CRAZY COMMENTS

katekat8721

This might not be so crazy I guess, but it threw me for a loop.

When I told my boss (who knew about our IVF) that we were expecting twins she sat me down in her office to discuss my maternity leave. I told her on a Friday, the impromptu meeting was on Monday and my head was still spinning with the knowledge that we were having two little ones.

My boss then proceeded to ask how likely it was that I would have family help out watching the babies and that when I decided to stay home and raise the babies to give her a heads up. Due date isn't until June, but she requested I let her know in Feb if I was going to come back to work.

No. Just. No.

I guess having twins automatically means that you aren't coming back to work?

Serenity224u

So beyond tired of my MIL trying to say she is the reason we are having twins. Umm no you are not my body released two eggs and your son fertilized them so unless you're my mom then you didn't contribute whatsoever.

bumpuser924057

Went to a family wedding tonight. The father of the bride is my uncle (ex-uncle, I guess, he and my aunt are divorced now) is a fertility specialist, and I haven't seen him in probably three years, since I was pregnant with my first. Just to give you a little backstory . Ex-uncle comes by and I congratulate him on his daughter's wedding and ask how he's doing. He looks at my stroller full of babies and says "Did you get your tubes tied yet?" I kind of laugh and say "No, the damn Catholic hospital wouldn't do it during the c-section." He then points to my husband and says "Well, guess it's his turn, then." Uhh, ok dude, I get it, you don't think we should have more kids. Way to be a rude weirdo about it, though.

Seldaar

[quote] I guess having twins automatically means that you aren't coming back to work? [/quote]

DW has had several comments along these lines

Old college friend, upon hearing we're having twins and knowing we already have a 2-yr old: "So, you're staying home right?"

Older guy in her office, "Are you sure you're not going to stay home with them?"

So apparently twins = SAHM to many people.

Kissimi21

"Holy crap!  There must be something in the water!"

My DH said that today when he found out 2 of his buddies just found out they are also having surprise twins this week.  We work for a company with approximately 400 employees.  There were 6 sets of twins at the company Christmas party, and 4 more sets are due in the new year.  That's 12 sets of twins that we know of, not including ours. 

katekat8721

When we tell people we're expecting twins, half the responses include "Are you sure there's not three in there? Maybe the other one is hiding". 

Babies just don't pop up out of the blue people!

bumpuser924057

The teenaged bagger at the grocery store yesterday asked me if my twins were identical or infernal.

sasky

Today I got stuck in a conversation with a woman who is grandmother to 5-month-old twins. First time I ever met her. She congratulated me and then went to town. She had literally ONE positive thing to say. It was "The kids are cute...but:"

- "It is so much work!" (Duh)
- "It's so much harder than one baby."
- "I don't think the parents have slept in months."
- "My son is really struggling."
- "Get all the help you can, cuz you're gonna need it."
- "One baby cries, the other is awake, there's never a break."
- "Maybe it will be easier when they get to a certain age, but I don't see it yet."
- "I don't know how they do it."

On and on and on.

I kept waiting for something like "but it's all worth it" or "they're such a blessing"...nothing.

She also shared details of her battle with post partum depression and how she hopes I don't get it because she can't imagine it with twins to care for.

K. Thx.

raraavis28

sasky said:

Today I got stuck in a conversation with a woman who is grandmother to 5-month-old twins. First time I ever met her. She congratulated me and then went to town. She had literally ONE positive thing to say. It was "The kids are cute...but:" - "It is so much work!" (Duh) - "It's so much harder than one baby." - "I don't think the parents have slept in months." - "My son is really struggling." - "Get all the help you can, cuz you're gonna need it." - "One baby cries, the other is awake, there's never a break." - "Maybe it will be easier when they get to a certain age, but I don't see it yet." - "I don't know how they do it." On and on and on. I kept waiting for something like "but it's all worth it" or "they're such a blessing"...nothing. She also shared details of her battle with post partum depression and how she hopes I don't get it because she can't imagine it with twins to care for. K. Thx.

Well wasn't she a little ray of sunshine? Sheesh! It certainly seems like everything she said had a lot more to do with her own issues than anything else. Sorry you had to deal w/ that Negative Nancy, though!

tryingtostaypositive

I went to a restaurant with my twin girls and the waitress proceeds to hold one of my daughters hands then ask if one Is a boy-meanwhile she's wearing a purple coat and then says one of my girls is prettier than the other- I snapped back & said that's not nice & that they are both beautiful! People need to keep their opinions to themselves such nerve

katiebenes

I keep getting "boy and girl?" WTH people. which one of my boys, who are usually dressed in obvious boy clothes, do you think is a girl? really? Please tell me.

jennyshawn0808

My mom & I were at walmart tonight. She was pushing both babies in one cart & I had DS in another.A lady said, "you're a busy lady." Me: "Yep" lady: "oh, my sympathies" Umm... okay, thanks?

Scorpgirl444

Does this count as a crazy comment?  Really it's a question...

Did you know beforehand?  I think this is a dumb question.  Does this insinuate that I knew I was pregnant but decided to never have an ultrasound and to be surprised with how many were in there on the day of delivery?  I hate this question.

Rynleigh

Scorpgirl444 said:

Does this count as a crazy comment?  Really it's a question...

Did you know beforehand?  I think this is a dumb question.  Does this insinuate that I knew I was pregnant but decided to never have an ultrasound and to be surprised with how many were in there on the day of delivery?  I hate this question.

This question almost never surprises me anymore. I encounter a lot more women than I'd ever thought I would who refuse to have any ultrasounds at all, and after having been through the trouble of trying to find B's heart rate with every monitoring session, I'd imagine that an "in home" midwife could easily miss a second heartbeat on a doppler. I'm sure that going into labor "not knowing" is an extremely uncommon occurrence here in the US, but I can see how it could happen. 

LaurenSara518

I had some woman say "a boy and a girl?". When I told her they were identical boys she said "too bad". I wanted to smack her!!!

somewhereincali

@MrsLee04 I saw that.  And wanted to respond.  And then decided to just let it be.
Yes, because having a whole 13 months of a baby on their own is JUST like twins.
Sigh

SandraPB1220

Well, it finally happened to me. 15 weeks along and just had someone say to me, "Oh, twins? How nice! I have two girls and I think that's worse!" WHAT?!?! "How old are they?" I asked, just to be nice...."7 and 3". Seriously? Having two children four years apart is worse than having two babies to take care of at the same time? Get real, people!!! 8-}

Rynleigh

LMAO my girls are 5yrs apart... even with another SIX years between DD#2 and the boys, managing two LOs at once is nothing like having kids with any kind of spacing, at all. Hell, even our childcare provider decided it was too much for her, and her youngest daughter was born just six months after Alyce - whom she had been caring for since she was 3 weeks old... just that six month gap was enough for Alyce to already be sitting up and holding her own cups and eating solids by the time her newborn came along... having both the boys at once was too much for her to handle because they both needed equal portions of her attention and she couldn't get anything done. 

Rynleigh

We went to the consignment shop yesterday so I could get the boys some more socks (can't beat 25c a pair for socks that other babies hardly wore!!). I'm standing there picking through their sock bin, and I hear a giggle from across the isle, followed by "Well YOU must be the ladies man". I look down, and Jamie has filled the front seat of the stroller with girls panties, shaking about a bright pink pair in one  hand and florals in the other, grinning like a fiend. 


:-??

karah4816

A coworker of my husband told him that he had a twin that died in the womb so it's not possible for him to have twins... What! That is such an incredibly stupid statement that I kinda want to hit him

kzawisl

"Well, they aren't identical, but they'll still love each other." Um, what?

Shima42

https://multiples.about.com/od/funfacts/a/boygirlident.htm

bumpuser924057

I had a fun one today.

Lady at Costco: Oh, twins!  A boy and a girl! How nice, getting them all done in one shot.

Me: Actually, I have a two and a half year old at home too.

Lady: Ohh, so you have triplets!

Me: Uhh... No.... ?

Lady: Well, in about a year or so you will!

:-?

raraavis28

thecheshirekat said:

I had a fun one today.

Lady at Costco: Oh, twins!  A boy and a girl! How nice, getting them all done in one shot.

Me: Actually, I have a two and a half year old at home too.

Lady: Ohh, so you have triplets!

Me: Uhh... No.... ?

Lady: Well, in about a year or so you will!

:-?

Um, whaaaat???
@-)

Kissimi21

thecheshirekat said:

I had a fun one today.

Lady at Costco: Oh, twins!  A boy and a girl! How nice, getting them all done in one shot.

Me: Actually, I have a two and a half year old at home too.

Lady: Ohh, so you have triplets!

Me: Uhh... No.... ?

Lady: Well, in about a year or so you will!

:-?

Trying to figure out that "logic" made my head hurt. 

 

Wait, maybe she's psychic and you should start planning ahead.   Lol.

bumpuser924057

Kissimi21 said:

thecheshirekat said:

I had a fun one today.

Lady at Costco: Oh, twins!  A boy and a girl! How nice, getting them all done in one shot.

Me: Actually, I have a two and a half year old at home too.

Lady: Ohh, so you have triplets!

Me: Uhh... No.... ?

Lady: Well, in about a year or so you will!

:-?

Trying to figure out that "logic" made my head hurt. 

 

Wait, maybe she's psychic and you should start planning ahead.   Lol.

YOU SHUT YOUR MOUTH.  YOU SHUT IT RIGHT NOW.

*breathes into paper bag*

Kissimi21

Lol. My DH is convined there is something in the water.  Just the other day a cashier noticed our twins and said she had 2 sets of surprise twins in 2 years. DH mumbled something about never having sex again.

Scorpgirl444

thecheshirekat said:

Kissimi21 said:

thecheshirekat said:

I had a fun one today.

Lady at Costco: Oh, twins!  A boy and a girl! How nice, getting them all done in one shot.

Me: Actually, I have a two and a half year old at home too.

Lady: Ohh, so you have triplets!

Me: Uhh... No.... ?

Lady: Well, in about a year or so you will!

:-?

Trying to figure out that "logic" made my head hurt. 

 

Wait, maybe she's psychic and you should start planning ahead.   Lol.

YOU SHUT YOUR MOUTH.  YOU SHUT IT RIGHT NOW.

*breathes into paper bag*

You didn't know that's how it works?  You had 1.  You had 2.  Next you have 3!  Just don't try to go for 4...

katiebenes

You must have a hard time telling them apart...
No, they don't look alike

Really? I swear they could be copies of each other, how do you tell them apart?

um... he (Caleb) has lots of hair and a shield face and he (John) is about 2 pounds heavier with a round face

karah4816

katiebenes said:

You must have a hard time telling them apart...
No, they don't look alike

Really? I swear they could be copies of each other, how do you tell them apart?

um... he (Caleb) has lots of hair and a shield face and he (John) is about 2 pounds heavier with a round face

Hah, those babies look nothing alike. I've been asked that too about my twins who also look nothing alike. Oh, and are boy/girl haha

Rynleigh

At every holiday function our friends/family asked how to "tell which one is which"... 

I don't even think people should need to ask anymore... I should be able to say "This is Simon, this is Jamie" and have them be able to remember.. lmao

BabyCarryingVessel

@Rynleigh, haha that's so funny! From your picture, I don't think they look anything alike! Don't you just love that question? I get it all the time, but since my girls are ID it's understandable. I dress them completely different, so I'll say "Julie is in purple, Kaylin is in green", but later on they'll forget who's wearing what, so it's all for nothing. Ha!

Rynleigh

Indeed lol 

You'd think I'd stolen a baby... they hardly even make the same faces let alone look enough alike to need "pointers" on how to tell them apart... 

steidla

Today at the mall:
Lady: Are they identical?
Me: No
Lady: Well who cares? They're beautiful!!

So I guess if they aren't "beautiful," they better be identical or it's no good.

dmurrie

I keep getting the was it planned? Comment. I think I'm going to buy this shirt just to shut people up. https://www.cafepress.com/mf/65173932/i-was-planned-i-was-a-surprise-maternity-top_maternity?productId=661128508

SandraPB1220

Those are so cute!!  I've seen onesies that say that, but the tshirt is adorable.  Although now my husband will be mad at you for showing me all those shirts! Hahaha

Paradisemoon

dmurrie said:

I keep getting the was it planned? Comment. I think I'm going to buy this shirt just to shut people up. https://www.cafepress.com/mf/65173932/i-was-planned-i-was-a-surprise-maternity-top_maternity?productId=661128508

I need a shirt that says, "I was a surprise" and "So was I" !

SV917

It's not all that crazy, but it's my first comment so I'll share. We took them to a restaurant for the first time last weekend and a woman at the next table came by to look at them. She said "wow, they look like they are about the same age." Well, one is a minute older, but yes, they are approximately the same age.

dmurrie

SandraPB1220 said:

Those are so cute!!  I've seen onesies that say that, but the tshirt is adorable.  Although now my husband will be mad at you for showing me all those shirts! Hahaha

One if my cousins ordered a shirt from there... if you're thinking if getting one, their maternity shirts seem to run small.

dmurrie

This was about my singleton, but we were out to eat and some random woman walks up to us and says, "I'm not going to say anything, but she has blind hair.". And then pauses and looks meaningfully at my husband and I. Yes, we are brunettes... who both started life as blondes. I thought you weren't going to say anything?