How do people not see a difference between two one year olds and a three year old?!

Hahaha well I get the opposite, with my triplets they think I somehow have twins and an I don't even know how old - because they will say, how cute -twins and an older brother.

BUT they are all the same size.

nebrasskagal · May 2014

The cashier at a fast food restaurant asked me if my twins were natural?

Ummm no, I made them in the robotics lab -aren't they life-like. Duh, of course they are natural, all people are natural. So sick of strangers wanting to know if fertility treatments were involved.

diz1313 · June 2014

My first stupid comment came from my DH.... I am only 11 weeks pregnant, but after my second ultrasound confirming "viable twins" my DH looked at me and said, "wow, you are going to get HUGE!" ....... geee, thanks ........ My mother also just this week said, "Being as you are going to be 36 years old and you are carrying twins, I hope you are prepared for the fact that your body is never going to be the same. You aren't going to get back to where you were before you had Liam. (My now 3.5 year old) I just want you to keep that in mind and not worry about trying to stay small or anything." Seriously Mom! I'm not going to try to "stay small" I actually count calories to make sure I am getting enough of them..... But pretty much telling me to embrace that I am just going to be fat from now on is not exactly helpful. Heh

whitehousem · June 2014

Stopped into Starbucks today with 2yr old DD and we were in line behind a woman who had two children similar in age to DD.

Enter third woman: are they all yours?

Me: No

Third woman: oh, thank goodness. Especially, since they are so close in age.

Me: (smiled, bit my tongue, and did not mention I had twin newborns at home with grandma).

Sigh...

dmurrie · June 2014

@diz1313 my husband made that exact same comment to me just as early on. He's a pediatrician, so one of his other gems was at 30 weeks... "If they were born right now, they might not need a ventilator.". Always the practical one. Now, he makes comments on the big belly. Another was "wow, I think you're even bigger than you were yesterday." "Why are there so many babies?". He does that one quite often. I say it's just twins. Not sooooo many. Relax.
My MIL wants to know "when are you going on bed rest"... so she can come "help with DD1". At least she's stopped looking so crestfallen whenever I say I'm doing just fine and that no bed rest has been mentioned. I think that's the craziest part, how ravenously excited that she was at the prospect of my possible incapacitation and how disappointed she was that I might actually be OK.

courtney4425 · June 2014

I don't have 1 single comment, but my baby shower was this weekend and I feel like all I heard the entire time was "omg, I just don't know how your going to do it! It's gonna be so hard!"

I'm not naive, this is our first and we are already scared shitless... Your vote of confidence in us is great. Thanks! Ugh

Jules_Shamblin · June 2014

courtney4425 said:

I don't have 1 single comment, but my baby shower was this weekend and I feel like all I heard the entire time was "omg, I just don't know how your going to do it! It's gonna be so hard!" I'm not naive, this is our first and we are already scared shitless... Your vote of confidence in us is great. Thanks! Ugh

This! I feel like my sister is the worst at this. She's been a nanny for years and even though she's totally excited about the twins, she never misses an opportunity to tell us how hard it's going to be. Every time she sees anything I've bought for the girls she immediately goes into detail about how it's all going to go wrong.

Those crib sheets... they're going to covered in poop. Those car seats... those will hold nothing but screaming babies. Our walls, our couch, our carpet... they are going to be completely destroyed. Okay... so what do I do? Not have sheets? Not have car seats? Get rid of all the furniture? I think she's just trying to try and prepare us for what's to come but it's not helpful at all.

diz1313 · June 2014

Her: Wow, twins huh? That must be a scary thought, especially with how off the wall Liam is. Me: yeah, a little bit terrifying. But who doesn't love a little chaos? Her: well, it's early yet.... It isn't uncommon for one to disappear. So maybe you won't have to worry about it. Me: : 0 Yeah, cuz losing a baby would be such a relief..... o.O This is why "Her" doesn't say "Friend" ...... cuz I'm not dealing with that basket of insensitive crazy.

Ylvelill · June 2014

@diz1313‌
Wow... That's just.. Wow...

Angelahelena · June 2014

From the mouth of a two year old: I'm a preschool teacher and one of the moms in my school is also pregnant. She told her son that I have two babies in my stomach. His response: but mommy you have one. Teacher can't have two. She only has one belly like you mommy! I loved it. lol. Too soon to go into a conversation about anatomy.

KatieGummow · June 2014

Got this gem the other day:
"Wow, they look really close in age."

Ok.

yess0311 · June 2014

diz1313 said:

Her: Wow, twins huh? That must be a scary thought, especially with how off the wall Liam is. Me: yeah, a little bit terrifying. But who doesn't love a little chaos? Her: well, it's early yet.... It isn't uncommon for one to disappear. So maybe you won't have to worry about it. Me: : 0 Yeah, cuz losing a baby would be such a relief..... o.O This is why "Her" doesn't say "Friend" ...... cuz I'm not dealing with that basket of insensitive crazy.

Wow!!! How can people be so ignorant!???

Karissa764 · June 2014

This just slays me.. I know we all have that one relative we would rather not claim shares the same gene pool. Well mine tracked me down and this is astoundingly a real conversation
Her: do twins run in your family?
Me: no
Her: well how did you get them then?
Me: well you see when and a man and a women love each other very much...
*this went right over her head
Her: it must be because your grandpas brothers look like they could be twins.
Me:...are you serious right now?
She, was infact, dead serious. Who knew my great uncles, who aren't twins, are the reason there are 2 babies in me lol

CNYBride05 · June 2014

heaven22tw said:

Mine favorite...is it a boy and a girl. They are dressed head to toe in pink and in matching pink car seats?????

We get this all the freakin time!

whitehousem · June 2014

Went to check out a preschool for DD today:

Preschool director: how long did you carry them?
Me: 37 weeks
Her: oh, so you weren't super uncomfortable then?
Me: well, I was carrying almost 13 lb of baby so I was pretty uncomfortable.
Her: (surprised) oh, my son was 9lb so I can't imagine.

Yeah lady, I was super comfortable when I was measuring 50w pregnant. Lol

SV917 · June 2014

Random lady: are you raising both of them?

Me: uh, yes.

RL: I thought maybe you were babysitting one.

Palan · June 2014

Got my first "I feel sorry for you" 1st thought; he felt sorry for me because it was 95 degrees and 80% humidity 2nd thought; he felt sorry for me that the boat was dirty Nope: sorry you are having twins WOW, I was actual a little shocked

kdarden15 · June 2014

In the grocery store, a woman working there said: Lady: "twins run in my family too." Me:"is that right?" Lady: "are yours identical?" Me: "yes" Lady: "Same DNA. In my family, they sent the wrong twin to jail. Don't worry, they sorted it out." AH!!!!

whitehousem · June 2014

SV917 said:
Random lady: are you raising both of them?

Me: uh, yes.

RL: I thought maybe you were babysitting one.

Lol! For a year I watched a little boy similar in age to DD and everywhere we went people asked if they were twins. It got so annoying that sometimes I'd just answer 'no' with no explanation. I'm thinking maybe I can say the same thing now that I actually have twins to get rid of people?
:-?

24karat · July 2014

Not quite a comment...but today while grocery shopping with the kids, DH encountered a woman who literally pointed and laughed at them. He countered with "WTF is your problem?!" She stopped laughing.

jkayb123 · July 2014

This is not twin specific, but still ridiculous:

(I'm a physical therapist)

When I first started showing (early on) one of my patients says, "Oh you're pregnant! When you find out what you're having let me guess. I'm really good at it. If you're having a boy your face will get really ugly."

Fast forward to when I find out I'm having B/G twins, and she says "Oh yes, you can definitely tell there's a boy in there." What the what?!

Angelahelena · July 2014

Waitress asks what I'm having. I say twins n she replies you know you are going to blow up soon! Nice Ty so much.

Jules_Shamblin · July 2014

Last week at our infant CRP class a couple with a newborn sat across from my husband and I. I was 36 weeks pregnant and when my husband told them it was twins the guys said, "Sorry man. I always thought twins would have been cool, but now that we have one.. no way. It's going to be awful for you!"

Um... okay. But then he proceeded to be obnoxious and rude to everyone, including his wife, for the entire class so maybe it was just his personality to be a jerk.

frank3jr · July 2014

People always tell us we are done having babies since we have b/g twins but we actually just got a positive alternative from that so I thought I'd share:

We had a guy say to us in a store "Your babies are adorable. You should have more because you are beautifying the world"

smileystef · July 2014

I'm 36 weeks with boy/girl twins, and I have a few comments that I've been saving up:

Lady at work after I told her I was pregnant with twins (in the hall of a school with students walking around): Were you artificially inseminated?? (She said this really loudly!)

Me: Uh....no (and then I walked away)

DH: What's going to happen to your stomach after the babies are born? (while looking at my huge bump)

Me: What do you think is going to happen???!!!

My Mom: I was reading a twin book last night, and it's possible that your twins are identical even though they don't share a sack.

Me: No mom, there is no way in hell they're identical. They are different genders. (Explains basic biology/genetics to my mom)

My Mom to my OB at a checkup: I know exactly how she feels. I carried a 10 lb baby.

Me: No mom, this is nothing like carrying one 10 lb baby. This is like carrying one 10 lb baby and another 8 lb baby at the same time. (My 5 year old DD was also a 10 lb baby. And my twins were measuring 8 lbs and 7 lbs at my 35 week growth ultrasound.)

Relative: Wow, you've been on bedrest for two months. Lucky you. I wish I could lay in bed all day.

Me: Well actually it's not all that relaxing watching my husband run around doing everything and seeing all the baby stuff still in boxes not set up.

Relative: There's no way you'll be able to breastfeed those two. Better stock up on formula.

Me: Well I'm going to do my best.

SereJane · August 2014

A manager at a restaurant found out I was pregnant with twins and immediately asked "are they natural?"
Um what??

sasky · August 2014

When I tell people that they're a girl and a boy I constantly get the comment, "You're so lucky!" As if two girls or two boys would make me unlucky?

Maybe I'm reading too far into that one.

BabyCarryingVessel · August 2014

I'm just getting caught up on all the new comments in this thread! @smileystef, I'm LOLing at your mom's comment!! When I was pregnant my mom was "informing" me about maternal vs. paternal twins. ::facepalm::

My girls are 22 months and honestly the comments are getting better... they're mostly positive which is great. However I did get one this weekend. We were on vacation and on the pontoon boat on the lake with the girls. They were having a particularly grouchy moment and I was struggling. As I'm at my wit's end with the girls, a relative's girlfriend, whom I had just met, told me that her cousin has twins and they are "awful" children. And you are telling me this now because? Was she insinuating that all twins must be awful?

Rynleigh · August 2014

AshB62 said:

sasky said:

When I tell people that they're a girl and a boy I constantly get the comment, "You're so lucky!" As if two girls or two boys would make me unlucky? Maybe I'm reading too far into that one.

Judging from the comments I get, b/b is the least preferable twin set.

It was MOST preferable, for me, given that I already had my two singleton girls LOL

SV917 · August 2014

Are any of you a part of the national organization of Mothers of Twins clubs on Facebook? There is a ridiculous post about whether twins run in the family with over 100 posts. A couple people point out that it only matters on the mother's side, but most people are saying stupid things like no twins on either side or my husband's brother has twins. One mother said twins don't run in her family and she didn't do IVF, but she was taking a MULTI-vitamin so maybe that's why she had twins. (!?!?)

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