CRAZY COMMENTS

dmurrie

We didn't tell for our first until after she was born, and we were seriously surprised at how mortally offended people got by it. Unfortunately, close family got all offended, too.

We're having a boy and girl this time, so we've come up with a list of cartoon-inspired names we can tell people if they become too pushy so they'll leave us alone:
Linus and Lucy
Charlie and Sally
Boris and Natasha
Tweety and Sylvester...

Rynleigh

If I were going to have boy/girl twins and people wouldn't leave me alone, I swear I'd start responding with, "Him and Her", or "Chick and Dude", or "Penis and Vagina" just to get them to shut up. 

whitehousem

We are 99% set of our names but when people ask we just nonchalantly say, "oh, we haven't decided yet." We told everyone DD's name pretty early on and talked about another name we had considered but people were WAY too opinionated. My mom was the worst! She asks constantly about names and even has her own picked out but I just pretend we are unsure. She will find out on delivery day!

JoDoc

dmurrie said:

We didn't tell for our first until after she was born, and we were seriously surprised at how mortally offended people got by it. Unfortunately, close family got all offended, too. We're having a boy and girl this time, so we've come up with a list of cartoon-inspired names we can tell people if they become too pushy so they'll leave us alone: Linus and Lucy Charlie and Sally Boris and Natasha Tweety and Sylvester...

So are they identical then?    LOL, I couldn't resist.  Sorry.

How about George and Gracie, Fred and Wilma, Barney and Betty, Pebbles and Bam Bam.  Oh, I could have fun with this!!!

macchiatto

My boys are "very fraternal." Totally opposite in personalities, quite different in looks (hair color, eye color, every single feature is different). Close in height, 2-lb difference in weight/build. People who see them in a group of peers can't pick them out as twins.

So it still gets me every time when someone will look at the two of the sitting side by side (where the differences are easy to spot) and ask me, "Are they identical?"

I know it's even crazier when they're boy/girl, but seriously. One twin with dark brown hair, marbled green-gray-blue eyes, cute little button nose, baby face, and one twin with blond hair, clear light blue eyes, "strong" nose, and a much more grown-up looking face ... what does "identical" mean to you?  

LittleLady77

Yesterday my own husband asked if our boy girl twins are identical @-) and we transferred two blasts during our IVF. I died laughing at him.

SV917

We were at the chiropractor today and the twins were a big hit with a family of 3 kids in the 6-9 year old range. The twins were in their DSNG stroller. As the family was leaving, the youngest one said "I like the one in the back with no hair."

dmurrie

The "little ditties" is so cute!

We have a little list for boys and girls names... we have a front runner in girls, but for now we're just saying we haven't decided yet.

24karat

dmurrie said:

We didn't tell for our first until after she was born, and we were seriously surprised at how mortally offended people got by it. Unfortunately, close family got all offended, too.

We're having a boy and girl this time, so we've come up with a list of cartoon-inspired names we can tell people if they become too pushy so they'll leave us alone:
Linus and Lucy
Charlie and Sally
Boris and Natasha
Tweety and Sylvester...

We referred to ours as Alpha and Bravo the whole pregnancy. Their given names are Clark and Kent.

BabyCarryingVessel

Just had to share...

I sat across from a young woman yesterday in a meeting who was 10 weeks pregnant. I know this because she made sure to sneak mention of it in every conversation we had. I remember the excitement of early pregnancy so I understand her enthusiasm. She thinks she's having twins because she is already "so huge" (I couldn't see a bump, but I'm sure she felt huge) and her mom's cousin's daughter had twins. So you could say the twin gene DOES run on her maternal side. Once I told her that I have twins she started asking about my experiences and comparing them with her own. Sort of annoying, but who knows. I'm going to email her in a few weeks after her ultrasound!

Labyrinth3000

Yesterday at my nail salon I got the dreaded "I'd kill myself if I were having twins" from a lady sitting next to me.  I know it's meant as a joke but it sounds so awful!  I nearly told her, "I'd kill myself if I looked like you!"

BeesKnees181

Getting a pedicure with a friend, and the gal working on my friend's toes (we will refere to her as "B") says,

B:  (to me) I can't believe you are having twins.  You look so small.

Me:  Yep.  I am not feeling very "small" these days.

B:  (sort of whispering) Were you a little disappointed when you found out it was twins?

Me:  No.  I was shocked, but definitely not disappointed.

B:  I would be disappointed.

And the end.  Her crassness did not even warrant a reply IMO. 

24karat

At the grocery store solo shopping with 2yr old DD and 8mo twins today.

Her: "OMG bless you! I thought it's hard having four kids one right after another. You have given me new perspective and changed my life forever!"

Not quite a crazy comment, but nice to know I'm inspirational.

Angelahelena

Sorry. I would have told her

Ylvelill

Someone asked me yesterday if my twins were in separate uteri

whitehousem

I called my insurance to ask about breast pumps and lactation services. The cust. service rep asked if I would need two breast pumps since I was having twins. Ummmm... I hope not? Lol I just found it ammusing. She proceeded to give me all WRONG info about my coverage.

StacyH0507

I was asked earlier this week "what was my trick to getting pregnant with twins?"...We did fertility treatments but I felt like coming up with something really insane to say like we both danced around and then stood on our heads and ate pineapple to see if she would try as well! 

Kissimi21

A woman asked if I had triplets yesterday when I was shopping with DS1 and my twins.  I pointed to DS1 and said, "He's 3." Pointed to my twins and said, "They are 10 months old.  No they are not triplets." 

I almost died when her friend pointed to my twins and said, "It's obvious.  Those two are identical."  Ben is 4 inches taller than Sam.  Sam is 8lbs lighter than Ben.  Ben needs a haircut and Sam is bald.  Sam is in 18 month clothes and has a slight build, Ben wears size 2T and has wider shoulders than Max (DS1).  Sam has dark blue eyes, Ben has light blue. They even have different skin tones.   Sure lady, they're identical.

bumpuser924057

Kissimi21 said:

A woman asked if I had triplets yesterday when I was shopping with DS1 and my twins.  I pointed to DS1 and said, "He's 3." Pointed to my twins and said, "They are 10 months old.  No they are not triplets." 

I got the "are they triplets?" question recently too! What the hell, people?!

Kissimi21

thecheshirekat said:

Kissimi21 said:

A woman asked if I had triplets yesterday when I was shopping with DS1 and my twins.  I pointed to DS1 and said, "He's 3." Pointed to my twins and said, "They are 10 months old.  No they are not triplets." 

I got the "are they triplets?" question recently too! What the hell, people?!

Next time someone asks,  I'm going to say, " No, they were quintuplets but the big one ate the other two."

xladybassx

At the doctors office the other day... Lady: Oh, twins! Me: Yep! Lady: Are they identical? Oh wait, silly me, they can't be identical because one is bigger than the other. Me: Well no they aren't identical, but their size has nothing to do with that. Lady: Do they have the same birthday? Me: Um.....

24karat

::sigh::

My grocery store is getting as bad as Walmart when it comes to the crazy and comments.

Cashier: "Aaahhhhh! It's twins!!!1!! I love twins!!! My grandma and mom both had twins I think, but unfortunately they aren't here anymore. I want twins so badly, they'd be so much fun! I just keep hoping, and wishing, and wishing...maybe it'll be me!"

Angelahelena

A nurse at a my ob office said today " oh twins. Wow. Ok. Well glad it's you and not me!!!
I was like seriously ? You work here

SV917

We got a super crazy one today. My g/b twins look nothing alike (one looks Asian and the other white). But this was explained to me today. You see, they were conceived at different times.* When twins look similar, they come from the same egg, this is true even if they are b/g. If they don't look similar then they are paternal twins and they were conceived at different times. That is why E was so much smaller at birth.**

The woman was shocked that my doctor never explained this to me and told me to look it up on the internet. My husband and I were trying so hard not to laugh in her face.

*we did IVF; they are exactly the same age.

**E had severe IUGR and that is why she was 38 weeks and only 3 pounds.

Rynleigh

We got our first "How far apart?" yesterday. The boys are now so significantly different in size that someone looked at me funny and implied that I must have somehow magically had two kids a couple of months apart. Luckily dad stepped in and said, "About ten minutes" before I could make bitchy remark lol 

CJnKR2014

I am 31 weeks pregnant with boys, and I get "oh I'm so sorry" "better you than me" "two boys! That sucks..." "at least its not triplets!" and other things along those lines all the time. I get pretty annoyed, not gonna lie.
Oh! And i had a guy (I had met him that night at the function my DH and I were at) say goodbye by kissing my belly. Like... WTF. I DEFINITELY do not know you that well! That's reserved for DH, thank you very much! Of course it happened too fast, I just stood there with a stunned look on my face and told DH I wanted that guy to steer clear of me next time or I'm liable to slap him...

raraavis28

Rynleigh said:

We got our first "How far apart?" yesterday. The boys are now so significantly different in size that someone looked at me funny and implied that I must have somehow magically had two kids a couple of months apart. Luckily dad stepped in and said, "About ten minutes" before I could make bitchy remark lol 

Yeah, my IDs have had a size difference all along and while N is catching up in height, he's still much lighter and comes across as "younger" than L....so we have gotten the "How far apart are they?" a couple times....it's fun to respond "Oh about 30 seconds!"

Last night our neighbor asked "which side" we got the twins from....I just said "mine" and sighed internally. :-p

JoDoc

I was at my nephew's 6 yr birthday party.  My sister-in-law, her grandma is a bit nutso, always making comments that you walk away from thinking "was she TRYING to insult me or is she just that idiotic?"  We were sitting by the pool watching all the other kids swim and she walked over to us and said "All I can say I'm glad it's you and not me!"  I looked at her and said "I'm glad it's me and not you too!  We love them like they deserve"   She didn't know what to say or do, just turned and walked away.  In all fairness, she gets under my brothers skin as well as my sister-in-law, they're just too dang "family polite" to say anything.  I on the other hand don't give a damn.  lol

Angelahelena

Nicely put

whitehousem

I know this one has been said but last night I met a woman who had had a 9lb 12oz baby and laughed and said "so it's like I had twins." Um no, sorry. First of all my babies' estimated weights are over 5lbs each now at 35 weeks and unless your baby was born with four arms and legs and two heads and had to eat twice as much and cried twice as much then, no, it's NOT like you had twins. Nice try, lady.

BabyCarryingVessel

Several weeks ago I sat with a coworker at a meeting who just *knew* she was having twins. She was talking about how she would dress them, what she would name them, etc. and she kept asking me questions about my pregnancy and comparing my experiences with her own. I followed up with her today and learned she is having one healthy baby. I think she was disappointed, but I'm happy for her!

katekat8721

I have a 50 year old lady at my work who has three boys. She makes comments all the time about how she's extremely jealous I'm having twin girls, because she always wanted twin girls and thinks they're just the sweetest. It's pretty awkward because what do you say to that?!

Hoosier722

I have been asked this question several times now and it is really starting to aggravate me.  When I tell people we are having twins one of the first things some people have said (after laughing while congratulating me)  "Did you go though IVF?"

I can't believe how rude some people are and yet don't realize it.  Even if we did go through IVF, why the hell would I tell them or better yet, why would they feel it is their business to know.  

Another favorite of mine is when people say "Sorry" after i say I'm having twins.  Sorry, really?!?! There are many women who would love nothing more than to have twins, let alone one baby.  There is nothing to be sorry for here.  

Rynleigh

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:

Banker to hubby today (they got into a conversation, hubby mentioned we have twin girls):

"Oh!  Did you have help or did you just make twins?"

Hubby just stammered for a moment and said: "Yes.  We made twins."

WTAF, lady?!  How is it any of your business if we had sex or went through IVF to have our girls?

LOL our go to for this sort of comment is always to make eye contact and very loudly announce, "LOTS OF SEX". 

Rynleigh

they usually get uncomfortable enough to move on

katekat8721

It is still so, so weird and surprising to me how many strangers ask "do twins run in your family?"

Do people normally say "oh you're having a girl! Do girls run in your family?"

This annoys me as an IVFer, I wonder how the spontaneous twin moms feel about it!

BabyCarryingVessel

katekat8721 said:

It is still so, so weird and surprising to me how many strangers ask "do twins run in your family?"

Do people normally say "oh you're having a girl! Do girls run in your family?"

This annoys me as an IVFer, I wonder how the spontaneous twin moms feel about it!

I think we can all agree it's annoying because we know what the ultimate question in their mind is.... but I have been guilty of asking this and I think it's just the first thing that people can think to ask. I try not to hold it against anyone, but it sure does get old!!

Rynleigh

katekat8721 said:

It is still so, so weird and surprising to me how many strangers ask "do twins run in your family?"

Do people normally say "oh you're having a girl! Do girls run in your family?"

This annoys me as an IVFer, I wonder how the spontaneous twin moms feel about it!

I find it *especially* annoying because my situation is that my mother is an *identical* twin, and I have spontaneous *fraternal* twins... so I typically try to just answer with "Totally unexpected"... otherwise I have to explain why IDs are generally not considered something that "runs in the family", why IDs and spontaneous frats aren't achieved through the same mechanism, why even in the few instances where IDs are suspected to possibly run in families it's related to the nature of the egg or possibly sperm and not to ovulation like frats are, etc. So "Totally unexpected" is the most that a non-MoM would get from me (honestly I'd usually avoid the convo all together if you're not a geneticist LOL)

sunkiss674

I had a random guy in the family bathroom at the mall ask me if my boys pee at the same time.  My response was well I don't know I've never left their diaper off to see. 

katiebenes

My update from crazyland since the boys are getting out more now:

A lady looks at my boys (knowing they were boys), pinches Caleb’s cheeks and says “you look more like a little girl.” Then points at John and says “but you look like a little boy”

Another lady looks at my sleeping baby John and says “oh, sleeping babies are so so cute” and proceeds to try and pinch his cheeks. (She was also amazed that I physically stopped her from touching and waking the sleeping baby.)

I feel sorry for you

Wow, do they have the same Dad? (I count this as a comment since I didn’t respond)

That one (oddly pointing to Caleb, the thinner one) is too fat, you need to feed him less and her (pointing to John) more.

Oh look at you, you’re so adorable. But don’t worry, there always has to be one that isn’t as cute. (not sure who’s the no so cute one)